FabSwingers.com forum: Are your family aware you are on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is a message a got earlier...

So early today got a message while in my mates car saying just saw you in bingo bongo ( at Butlin’s ) replied don’t think so as in the car on way home and had been for over an hour..

They replied yes wearing green shorts and socks ..( didn’t take any shorts with me )

Wouldn’t accept that it wasn’t me and then said are your family aware you are on here ....

Now they have obviously mistook some guy they know at Butlin’s for me.... not sure how as I don’t have a face pic up but for them to say that is not really the fab way is it now !

I reported them as I don’t think you should be saying that to people and so now can see them or any posts - think it’s was nottscouple or something similar.

Hoping they ain’t caused grief for a chap which is nothing to do with him

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

B-b-but you ARE on here!!

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Is a message a got earlier...

So early today got a message while in my mates car saying just saw you in bingo bongo ( at Butlin’s ) replied don’t think so as in the car on way home and had been for over an hour..

They replied yes wearing green shorts and socks ..( didn’t take any shorts with me )

Wouldn’t accept that it wasn’t me and then said are your family aware you are on here ....

Now they have obviously mistook some guy they know at Butlin’s for me.... not sure how as I don’t have a face pic up but for them to say that is not really the fab way is it now !

I reported them as I don’t think you should be saying that to people and so now can see them or any posts - think it’s was nottscouple or something similar.

Hoping they ain’t caused grief for a chap which is nothing to do with him "

I dont tell anyone. Like a double life and a secret life. Makes it exciting.girl next door by day and a sexy side at night

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If you were there,could be they have seen who is near on mobile and put 2 and 2 together..

Either way you did right to block,I'd never dream of messaging anyone i'd seen away from here (seen 1 or 2).

The "do your family know you're on here" sounds a but sinister.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the person they saw isn't me as I was on my way home...

just the do you family know you are here I thought was way off the mark...

I'm guessing the person they think they saw is married or has a partner.

As I'm widowed it don't really matter to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think thinks like that are so out of order!

I’ve had someone say they know where I live and I have a young family. There’s no need to say anything even if they suspect it’s you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few of my friends are aware I'm on here and into this side of life - as does my mum.

Always like to think that if I ended up falling down the stairs at a club and breaking my leg or something, I would like to be able to call mum to come rescue me without having to make excuses as to where I was or her finding out from anyone else.

Not sure if any other family knows, but in all honesty so what if they do, I'm having fun, I'm happy, and always safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth would I discuss my sex life with my family? How creepy and inappropriate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my family members know

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Bloody hope not my mum would kill me

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Yeah, some of mine so

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Yeah, some of mine so "

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

And what's it got to do with anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never discuss my sex life with anyone, not even on here but my family and bestie know about this side of my life because I've never viewed it as bad or shameful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure tbh. Told my Mum I "accidentally" went to NBN not knowing what it was lol!

I did find an extremely close family member on Fabguys though. That was extremely nerve wracking lol.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

As far as I am aware none of my family or friends know I am on Fabs for me it’s something personal which doesn’t seem apporiate to be discussed with family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only my wife.. otherwise would be a bit cringe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister knows I’m on here, because I found her on here first, then “fabbed” her pictures, she was NOT amused lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just trolls OP, you did right to block, move on and forget them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as I am aware none of my family or friends know I am on Fabs for me it’s something personal which doesn’t seem apporiate to be discussed with family "

Exactly. I'm not ashamed of anything and I'm open with friends if they want to hear about it, I'm always keen not to overshare. But people I'm related to by blood... Hell, no. Massive, massive ick factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is a message a got earlier...

So early today got a message while in my mates car saying just saw you in bingo bongo ( at Butlin’s ) replied don’t think so as in the car on way home and had been for over an hour..

They replied yes wearing green shorts and socks ..( didn’t take any shorts with me )

Wouldn’t accept that it wasn’t me and then said are your family aware you are on here ....

Now they have obviously mistook some guy they know at Butlin’s for me.... not sure how as I don’t have a face pic up but for them to say that is not really the fab way is it now !

I reported them as I don’t think you should be saying that to people and so now can see them or any posts - think it’s was nottscouple or something similar.

Hoping they ain’t caused grief for a chap which is nothing to do with him "

So you are on here and was at Butlins too.

Errm i think they might be on to something

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"My sister knows I’m on here, because I found her on here first, then “fabbed” her pictures, she was NOT amused lol"

Bloody hell I bet she wasn't

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

I suspect the messager was an opportunist pretending he'd seen you hoping to scare you.

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

My daughter knows (she's 25) and knows the pins and passwords to everything I use as my dad was in a medically induced coma for nearly 5 months and I had to help my mum sort things out like his phone, find the safe key, banks and things, luckily she knew is passwords and things and it got me thinking that no one knows mine so had a chat with the daughter so she can get into my phone and stuff and delete things and close things down if anything should happen to me. X

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By *rotica xCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow/Portugal

"B-b-but you ARE on here!!

I read this reply as if I was Ricky Gervais telling the joke on Humanity about KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no one knows I'm here (I hope!). It's really quite lonely. I'd love to be with somebody on here, as a sort of confidante or fb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"B-b-but you ARE on here!!

I read this reply as if I was Ricky Gervais telling the joke on Humanity about KJ "

Omg i literaly watched that again last night, so funny

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

"Why on earth would I discuss my sex life with my family? How creepy and inappropriate! "
This 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My sister knows I’m on here, because I found her on here first, then “fabbed” her pictures, she was NOT amused lol"
lol which pics omg that is naughty

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"As far as I am aware none of my family or friends know I am on Fabs for me it’s something personal which doesn’t seem apporiate to be discussed with family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as I am aware none of my family or friends know I am on Fabs for me it’s something personal which doesn’t seem apporiate to be discussed with family

Out of interest why is it better?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Family no, well I hope not lol, we have done friends that know and our neighbours in Spain recognised our house and then we bumped into them out a club over there but nothing in the UK

We have had people on here tell us in the past other Fab people have informed their family and friends about them being here which we think is disgusting and childish behaviour, why do that? Mind boggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of mine know I am on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% not. They dont know im bi, they dont know I dress, they dont know anything.

I really hate the fact, and have fallen out with them several times over it, but they would dissown me if they knew

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"My sister knows I’m on here, because I found her on here first, then “fabbed” her pictures, she was NOT amused lol"

Jesus. Inappropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s funny. We wind eachother up all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My sister knows I’m on here, because I found her on here first, then “fabbed” her pictures, she was NOT amused lol

Jesus. Inappropriate.

Indeed

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"As far as I am aware none of my family or friends know I am on Fabs for me it’s something personal which doesn’t seem apporiate to be discussed with family

Out of interest why is it better? "
. I just feel the less family and friends know about my private life the better and to be honest not sure they would understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite a few of my friends are aware I'm on here and into this side of life - as does my mum.

Not sure if any other family knows, but in all honesty so what if they do, I'm having fun, I'm happy, and always safe."

Simply a fabulous swinging attitude, good for you sexy girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My sister knows I’m on here, because I found her on here first, then “fabbed” her pictures, she was NOT amused lol"

PMSL

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My friends do. My cousin and my daughter. If anything were to happen while I'm out at a club I like the fact that she knows where I am, she can get in touch with me by ringing the club direct and she knows I'm safe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is a message a got earlier...

So early today got a message while in my mates car saying just saw you in bingo bongo ( at Butlin’s ) replied don’t think so as in the car on way home and had been for over an hour..

They replied yes wearing green shorts and socks ..( didn’t take any shorts with me )

Wouldn’t accept that it wasn’t me and then said are your family aware you are on here ....

Now they have obviously mistook some guy they know at Butlin’s for me.... not sure how as I don’t have a face pic up but for them to say that is not really the fab way is it now !

I reported them as I don’t think you should be saying that to people and so now can see them or any posts - think it’s was nottscouple or something similar.

Hoping they ain’t caused grief for a chap which is nothing to do with him "

BINGO BANGO hahahaha!

I was there.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"Absolutely no one knows I'm here (I hope!). It's really quite lonely. I'd love to be with somebody on here, as a sort of confidante or fb. "

We’re lucky enough to be here as a couple. We recognise how amazing it is to be able to talk to each other about conversations, socials and meets and I’ve often thought how different it would be to be here alone. Hope you find someone to confide in xxx Jessy

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Regardless of anything else, you've got to love a bit of Bingo Bongo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hope not my mum would kill me "

And my mum would kill me too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of my family, friends and even work colleagues know..they aren't bothered and if anything are curious about how it works x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My cousin found me on here

thankfully she hid all her photos before I saw anything

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My 22yr old daughter saw my Fab account on my phone. Shocked at first now finds it amusing. She refers to it as the dirty site.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

I once received a message from a couple in a neighbouring town. We got on well and we swapped pics after a chat on phone. Didn't know them but they knew me. Didnt believe I was on here so they asked a 3rd party friend (not on fab) to verify it was me! I was livid! Blocked them, reported them and had some explaining to do, went would meeting's even think like that?

Meet for a social and see me then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why on earth would I discuss my sex life with my family? How creepy and inappropriate! "

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My wife/partners know of course, as do many friends. Family? Why would I tell my mother, aunts etc? (dad and all uncles are deceased... Bodes well for my life expectancy...).

I do occasionally wonder if I might come across one particular cousin in a club one day, but it hasn't happened.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We haven't told any of our family but we have recognized a couple of them on here, but we wouldn't say anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as I am aware none of my family or friends know I am on Fabs for me it’s something personal which doesn’t seem apporiate to be discussed with family

Out of interest why is it better? . I just feel the less family and friends know about my private life the better and to be honest not sure they would understand."

You might be surprised and they don't care lol I'm glad I don't have a secret side and my life is all open and honest. Obviously I never talk details and noone wants to know

but it's not bad or shameful it's just me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as I am aware none of my family or friends know I am on Fabs for me it’s something personal which doesn’t seem apporiate to be discussed with family

Out of interest why is it better? . I just feel the less family and friends know about my private life the better and to be honest not sure they would understand.

You might be surprised and they don't care lol I'm glad I don't have a secret side and my life is all open and honest. Obviously I never talk details and noone wants to know

but it's not bad or shameful it's just me! "
exactly this, this is life i dont discuss my sex life with anyone so why should it matter, people that know me know I'm on this internet domain

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By *ust_A_Tease_To_PleaseWoman
over a year ago

South Wales: Newport, Chepstow

I had a message from a profile without a face pic calling me by name and saying they enjoy seeing me on the train to work! He got a dressing down on how inappropriate and creepy that was, and I reported him. Made me uncomfortable on the train for a few days and I changed my pics to show less if my face.

As for my family, they know I'm into BDSM. Told my sister I was opening up to more casual fun too. And my nested primary partner knows and is my safe call for meets and clubs.

My partner's family were told about the BDSM side by a former partner trying to cause trouble. It was one of the best things that could have happened as we don't have to hide it anymore and they just don't talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not ashamed of swinging, don't care who knows.

My life do what I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah my dad and step mum know

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

No. They don’t know I’m bi either

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

No but some vanilla friends know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message from a profile without a face pic calling me by name and saying they enjoy seeing me on the train to work! He got a dressing down on how inappropriate and creepy that was, and I reported him. Made me uncomfortable on the train for a few days and I changed my pics to show less if my face.

As for my family, they know I'm into BDSM. Told my sister I was opening up to more casual fun too. And my nested primary partner knows and is my safe call for meets and clubs.

Generally you can trust your family not to put your private or professional lifes at risk if your doing something you both desire, nor should it matter who knows but the fact is it can have an impact. I know a few people local to us on here and to be honest we just block them unless we know we can trust them and then we would approach them in a sensitive way and let them know who we are from the off then if they wish to block us nothing more is said.

unfortunately sad fucks do exist and put us all on edge at times but I reckon better the devil you know and all that .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you are on here I don't really get your issue they may have seem you at another venue and got mixed up. The risk of family finding out is one you take though are you really that ashamed of swinging that it bothers you to this point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no my family don’t no but my close friends are aware and I usually tell one when I’m going on a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are VERY judgemental and like to moralise. I'm single so technically can do as I please, but I lost a job because work thought I was a swinger. Although they couldn't prove anything, it meant that I was soon out the door - of course they found a different reason to get rid of me! I did break my golden rule and see a married man on here, but it ended in tears and it didn't go down well with anyone who knew me. But that's different to swinging.

My adult kids know I lead a relationship free lifestyle. Three of my vanilla friends know, but I only told them so they would stop trying to set me up with guys! You do need to be careful though. It's all very well to say its your life and up to you. But people judge and not kindly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why on earth would I discuss my sex life with my family? How creepy and inappropriate! "

This

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside (West Oxfordshire)

Had it twice with people saying we know who you are, we know you from xxx.

Quick polite response saying we're trying to stay discrete, would appreciate it if it would stay that way.

However, OP, you received something different to that and it's pretty distasteful.

Maybe mixed messages and they thought they'd caught someone cheating but not the right way to go about it is it!

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Dont have a big family as such so not really an issue but wouldnt want my daughter to know but saying that i think she wouldnt believe it for a start then would find it amusing and wish us luck ,but others will make assumptions about being on here as i would before i got into this ,its just nature rightly or wrongly ,id not be ashamed if found out in fact i dread the thought of going back to normal life which will happen at some point ,hopefully not for a VERY long time

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

"I think thinks like that are so out of order!

I’ve had someone say they know where I live and I have a young family. There’s no need to say anything even if they suspect it’s you! "

Do you think it's someone who you refused?

A bit of a nasty thing to do either way. Well out of order

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By *rotica xCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow/Portugal

"B-b-but you ARE on here!!

I read this reply as if I was Ricky Gervais telling the joke on Humanity about KJ

Omg i literaly watched that again last night, so funny"

Doesn’t get any funnier

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Lou) No, we like that it's just us that knows about our playing life among our family and friends x

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

My mom knows but she doesnt judge she knows i go clubs but shes ok as long as im safe. She looks after my child when i go out but as i see it least if i go out someone knows where i am.

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

Just one close friend knows. She likes me to describe my meets as we have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im mor afraid of telling my brothers incase they are on here to ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*more

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