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"Stop swinging. Talk to each other honestly and reassess what it is you each want. Don’t start again if there are any doubts at all. " Great advice. It has to work for both of you. | |||
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" Personally, I think getting your mate involved was a mistake, too, as if she knows him there may well be feelings involved." Also this! One of our rules is we don't play with people we know. Keep the lifestyle and your personal life separate or it can get complicated Gem | |||
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"Does it matter if she does like him? some people feel closer to others during sex, As long as her feelings towards you are great, is it a problem? x" we I suppose not as long as she s with me but I dunno it's abi t strange | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging?" it was mostly mine | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine " Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? | |||
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"If you wish you never started then you need to stop. You need to have a frank and honest conversation with her about what bothered you. Communication is key in swinging. If you feel jealous you need to talk through your feelings. If after talking through your feelings you don't feel better then maybe swinging is not for you. I tend to look at it this way, i want my husband to have a good time. I want him to have good sex and enjoy it or there's no point. New people are exciting, especially when you've been together for so long. Maybe she was putting on a show for you thinking you would like it? You need to think about why you felt jealous and work through that train of thought. Jealousy can often be reasoned out in these situations. If yours can't be, this may not be the right lifestyle for you. Gem" I can't add to this. Mic drop post  | |||
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"If you wish you never started then you need to stop. You need to have a frank and honest conversation with her about what bothered you. Communication is key in swinging. If you feel jealous you need to talk through your feelings. If after talking through your feelings you don't feel better then maybe swinging is not for you. I tend to look at it this way, i want my husband to have a good time. I want him to have good sex and enjoy it or there's no point. New people are exciting, especially when you've been together for so long. Maybe she was putting on a show for you thinking you would like it? You need to think about why you felt jealous and work through that train of thought. Jealousy can often be reasoned out in these situations. If yours can't be, this may not be the right lifestyle for you. Gem I can't add to this. Mic drop post "Totally agree with this brilliant advise | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it?" course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him | |||
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"If you wish you never started then you need to stop. You need to have a frank and honest conversation with her about what bothered you. Communication is key in swinging. If you feel jealous you need to talk through your feelings. If after talking through your feelings you don't feel better then maybe swinging is not for you. I tend to look at it this way, i want my husband to have a good time. I want him to have good sex and enjoy it or there's no point. New people are exciting, especially when you've been together for so long. Maybe she was putting on a show for you thinking you would like it? You need to think about why you felt jealous and work through that train of thought. Jealousy can often be reasoned out in these situations. If yours can't be, this may not be the right lifestyle for you. Gem I can't add to this. Mic drop post "Thank you. I have been known to drop a nugget of wisdom now and again  | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it?" I can't make her cum having sex so we talked and found out shes abit of a size queen too | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him " Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem" I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun " Did you have sex together afterwards? I find a bit of jealousy fuels brilliant reclaim sex! And that makes me feel amazing! You just have to have a think. Can you handle the jealousy in a way that adds to the fun? Or is it going to eat away at your confidence and relationship? Would it be different if you guys had played with a girl? Or would playing with a couple be better so you both get equal attention? Gem | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun Did you have sex together afterwards? I find a bit of jealousy fuels brilliant reclaim sex! And that makes me feel amazing! You just have to have a think. Can you handle the jealousy in a way that adds to the fun? Or is it going to eat away at your confidence and relationship? Would it be different if you guys had played with a girl? Or would playing with a couple be better so you both get equal attention? Gem" well it was a bit of a fantasy to see her with another guy I just didn't expect to get so jealous in real life but I did enjoy watching her it was just naughty to see lol I was her first too, so it was her first time playing with a big cock clock and she really enjoyed it so that's the main thing, I'm going to chat to her and ease into it abi t more with her | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun Did you have sex together afterwards? I find a bit of jealousy fuels brilliant reclaim sex! And that makes me feel amazing! You just have to have a think. Can you handle the jealousy in a way that adds to the fun? Or is it going to eat away at your confidence and relationship? Would it be different if you guys had played with a girl? Or would playing with a couple be better so you both get equal attention? Gem" This is good theory. But we've found it unbelievably hard to meet anything but single guys. My fella is bi and loves showing me off so it works for us. But I've known plenty of guys who've thought this would mean loads of pussy for them and when they find out the reality is going to be pretty much just loads of cock for her they take it really hard. | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun Did you have sex together afterwards? I find a bit of jealousy fuels brilliant reclaim sex! And that makes me feel amazing! You just have to have a think. Can you handle the jealousy in a way that adds to the fun? Or is it going to eat away at your confidence and relationship? Would it be different if you guys had played with a girl? Or would playing with a couple be better so you both get equal attention? Gem well it was a bit of a fantasy to see her with another guy I just didn't expect to get so jealous in real life but I did enjoy watching her it was just naughty to see lol I was her first too, so it was her first time playing with a big cock clock and she really enjoyed it so that's the main thing, I'm going to chat to her and ease into it abi t more with her" That's a good idea. I wish you all the luck! Sometimes feelings Pounce on us out of the blue and it can be quite concerning, but it is normal and natural. Just work through them and keep talking to her Gem | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun Did you have sex together afterwards? I find a bit of jealousy fuels brilliant reclaim sex! And that makes me feel amazing! You just have to have a think. Can you handle the jealousy in a way that adds to the fun? Or is it going to eat away at your confidence and relationship? Would it be different if you guys had played with a girl? Or would playing with a couple be better so you both get equal attention? Gem well it was a bit of a fantasy to see her with another guy I just didn't expect to get so jealous in real life but I did enjoy watching her it was just naughty to see lol I was her first too, so it was her first time playing with a big cock clock and she really enjoyed it so that's the main thing, I'm going to chat to her and ease into it abi t more with her That's a good idea. I wish you all the luck! Sometimes feelings Pounce on us out of the blue and it can be quite concerning, but it is normal and natural. Just work through them and keep talking to her Gem" thankyou and very nice pics btw | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? I can't make her cum having sex so we talked and found out shes abit of a size queen too" plenty of ways to make a woman cum, most cant come from just penetrative sex. go down on her, fingers add toys to the mix and enjoy a healthy sex life. extra marital fun should be an addition to a sex life, not a replacement for a bad one. | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun " Also dont bury your feelings and say get over it, express these feelings with a partner, they may fade over time but good communication in how you both feel. and then explaining if these feelings change are very helpful! | |||
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"So I've been with my gf now for 8 years and ways had a good relationship, now we have recently started swinging for the first time the other night and invited my friend around, they knew eachother too. After a few drinks to calm the nerves I started kissing her and undressing her while my mate played with her, she starts tensing up, she jumps up un does his jeans and starts sucking his cock in a way I've never seen her suck before, he was alot bigger than me but she was deep throating the whole thing which was shocking as she never really did with me, and this is where i start to get jealous and have second thoughts, she just seemed to enjoy abi t too much and she says she wants to me him next time again, I cant help but think she likes him, am I over thinking it ? Should I just get over it and carry on swinging? I Just wish we never started " It’s already been said, but bringing friends into your sex life can be tricky. The men we see for sex are not friends, although we are friendly. Our relationship with them is based upon sex and nothing else. Additionally, your feelings of jealousy also make me wonder if your relationship is ready for this type of activity. For us, there is an absolute certainty and trust in our commitment to each other. This cannot be shaken by Mrs. experiencing new heights of pleasure with another man. Talk to each other. Tell her your fears. How will it be when you meet a couple? Good luck. | |||
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"So I've been with my gf now for 8 years and ways had a good relationship, now we have recently started swinging for the first time the other night and invited my friend around, they knew eachother too. After a few drinks to calm the nerves I started kissing her and undressing her while my mate played with her, she starts tensing up, she jumps up un does his jeans and starts sucking his cock in a way I've never seen her suck before, he was alot bigger than me but she was deep throating the whole thing which was shocking as she never really did with me, and this is where i start to get jealous and have second thoughts, she just seemed to enjoy abi t too much and she says she wants to me him next time again, I cant help but think she likes him, am I over thinking it ? Should I just get over it and carry on swinging? I Just wish we never started " we went to a party in Liverpool and my bf got chatting to a women and they just hit it off I never let him fuck any one but we all got a bit hot and I wanted him to after they had they both seen eachother for a bit she said the feel of him inside was something she had never felt and she wanted more so its meeting that person that really does it for you he was still fucking her 4 months later | |||
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"Who's idea was it to start swinging? it was mostly mine Would you really want her to play with someone and not enjoy it? course not I think it was just more of a shock too see, turning a fantasy into reality, after 8 years it was a big step, but I agree getting my mate invoked was a mistake. She was really looking forward to sleeping with him Jealousy can and does crop up in swinging, so what you're feeling is more than likely perfectly normal. It's how you deal with it that counts. Don't bottle up your feelings. Simple advice. Discuss EVERYTHING. What you liked, what you didn't like. I'm sure if you just have a chat you will be able to reason everything out and feel better about it. If it's something you can't reason out stop. It's not for everyone, sometimes it's better left as a fantasy. Did you enjoy it while it was happening? Or did you feel like you.made a mistake? Gem I was enjoying it but hating it at the same time but I suppose that's part of the thrill I was jealous of the size of him too Tbh but I just need to get over it and not get in the way of future fun Did you have sex together afterwards? I find a bit of jealousy fuels brilliant reclaim sex! And that makes me feel amazing! You just have to have a think. Can you handle the jealousy in a way that adds to the fun? Or is it going to eat away at your confidence and relationship? Would it be different if you guys had played with a girl? Or would playing with a couple be better so you both get equal attention? Gem well it was a bit of a fantasy to see her with another guy I just didn't expect to get so jealous in real life but I did enjoy watching her it was just naughty to see lol I was her first too, so it was her first time playing with a big cock clock and she really enjoyed it so that's the main thing, I'm going to chat to her and ease into it abi t more with her" I'm going to suggest something quite different here, especially having seen your profile with the cuckold reference. As a guy, the pangs of envy are to be expected from seeing a loved one being pleasured in new unexpected ways by someone other than yourself. Yes as you rightly mentioned the scene was perhaps your initial idea, but your partner now is experiencing the fun and pleasures (perhaps new experiences) that the scene affords. Yes, it is perfectly normal and anticipated for you to feel uncertain when watching her having the direct attention of another. But as the sub cuck-male partner, perhaps you need to accept this feeling as par for the course, and sit back and watch the show. As others have pointed out, its the reclaim sex that actually reconnects us all post meeting new friends. Why not support her, tell her how much you enjoyed seeing her having fun, and focus on the reclaiming fun. Failing that, mail order a cage! | |||
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