FabSwingers.com forum: Cheating.

By *innmaccool OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majority of singles here are cheating

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?"

1.Its a shitty thing to do, I want no part of it.

2.No.

3.No.

4.No.

You did ask...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Majority of singles here are cheating"

Not this single gal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?"

My soon to be ex had/is having a long standing affair. I found out last July. So I take a very dim view of this kind of behaviour.

I know its a different thing...swinging on here and a full blown affair. But to me...they are one in the same.

Wanting your cake and eating it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was shattered by my partner cheating. It literally broke me and wrecked my confidence cause I kept wondering what's wrong with me that he went elsewhere. Result I'd I'm not prepared to ever be hurt like that again so will avoid a true relationship because my trust was crushed. I now realise theres nothing wrong with me, that hes the one with the problem....he 'didnt mean it to happen' which I get because its tough for you guys, you trip and boom.....fall into a vagina

What do I think?

Think it's just wrong to do it to another person. If you're not happy or dont get what you need from a partner then dont destroy them, just leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is despicable, those that do it don't possess a normal mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?

1.Its a shitty thing to do, I want no part of it.

2.No.

3.No.

4.No.

You did ask... "

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never cheated but I've been cheated on in the past.

Cannot stand cheating rats. I wouldn't knowingly meet anyone who is married or attached.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I met someone a few times that was taken but I told her I wasn't happy with her cheating and using me to do it, but what can a man do. She split ith him but I wasn't the reason they was drifting apart for months

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

P. S I hate cheats I have never actually cheated meself

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

For me, cheating is a part of the bigger picture of lying, and I can’t stand lying. Whether it’s about money, sex, boundaries, motivations...lying destroys trust.

Unless it’s about presents or surprises, obvs

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"P. S I hate cheats I have never actually cheated meself"

Err, you still met someone who was cheating though?!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we won't knowingly meet someone who has a partner who isn't aware of what they're up to. We do however tend to take a "cast the first stone " approach

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Nope not my thing. I don't want to be the reason another person feels like absolute shite.

Everyone knows about mental health and how important it is but people are willing to shag someone with a partner/family and pass it off as oh its their problem not mine.

I'm genuinely put off a relationship because the amount pf people who cheat on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Nope not my thing. I don't want to be the reason another person feels like absolute shite.

Everyone knows about mental health and how important it is but people are willing to shag someone with a partner/family and pass it off as oh its their problem not mine.

I'm genuinely put off a relationship because the amount pf people who cheat on here. "

I think people looking for extra marital sex are probably over represented on sites like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, cheating is a part of the bigger picture of lying, and I can’t stand lying. Whether it’s about money, sex, boundaries, motivations...lying destroys trust.

Unless it’s about presents or surprises, obvs

Totally this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

They can make up all the excuses under the sun as to why they cheat but people that cheat don't deserve to be happy in my opinion. If you're not happy, leave.

Have you cheated yourself?

Never

Is it something that turns you on?

Not in the slightest

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?

Nope

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’ve cheated and been cheated on.

I’d much prefer to meet a genuine single or genuine open relationship type on here but I prefer honesty either way

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Nope not my thing. I don't want to be the reason another person feels like absolute shite.

Everyone knows about mental health and how important it is but people are willing to shag someone with a partner/family and pass it off as oh its their problem not mine.

I'm genuinely put off a relationship because the amount pf people who cheat on here.

I think people looking for extra marital sex are probably over represented on sites like this."

You're probably right on that front but still stirs those thoughts I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?"

Nope!

Never!

No!

Cheating is opposite of masculinity. A major turn off, for the reasons listed above. With all the hot, single guys on Fab there’s no reason to!

Are all singles on here are cheating?

The women I’ve met are single. Is it just the guys then!?!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

It's a knobbish thing to do, that's why I have to keep stating I want single men only. The cheating men still try though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Nope not my thing. I don't want to be the reason another person feels like absolute shite.

Everyone knows about mental health and how important it is but people are willing to shag someone with a partner/family and pass it off as oh its their problem not mine.

I'm genuinely put off a relationship because the amount pf people who cheat on here.

I think people looking for extra marital sex are probably over represented on sites like this.

You're probably right on that front but still stirs those thoughts I guess "

I can understand why. I've seen some things on here that have made me very wary of certain types of men. I'm aware that women aren't angels but I'm never going to be in a sexual relationship with a women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?"

People cheat/have extra marital affairs its a fact of life, soooo many judgements and sooo many that change with the wind depending on on the situations, seen it sooo many times cheat, bounder, cad, well until the one they really fancy comes along and all that outrage, judgement goes out the window.

It is an adult site and we should be able to make adult decisions and take any consequences like adults rather than mob rule and witch hunts, faux outrage.

Ultimately it is down to the individuals, they know the score, risks or consequences its not for the rest of us to judge others, only ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is purely an opinion... But I don't actually believe in monogamy. I think it's just a nice idea that doesn't work in real life. I'm happier, more confident, more fulfilled and content in an open relationship than I ever was married. Regarding cheaters here I only really encounter male ones. I don't know if his wife is being faithful or not. Nor does he. I do know that if she wants a bit on the side she'll find it anywhere she looks while he'll sit here being ignored. I tend not to meet married men because I don't like rushed day time meets when someone is supposed to be at work. If people get off on being a dirty secret that's fine but I'd hate that.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Cheating always provokes a binary reaction... but human beings are never black and white. Sometimes a person will simply be an arsehole and have no respect others, but more often cheating occurs in a relationship as a result of both parties. It’s an uncomfortable truth, and in most cases the injured party accuses the cheater of being an utter cunt without ever asking, ‘why did my partner cheat?’ Quite often it’s because in a long term relationship we all have a tendency to take each other for granted. When we make ourselves emotionally and physically unavailable and stop communicating, cheating occurs. Not always the case, but it’s common. We have learned that whatever occurs between people, it’s rarely black and white. We also know how devastating lies can be, so we’re not indifferent to how cheating can destroy lives. We just know it’s rarely simple, and so we don’t judge others.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't cheat or want someone to get hurt. It's not fun to contemplate

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

"What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married? "

Depends why they're doing it.

"Have you cheated yourself?"

Yes.

"Is it something that turns you on? "

No, it's nice to be sexually wanted though. I'd rather fuck my partner but he has ED and stopped being sexual with me coz he finds it frustrating.

"Has anyone been a dirty little secret?"

Yes, unintentionally because the married guys lied to me.

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By *uckypups1000Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

It was pups cheating that led us into our fabulous lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the idea here not NSA rather than relationships ... there are lots of sites for singles looking for relationships ... swinging started as couples looking for extra cirricular sex ... the "married" singles on here have many reason for being here & the escape provide by Fab & the swinging lifestyle..

As the premis of Fab is NSA there should be no judgements on anyones status..we are all here for fun, life is for living...however we may choose to live it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its part of the tribulations of life some married couples sex lives have stagnated and either of them look elsewhere for sexual gratification, sure its disrespectful and dishonest and sneaky but as long as they are happy thats what counts surely, happiness is next to godliness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?

It is an adult site and we should be able to make adult decisions and take any consequences like adults rather than mob rule and witch hunts, faux outrage.

Ultimately it is down to the individuals, they know the score, risks or consequences its not for the rest of us to judge others, only ourselves.

Indeed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me.. my reply to 1st messages is normally.. Does the wife/gfriend knows your on Fab

If they reply No/yes. I just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope and it’s just wrong, if others want to do that then that’s their choice but karma can be a bitch. If your not happy leave okay everyone’s circumstances are different but it’s no excuse, if your on a site like this the person you fell for originally should be allowed to start a new life and you carry on doing what you are doing on here, or maybe hint suggest them to join too if not walk away.

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By *appypaul69Man
over a year ago

vale

I personally wouldn’t cheat. However, if I had a partner I would love her to cheat (with me knowing) ??

Also is monogamy natural ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally wouldn’t cheat. However, if I had a partner I would love her to cheat (with me knowing) ??

Also is monogamy natural ? "

For me...its the hiding of the extra sex. Be upfront about it. Tell your partner, discuss. I dont particularily believe in 1 woman 1 man for life but its the lies that are the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?"

Doesn't bother me

Yes

And yes.

I think people overthink it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No to all of them.

I am ashamed to admit that in my previous marriage years and years ago, 4 months before it ended, when I found my ex wife googling divorce lawyers and she told me she didn't love me anymore and I should find someone else, I was so upset and angry that I did just that and then told her about it.

I still regret it.

Cheating is a despicable thing to do.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If we know they are cheating then we would not meet them. But obviously we have to know that in the first place.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I have probably met cheaters. I don’t ask when I am playing at a club or party. Sometimes we barely speak.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I am not keen on people who cheat because it shows they are capable of deception towards the very person they are supposed to hold in highest regard.

Have I ever cheated? Yes when I was 19. I have grown up since then and was faithful throughout my marriage.

I don’t find it a turn on at all and I probably have unknowingly been a dirty secret but as soon as I know I end it. I really don’t want to be the cause of someone else’s pain.

As I prefer to find people I can meet regularly unless they are a couple I want them to be unattached because it’s hard enough to make time in busy lives for meets without any sneakiness.

In clubs though I have probably played with quite a few married “singles”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not keen on people who cheat because it shows they are capable of deception towards the very person they are supposed to hold in highest regard.

Have I ever cheated? Yes when I was 19. I have grown up since then and was faithful throughout my marriage.

I don’t find it a turn on at all and I probably have unknowingly been a dirty secret but as soon as I know I end it. I really don’t want to be the cause of someone else’s pain.

As I prefer to find people I can meet regularly unless they are a couple I want them to be unattached because it’s hard enough to make time in busy lives for meets without any sneakiness.

In clubs though I have probably played with quite a few married “singles”"

This is the so sad about these sites forums, same old same old judgement and sanctimony, people queing up to pass judgement on people who they know nothing about, their circumstances, situation, volient or abusive controlling relationships, loveless marriages maybe just staying in the situation for benefit of children. Maybe on the scene just to escape for a few hours from time to time. To judge people on a label and not who they are or know anything them, says more about judgers than the judged. Sorry just an opinion

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

No I'd not meet anyone attached unless their oh knew.

Having very recently been the dirty little secret this is very raw for me.

I'm disappointed I was so unimportant to the guy for him to lie to me.

Yes I messaged the other half because my conscience wouldn't let me settle.

If you are cheating that's your call but DONT drag other people in to your lies. Give them the respect to decide for themselves.

*gets off soapbox*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's true too. I take back my previous remark about 'despicable' and replace it with 'an act of desperation born of sadness that Im not personally proud of'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not keen on people who cheat because it shows they are capable of deception towards the very person they are supposed to hold in highest regard.

Have I ever cheated? Yes when I was 19. I have grown up since then and was faithful throughout my marriage.

I don’t find it a turn on at all and I probably have unknowingly been a dirty secret but as soon as I know I end it. I really don’t want to be the cause of someone else’s pain.

As I prefer to find people I can meet regularly unless they are a couple I want them to be unattached because it’s hard enough to make time in busy lives for meets without any sneakiness.

In clubs though I have probably played with quite a few married “singles”

One last thing everyone goes on a about lies, dishonesty, and deception - again mob judgement. People may not be open and honest about their situation, circumstance because they are embarrassed, ashamed, maybe just for a few hours they want to feel it doesn't exist.

You get the obvious, who do it just cos they think it will be easier to get laid. This is not all.

Remember guys maybe vulnerable and in difficult circumstances also and may be difficult to be open. Don't judge them by the actions of others.

It is down to the individual parties concerned what is acceptable and what is not, not for the rest of us.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I stand by my opinion though.

Dont drag other people into your lies, have some respect for others xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion

And it’s only an opinion, is that honesty is key, then everyone has a right to choose. If a man or woman is dishonest about their relationship status, it’s taking away the other persons right to choose...

Personally, I think “ staying for the kids” is fine, stay in an unhappy relationship, but don’t cheat.

I walked away from my marriage with a four month old baby. I then shared that baby fifty fifty with her daddy, and successfully still do so over five years later. It was incredibly hard in the beginning though and I literally had to start my life again. But I did it. Because I didn’t want to be in an unhappy marriage. I didn’t want to cheat if the opportunity presented itself.

Sadly I have bigger balls than many of the men I’ve met. I would love to find a man with integrity and heart.

Lioness seeks her Lion.

Oh and he has to be single !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stand by my opinion though.

Dont drag other people into your lies, have some respect for others xx"

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Cheating is despicable, those that do it don't possess a normal mind."

WOW......judgmental or what ?!!!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I don't mind. If they're in it for the sex, usually less clingy.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I can’t imagine the French having this debate, and certainly not on a libertine site.

While I get that victims of cheating are hurt and would therefore be anti, I’m staggered that it crops up so often as a forum thread.

We all know that in a perfect world we would marry and be happy ever after. Move on everyone.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Difference of opinion here

I don't judge. People (both men and women) resort to adultery for their own personal reasons. It's almost always more than just sex and I don't pass judgement. I've had some great sex with married men (and a few married women) and have no regrets (neither do they).

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By *riveroneMan
over a year ago

Hyde

Just guys???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally, an attached person will rarely be compatible with my needs so wouldn't work for me regardless of their circumstances

I'm lucky to have never been cheated on and, again personally, could never cheat just because of the lies involved but judge? Nope I won't judge ...

Though I have witnessed the repercussions of cheating, and they are never pretty nor good in any way

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By *arcolemMan
over a year ago

Killarney

I am a single guy and met a married woman recently. She only told me after a few meets and we stopped meeting after that.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

The morality always worries me after these types of threads come up. I dont profess to be perfect but I'd hate to be hurt by cheating or to be involved in the heartache of a person who's being cheated on.

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I was shattered by my partner cheating. It literally broke me and wrecked my confidence cause I kept wondering what's wrong with me that he went elsewhere. Result I'd I'm not prepared to ever be hurt like that again so will avoid a true relationship because my trust was crushed. I now realise theres nothing wrong with me, that hes the one with the problem....he 'didnt mean it to happen' which I get because its tough for you guys, you trip and boom.....fall into a vagina

What do I think?

Think it's just wrong to do it to another person. If you're not happy or dont get what you need from a partner then dont destroy them, just leave."

This, this and this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never cheat its not on my blood ibe been called not so pretty names over saying no because said no..

And yeah i have a partner and yeah we have a couples profile here and she have a single aswell but we both are aware and fine with it...

Trust and confidence is everthing...would never do nothing to breack that.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Would never cheat its not on my blood ibe been called not so pretty names over saying no because said no..

And yeah i have a partner and yeah we have a couples profile here and she have a single aswell but we both are aware and fine with it...

Trust and confidence is everthing...would never do nothing to breack that."

Wise words indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The morality always worries me after these types of threads come up. I dont profess to be perfect but I'd hate to be hurt by cheating or to be involved in the heartache of a person who's being cheated on.

Do not like these threads they are like pitchforks, noose, frankensteins monster. People taking moral high ground sanctimony and mob judgement on others that they know nothing about. People jumping on the bandwagon so earn browny points who are as morally ambiguous as the judged lol. As supposed adults and enlightened we should be a lot more tolerant even if we ourselves agree or disagree.

It is a fact of life everywhere, how many offices does it happen, become the gossip and a talking point, in the press, but does it get the condemnation it does here?

We do not know of the circumstances or the people involved. We are not their keepers or the morality police just leave it down to the people involved, they are adults and they will make the decisions for themselves, risks and consequences

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

My bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this post has been discussed ad nauseam but..

What do you guys think of meeting someone that is cheating/married?

Have you cheated yourself?

Is it something that turns you on?

Has anyone been a dirty little secret?"

He specifically asked what everyone thought of this.

And he’s received his answers.

You might not agree with my answer but it was delivered politely.

That’s what forums are about.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

It is a fact of life everywhere, how many offices does it happen, become the gossip and a talking point, in the press, but does it get the condemnation it does here?

And this was aimed at durtyav because???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a fact of life everywhere, how many offices does it happen, become the gossip and a talking point, in the press, but does it get the condemnation it does here?

And this was aimed at durtyav because???

It wasn't aimed at durtyav it was aimed at the whole post and the condemnation of a lot of the comments in the post. And the fact these threads keep cropping up and people still jump in with both judgemental feed. I sorry if she took it personally. I was actually agreeing with her first line.

"The morality always worries me after these types of threads come up." possibly for different reasons but not a personal attack on her!!

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By *nglander2000Man
over a year ago

NORTHAMPTON NEAR M1 JCN 15A

This is not a dating site - it is not a site to have 'relationships' - it's all about the sex and should be ' no strings'.

So the marital state is not really relevant in my view - peoples' circumstances determine their own behaviour so you're free to cheat or not and your reasons are known only to you - the rest of you should keep your opinions to yourself and not be so sanctimonious.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I am not sanctimonious nor have I condemned anyone.

Please reread my posts. Not a personal attack anywhere.

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By *nglander2000Man
over a year ago

NORTHAMPTON NEAR M1 JCN 15A

Mine was a general post Durtyrav - not directed at you - but perhaps a case of 'if the cap fits '???......

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

It is a fact of life everywhere, how many offices does it happen, become the gossip and a talking point, in the press, but does it get the condemnation it does here?

And this was aimed at durtyav because???

"The morality always worries me after these types of threads come up." possibly for different reasons but not a personal attack on her!!"

ok thanks

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

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"Mine was a general post Durtyrav - not directed at you - but perhaps a case of 'if the cap fits '???......"

No one says is it was. You hadn’t quoted her. So nothing to do with you.

The cap deffo does not fit

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

The morality always worries me after these types of threads

It is a fact of life everywhere, how many offices does it happen, become the gossip and a talking point, in the press, but does it get the condemnation it does here?

Exactly this why people find the need to be judge and jury on other people lives is beyond me. It happens all the time on threads like this. Not everything is black and white. I would have thought it's pretty simple if you don't want to meet attached people don't and if you do then do. And apart from that have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is not a dating site - it is not a site to have 'relationships' - it's all about the sex and should be ' no strings'.

It's a swinging site. Too many people think swinging is free prostitutes/ fucking around.

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over a year ago

"No I'd not meet anyone attached unless their oh knew.

Having very recently been the dirty little secret this is very raw for me.

I'm disappointed I was so unimportant to the guy for him to lie to me.

Yes I messaged the other half because my conscience wouldn't let me settle.

If you are cheating that's your call but DONT drag other people in to your lies. Give them the respect to decide for themselves.

*gets off soapbox*"

How did the other half react when you told them they were being cheated on?

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over a year ago

I was in a 2 year relationship my wife moved back from spain to uk but started the relationship after she had gone back ie 7 months on yes it was bad of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meant for her

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"No I'd not meet anyone attached unless their oh knew.

Having very recently been the dirty little secret this is very raw for me.

I'm disappointed I was so unimportant to the guy for him to lie to me.

Yes I messaged the other half because my conscience wouldn't let me settle.

If you are cheating that's your call but DONT drag other people in to your lies. Give them the respect to decide for themselves.

*gets off soapbox*

How did the other half react when you told them they were being cheated on?"

No contact.

I'll add I thought I was dating him too.. if I'd known I'd never have been with him. That's my point. That should be been my choice but it was kept from me aswell as her.

That's wrong xx

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over a year ago

"No I'd not meet anyone attached unless their oh knew.

Having very recently been the dirty little secret this is very raw for me.

I'm disappointed I was so unimportant to the guy for him to lie to me.

Yes I messaged the other half because my conscience wouldn't let me settle.

If you are cheating that's your call but DONT drag other people in to your lies. Give them the respect to decide for themselves.

*gets off soapbox*

How did the other half react when you told them they were being cheated on?

No contact.

I'll add I thought I was dating him too.. if I'd known I'd never have been with him. That's my point. That should be been my choice but it was kept from me aswell as her.

That's wrong xx"

That's really shit (of him). Be glad you found out.

If she didn't reply I'd assume it wasn't the first time he'd done it.

It's certainly not your fault. X

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"No I'd not meet anyone attached unless their oh knew.

Having very recently been the dirty little secret this is very raw for me.

I'm disappointed I was so unimportant to the guy for him to lie to me.

Yes I messaged the other half because my conscience wouldn't let me settle.

If you are cheating that's your call but DONT drag other people in to your lies. Give them the respect to decide for themselves.

*gets off soapbox*

How did the other half react when you told them they were being cheated on?

No contact.

I'll add I thought I was dating him too.. if I'd known I'd never have been with him. That's my point. That should be been my choice but it was kept from me aswell as her.

That's wrong xx

That's really shit (of him). Be glad you found out.

If she didn't reply I'd assume it wasn't the first time he'd done it.

It's certainly not your fault. X"

Thank you Mavis, I felt so so crappy about it xxx

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