FabSwingers.com forum: Couples/single ladies messaging guys?

By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

So, last post of the evening, again, for curiositys sake, do any of you lovely couples or ladies ever message guys first or do you like to wait to be contacted? Can't say I've ever recieved a message first, would love to be messaged first, but I get theres a huge selection on here, would love to know if any of you even have to be proactive with the amount of guys that are on here!

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Our best advice would be - you're a young and good looking guy. Go to a busy club night where there's a young crowd - eg Xtasia. You'll do alright

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If they're interested enough by your profile and pics they do OP - in fact there are a number of ladies who block single guys from messaging them and do their own searching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good things can happen when I'm proactive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would if you were closer

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

I kmow it sounds like I'm begging or asking for it on this, I'm not, I am genuinly just curious but I do appreciate any advice and stuff, with the amount of single guys that are on the forums that seen to be struggling got my mind going with all sorts of thoughts so figured I'd get into the forums!

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"We would if you were closer

Hey I dont mind travelling!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I sometimes message people after comments on the forum. Very rarely message someone because I have searched through profiles of local guys . Most gents I meet are at clubs. So much easier and quicker than by messaging.

Have you tried club's ? Plenty around the North West and Midlands.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"I sometimes message people after comments on the forum. Very rarely message someone because I have searched through profiles of local guys . Most gents I meet are at clubs. So much easier and quicker than by messaging.

Have you tried club's ? Plenty around the North West and Midlands. "

I havn't, most of the clubs that are local enough to justify me going too cost about £50 including memberships, and I can't lie, I am shit scared of going alone haha! I was close to going to quest a few times but I can be a tad bit shy in bar/clubs

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

We get lots of messages so rarely have chance to search. We have contacted and made the first move if someone catches our eye but tends to see who messages us

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've messaged men first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged men first"

Me too, often with great results

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By *inkyKittyWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I do. Every so often I go through the search to see who’s about and see if anyone is looking for the same thing as me

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"So, last post of the evening, again, for curiositys sake, do any of you lovely couples or ladies ever message guys first or do you like to wait to be contacted? Can't say I've ever recieved a message first, would love to be messaged first, but I get theres a huge selection on here, would love to know if any of you even have to be proactive with the amount of guys that are on here!"

Yep, I wink and message first.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

If you weren’t 100 miles away you would be on my to message list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been on here 8 months and had my first first contact from a couple last night and am only in contact with 2 single ladies who ive made contact with first with so far.

The couple apologised to me and said that if they dont reply right away its because they have an inbox full of hundreds of requests from single guys and that she (from the couple) wanted to pick someone out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a hunter outer.. I usually have men blocked. I wink a fair amount and message first. My winks are often ignored, lol.

Men’s shock at being messaged first cheers me up no end, even if it never goes anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a hunter outer.. I usually have men blocked. I wink a fair amount and message first. My winks are often ignored, lol.

Men’s shock at being messaged first cheers me up no end, even if it never goes anywhere."

Haha - shocked was an understatement and ive been grinning from ear to ear all day

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"I’m a hunter outer.. I usually have men blocked. I wink a fair amount and message first. My winks are often ignored, lol.

Men’s shock at being messaged first cheers me up no end, even if it never goes anywhere."

I can imagine it's quite a trest for the fellas! Lol

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"If you weren’t 100 miles away you would be on my to message list

Why thank you! Hey I don't mind travelling! Haha

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Well as a new guy I’d say since joining the forums on Monday I’ve had far more messages and engaging conversation with potential meets and some probably to far for either of us to consider a in the flesh meet but wouldn’t rule anything out, now before I found the forums or should I say before I could comment ( waiting the 7 days fab required ) I was actually giving up with the site. Just be yourself and you’ve received plenty of positive comments so I’m sure the messages will come, personally I wouldn’t want loads of pointless inboxes just ones that stand out and are of a similar mind set to you. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first meet came from a couple messaging me first. Ended up being a great night with great company. Others I have messaged, some we still chat and others decline. It's just the way it goes, same as if in clubs. It is easier in clubs as people at least know your genuine and and can chat face to face. It's always good as a single guy to get a message as they can be rare on here.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It does happen. When it does it’s lovely.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We message guys first if we like their profile and pics. We also wink.

Every time we do though they've been too lazy to read the profile before messaging.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Very interesting to see everyones comments on this! I honestly figured it may be an issue of so much choice that searching out for guys may be a waste but seems I thought wrong!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We never message anyone first.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"We never message anyone first."

Any perticular reason or just have enough choice?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"We never message anyone first.

Any perticular reason or just have enough choice?"

We prefer to meet people at a club.

It’s far less hassle.

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I do message first, usually about a status update, a new photo or if they've winked at me & I like their profile.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

I happily message first - I don't do searches, but if someone has caught my interest with forum posts and I've got a feel for their personality, and would like to find out more about them

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"We never message anyone first.

Any perticular reason or just have enough choice?

We prefer to meet people at a club.

It’s far less hassle."

That's fair enough, I think I'd end up going a bit shy in a club scenario if I was by myself

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"I happily message first - I don't do searches, but if someone has caught my interest with forum posts and I've got a feel for their personality, and would like to find out more about them"

I must say I am enjoying using the site much more now I started using forums, i enjoy seeing what people are thinking about and fhings like this post, where people can help me with things I get curious about!

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"I do message first, usually about a status update, a new photo or if they've winked at me & I like their profile.

So if you see something you like then you will take the lead on that?

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I do message first, usually about a status update, a new photo or if they've winked at me & I like their profile.

So if you see something you like then you will take the lead on that?"

Yes why not? I'm on here to meet & that'll only happen after an initial message.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"I do message first, usually about a status update, a new photo or if they've winked at me & I like their profile.

So if you see something you like then you will take the lead on that?

Yes why not? I'm on here to meet & that'll only happen after an initial message. "

I agree whole heartidly with that, but there are people that see it different, quite interesting to see how different people act differently on the site

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If someone catches my eye, with something they’ve said or an update, I will message first. Why wouldn’t we ?

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"If someone catches my eye, with something they’ve said or an update, I will message first. Why wouldn’t we ? "

I was just curious is all, with the amount of guys that seemingly struggle I just wondered whether there would be an abundance of choice for guys messaging or of people work differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message. The guys I meet repeatedly are all the ones that Ive messaged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone catches my eye, with something they’ve said or an update, I will message first. Why wouldn’t we ?

I was just curious is all, with the amount of guys that seemingly struggle I just wondered whether there would be an abundance of choice for guys messaging or of people work differently"

Personally, I don’t think there’s many high Quality guys that match for me. More men needed

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Ye I've often messaged guys first

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"We never message anyone first.

Any perticular reason or just have enough choice?

We prefer to meet people at a club.

It’s far less hassle.n

That's fair enough, I think I'd end up going a bit shy in a club scenario if I was by myself"

You should go and try it.

We always said it wasn’t for us until 3 years ago.

Tried it, loved it, now prefer it.

It’s not what you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged first but must admit not often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we have messaged first, if sapphire likes the look of a guys profile, I get my order's to message him and after I've gave him a grilling

she will message and arrange plus there's always some naughty flirting

It's all good fun really

So the answer is yes absolutely we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We message first most of the times .

Some people are hesitant or reluctant to make the first contact ,so we take the initiative after all Fab is to connect rather than just showing off your pics lol

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yep I do ... mainly single guys I contact first

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I have in the past but mainly forumites or to answer questions on statuses from the newsfeed.

I also only ever use ‘who’s near’ when in a new area. Never the search facility. Xx

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Just catchingnup with the posts, seems my original thought that the abundance of single guys would dictate that most people wouldn't have the time or effort to put into this is wrong! Nice to see though, I must admit I'm enjoying using the site a lot more in the forums, seems people are much more inclines to leave comments and chat about different things which is nice for someone like me who's fairly new to the scene!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, many times. More so on my single profile though.

Our couples profile we tend to just turn up ar clubs and see what happens rather than try to arrange anything.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"Yep, many times. More so on my single profile though.

Our couples profile we tend to just turn up ar clubs and see what happens rather than try to arrange anything.

Thats a bit different to what I've seen, do you find you get plenty of attention on your couples profile? Or do you get more attention on a single profile, as a single lady I'm sure you probably get plenty of messages on there as well but is it a case of you seek out people you want to meet or let them seek you out as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, many times. More so on my single profile though.

Our couples profile we tend to just turn up ar clubs and see what happens rather than try to arrange anything.

My single profile I had all the filters on, so if I didnt message first then I probably wouldn't have met half the people I did. Not surprisingly my single profile got far more attention than our couple one does.

We dont seek anyone out on our couples. People are free to send us messages on our couple account but we dont get that many and from memory I think theres only 2 messages that have ever led to a meet. Our preferred way of meeting people is just to turn up somewhere and see what happens as I find it really hard to gauge off pics if we will find them attractive (and them us)and personality and tone of conversation dont always translate well in an online conversation.

Much easier to meet someone in person and decide after a chat.

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

I've been winked and messaged on the rare occasion. Yes the odd friends invite too, ignored of course. I've had MUCH more success being the one to wink and message tho, too many guys on here..

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