FabSwingers.com forum: Disability??

By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Just a thought would any couples meet a disability cpl ? Think about it we all can have things happen in later life ! People have left swinging through it !! but what if you both still have the bug and want to keep enjoying yourself?? Seriously honest replies please x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Just a thought would any couples meet a disability cpl ? Think about it we all can have things happen in later life ! People have left swinging through it !! but what if you both still have the bug and want to keep enjoying yourself?? Seriously honest replies please x"

I'm guessing it totally depends on the disability as to what other couples say about it as there's no one answer yes or no.

Just be honest about it and I'm sure you'll find someone who isn't bothered in the slightest.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If I fancied the person and had a connection then certainly I’d meet someone with a disability. I want to know in advance and discuss anything that’s not possible.

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I'm guessing it totally depends on the disability as to what other couples say about it as there's no one answer yes or no.

Just be honest about it and I'm sure you'll find someone who isn't bothered in the slightest."
not us but a great couple packin the lady had problems did feel good anymore things happen we are still friends

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

I tried to meet a perfect couple with a gorgeous wheelchair bound lady. Sadly I was turned down after they showed initial interest

. I guess the fake/timewaster brush paints wider than it should..

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"I tried to meet a perfect couple with a gorgeous wheelchair bound lady. Sadly I was turned down after they showed initial interest

. I guess the fake/timewaster brush paints wider than it should.."

So they aren't allowed to not fancy you or change their mind after chatting and realising you aren't their kinda guy? Not wanting to meet you doesn't make anyone a fake or time waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!

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By *Mids guyMan
over a year ago

Lichfield

Everyone likes some fun, I have met couples with disabilities and we all had great fun

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"I tried to meet a perfect couple with a gorgeous wheelchair bound lady. Sadly I was turned down after they showed initial interest

. I guess the fake/timewaster brush paints wider than it should..

So they aren't allowed to not fancy you or change their mind after chatting and realising you aren't their kinda guy? Not wanting to meet you doesn't make anyone a fake or time waster."

Lol didn't chat much if at all, just went cold immediately after claiming interest. I also meant they possibly thought I was a fake/timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tried to meet a perfect couple with a gorgeous wheelchair bound lady. Sadly I was turned down after they showed initial interest

. I guess the fake/timewaster brush paints wider than it should..

So they aren't allowed to not fancy you or change their mind after chatting and realising you aren't their kinda guy? Not wanting to meet you doesn't make anyone a fake or time waster."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion they have desire and life, and they are entitled to live their lives as they wish. No one is perfect in this world some are physical, some mentally. Physical one is visible but the mental disabilities aren't, hail to prejudice, yes to fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% would meet, personality and sexual confidence do a lot for us. We are newbies ourselves so wouldn't be confident meeting any couple as their first but otherwise no problems for us, would still have to be initial attraction but that's the same regardless.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Depends what the disability was. I'm disabled and it's never caused me any issue meeting but then my disabilities are invisible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what the disability was. I'm disabled and it's never caused me any issue meeting but then my disabilities are invisible."

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!"

Oh you have a way with words.

Not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the pleasure of meeting a lady a couple of times who had a disability. We had a fantastic time in my car (we were going to use the disabled toilet but the queue was too long!) and it didn’t stop our fun in the slightest.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Don't see why a disability should stop someone being part of "the lifestyle"

after all, ill health or old age will catch up with us all at some point lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm paraplegic (full time wheelchair user) and have loads of fun.

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By *erriAnneTV/TS
over a year ago

The shire

It depends what you mean by the word disability.

Not every disability is visible.

I have an invisible disability which causes me a lot of problems and stops meets happening due to the nature of it.

The chances are if you've had a few mweets then someone may have a disability and you might not have even noticed.

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

I met with a lady who had disabilities earlier this year (not through here though). She was an amputee who also had a stoma. We had a fantastic and very sensual time together.

To me it is about the person, the connection and the fun you can have. I would absolutely.

I haven’t seen her again - yet, but that is only because we haven’t been in the same place at the same time.

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

"I'm paraplegic (full time wheelchair user) and have loads of fun.

And what is there not like here Lisa ..... stunning pics, stunning lady x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If whatever the disability is hinders play or will cause pain or discomfort as long as i know the limitations then we’re good, if it doesn’t, do I actually need to know if they don’t want me too.

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!"
thats not nice we have loads of sexy people young and old that’s got osteomy bag there not dirty things happen in life ??????

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"100% would meet, personality and sexual confidence do a lot for us. We are newbies ourselves so wouldn't be confident meeting any couple as their first but otherwise no problems for us, would still have to be initial attraction but that's the same regardless. "

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

Can’t say it’s stopped me; my deafness means that when flogging I have to get the sub to vocalise the traffic light system rather than something more discreet and quiet but it’s not stopped me.

In the club, it’s easier to converse as it’s less busy than a normal pub or there are more quieter areas if I want to chat 1:1

Millie

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Just a thought would any couples meet a disability cpl ?"

We look at the person not the disability. It is important to talk about any restrictions a physical disability can have though

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By *erriAnneTV/TS
over a year ago

The shire

Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!"

Wow

What a horrible way to speak

Think you maybe need to go and get yourself clued up on certain things.

I really hope you're not proud of the way you speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a couple of meets with a wheelchair user which have been very satisfying to us both. What works and what doesn’t have occasionally reduced us both to hysterical laughter, but with a little ingenuity we have enjoyed each other. All it takes is a little empathy and mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a disabled swinger myself ( epilepsy ) I would have no problem meeting any lady or couple whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always about the person you meet, so for us, disability is irrelevant. Obviously some disabilities require a higher level of openness and empathy but should never stop anyone from having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!

Wow

What a horrible way to speak

Think you maybe need to go and get yourself clued up on certain things.

I really hope you're not proud of the way you speak "

Totally agree with you here, a completely vile comment from someone who has no idea. Clearly if someone is in that position they have had to go through a traumatic life changing experience.

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I just saw a couple in a 24 hour Tesco, I was caught by how pretty she was, great figure then noticed she has had her leg removed below one knee. That wouldn’t bother me a bit, she was still well out of my league

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

As others have said, it's about the people/person. Thinking about the people I fancy. Some have disabilities, some don't and some I'll never know, but fancy them I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We totally would meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it not more about knowing the limitations rather than whether they are disabled or not? Both of us have different disabilities. Some days when mine is bad i can't manage having sex etc for long and Andy knows that and is very understanding and vice versa. Disabilities have a lot to answer for but we have needs just like everyone else and while we can we enjoy it as much as we can.

Arri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do and have lots of interesting fun with the people we meet. Mr

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I'm guessing it totally depends on the disability as to what other couples say about it as there's no one answer yes or no.

Just be honest about it and I'm sure you'll find someone who isn't bothered in the slightest."

Sam is spot on if you tell people the issue from the start will stop you wasting time and get best results.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!"

Maybe brush up on your knowledge of things. When Char and I first hooked up she was coming towards the end of her cancer treatment and still had a "shit bag" on her hip (well....waist). Wasn't an issue whatsoever.

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By *lay-full-funCouple
over a year ago

stockport

I am in a wheelchair (Mrs). We have been swinging for nearly 14 years the chair hasn't stopped us from haveing any fun

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Yes, I've met and had lovely times with women who have had physical and learning disabilities. And I know a guy with cerebral palsy who is able to give my wife wonderful times.

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By *ykoCouple
over a year ago

york

I the male of the couple have mobility problems and have to use walking sticks to get around with which are in some of our photos we have had lots of meets and not had a problem as it says it on our profile so they know first before anyone starts to talk to us.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!"

Following on from Bry; That 'shitbag' actually saved my life, as I had bowel cancer. I also suffered from a bit of incontinence when I was going through chemotherapy as it killed all my nerves. At least the cancer didn't kill me, so I get to listen to narrow minded, ill informed opinions like your own.

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Look great feed back and there his a lot of narrow minded people out there that thinks swingers are perfect next door couples fact we all hide things and need fun the internet has open the world too it we was about when adds was in the papers and let’s say the car keys thank you all for your opinions x

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I actually suffer from deafness and find the phone really difficult to use.

As a result I text.or email.

Sadly it seems to put people off so yes I think people are put off by disabled people.

Ghe Night Of The senses is supposed to be about accepting those with disabilities a d I have been there twice. I noticed how disabled people were avoided.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I'm disabled with limited movement and have never had a problem. We really enjoy clubs and private parties. We'd definitely consider meeting another couple but only if we where physically able to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm paraplegic (full time wheelchair user) and have loads of fun.

I’m not surprised, you’re really pretty

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By *aughty50sCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire - but we travel a lot

Mrs Yorks now has to use a wheelchair. It certainly hasn't stopped us enjoying some fabulously horny times with lovely people! We like to think that genuine people see the person, not the disability.

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By *eordiedanielCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"It's always about the person you meet, so for us, disability is irrelevant. Obviously some disabilities require a higher level of openness and empathy but should never stop anyone from having fun

xx"

Agreed I'm a wheelchair user and it's all about peoples attitude

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If I'm attracted to someone, a disability is not a problem.

It simply means that, depending on the disability, you may need to be more creative and be aware of any specific challenges.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

In answer to the OP's question, "Of course. The very fact they are on a swinger's site is what defines them and their reason for being here. Not their disability."

I'm disabled myself, so fully understand and appreciate others who are too. Mine is fluctuating, so I mention in private messages. To be honest, we're having more fun now, than before I ever took ill !

At the end of the day, everyone is just trying to do the best with what they have, and when options others take for granted may be limited to some, an active imagination and sideways view at looking at things can yield surprising results

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By *ubbles88Man
over a year ago

Southampton/Winchester

Yeah I would if I had got on with the individual or couple. I have met a lovely lady in the past who was in a wheelchair and had a great personality and didn’t let it defeat her for doing what she wanted to do, was great fun!

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"I actually suffer from deafness and find the phone really difficult to use.

As a result I text.or email.

Sadly it seems to put people off so yes I think people are put off by disabled people.

Ghe Night Of The senses is supposed to be about accepting those with disabilities a d I have been there twice. I noticed how disabled people were avoided.

^see my post about deafness

Millie x

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By *laric-DomMan
over a year ago

Chapelhall

I've recently met with a disabled person.. an amputee ..shes one of the sexiest kinkiest women I've met on here ...

The ones with disability are the ones who cant see past these things and treat the people with the respect they deserve .. after all to me it's the mind that's the biggest turn on ...

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Depends what disability. Dyslexic- yes! Incontinence or a shit bag on your hip...no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't put us off, only negativity would put us off.

Alot of people have invisible disabilities etc.

How do you know someone who have already met isn’t disabled? Most people don't tell you their real name, let alone their life story.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I wouldn’t say never. It will always just come down to how we get along honestly

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

No issues whatsoever meeting a disabled person , we should all look further than the disability that they have

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"It wouldn't put us off, only negativity would put us off.

Alot of people have invisible disabilities etc.

How do you know someone who have already met isn’t disabled? Most people don't tell you their real name, let alone their life story.

Great post and so very true

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Im open minded , it would be up for discussion,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look for the abilities not at the disabilities !

We are all human after all

The end

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

So my hubby has a bag on now on stomach it breaks his heart just for a year we hope so would you play we are the same people he covers it we but scared now ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So my hubby has a bag on now on stomach it breaks his heart just for a year we hope so would you play we are the same people he covers it we but scared now ??"

I dont think a bag would stop people meeting you but not having a verification for 3 years might be an issue- maybe get a recent verification from cam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there was a denial on here then yes I would we are all human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm (male half),

Technically disabled as I have CFS/ME, have had a TIA, etc.

Most people don't notice or care, the only time I've ever felt disrespected was in a club when I was invited by a lady to go upstairs. I explained that I wasn't feeling great but would love to join her at some other time. Her response was 'I get a bad back but just get on with it'. Needless to say some other time hasn't happened ??

Treat others as you'd like to be treated yourself.

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"So my hubby has a bag on now on stomach it breaks his heart just for a year we hope so would you play we are the same people he covers it we but scared now ??

I dont think a bag would stop people meeting you but not having a verification for 3 years might be an issue- maybe get a recent verification from cam. "
and ask yourself why 3 years been in and out of hospital and some verification we don’t need to put on because they are regular meets

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Look great feed back and there his a lot of narrow minded people out there that thinks swingers are perfect next door couples fact we all hide things and need fun the internet has open the world too it we was about when adds was in the papers and let’s say the car keys thank you all for your opinions x"

It's been good that you started this thread, raises awareness of things not often discussed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So my hubby has a bag on now on stomach it breaks his heart just for a year we hope so would you play we are the same people he covers it we but scared now ??"

As stated before, we wouldn't play with someone who wasn't recently verified.

"and ask yourself why 3 years been in and out of hospital and some verification we don’t need to put on because they are regular meets "

Again with no recent verifications, couples would be cautious- even with regular meets you should get that person to verify you, if its been awhile.

If you're struggling for meets with couples then, I'm just trying to point out why they might not meet you and it certainly isn't to do with your husband's bag because there is no indication of that in your profile.

Happy swinging

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

It's been good that you started this thread, raises awareness of things not often discussed

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"So my hubby has a bag on now on stomach it breaks his heart just for a year we hope so would you play we are the same people he covers it we but scared now ??

As stated before, we wouldn't play with someone who wasn't recently verified.

and ask yourself why 3 years been in and out of hospital and some verification we don’t need to put on because they are regular meets

Again with no recent verifications, couples would be cautious- even with regular meets you should get that person to verify you, if its been awhile.

Happy swinging

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By *arnsleycpl4u OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"So my hubby has a bag on now on stomach it breaks his heart just for a year we hope so would you play we are the same people he covers it we but scared now ??

As stated before, we wouldn't play with someone who wasn't recently verified.

and ask yourself why 3 years been in and out of hospital and some verification we don’t need to put on because they are regular meets

Again with no recent verifications, couples would be cautious- even with regular meets you should get that person to verify you, if its been awhile.

Happy swinging

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ok point made 20 years experience yes before the internet contact magazine and the secret society so done make remarks to us ? be there done it and like we said in and out of hospital for the passed 3 year and are marriage and health comes before swinging it was just a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tried to meet a perfect couple with a gorgeous wheelchair bound lady. Sadly I was turned down after they showed initial interest

. I guess the fake/timewaster brush paints wider than it should..

So they aren't allowed to not fancy you or change their mind after chatting and realising you aren't their kinda guy? Not wanting to meet you doesn't make anyone a fake or time waster."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disability is a broad term, and being dis-abled doesn't mean un-able.

It just means the affected individual's ability to do a certain thing 'may' be compromised to varying degrees, but in all other areas of their life they can complete tasks with the same competencey as anyone else.

To brush aside someone simply because they have a disability is discrimination, however, if their disability causes another person whether they're disabled or not to not wish to connect on a physical level, that's perfectly fine as we're all different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if I found him or her attractive I would meet. I have met a wheelchair bound woman before for sex and she was amazing, truly opened my eyes

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If I am attracted to someone, they are attracted to me, we get on and any limitations are discussed, a disability would not be a problem for me.

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