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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all"

6 million dollar question...

I've waited 5 years to be answered...

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors)

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Do a thread search fella

There are a lot of women that want to meet bi guys and quite a few specifically looking for just that

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm straight

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I'm straight"
ish, anyway...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

As the female of the couple I am bi and not currently looking to meet men of any preference.

However when I did meet men I didn't care about the sexual label just if there was an attraction.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Sex is fantasy as well as physical.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I'm straight ish, anyway..."

When you want to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preference"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm straight ish, anyway..."

fab straight then lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do a thread search fella

There are a lot of women that want to meet bi guys and quite a few specifically looking for just that"

I aint been having much luck then if thats the case, ive been able to get one small convo and now its just died with no response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not fussed but that's just my opinion

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

It's the smell, bi sexual men smell weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not bothered but I do think being honest is important, everyone is entitled to make and informed choice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

However when I did meet men I didn't care about the sexual label just if there was an attraction. "

Thats exactly my thinking too, its just a label at the end of the day and regarding what Ember said


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Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors)

"

I understand that being a reason but it seems rather silly in my opinion, kinda like the old playground bullying "ew you got cooties"... and a guy may be bisexual but that doesnt mean hes ever been with a guy, so some women are just limiting their options over something that seems trivial, especially if the guy ticked all her boxes and could have a great time together

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

It's just preference, i won't have sex with women who've had sex with black guys, and i won't suck off guys Who've fucked bbw women. Just because the thought of those things are a turn off. Im not a bigot, it's just a preference...

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"

However when I did meet men I didn't care about the sexual label just if there was an attraction.

Thats exactly my thinking too, its just a label at the end of the day and regarding what Ember said

Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors)

I understand that being a reason but it seems rather silly in my opinion, kinda like the old playground bullying "ew you got cooties"... and a guy may be bisexual but that doesnt mean hes ever been with a guy, so some women are just limiting their options over something that seems trivial, especially if the guy ticked all her boxes and could have a great time together"

That's true, but if someone said they were bi, I would assume (rightly or wrongly) that they had been with a guy. I'm not saying this would bother me, I tend to judge people on their merits but I can understand why it might bother some people.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"It's just preference, i won't have sex with women who've had sex with black guys, and i won't suck off guys Who've fucked bbw women. Just because the thought of those things are a turn off. Im not a bigot, it's just a preference..."

How do you know a person has done these things? There's no sign on someone's head.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

People can not control what the are attracted to. Its not something we choose.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"It's just preference, i won't have sex with women who've had sex with black guys, and i won't suck off guys Who've fucked bbw women. Just because the thought of those things are a turn off. Im not a bigot, it's just a preference...

How do you know a person has done these things? There's no sign on someone's head."

Verifications...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all"

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"It's just preference, i won't have sex with women who've had sex with black guys, and i won't suck off guys Who've fucked bbw women. Just because the thought of those things are a turn off. Im not a bigot, it's just a preference...

How do you know a person has done these things? There's no sign on someone's head.

Verifications..."

I have no veris, I'm not a virgin, people have no idea what I've done in the past.

I know you're claiming not to be a bigot, but that's how your post reads.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich


"It's just preference, i won't have sex with women who've had sex with black guys, and i won't suck off guys Who've fucked bbw women. Just because the thought of those things are a turn off. Im not a bigot, it's just a preference...

How do you know a person has done these things? There's no sign on someone's head.

Verifications...

I have no veris, I'm not a virgin, people have no idea what I've done in the past.

I know you're claiming not to be a bigot, but that's how your post reads."

I thought he was just calling you out on your 'maybe they're avid blood donors' comment

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"It's just preference, i won't have sex with women who've had sex with black guys, and i won't suck off guys Who've fucked bbw women. Just because the thought of those things are a turn off. Im not a bigot, it's just a preference...

How do you know a person has done these things? There's no sign on someone's head.

Verifications...

I have no veris, I'm not a virgin, people have no idea what I've done in the past.

I know you're claiming not to be a bigot, but that's how your post reads."

.... no way..

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


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I thought he was just calling you out on your 'maybe they're avid blood donors' comment"

Well if he was it was ill thought out.

You have to tick a box that says you've never had sex with a man who's had sex with another man.

They don't ask if you've had sex with someone who's had sex with a black person or if you've sucked someone off who's had sex with a BBW.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Concentrate on things that is within our own control...easier.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"

Verifications...

I have no veris, I'm not a virgin, people have no idea what I've done in the past.

I know you're claiming not to be a bigot, but that's how your post reads.

.... no way.."

'Fraid so.

You might not like to hear it but that's definitely the first thing that springs to my mind.

If you'd said you wouldn't have sex with someone who had sex bare, fair enough, from a risk pov. But not having sex with someone because they've had sex with someone of a certain ethnic group sounds bigoted.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"

Verifications...

I have no veris, I'm not a virgin, people have no idea what I've done in the past.

I know you're claiming not to be a bigot, but that's how your post reads.

.... no way..

'Fraid so.

You might not like to hear it but that's definitely the first thing that springs to my mind.

If you'd said you wouldn't have sex with someone who had sex bare, fair enough, from a risk pov. But not having sex with someone because they've had sex with someone of a certain ethnic group sounds bigoted."

Surely not..

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Now I'm not only worried about sleeping with bi guys I'm also worried about sleeping with anyone from an ethnic minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just preferences. Some like blondes/brunettes/redhead, long hair/short hair/no hair, large/thin, under 50/over 50 etc., etc.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3


"Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors) "

I'm a blood donor and I'm sure the rules changed on this in 2017. Donations can be done, it's just a 3 month period that just needs to pass I believe.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Now I'm not only worried about sleeping with bi guys I'm also worried about sleeping with anyone from an ethnic minority "

exactly!

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors)

I'm a blood donor and I'm sure the rules changed on this in 2017. Donations can be done, it's just a 3 month period that just needs to pass I believe."

Oh, is it? I don't know. Paid for sex, gay sex and sex in Africa ring a bell (sex in Africa makes me chuckle, it could be your husband from Sheffield. Or you could have sex with an African person in Spain and that's fine.....but not in Africa!)

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3


"Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors)

I'm a blood donor and I'm sure the rules changed on this in 2017. Donations can be done, it's just a 3 month period that just needs to pass I believe.

Oh, is it? I don't know. Paid for sex, gay sex and sex in Africa ring a bell (sex in Africa makes me chuckle, it could be your husband from Sheffield. Or you could have sex with an African person in Spain and that's fine.....but not in Africa!)"

Yup I last gave a donation in Sept_mber and they still ask all those questions.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich


"Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors)

I'm a blood donor and I'm sure the rules changed on this in 2017. Donations can be done, it's just a 3 month period that just needs to pass I believe.

Oh, is it? I don't know. Paid for sex, gay sex and sex in Africa ring a bell (sex in Africa makes me chuckle, it could be your husband from Sheffield. Or you could have sex with an African person in Spain and that's fine.....but not in Africa!)"

You've made my point beautifully

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Weve encounter this. Since C had identified as bi curious we definitely get less messages. Also lots of profiles that state they wont meet people who meet TVs/CDs/TS.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can understand not being attracted to a certain ethnic group, like i have zero attraction to any middle-eastern, asian, oriental men, but if i met someone who had sex with any of these ethnics group it wouldnt phase me in the slightest, i just dont focus on that part of their past or get turned off by the thought of them going at it. Even if i were to meet a woman who had sex with a particular person who i find downright revolting, i dont let that ruin the opportunity for an enjoyable experience with someone who clearly i enjoy being with, after all i wouldnt be going to have sex with them if i didnt, so why should i let past events ruin that for either of us. I can understand that ppls minds work differently but it doesnt help to change your persoective how your mind ticks, it may bring things into your life you werent expecting or have memorable experiences youd have otherwise missed. Openmindedness and tolerance go a long way. But you do you as long as it doesnt hurt anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It doesnt hurt** to change your perspective. Bloody hell why is there no option to edit a post? Seems a little archaic

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"It doesnt hurt** to change your perspective. Bloody hell why is there no option to edit a post? Seems a little archaic "

Probably because you'd get people who'd say things, get grilled and then change it to make themselves look less dickish.

I fully agree with your post BTW.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably because you'd get people who'd say things, get grilled and then change it to make themselves look less dickish.

I fully agree with your post BTW."

If thats the kind of thing ppl on this site would do... kudos to them for managing to be such a sad twat

But anyway yeah i think a lot of ppl need to lighten up and stop letting such things interfere with their lives. None of us have long left on this planet so why let stuff like that ruin it. Live fast die young i say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards "

I know plenty of gay men who won't touch a bi man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand not being attracted to a certain ethnic group, like i have zero attraction to any middle-eastern, asian, oriental men, but if i met someone who had sex with any of these ethnics group it wouldnt phase me in the slightest, i just dont focus on that part of their past or get turned off by the thought of them going at it. Even if i were to meet a woman who had sex with a particular person who i find downright revolting, i dont let that ruin the opportunity for an enjoyable experience with someone who clearly i enjoy being with, after all i wouldnt be going to have sex with them if i didnt, so why should i let past events ruin that for either of us. I can understand that ppls minds work differently but it doesnt help to change your persoective how your mind ticks, it may bring things into your life you werent expecting or have memorable experiences youd have otherwise missed. Openmindedness and tolerance go a long way. But you do you as long as it doesnt hurt anyone"

Wow refreshing outlook, but in a minority way of thinking on this site, unfortunately!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Wow refreshing outlook, but in a minority way of thinking on this site, unfortunately! "

If thats the case maybe id be better off being a naive arrogant dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has there own reasons for there choices and what they want the same as anything in life people want different things and everyone needs to be thoughtful of there choices not try to reason or change that it is what it is live with it

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors)

I'm a blood donor and I'm sure the rules changed on this in 2017. Donations can be done, it's just a 3 month period that just needs to pass I believe.

Oh, is it? I don't know. Paid for sex, gay sex and sex in Africa ring a bell (sex in Africa makes me chuckle, it could be your husband from Sheffield. Or you could have sex with an African person in Spain and that's fine.....but not in Africa!)"

there are lots of reasons why ppl are asked not to give blood , having had a tattoo done is one of them

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


" Wow refreshing outlook, but in a minority way of thinking on this site, unfortunately!

If thats the case maybe id be better off being a naive arrogant dick "

Jeez! Who pissed on your cornflakes?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards I know plenty of gay men who won't touch a bi man. "

Well that is extremely unusual seeing as I have been around gay and bi men nearly 24 years now and never once had a gay man say they would not touch a bi man. Not once. I can swear that on my life.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards "

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels..."

Yes and many women only want to play with straight men and straight couples. Nothing wrong with it, purely preference. Not all these bi male profiles are looking for MF couples and TV, they explicitly say they do not want gay men.

The point is gay men are not on these forums bleating every 5 minutes they are being discriminated against unlike bisexual men who themselves are stating preferences. I could not give a damn who likes what, just stop complaining on these forums it is all we see all the time. Get your own houses in order first bi men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all"
a lot of women are put off by anal sex they get a bit arsey about it

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"It's just preference, i won't have sex with women who've had sex with black guys, and i won't suck off guys Who've fucked bbw women. Just because the thought of those things are a turn off. Im not a bigot, it's just a preference...

How do you know a person has done these things? There's no sign on someone's head.

Verifications..."

Thats a full proof way to do your checks! Totally genius not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards I know plenty of gay men who won't touch a bi man.

Well that is extremely unusual seeing as I have been around gay and bi men nearly 24 years now and never once had a gay man say they would not touch a bi man. Not once. I can swear that on my life. "

Feedback from here and Fab guys plus guys I've spoken to at clubs. I'm not trying to justify myself, only explaining where these convos have happened with the both of us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels...

Yes and many women only want to play with straight men and straight couples. Nothing wrong with it, purely preference. Not all these bi male profiles are looking for MF couples and TV, they explicitly say they do not want gay men.

The point is gay men are not on these forums bleating every 5 minutes they are being discriminated against unlike bisexual men who themselves are stating preferences. I could not give a damn who likes what, just stop complaining on these forums it is all we see all the time. Get your own houses in order first bi men "

Thought we was allowed to talk about any topic on the forums. Lots are repeated over again. Don't participate if you can't get a grip on your emotions! You're looking a reet bully now sweetheart!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels...

Yes and many women only want to play with straight men and straight couples. Nothing wrong with it, purely preference. Not all these bi male profiles are looking for MF couples and TV, they explicitly say they do not want gay men.

The point is gay men are not on these forums bleating every 5 minutes they are being discriminated against unlike bisexual men who themselves are stating preferences. I could not give a damn who likes what, just stop complaining on these forums it is all we see all the time. Get your own houses in order first bi men

Thought we was allowed to talk about any topic on the forums. Lots are repeated over again. Don't participate if you can't get a grip on your emotions! You're looking a reet bully now sweetheart! "

A bully? A grip on my emotions? Just because I am not pandering to rubbish on these forums does not make me a bully or uncontrolled emotions. I am more than qualified to speak up for gay and bi men. If you can’t handle a spade being called a spade, maybe forums are not the best place for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why get bent out of shape about the people who won't meet you because of your sexuality/gender/body type/whatever when there are plenty of others who will? It's a waste of energy.

Mr R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why get bent out of shape about the people who won't meet you because of your sexuality/gender/body type/whatever when there are plenty of others who will? It's a waste of energy.

Mr R"

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

i find these questions all a little academic.

Whatever label anyone attaches to their profile, straight, gay or bi, no-one knows their sexual history, their kinks, or whatever.

Yes, it may be a useful guide. But it is no guarantor of the truth.

It is a website for swingers, after all.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich


"i find these questions all a little academic.

Whatever label anyone attaches to their profile, straight, gay or bi, no-one knows their sexual history, their kinks, or whatever.

Yes, it may be a useful guide. But it is no guarantor of the truth.

It is a website for swingers, after all.

"

Exactly.

You may as well ask people to complete a questionnaire on their entire sexual history

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Concentrating on the negatives will surely bear negative results.

The smart searchers will look for the positives and concentrate on them

There's someone on fab for everybody,not everybody for someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels...

Yes and many women only want to play with straight men and straight couples. Nothing wrong with it, purely preference. Not all these bi male profiles are looking for MF couples and TV, they explicitly say they do not want gay men.

The point is gay men are not on these forums bleating every 5 minutes they are being discriminated against unlike bisexual men who themselves are stating preferences. I could not give a damn who likes what, just stop complaining on these forums it is all we see all the time. Get your own houses in order first bi men

Thought we was allowed to talk about any topic on the forums. Lots are repeated over again. Don't participate if you can't get a grip on your emotions! You're looking a reet bully now sweetheart!

A bully? A grip on my emotions? Just because I am not pandering to rubbish on these forums does not make me a bully or uncontrolled emotions. I am more than qualified to speak up for gay and bi men. If you can’t handle a spade being called a spade, maybe forums are not the best place for you?

"

I'm not biting lovely, I'm leaving that to you! You certainly reacting to a thread that's being done all over again lol. Don't comment if it's irritating. Simples!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Differences in opinion, differences in PREFERENCE... differences in perspective, everyone will be different on the spectrum in some way or other, but if theres one thing i think we should all agree on is that you can NEVER tell whats inside from face value, verifications are just a way to know if someone is genuine, thats all, and ppl can hide the ones they dont want other ppl to see. You can never know about someones entire sexual history, thats how ppl end up getting STDs. Another thing we should all agree on is that nobodies experiences should be considered fact. Theyre youre experiences so saying that no gay guys have ever turned down a bisexual man is just naive, ive seen it myself, but i also know a lot of gay guys would happily sleep witha bisexual man, probably the majority cos theyre a right randy bunch

Having an open mind to all kinds of possibilities goes a long way and sadly i think too many ppl in this day and age are still lacking in that, and that extends well beyond the world of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels...

Yes and many women only want to play with straight men and straight couples. Nothing wrong with it, purely preference. Not all these bi male profiles are looking for MF couples and TV, they explicitly say they do not want gay men.

The point is gay men are not on these forums bleating every 5 minutes they are being discriminated against unlike bisexual men who themselves are stating preferences. I could not give a damn who likes what, just stop complaining on these forums it is all we see all the time. Get your own houses in order first bi men

Thought we was allowed to talk about any topic on the forums. Lots are repeated over again. Don't participate if you can't get a grip on your emotions! You're looking a reet bully now sweetheart!

A bully? A grip on my emotions? Just because I am not pandering to rubbish on these forums does not make me a bully or uncontrolled emotions. I am more than qualified to speak up for gay and bi men. If you can’t handle a spade being called a spade, maybe forums are not the best place for you?

I'm not biting lovely, I'm leaving that to you! You certainly reacting to a thread that's being done all over again lol. Don't comment if it's irritating. Simples! "

I never asked you to bite, you were just getting a bit hysterical claiming I was a bully and lost control my emotions. I guess that is your way of dealing with things if they don’t go your way. All the best

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

I'm still confused as to why you won't give a bj to a fella who's had sex with a BBW???

I'm sure mine isn't much different to my other slimmer counterparts vaggies??

Oh well - we all make the world.go around I suppose!

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By *ina JonesTV/TS
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"I'm still confused as to why you won't give a bj to a fella who's had sex with a BBW???

I'm sure mine isn't much different to my other slimmer counterparts vaggies??

Oh well - we all make the world.go around I suppose!

I thought he was using irony in relation to the previous comment about not having sex with bisexual males because of their previous male partners.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels...

Yes and many women only want to play with straight men and straight couples. Nothing wrong with it, purely preference. Not all these bi male profiles are looking for MF couples and TV, they explicitly say they do not want gay men.

The point is gay men are not on these forums bleating every 5 minutes they are being discriminated against unlike bisexual men who themselves are stating preferences. I could not give a damn who likes what, just stop complaining on these forums it is all we see all the time. Get your own houses in order first bi men

Thought we was allowed to talk about any topic on the forums. Lots are repeated over again. Don't participate if you can't get a grip on your emotions! You're looking a reet bully now sweetheart!

A bully? A grip on my emotions? Just because I am not pandering to rubbish on these forums does not make me a bully or uncontrolled emotions. I am more than qualified to speak up for gay and bi men. If you can’t handle a spade being called a spade, maybe forums are not the best place for you?

I'm not biting lovely, I'm leaving that to you! You certainly reacting to a thread that's being done all over again lol. Don't comment if it's irritating. Simples!

I never asked you to bite, you were just getting a bit hysterical claiming I was a bully and lost control my emotions. I guess that is your way of dealing with things if they don’t go your way. All the best "

I'm hysterical with laughter how you always bite at these bisexual threads. Stop condemning those who wish to post about it! So what if theres been 100s of posts about it. Its clearly important to every OP.

TRY and bear that in mind sweetheart! Nobody has to 'sort there house out first' ... Whatever thats suppose to mean haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Differences in opinion, differences in PREFERENCE... differences in perspective, everyone will be different on the spectrum in some way or other, but if theres one thing i think we should all agree on is that you can NEVER tell whats inside from face value, verifications are just a way to know if someone is genuine, thats all, and ppl can hide the ones they dont want other ppl to see. You can never know about someones entire sexual history, thats how ppl end up getting STDs. Another thing we should all agree on is that nobodies experiences should be considered fact. Theyre youre experiences so saying that no gay guys have ever turned down a bisexual man is just naive, ive seen it myself, but i also know a lot of gay guys would happily sleep witha bisexual man, probably the majority cos theyre a right randy bunch

Having an open mind to all kinds of possibilities goes a long way and sadly i think too many ppl in this day and age are still lacking in that, and that extends well beyond the world of sex"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

I have not seen one profile on here of a gay man rejecting bisexual men but seen plenty of bisexual men directly or indirectly reject gay men on their profiles. Bisexual men cry they are being rejected by women for their sexuality yet they reject gay men for their sexuality. Double standards

Double standards? The bi man may only want to play with couples, as having a lady present changes the dynamic of the meet.

Or may not be attracted to men, but enjoy the company of TVs, and doesn't try to convince himself it's straight sex because his partner is dressed as a woman.

That's the problem with labels...

Yes and many women only want to play with straight men and straight couples. Nothing wrong with it, purely preference. Not all these bi male profiles are looking for MF couples and TV, they explicitly say they do not want gay men.

The point is gay men are not on these forums bleating every 5 minutes they are being discriminated against unlike bisexual men who themselves are stating preferences. I could not give a damn who likes what, just stop complaining on these forums it is all we see all the time. Get your own houses in order first bi men

Thought we was allowed to talk about any topic on the forums. Lots are repeated over again. Don't participate if you can't get a grip on your emotions! You're looking a reet bully now sweetheart!

A bully? A grip on my emotions? Just because I am not pandering to rubbish on these forums does not make me a bully or uncontrolled emotions. I am more than qualified to speak up for gay and bi men. If you can’t handle a spade being called a spade, maybe forums are not the best place for you?

I'm not biting lovely, I'm leaving that to you! You certainly reacting to a thread that's being done all over again lol. Don't comment if it's irritating. Simples!

I never asked you to bite, you were just getting a bit hysterical claiming I was a bully and lost control my emotions. I guess that is your way of dealing with things if they don’t go your way. All the best

I'm hysterical with laughter how you always bite at these bisexual threads. Stop condemning those who wish to post about it! So what if theres been 100s of posts about it. Its clearly important to every OP.

TRY and bear that in mind sweetheart! Nobody has to 'sort there house out first' ... Whatever thats suppose to mean haha! "

You have completely missed the point, good luck

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all"

If we are to expect your preference you will need to accept our's...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive noticed a few people on this site where it states in their profile that they will only meet with others of a certain sexual orientation... for example a girl will only meet straight men. What i dont understand is how a bisexual man could be a deal breaker for some women, and vice versa, gay guy turning down a bisexual man. If a woman meets with a man and its purely a 1 on 1 meet, how is his sexuality any issue to the woman? I can understand certain things like the guy wanting to get pegged or fingered etc. But if those activities were off the table and the guy is happy with that, wheres the problem? It would still be a heterosexual meet between 2 people, and if the guy was bisexual but no info was given on that fact and they met up, had a good time etc. You wouldnt know the difference. I dont know... some people just make no sense at all

If we are to expect your preference you will need to accept our's..."

Yes wish there was a point... there you go! No problem! It's all about preference... most posts are lol

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I'm still confused as to why you won't give a bj to a fella who's had sex with a BBW???

I'm sure mine isn't much different to my other slimmer counterparts vaggies??

Oh well - we all make the world.go around I suppose!

"

I was underlining the hypocrisy of those who won't meet bi men because the thought of 2 men together is abhorrent to them. Fab is full of bigots who'll try and convince themselves and us that it's just their preference...

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

I am a bi man who goes to just about every bi party going in the UK. I have met literally thousands of bisexual men. I doubt there's any two of them that could say had exactly the same character, viewpoints, behaviours etc.

Yet on these forums I am constantly hearing that bi men do this bi men do that. So what side do bi men part their hair on? What's their favourite colour?

It's funny how racism is defined as assuming a person's characteristic based on their skin colour. It's socially unacceptable. Yet to attribute a characteristic to an entire demographic of men based on their sexual orientation is totally acceptable.

It's not about logic. It's not even about emotion. It's about following the rest of the sheep in which prejudices are politically correct and which aren't.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Maybe some women just don't want to go there with a guy who had sex with other guys (they might be avid blood donors) "

Absolutely. We agree owing to me having insecurities theres no way I want my man in a threesome with me and a guy who may be attracted to him. Only I play. He does not play with male or female and some people may try to make that happen or tempt. So therefore it preference is straight guys only each to their own. Good luck to bi folk though. There are plenty of couples on the site that feel differently to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows what goes on in the noggins of others.

Maybe they worry their poonani will feel slack compared to a gentleman's poop chute.

Maybe they worry they'll get the finger pointed at them by those who think it's wrong.

Maybe the thought of 2 men together turns their guts and they want nowt to do with those that practise that kind of "perversion"

Maybe when they got tested at the GUM clinic and they ask if you have sex with bisexual men and offer the hep jab, it put the fear in them so they stay away.

It's down to each individual as per their own reasons. Some will be bigoted I'm sure, but all valid to each and to be respected as a choice, even if not one that may make any sense to others.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been fabbed by a guy whose profile openly states his HIV status.

In my time on Fabdwingers I've never seen a profile openly warning anyone they they are uncertain of their STD status or that they are recovering from an STD. And trust me they are doing the rounds.

Not saying all bi/gay men are honest and hetrosexual people aren't. Just saying the converse isn't true either.

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