FabSwingers.com forum: Advice from couples please

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I need some advice please.

My playmate and myself have a couples profile and have had a couple of meets with couples.

Can I have some advice please. For instance on discussing do’s and dont’s? What if the play is not enjoyable or things promised not done, one of you is not happy or being satisfied etc. What do you do?

Would love to hear your advice. Open to pm’s too....

Thank you.

Bhubaysi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would politely but firmly say if someone is overstepping the boundaries made and if it didn't stop pack up and leave. Respecting others costs nothing. Talking thoroughly before playing so everyone is aware and happy is paramount to having fun. Mr

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

During a meet? We have an agreement that whoever isn't feeling it asks for a timeout in private with their partner. We keep an eye on each other too.

Before and after we talk about it with the understanding that it won't affect our relationship. I'm less rational about things than Mr N

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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago

London

Just stop. Never carry on with something that you do not enjoy.

Unfortunately that is why we rearly meet fuck buddy couples, as they are not always on the same page between eachother, and frankly they do not keep an eye for the other half in same way as long term relationship.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We have a code word/phrase that we agree on beforehand if something isn't to one of our likings. So the other week we had a meet and I felt overwhelmed half way through and I said I'm going for a vape. He knows then to stop play and follow me. Of any boundaries are being crossed though we just say I need to stop. All play stops and we discuss what went wrong.

Gem

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Interesting reading. Just goes to show how careful you must be of others tastes / boundaries / feelings in this scene.

Something I’m always conscious of.......it’s me getting to share the fantasy of a couple that are very close and I’m the outsider. I guess many guys forget the ‘couple’ aspect perhaps

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Interesting reading. Just goes to show how careful you must be of others tastes / boundaries / feelings in this scene.

Something I’m always conscious of.......it’s me getting to share the fantasy of a couple that are very close and I’m the outsider. I guess many guys forget the ‘couple’ aspect perhaps "

In our experience men are very aware of over stepping the mark. It's not possible to anticipate everything that will happen or your reaction to it neither is it possible to discuss every single boundary. That's why we agree that what happens during a meet won't impact on our relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On of our rules is that either of us can stop play at any time, for any reason, and the other will stop (we've got various ways of letting each other know, from keywords to a certain physical touch that we only use if needed).

We will then quickly check what the issue is and sort that, or stop altogether as necessary.

We very rarely have to do this, though a recent example would be when one guy tried to enter Marie without a condom. She got my (James) attention immediately with a keyword and we were able to stop play and deal with that...

Otherwise our only guideline is to enjoy ourselves as much as possible, we both love seeing each other having as much fun as they can!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need some advice please.

My playmate and myself have a couples profile and have had a couple of meets with couples.

Would love to hear your advice. Open to pm’s too....

Thank you.

Bhubaysi "

In our experience many couple meets are driven by the guys and frequently try to overstep the mark. Why we make it absolutely clear on our boundaries . We also will only ever meet for social first.

Many times on couple meets find that you F are just a place to dip their wick and don't really care what you get out of it. Unfortunately it goes with the territory all you can do is take your time to get to know the people before commit to a meeting and taking it further.

If they are impatient and keep trying to force the issue the likelyhood they will try and overstep boundaries.

We have walked out of a meeting semi dressed before now cos the guys tried to overstep the boundaries and some have got very aggressive. It is a risk any meeting

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Great advice thank you. Any more tips/advice? My playmate can’t hear 100% though which is an issue!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great advice thank you. Any more tips/advice? My playmate can’t hear 100% though which is an issue!!! "

Then the touch signal would be best, if in separate rooms I need to go to the loo works for us then pop into your partner's play room for support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a couples meet once were just the other guy only wanted girl/girl play and to stay with your own Mrs. Within 2 minutes of play he'd got his hands between the Mrs legs, so my Mrs shoved my hand between his womans legs, was hilarious as his woman loved it haha.

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