FabSwingers.com forum: Angry... when it’s a no thank you.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people get so angry when you reply with a very polite, “No Thank you”,

My profile clearly states what I’m looking for and so when I say “thank you but not for me” or “very sweet, but no thanks, have fun”

They return with something nasty or get really shitty, are others experiencing the same thing ?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's fairly common on here. Just don't respond to anyone that doesn't interest you.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Yes, it's fairly common. Block and ignore.

Nobody likes rejection but some like to get nasty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people get so angry when you reply with a very polite, “No Thank you”,

My profile clearly states what I’m looking for and so when I say “thank you but not for me” or “very sweet, but no thanks, have fun”

They return with something nasty or get really shitty, are others experiencing the same thing ?

Normal - they throw out their dummy from the pram. They can't be bothered with reading a profile or even respecting a profile and when u say "Thanks but it's a no" the nasty msg's come flying.

Easy solution delete and no reply - Fab says u dont have to answer at all...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's fairly common on here. Just don't respond to anyone that doesn't interest you. "

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, it's fairly common. Block and ignore.

Nobody likes rejection but some like to get nasty xx"

I’m finding out it’s very true xx

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

To be honest if you're getting answers like that you dodged a bullet in not meeting them in the first place.

I mean we're not kids anymore,if you get turned down then you should just move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do people get so angry when you reply with a very polite, “No Thank you”,

My profile clearly states what I’m looking for and so when I say “thank you but not for me” or “very sweet, but no thanks, have fun”

They return with something nasty or get really shitty, are others experiencing the same thing ?

Normal - they throw out their dummy from the pram. They can't be bothered with reading a profile or even respecting a profile and when u say "Thanks but it's a no" the nasty msg's come flying.

Easy solution delete and no reply - Fab says u dont have to answer at all..."
I think you’re right there x

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I love rejection, I read profiles and sometimes message just to see if the persons polite lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people get so angry when you reply with a very polite, “No Thank you”,

My profile clearly states what I’m looking for and so when I say “thank you but not for me” or “very sweet, but no thanks, have fun”

They return with something nasty or get really shitty, are others experiencing the same thing ?

I've ignored and responded and I've had a guy harass nearly every day for over a week. Reported to admin today and blocked him too! It's really pathetic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very very common. It's why I pretty much always delete without replying. The entitlement is shocking. My favourite one is

Omg you're stunning. Wow. Amazing. Wanna play?

Fine, you're too fat anyway.

Never gets old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it quite comical now. Sometimes it's like taking their favourite toy away from them. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think the best reply we had after declining their offer was "Well the wife looks like a fat pig anyway" x

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

It happens more often than not, sad indictment of far too many on Fab. Simply block and move on. When these sad people find that they are blocked by so many people and all that is left to meet is people just like them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love rejection, I read profiles and sometimes message just to see if the persons polite lol"

I suppose strangeness makes the world go round

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very very common. It's why I pretty much always delete without replying. The entitlement is shocking. My favourite one is

Omg you're stunning. Wow. Amazing. Wanna play?

Fine, you're too fat anyway.

I hear you I get that one all the time too... lol

Never gets old

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It happens more often than not, sad indictment of far too many on Fab. Simply block and move on. When these sad people find that they are blocked by so many people and all that is left to meet is people just like them."

Love this reply x

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

I wish they'd say no thanks instead of utterly ignoring my message or reading it and doing nothing !. It's hard enough for a single guy without being left hanging. Then there's those who chat for months and suddenly stop or keep avoiding the subject of actually meeting grrrrr

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By *hongman1Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

Doesn’t bother me, I’d rather that than be deleted and ignored.

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"Why do people get so angry when you reply with a very polite, “No Thank you”,

My profile clearly states what I’m looking for and so when I say “thank you but not for me” or “very sweet, but no thanks, have fun”

They return with something nasty or get really shitty, are others experiencing the same thing ?

I have never been nasty on here and never will. If i get a "no thank you" i just reply back with a simple "no problem"

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"I wish they'd say no thanks instead of utterly ignoring my message or reading it and doing nothing !. It's hard enough for a single guy without being left hanging. Then there's those who chat for months and suddenly stop or keep avoiding the subject of actually meeting grrrrr"

If you read the OP this explains why so many ladies don't reply. Personally we dont reply if not interested, that sometimes gets abuse for just not replying. Some really pathetic people on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you read the OP this explains why so many ladies don't reply. Personally we dont reply if not interested, that sometimes gets abuse for just not replying. Some really pathetic people on here."

Exactly x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid nobody here owes you anything

if you can't take that on board you'll have a miserable time here

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

To be honest most thank me for actually replying ,as most dont even get that ..

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By *hongman1Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

If you read the OP this explains why so many ladies don't reply. Personally we dont reply if not interested, that sometimes gets abuse for just not replying. Some really pathetic people on here."

And unfortunately those some ruin it for the ones that aren’t

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

This is why I don't reply to 95% of my messages.

They may be the nicest man going, but then they could be a complete twunt. I have no way of knowing which,, although some profiles give a vibe & those get an instant block.

I used to send polite, thank you but no thanks replies

Some of the abuse I got back, was vile.

I'm pretty thick skinned, it takes a lot to shock or upset me, but when you get 50+ times a day, it wears you down.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

If you read the OP this explains why so many ladies don't reply. Personally we dont reply if not interested, that sometimes gets abuse for just not replying. Some really pathetic people on here.

And unfortunately those some ruin it for the ones that aren’t "

I actually agree. I know some say nobody else can ruin it for the genuine nice guys, but we would never meet single men off here, no matter how nice they appear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not getting a reply at all is not great as it leaves you hanging for a bit, but I came to understand that ladies (and couples) here get too many messages to deal with, so it is something you accept and move on. Good on you though for taking the time to send a short replies.

It is sad but remember these guys are the tiny minority, who have yet been unable to figure out this behaviour gets them .... nowhere! It's ok, they will eventually find themselves blocked by everyone in a 50 mile radius and give up

. Good luck

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Not getting a reply at all is not great as it leaves you hanging for a bit, but I came to understand that ladies (and couples) here get too many messages to deal with, so it is something you accept and move on. Good on you though for taking the time to send a short replies.

. Good luck"

Not necessarily the minority. It is on the increase. Unacceptable crappy behaviour, even just one abusive message, is out of order.

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By *hongman1Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

If you read the OP this explains why so many ladies don't reply. Personally we dont reply if not interested, that sometimes gets abuse for just not replying. Some really pathetic people on here.

And unfortunately those some ruin it for the ones that aren’t

I actually agree. I know some say nobody else can ruin it for the genuine nice guys, but we would never meet single men off here, no matter how nice they appear. "

Yeah, they are wrong lol I have actually had comments such as “you’re all the same” and “just like the others” which prove they ruin it for “us”!

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We get this a lot.

Majority always seem to get angry at me (Beast) and blame and insult me when Brat rejects them.

She'll reject them for whatever reason and the reply is often "ok bro.." and then some shitty comments about how insecure I am that I won't let her have sex with him.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Why do people get so angry when you reply with a very polite, “No Thank you”,

My profile clearly states what I’m looking for and so when I say “thank you but not for me” or “very sweet, but no thanks, have fun”

They return with something nasty or get really shitty, are others experiencing the same thing ?

Don't respond or if you like responding out of politeness(fair play to you) follow it with an immediate block

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Very very common. It's why I pretty much always delete without replying. The entitlement is shocking. My favourite one is

Omg you're stunning. Wow. Amazing. Wanna play?

Fine, you're too fat anyway "

Trust me, you really aren't.

And your boobs are magnificent

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"To be honest most thank me for actually replying ,as most dont even get that ..

I've done that, too - got a polite message, after they'd looked at my profile, saying "thank you but you're not for us."

Fair enough. I know I'm ayong to a niche market. I sent a quick "no worries, but thanks for replying" message back

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"To be honest most thank me for actually replying ,as most dont even get that ..

I've done that, too - got a polite message, after they'd looked at my profile, saying "thank you but you're not for us."

Fair enough. I know I'm ayong to a niche market. I sent a quick "no worries, but thanks for replying" message back"

*playing to a niche market*

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

If you read the OP this explains why so many ladies don't reply. Personally we dont reply if not interested, that sometimes gets abuse for just not replying. Some really pathetic people on here.

And unfortunately those some ruin it for the ones that aren’t

I actually agree. I know some say nobody else can ruin it for the genuine nice guys, but we would never meet single men off here, no matter how nice they appear.

Yeah, they are wrong lol I have actually had comments such as “you’re all the same” and “just like the others” which prove they ruin it for “us”! "

And it has got worse. When I joined as a single fem years ago I met a few lovely men off here. Relaxed, laid back, good conversationalists, respectable and understood the scene. The wankers have definitely spoilt it. Sure some decent men are out there but we are not going to meet them off here.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Why do people get so angry when you reply with a very polite, “No Thank you”,

My profile clearly states what I’m looking for and so when I say “thank you but not for me” or “very sweet, but no thanks, have fun”

They return with something nasty or get really shitty, are others experiencing the same thing ?

If you choose to reply, and the FaQs say you don't have to, block immediately after pressing send.

That'll stop the shite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s nice to get a reply saying no thank you .manners don’t cost anything plus it polite and the right thing to do .people that have a little baby tantrum becouse they were turned down need to grow up.we all have our personal preferences and if we don’t meet them then that’s just the way it is .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very often go from the sexiest woman on here to a fat whale in seconds....sad that they go to that level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get the tantrums from either people being rejected or people doing the rejection... amount of times I get abusive messages is just as frequent as I get no reply at all.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I find it’s the exception rather than the norm. Most don’t reply back after saying no. The ones who do just wish me well. Only once in a blue moon does someone get nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago I was on as part of a couple, and on the day we joined we received a message from a guy, I replied politely "Thanks for the message, but it's a no, but good luck with your search." he came back with "Put your Mrs on, I was chatting with her the other day and she agreed to a meet." even when I explained that this is our first day on the site he argued and said we had been here for ages, I even sent him a screenshot of our profile showing we had only just joined, and he still argued, he got very abusive and threatening.

Learnt then it is best to block and move on.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Report any abuse and block is the best option

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