FabSwingers.com forum: Straight men contacting bi couples

By *istressdandsubt OP Couple
over a year ago

caterham

Why do straight guys keep contacting bi couples especially when we put bi only . Do straight guys think bi guys are less alpha than straight guys . Do they think the partners crave a straigh guy. Surely you must realise that when we are not playing with others we are playing together and as any other couple

And if you are secretly bi why hide it , this is a sex site to meet people into the same as yourself without and produces

Do other bi couples have the same issue

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By *urhamStagMan
over a year ago

Durham

They’re trying to play the field.

A lot of women/ couples won’t play with bi guys so they hide it

N x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get both, but we are happy to play with both so that's ok for us x

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

If they do what it says on the tin and our profile we dont care ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that most people don't take their time to read someone profile. And these who still dm think there special enough for you to change your mind and what you want just for them lol

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

We also suffer this. Some guys are closeted which is fine if they have bothered to read our profile and tell us they are bi we understand. The rest are a pain in the arse...of the wrong kind! The approach of some straight guys on here though really turns us off X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We also suffer this. Some guys are closeted which is fine if they have bothered to read our profile and tell us they are bi we understand. The rest are a pain in the arse...of the wrong kind! The approach of some straight guys on here though really turns us off X"

Couldnt agree more with you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I found that most people don't take their time to read someone profile. And these who still dm think there special enough for you to change your mind and what you want just for them lol "

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Probably 8 out of 10 messages are from straight guys who haven't read our profile. Then it's usually the reasons why they can't possibly say they are bi on their profile. Baffling are those with no photos, a three word profile thinking people will recognise them.

The option to block straight guys in message filters would solve it but until then we just use the block button.

Also makes it more difficult for us when searching. Annoying,but just how it is on here.

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By *appycouple300Couple
over a year ago

North Dorset

We always have this happen to us. We even say that if the guys profile says straight, you are not bi and don’t get in touch. They then say they are orally bi, but this is only to get to my wife. That’s why our block list is in the hundreds

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By *hoenix CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northallerton

Unfortunately the categories are very black and white. So guys won't say bi or bi-cu because they think that rules them out seeing straight people.

However, we have had guys turn up who have no intention of being bi even though they say they are. I guess it's worth a look at the verifications.

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By *sSforfunCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Why do straight guys keep contacting bi couples especially when we put bi only . Do straight guys think bi guys are less alpha than straight guys . Do they think the partners crave a straigh guy. Surely you must realise that when we are not playing with others we are playing together and as any other couple

And if you are secretly bi why hide it , this is a sex site to meet people into the same as yourself without and produces

Do other bi couples have the same issue "

Yip we’ve had it before. So many have sent such terrible messages they just blocked anyway!

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By *omesticflightMan
over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

Yeah its tricky. Personally I'd message Bi couples cos ye never know what's around the corner, or how involved they want ye to be with the guy anyway.

I'm de facto straight, in that I've never played with a guy, but I dunno, could be great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always have this happen to us. We even say that if the guys profile says straight, you are not bi and don’t get in touch. They then say they are orally bi, but this is only to get to my wife. That’s why our block list is in the hundreds "

had similar messages of the guy is orally bi even though it says straight on his profile and dont mind the hubby giving him oral but he will not reciprocate.

wethinks it is also just to get to the mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably 8 out of 10 messages are from straight guys who haven't read our profile. Then it's usually the reasons why they can't possibly say they are bi on their profile. Baffling are those with no photos, a three word profile thinking people will recognise them.

This to a tee

The option to block straight guys in message filters would solve it but until then we just use the block button.

Also makes it more difficult for us when searching. Annoying,but just how it is on here."

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some people don't like the label

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore. "

That fine. But your should really say something like that in your frist dm. So the couple knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore. "

maybe because we are not an experiment to see how far they want to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're trying it on or arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore. "

I think you've hit the nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore.

I think you've hit the nail on the head

yeah and that way they can say nay not for me but may aswell just shag the mrs while am here.pmsl yeah sure

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore.

I think you've hit the nail on the head

yeah and that way they can say nay not for me but may aswell just shag the mrs while am here.pmsl yeah sure"
absolutely this

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By *e Sing TooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore. "

We agree. We’ve met with a few men whose profile lists them as ‘straight’ who were happy to explore bi experiences with us. The explanation we get from these men is that they believe that they will be less likely to be approached by a couple with a straight male if the say they are bi. It must be difficult enough for single men on this site.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

The majority of our messages still say the same stuff "hi, looking for fun today" "looking for a meet today" etc etc. I find that straight guy are always like that, out bio is so so specific, it's very clear of our intentions and what we want. We don't want meets with single guys but they really don't be seeking to get the message. We leave our inbox open to guys who might have marked themselves as straight for what ever reason, but they are looking to explore. These people are so incredibly rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys don’t like to admit it as it puts somen and couples off. You’d be surprised how many ‘straight’ guys contact bi men for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're fab straight.

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By *ilda934Woman
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

At the end of the day most people don't even read profile's

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By *istressdandsubt OP Couple
over a year ago

caterham

That's true , if you want to try bi and feel having women present doesn't undermine your masculinity then say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They’re trying to play the field.

A lot of women/ couples won’t play with bi guys so they hide it

N x"

Agree I belonged to another site and got swamped with ST8 guys looking for meet,one of them was meeting 2 women on the site and didn't want to put Bi on his profile as he didn't want to put them off!

Everything Couples saying on here rings so true.

If your seeking a Genuine Bi guy that take a look at my profile what you got to lose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It appears that being 'bi' is the fashionable straight... Yes.. I hate labels too..

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Hate labels? Rather important to know preferences and boundaries, good meets need at least these 2 as the foundation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read every profile I view

Some want bi guys but everyone does not want mature guys

Am bi sexual and been a bull too

Life is an adventure before you get dementia

If you don’t like don’t do it again

Simple really

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Some couples won’t meet females that meet bi guys. You really can’t win at times.

I have blocked a couple who put that as their status and I’d already met them.

No wonder people out straight as their status. Too many judgemental people.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I'm a very enthusiastic cock sucker so I make a point of advertising the fact that I am bi curious. This is in part because I have purposely limited the scenarios in which I will indulge in that pleasure.

I won't meet single guys 1 on 1 and most of my meets have been with cuckold couples. That's a dynamic in which me doing the cock sucking would be unthinkable.

So from my perspective limiting my options even further by pretending to be straight wouldn't make any sense.

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By *roubleInMindCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

We agree with the general sentiments here. We’re not massively bothered if you’re fab straight for whatever reason but are equally into guys as you are girls, but it becomes obvious really quickly if you aren’t. The profile clearly states what we’re after. We’re not hear to take pitty on people and let them dabble a little in bi play before reverting back to straight. That’s not our bag, sorry.

Do genuinely believe that an awful lot of straight guys see bi guys as cuckolds or somehow in thrall to sucking cock. Maybe they see them as weak or someone to be dominated. Either way it’s patronising and annoying. Read ‘what’s on the tin’. If that’s not for you then please don’t message us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had similar messages of the guy is orally bi even though it says straight on his profile and dont mind the hubby giving him oral but he will not reciprocate.

wethinks it is also just to get to the mrs."

Happens alot. Sometimes a few messages is needed to find out their intention. Difficult sometimes though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe a guy wants to push his boundaries. I know several guys who want to explore their bi side but prefer to have a woman present. We were all novices once so why not help others explore.

We agree with both points here, it's a mixed bag of genuine and triers we think. you never know until you try I suppose. We have and had some good times.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

To me it's the guy wanting to test his bi curiousness and not too sure how to go about it. Afterall someone as to start somewhere.

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

So much man hating on this site

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I always read profiles, and if there's any mention of 'bi only', or 'no straight men' or the like, then it's simple, I won't initiate contact...

....but if it's not specified, then sometimes I will message them - though bi may be their preference, it may just be that, a preference, not a pre-requisite...

....I'm straight, and it says so on my profile (twice) - but that hasn't stopped bi men from contacting me because they've liked what they see!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To flip the op's question why do gay guys message straight guys i.e. me? I get more messages from gay guys and tv/ts men than I do straight women/couples, despite not having any interest in either.

It's mildly annoying but I don't spaz out about it.

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

"To flip the op's question why do gay guys message straight guys i.e. me? I get more messages from gay guys and tv/ts men than I do straight women/couples, despite not having any interest in either.

It's mildly annoying but I don't spaz out about it. "

You can block guys from contacting you which resolves the problem. Assuming it annoys you enough that you wish to.

There is no option to block those stating straight. It also means if we are searching then it excludes those who are apparently bi. Also, as we only meet at VA bi nights, they wouldn't meet the criteria to attend set out by the organiser.

Guys could have a secondary account for their bisexual endeavours which may satisfy everyone?

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By *heShyBiCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Yes have it all the time. I like messaging the obvious straight guys back getting them interested and then asking why does profile say straight if you're bi. Some excuses are hilarious. We've even had some after we've deleted the message take the rejection very badly and message us again saying how we're missing out etc.

The block list is getting bigger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to avoid blocking people and to be honest I don't get that many inappropriate messages/comments. Only people I've blocked so far have been a couple of guys who persistently messaged to offer to suck me off despite me politely saying I wasn't interested in same sex play in any form. Like I said it's not a big deal. With hindsight I should have just deleted and not responded in the first place which is what I always do now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes have it all the time. I like messaging the obvious straight guys back getting them interested and then asking why does profile say straight if you're bi. Some excuses are hilarious. We've even had some after we've deleted the message take the rejection very badly and message us again saying how we're missing out etc.

The block list is getting bigger."

Excuses such as? Do tell I could do with a laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same reason as bi couples approach straight male couples, just no!!

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