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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Notts

Now I would guess that most profiles specifically ask not to be added as friends without initial contact through messages first, I know we have it on our profile.

But its got me thinking 2 things.

1. Do any couples accept random friends invites from anyone?

2. Does any fucker read profiles?

We have had around 30 friends invites in the last 2 days from single guys and couples, here it what we have sent them by message....

hi thanks for your message, can you just tell me what part of our profile really excited you?

Was it the part where we specifically asked for no random friends invites without messaging first?

I bet it was wasnt it?

Unfortunately it is very rare for me to get my knickers off to disrespectful people.

toodle pip

Do you think we are overly harsh?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

No not harsh particularly, but personally I couldnt be arsed writing back to them when the delete button is so much quicker

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

ure not harsh in any bit.They wind me up big time those rondom friends invite too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each to their own i guess - occasionally a random friend invite is acepted if it is attatched to an interesting profile. However if you dont like just deny, delete and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we sometimes accept random friend requests. we accept them when they're offline,have a perv at their private pix and then delete them

well what did they expect?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"we sometimes accept random friend requests. we accept them when they're offline,have a perv at their private pix and then delete them

well what did they expect?"

See I cant even be bothered doing that anymore... I think I need to get myself a Personal Assistant to do it all for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Do you think we are overly harsh?"

I don't have an opinion if whether you are harsh.

But based on the fact that this isn;t the first time you've posted about sending rude/abusive messages, and with your confesions that you told a guy mr was bi to scare him off and then did a runner because it didn't work, I do wonder how nice you are?

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Notts

whats the other rude and abusive essage wheels?

And i think its fair to say that we have our moments with NON genuine people. I mean lets be honest, if someone you had arranged a meet with had sent you photo's and when you got there you find the pictures are actually of someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

If it makes you feel better to do all that for something that can be deleted in a second then do it

I would rather spend my energy on concentrating on people that I would like to get to know and meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whats the other rude and abusive essage wheels?

And i think its fair to say that we have our moments with NON genuine people. I mean lets be honest, if someone you had arranged a meet with had sent you photo's and when you got there you find the pictures are actually of someone else?"

Your post on this thread:

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/94807

Thankfully the joys of the green arrow and the fect that we have posted on reatively few of the same threads makes it easily findable.It stuck in my mind because of this line:

"We then usually go on to say that we have seen thier pictures and they are (insert excuse) a little overweight, too old, bald, etc etc."

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Notts

that thread is basically the same as this one i started isnt it? same subject! random friends request!

Do you see a common denominator?

Maybe its our frustration at the simple lack of respect that people are showing recently showing through.

We are nice people, our verifications say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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2. Does any fucker read profiles?

"

Dont tar every fucker with the same brush

Plus by actually replying to them, even with a derogatory reply I would say you are adding fuel to their fire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that thread is basically the same as this one i started isnt it? same subject! random friends request!

Do you see a common denominator?

Maybe its our frustration at the simple lack of respect that people are showing recently showing through.

We are nice people, our verifications say so "

I don't see it as lack of respect, it's a good indicator on whether or not you may like to meet, straight from the off, even before countless messages.

If you like people to read your profile thoroughly and they clearly haven't, then that's a help to you, if you choose to view it that way, it's very simple, they for whatever reason put you off them then move along, good thing is they do it at the beginning.

It never bothered me receiving random friends requests (couples profile, not this), it's the nature of such a site, I simply ignored.

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Notts

good answer shaga! thanks for that

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"we sometimes accept random friend requests. we accept them when they're offline,have a perv at their private pix and then delete them

well what did they expect?"
i must admit i do that sumtimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I just click the delete all button and poof they gone! What's the point getting ur blood pressure up over it!

Single word messages r far more irritating I think but again with time I have learnt to just delete!

Am learning the art of chill, less wrinkles that way! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely accept a friend invite from a single male without a message - usually do from a couple .

Mainly because pics are on friends only and gives us a chance to see them where otherwise we wouldn't ?

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"we sometimes accept random friend requests. we accept them when they're offline,have a perv at their private pix and then delete them

well what did they expect?"

Shocking behavior.. and we have NEVER done that.. he he

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"No not harsh particularly, but personally I couldnt be arsed writing back to them when the delete button is so much quicker"

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"we sometimes accept random friend requests. we accept them when they're offline,have a perv at their private pix and then delete them

well what did they expect?

Shocking behavior.. and we have NEVER done that.. he he "

Shocking indeed.. Can't imagine now people can bring themselves to do that

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"No not harsh particularly, but personally I couldnt be arsed writing back to them when the delete button is so much quicker"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get friends invites from couples and singles all the time, we are very choosy who we accept as friends so we just delete if we don't want to add them at the time, it saves time and hassle and works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never read the friend invites, if I've been chatting for a while one of us will usually say, 'can I send a friend request?' then I'll look, but other that that can't see any point in even looking.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We don't get that many random friend requests but when we do, if we don't know them we just press delete.

Not worth getting stressed over...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read a single post in this thread.. But I've sent you all a friend invite

Don't bother messaging me though, because I won't answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never read the friend invites, if I've been chatting for a while one of us will usually say, 'can I send a friend request?' then I'll look, but other that that can't see any point in even looking. "

same. that's the only time I ever look. The only people on our friends list are who we've met or who we intend to meet.

Hardly anyone reads profiles properly. It would be my full time job if I read all the profiles I flicked on.

We have down on the bottom of our profile what to put in the message title if you've read the whole thing, it was more of a test to see how many did, it really is only about 10% of those who message us.

Just makes me chuckle, not get irate tho, and I won't send a rude message if they haven't put the right subject title in, and if I like the look of them I'll still message them back even if they haven't. It's not that big a deal really.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

harsh no, conceited..possibly

why do you expect people on a free public access website to play by the rules you set?

you are not the boss of everyone, just because you dont accept random invites doesnt mean other people dont like sending them, i guess thats why admin ahve made it so easy to acess the 'delete' button??

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By *1sexypairCouple
over a year ago

Retford


"we sometimes accept random friend requests. we accept them when they're offline,have a perv at their private pix and then delete them

well what did they expect?"

we also do that well kev does lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind random friend requests,,, i just delete them if i dont like the look of them and they havent sent a message,, if i like the look of them and they havent sent a message ill send one first before accepting.. and if they send a message with it and i like the look and sound of them i will usually add them... most people send them so you can take a look at their face pics or pics of both of them (or at least that is what i have found in my experience)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont mind random friend requests,,, i just delete them if i dont like the look of them and they havent sent a message,, if i like the look of them and they havent sent a message ill send one first before accepting.. and if they send a message with it and i like the look and sound of them i will usually add them... most people send them so you can take a look at their face pics or pics of both of them (or at least that is what i have found in my experience) "

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