FabSwingers.com forum: People looking for single guys

By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

So i'm curious, seems thr forums are full of single guys, i have also done this, moaning about not getting anywhere, now the thing in curious about is this, either couples or single girls, what makes you respond to guys? Is there something specific you look for or is it more what you see?

Literally just doing this as a bit of fun and to scratch my curiosity!

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over a year ago

I don’t have a type. I look for a decent coherent message and evidence our profile has been read. If this is the case I will reply even if it’s a no thanks. Obviously to take it forward to a meet there has to be mutual physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i'm curious, seems thr forums are full of single guys, i have also done this, moaning about not getting anywhere, now the thing in curious about is this, either couples or single girls, what makes you respond to guys? Is there something specific you look for or is it more what you see?

Literally just doing this as a bit of fun and to scratch my curiosity!"

Literally read profiles. That’s the very best thing to do

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"I don’t have a type. I look for a decent coherent message and evidence our profile has been read. If this is the case I will reply even if it’s a no thanks. Obviously to take it forward to a meet there has to be mutual physical attraction. "

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Literally just doing this as a bit of fun and to scratch my curiosity!

Literally read profiles. That’s the very best thing to do "

I di, quite a lot, I can imagine its a minefield for women and couples on here getting bombarded with messages from people that dont though!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha"

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons. "

Well yeah fair enough! I do think it gets to a point as a single guy though where even a no thank you message is eniugh to make you keep using this site, it can get very demoralising after a while just being point blank ignored

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons.

Sure. But trying to be polite and getting abused and pestered back, ditto.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My criteria are read my profile, engage with my profile (not just quote random words), be polite not creepy, and interest me.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons.

Sure. But trying to be polite and getting abused and pestered back, ditto. "

Yeah I can see that from some people on here, I've always wondered what makes people.respond and what interests people, I think it's fasanating trying to work out who wants what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons.

Sure. But trying to be polite and getting abused and pestered back, ditto.

Yeah I can see that from some people on here, I've always wondered what makes people.respond and what interests people, I think it's fasanating trying to work out who wants what"

They’ve gotta be K’s type. It’s not personal, just preference. But not reading is a massive no even if it’s the perfect man.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons.

Sure. But trying to be polite and getting abused and pestered back, ditto.

Yeah I can see that from some people on here, I've always wondered what makes people.respond and what interests people, I think it's fasanating trying to work out who wants what

They’ve gotta be K’s type. It’s not personal, just preference. But not reading is a massive no even if it’s the perfect man. "

Thats understandable from a couples prospective, especially when your looking for something specific! Just wanted to say, K looks epic though!

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By *ootleCouple
over a year ago

Romford, Essex

Sadly, although we like to play with single guys we have had to turn our settings to block them.

The messages were often offensive rude and crude, and it just isn't worth the hassle.

The majority of the nice guys on here suffer because there is a minority that just don't know how to message with any degree of intelligence or respect.

I know this doesn't really answer your question, but it is just one of the reasons the good single guys on here find it difficult in getting meets - but good luck

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm shallow as fuck so they need to be hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons.

Sure. But trying to be polite and getting abused and pestered back, ditto.

Yeah I can see that from some people on here, I've always wondered what makes people.respond and what interests people, I think it's fasanating trying to work out who wants what

They’ve gotta be K’s type. It’s not personal, just preference. But not reading is a massive no even if it’s the perfect man.

Thats understandable from a couples prospective, especially when your looking for something specific! Just wanted to say, K looks epic though!"

Thank you! She is phenomenal and I’m a lucky fucker

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"Sadly, although we like to play with single guys we have had to turn our settings to block them.

The messages were often offensive rude and crude, and it just isn't worth the hassle.

The majority of the nice guys on here suffer because there is a minority that just don't know how to message with any degree of intelligence or respect.

I know this doesn't really answer your question, but it is just one of the reasons the good single guys on here find it difficult in getting meets - but good luck

That is a shame, I have often thought that the majority can ruin it for the minority!

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"I'm shallow as fuck so they need to be hot."

Ateast your honest!

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Thats fair enough, I find a lot of people dont reply even with a no thanks, which I kmow is a bit of a pain to do, easier to delete but I think there'd be a lot less guys moaning haha

I seriously doubt that. They'd moan for other reasons.

Sure. But trying to be polite and getting abused and pestered back, ditto.

Yeah I can see that from some people on here, I've always wondered what makes people.respond and what interests people, I think it's fasanating trying to work out who wants what

They’ve gotta be K’s type. It’s not personal, just preference. But not reading is a massive no even if it’s the perfect man.

Thats understandable from a couples prospective, especially when your looking for something specific! Just wanted to say, K looks epic though!

Thank you! She is phenomenal and I’m a lucky fucker"

I dont know about lucky, the good ones take time and effort, you've clearly done something right!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I'm shallow as fuck so they need to be hot.

Ateast your honest! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This hit the nail on the head just be patient and and chat normally not straight away sex and couples / ladies normally can tell if you are genuine or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First positive thing to do is read and actually really read the persons profile you’re are messaging! Most say they’ve read but either they haven’t or they have just completely ignored the content.....

Secondly don’t bother with cock pics or I love eating pussy in first few messages, don’t send anything like that until you’ve got an idea that the person wants to see your dick or talk about sexual interests.......

Thirdly make sure your profile is half decent so that they’ve got something worth looking at when they go to view your profile after you’ve made contact with them........

Good luck x

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"First positive thing to do is read and actually really read the persons profile you’re are messaging! Most say they’ve read but either they haven’t or they have just completely ignored the content.....

Thirdly make sure your profile is half decent so that they’ve got something worth looking at when they go to view your profile after you’ve made contact with them........

Good luck x "

I cant say anything about the 3rd one as I think my profile is good but cant say for defo! But the rest I genuinly do, always send a face picture just to make sure and always polite when messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thirdly make sure your profile is half decent so that they’ve got something worth looking at when they go to view your profile after you’ve made contact with them........

Good luck x

I cant say anything about the 3rd one as I think my profile is good but cant say for defo! But the rest I genuinly do, always send a face picture just to make sure and always polite when messaging"

I think your profile is fine, you’ve only been here 4 months and your verified which always helps. The only thing that may put some people off is your age, unfortunately nothing you can do about that x

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By *piritualSFCMan
over a year ago

london

Tou just have to persevere... can get quite tough which is why to flirt with this app. Some nice people on here.. but getting the convo can be hard going. Sometimes easier to just attend events.

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Thirdly make sure your profile is half decent so that they’ve got something worth looking at when they go to view your profile after you’ve made contact with them........

Good luck x

I cant say anything about the 3rd one as I think my profile is good but cant say for defo! But the rest I genuinly do, always send a face picture just to make sure and always polite when messaging

Yeah it does seem there's few people my age, but ah well! Like you say can't help that, just keep on going, im having a lot of fun in the forums if im honest!

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By *entleRMan
over a year ago

Telford

Now a Single but used to be part of a couple I was stunned by most of the messages we got either by a mail or in the chat rooms.

We loved meeting a single guy, but guys needed to understand I was going my most treasured possession with them and to do that tou had to take the time to understand what we wanted too, not just through the door empty your balls and go and even that works for some couples but showing some real interest is important to be able to relax and enjoy.

Now as a single I can understand the guys on here frustrations, but some of the rude and Insulting comments you see even in forum posts beggar belief.

Anyway that said, good luck boys and girls and enjoy ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thirdly make sure your profile is half decent so that they’ve got something worth looking at when they go to view your profile after you’ve made contact with them........

Good luck x

I cant say anything about the 3rd one as I think my profile is good but cant say for defo! But the rest I genuinly do, always send a face picture just to make sure and always polite when messaging

Yeah it does seem there's few people my age, but ah well! Like you say can't help that, just keep on going, im having a lot of fun in the forums if im honest!"

Group socials are a good way to get to know people on the scene without the pressures and all ages go to them x

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

Thirdly make sure your profile is half decent so that they’ve got something worth looking at when they go to view your profile after you’ve made contact with them........

Good luck x

I cant say anything about the 3rd one as I think my profile is good but cant say for defo! But the rest I genuinly do, always send a face picture just to make sure and always polite when messaging

Yeah it does seem there's few people my age, but ah well! Like you say can't help that, just keep on going, im having a lot of fun in the forums if im honest!

Group socials are a good way to get to know people on the scene without the pressures and all ages go to them x "

And how would one go about finding these group socials? Can't say I've come accross them

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Go to a social to meet people, easy to talk to people and hopefully find who you click with. Looking good, good chat and charm are the name of the game.

Look on the forums ..most are free, be prepared to travel, get on the guest list, book ahead.

Save years of messaging on here ...

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Thirdly make sure your profile is half decent so that they’ve got something worth looking at when they go to view your profile after you’ve made contact with them........

Good luck x

I cant say anything about the 3rd one as I think my profile is good but cant say for defo! But the rest I genuinly do, always send a face picture just to make sure and always polite when messaging

Yeah it does seem there's few people my age, but ah well! Like you say can't help that, just keep on going, im having a lot of fun in the forums if im honest!

Group socials are a good way to get to know people on the scene without the pressures and all ages go to them x

And how would one go about finding these group socials? Can't say I've come accross them"

Search social on the forum...there is one near Heathrow in january for example ..

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

I'll take a look, thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x "

So I just had a look and there is one close enough, I do find I can be shy in big groups though, i know putting barriers up already! How are the socials for people chatting etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respond to those that don't view fab as the be all and end all. I respond if the guy fits what I'm looking for ie if he's the type I'd want to fuck. I respond if he doesn't sound like a dick. I'm more likely to respond if I haven't seen them on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x

So I just had a look and there is one close enough, I do find I can be shy in big groups though, i know putting barriers up already! How are the socials for people chatting etc?"

My first social was from a site similar to this and there was about 15-20 people, I had a glass of wine and just went with the flow! Everyone was really friendly and I just mingled and it was all very relaxed.

I doubt you’ll be the only newbie x

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x

So I just had a look and there is one close enough, I do find I can be shy in big groups though, i know putting barriers up already! How are the socials for people chatting etc?

I doubt you’ll be the only newbie x "

Sounds good, i'm going to get myself down on the guest list I think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x

So I just had a look and there is one close enough, I do find I can be shy in big groups though, i know putting barriers up already! How are the socials for people chatting etc?

I doubt you’ll be the only newbie x

Sounds good, i'm going to get myself down on the guest list I think x"

Have fun

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x

So I just had a look and there is one close enough, I do find I can be shy in big groups though, i know putting barriers up already! How are the socials for people chatting etc?

I doubt you’ll be the only newbie x

Sounds good, i'm going to get myself down on the guest list I think x

Have fun

I would but just seen single guys are on a waiting list now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x

So I just had a look and there is one close enough, I do find I can be shy in big groups though, i know putting barriers up already! How are the socials for people chatting etc?

I doubt you’ll be the only newbie x

Sounds good, i'm going to get myself down on the guest list I think x

Have fun

I would but just seen single guys are on a waiting list now "

For a social?!

Put yourself on the waiting list is my only suggestion xx

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

"Sorry, was in shower! Yeah usually they’re on social forum, it means doing a bit of leg work but worth it x

So I just had a look and there is one close enough, I do find I can be shy in big groups though, i know putting barriers up already! How are the socials for people chatting etc?

I doubt you’ll be the only newbie x

Sounds good, i'm going to get myself down on the guest list I think x

Have fun

I would but just seen single guys are on a waiting list now

For a social?!

Put yourself on the waiting list is my only suggestion xx "

Yeah, same with one in leeds! Im on the reserve list now cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally just doing this as a bit of fun and to scratch my curiosity!"

If I could answer that I'd be a millionaire. I meet men I'm attracted to and attraction is undefineable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes me respond to guys? Them being there in person, in front of me, at the party or in the club. Any arbitrary criteria I have on Fab go out of the window when faced with someone sociable, interesting, positive, reasonably good looking and with a twinkle. And we’ve saved weeks of messaging and comparing diaries.

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