FabSwingers.com forum: Single Deaf guy go to swinging clubs or meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello everyone,

I’m profoundly deaf guy and I’ve been on here on and off for a year now. I go to clubs and to meet some people who made me feel welcome to join..

There alway will be communication problem due to my deafness and i do get frustrated when they say oh sorry or walk away from me as like i got some diseases.

Since i joined the clubs ii never not once had fun or to play. Or even any interest on here to meet.

Have anyone have that experience and for few weeks now i have seriously thinking about not coming back on here and it a waste of time for people with disabilities to join this.

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By *lancmangecplCouple
over a year ago

farnborough

Are you sure it’s being deaf and not just being a single man? It looks like there’s a lot of single blokes on here that struggle to meet.

We’ve been on here over a year and still haven’t found anyone we’d be comfortable playing with but have been to clubs and enjoyed the social and exhibitionist aspect.

Chin up and keep looking, you’re not by far the ugliest bloke I’ve seen on here and they were able to see some action so I hope that gives you some hope!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

There are many single guys who struggle on here, because there are so many. You have some nice verifications, so a great start

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks, it’s Both. think people see communication a problem but it’s not.. but I will try to stay on here to see how it goes and for clubs guess I have to be patient and how it goes from there x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are many single guys who struggle on here, because there are so many. You have some nice verifications, so a great start

Thanks for the kind message about the verification... guess I have to be patient

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"There are many single guys who struggle on here, because there are so many. You have some nice verifications, so a great start

Thanks for the kind message about the verification... guess I have to be patient "
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You're welcome,you look and sound nice, yes be patient, there will be someone come along looking for a single guy. Keep going to clubs, building friendships

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are many single guys who struggle on here, because there are so many. You have some nice verifications, so a great start

Thanks for the kind message about the verification... guess I have to be patient ,

You're welcome,you look and sound nice, yes be patient, there will be someone come along looking for a single guy. Keep going to clubs, building friendships

thanks and you look nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you sure it’s being deaf and not just being a single man? It looks like there’s a lot of single blokes on here that struggle to meet.

We’ve been on here over a year and still haven’t found anyone we’d be comfortable playing with but have been to clubs and enjoyed the social and exhibitionist aspect.

Chin up and keep looking, you’re not by far the ugliest bloke I’ve seen on here and they were able to see some action so I hope that gives you some hope!

Thanks :-

will keep my chin up and be patient x

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

I'm sure it's not because you're deaf.

We're always at clubs and it gets loud, asking people to repeat what they said is normal so I can't see people having an issue with it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"There are many single guys who struggle on here, because there are so many. You have some nice verifications, so a great start

Thanks for the kind message about the verification... guess I have to be patient ,

You're welcome,you look and sound nice, yes be patient, there will be someone come along looking for a single guy. Keep going to clubs, building friendships

thanks and you look nice

Thank you

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By *assy_AttitudeWoman
over a year ago

RHYL

As everyone else says you're a single man and they do struggle and according to your verifications you seem a lovely bloke. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope it's not you mate we all struggle on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sure it's not because you're deaf.

We're always at clubs and it gets loud, asking people to repeat what they said is normal so I can't see people having an issue with it.

Glad it’s not me then, went to a club once as one person got so frustrated and ended up walking off !! Don’t worry I will get there on the end

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As everyone else says you're a single man and they do struggle and according to your verifications you seem a lovely bloke. Good luck x

Ah thanks, I do my best to look good for the ladies out there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope it's not you mate we all struggle on here"

Glad I’m not the only one mate

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I'm sure it's not because you're deaf.

We're always at clubs and it gets loud, asking people to repeat what they said is normal so I can't see people having an issue with it.

Glad it’s not me then, went to a club once as one person got so frustrated and ended up walking off !! Don’t worry I will get there on the end

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That's just rude

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

I’m Deaf as well but use hearing aids/lip read although I can sign. It’s handy when sending ‘secret’ messages to Ian when checking in on each other (he’s hearing)

There was a post on the forum about disabilities & swinging so it’s definitely not a barrier.

For a single guy, it’s harder for you to get meets; that’s just the way it is, but if you go to socials and explain your communication needs then it helps put people at ease.

Millie x

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"Hello everyone,

I’m profoundly deaf guy and I’ve been on here on and off for a year now. I go to clubs and to meet some people who made me feel welcome to join..

There alway will be communication problem due to my deafness and i do get frustrated when they say oh sorry or walk away from me as like i got some diseases.

Since i joined the clubs ii never not once had fun or to play. Or even any interest on here to meet.

Have anyone have that experience and for few weeks now i have seriously thinking about not coming back on here and it a waste of time for people with disabilities to join this."

Obviously some people are prejudiced (As I am sure you don't need me to tell you) but I know a few disabled female swingers, including a deaf lady, who get plenty of meets- as others have said being a single man is probably a barrier too

If someone politely messages us before we go to A club it hugely increases our chances of having fun with them once we arrive. Have you tried this?

Don't give up you look v nice and if we were further south we would Defiantely say hi

Ms Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m Deaf as well but use hearing aids/lip read although I can sign. It’s handy when sending ‘secret’ messages to Ian when checking in on each other (he’s hearing)

There was a post on the forum about disabilities & swinging so it’s definitely not a barrier.

For a single guy, it’s harder for you to get meets; that’s just the way it is, but if you go to socials and explain your communication needs then it helps put people at ease.

Millie x"

Thanks for your comment, I’m glad there another deaf person goes to swinging, will have to work little harder at the clubs

Ray x

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We / I would not see it as a problem ar all. My ex husbands father and 8 siblings were 99% deaf. Lip reading for us! I played with a chap who had an ostomy band a few weeks ago.

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"I’m Deaf as well but use hearing aids/lip read although I can sign. It’s handy when sending ‘secret’ messages to Ian when checking in on each other (he’s hearing)

There was a post on the forum about disabilities & swinging so it’s definitely not a barrier.

For a single guy, it’s harder for you to get meets; that’s just the way it is, but if you go to socials and explain your communication needs then it helps put people at ease.

Millie x

Thanks for your comment, I’m glad there another deaf person goes to swinging, will have to work little harder at the clubs

Ray x"

you’re welcome

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By *razyjohnMan
over a year ago

derby

I am deaf, I don’t see any problem meeting people at adult club. It’s would be nice to sign but it’s harder to communicate orally, but I manage. There are some lovely people would make an effort to communicate. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hay stay around good chap.. There are far worst ones on here.. Keep being the nice you and you will outshine the others by far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am deaf, I don’t see any problem meeting people at adult club. It’s would be nice to sign but it’s harder to communicate orally, but I manage. There are some lovely people would make an effort to communicate. Good luck. "

Thanks, bud will keep going to the clubs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hay stay around good chap.. There are far worst ones on here.. Keep being the nice you and you will outshine the others by far. "

Thanks, you look lovely too x

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