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"Belive us, it's just as hard for " hardened" swingers to get meets and veris. Your problem is, a single msn in a sea of others. Just keep plodding away, and clubs may be your best bet. " This. Go to a club. You're not likely to get someone to go with you, go on your own. Behave well and ask the staff to verify you, they're usually happy to do so. Some of the other guests might too. | |||
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"There is a social in Leeds on 16 November organised by Enchant. Why not go to that?" Good idea. These socials should get you a few verifications, but more importantly the chance to meet like minded people. You never know, you could hit it off with a few. Be quick though as places fill up. | |||
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"If going to a club is too daunting on your own, then try to find a club buddy, lots of guys are in the same boat. Also, from experience, the amount of single ladies who go to clubs and would like a genuine and reliable guy to go with them is staggering. Effort equals reward " A club buddy might help, but if you take that route I would suggest that at some point you will need to fly solo in the club as it could be off putting for some potential partners if you are with someone all night as they may not want you both to assume it is a 2 4 1 deal. Also they may assume you are there to meet the same sex. I know the wife has liked the look of certain guys but has been hesitant to break up a group of guys to peel on off. | |||
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"@_uckandbunny - yes, I hear what you’re saying and don’t think I’m after a permanent chaperone, merely somebody to go along with for the first time and better understand the process and dynamics. Probably sounds a bit ridiculous and a case of over thinking it to those that go regularly, but I guess we all have to start somewhere." Clubs usually give guided tours and ideas of etiquette in person and on their website, to be fair. | |||
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"@_uckandbunny - yes, I hear what you’re saying and don’t think I’m after a permanent chaperone, merely somebody to go along with for the first time and better understand the process and dynamics. Probably sounds a bit ridiculous and a case of over thinking it to those that go regularly, but I guess we all have to start somewhere. Clubs usually give guided tours and ideas of etiquette in person and on their website, to be fair. " Yep quest are amazing at this | |||
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"@_naswingdress - yes, appreciate tours are given, but again I think it’s just nice to have a bit of moral support by somebody you might have met a few times previously. I guess we’re all different." Sure. But if the original problem is not being verified, and clubs are a solution, but you need someone with you... Then clubs are no longer a solution. I'm sympathetic, truly I am, but if you want to use a club for verification purposes, you'll need to go on your own. (from the one time I've been I think Quest would be good for this. Club SX in Blackpool are brilliant and very inclusive) | |||
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"I think it feels like a clique it really isn't. Not everybody knows each other on here, people might have groups of friends but they don't all know each other, in my opinion. Just go along to a social or a club and very quickly if you have the right attitude you will have increased your circle of Friends and be multiple verified" Defo sounds like the way forward mate | |||
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"Yeah, perhaps clique is the wrong word, it just feels like that as a beginner. Keep seeing the social suggestion popping up, so must surely be the answer!" In my opinion it is the answer. I'm a very proud part of the Swinging community, it's a lifestyle choice for me and I really enjoy the liberation and and amazing new people that I get to chat to occasionally. | |||
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"If going to a club is too daunting on your own, then try to find a club buddy, lots of guys are in the same boat. Also, from experience, the amount of single ladies who go to clubs and would like a genuine and reliable guy to go with them is staggering. Effort equals reward " I'm happy to go to clubs on my own when I get the time but a club buddy sounds like a good idea. | |||
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"On nights where I happen to be in a club, I'll verify anyone who asks (as long as they behave themselves) and be friendly to everyone (ditto). " Me too | |||
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"@_uckandbunny - yes, I hear what you’re saying and don’t think I’m after a permanent chaperone, merely somebody to go along with for the first time and better understand the process and dynamics. Probably sounds a bit ridiculous and a case of over thinking it to those that go regularly, but I guess we all have to start somewhere. Clubs usually give guided tours and ideas of etiquette in person and on their website, to be fair. " Don’t forget whatever happens you’re likely to really enjoy it, if it feels naughty it is | |||
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"You have always got the option to join the chat rooms and chat to people whilst on cam then problem solved. " Hey, not a bad idea! | |||
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"I’m actually thinking of flying over to The UK to spend a night or a day trip and visit a club just to get verified. " Wow, now that’s dedication! | |||
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"Yes, that's all very true, Duck - I guess there are always going to be a few others in the same boat on any given night. I shall keep searching for my illusive club partner and go along and mingle. That or build up enough courage to go by myself - I'm sure others there will support me." Use the reply and quote! P.s it’s a shame you’re so far away. I would of loved to have given you.......your first verification, of course Scarlett. | |||
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"Use the reply and quote! P.s it’s a shame you’re so far away. I would of loved to have given you.......your first verification, of course Scarlett. " Thanks Scarlett (and now using quotes!) - see, why is there seemingly nobody like you in my immediate vicinity! | |||
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"Use the reply and quote! P.s it’s a shame you’re so far away. I would of loved to have given you.......your first verification, of course Scarlett. Thanks Scarlett (and now using quotes!) - see, why is there seemingly nobody like you in my immediate vicinity!" Perhaps you should do a tour of the south coast. There seems to be a few of us southern ladies who’d be more than happy to help you on your merry way | |||
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"Perhaps you should do a tour of the south coast. There seems to be a few of us southern ladies who’d be more than happy to help you on your merry way " Yes, there does seem to be something in the waters of the South Coast, doesn't there! May have to take you up on that offer, though. If I wasn't a blocked from doing so I'd add you as a friend! | |||
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"Perhaps you should do a tour of the south coast. There seems to be a few of us southern ladies who’d be more than happy to help you on your merry way Yes, there does seem to be something in the waters of the South Coast, doesn't there! May have to take you up on that offer, though. If I wasn't a blocked from doing so I'd add you as a friend! " Sorted | |||
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"Sorted " Thanks - added! Thanks Mr Nice - do you do the Yorkshire clubs as well as the NW ones? | |||
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"Sorted Thanks - added! Thanks Mr Nice - do you do the Yorkshire clubs as well as the NW ones?" Yes we do | |||
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"Yes we do " Nice! Shout when you're next heading somewhere. | |||
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"Not read the whole thread, but why do you want want in on 'The Clique'? Only clique I've heard of is the forum clique. Which I've been accused of being in, but I don't think exists. Yes you see the same faces getting along with one another, doesn't make it a clique though. Just separate groups of friends who've taken the time and paid the attention to get to know one another, over many years in some cases. Walk your own path.. maybe some of the clique will come to you.. if they exist? I'd try a group social before a club. If you fail at this hurdle multiple times, it may save you lots of cash, just a suggestion. " That's fair enough mate - I'm using clique as a pretty broad term. | |||
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"Not read the whole thread, but why do you want want in on 'The Clique'? Only clique I've heard of is the forum clique. Which I've been accused of being in, but I don't think exists. Yes you see the same faces getting along with one another, doesn't make it a clique though. Just separate groups of friends who've taken the time and paid the attention to get to know one another, over many years in some cases. Walk your own path.. maybe some of the clique will come to you.. if they exist? I'd try a group social before a club. If you fail at this hurdle multiple times, it may save you lots of cash, just a suggestion. That's fair enough mate - I'm using clique as a pretty broad term." | |||
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"Yes we do Nice! Shout when you're next heading somewhere." Drop me a message matey and keep an eye out on my meets | |||
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"Socials are a great place to meet folk in this lifestyle, its the route we took when we first got into this. OP your profile and pictures are really good, a refreshing change from a dozen certain pics taken from different angles. I know we don't arrange to meet single guys but if you messaged us if we happened to be going to same club we'd spend some time chatting to you. Your posts on this thread make you look very respectful which we can see from that you are. So all in all we'd say you are approaching this in all the right ways. Won't be long till you get that veri and are having fun " Very kind, F&B - yes, don't understand some profiles out there. Guys are very visual creatures so will definitely respond well to lots of naked pictures of women, but I don't think it's always the same the other way around! | |||
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