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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control" Isnt being sub about having less control ? | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ?" No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ? No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. " I have never looked at it like that before but it is so true! | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ? No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. " Being a sub is empowering, for me as a Dom, warning the trust with a sub is the greatest reward. Knowing they place their mind and body in my hands, then you can explore boundaries and limits together . | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ? No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. " I would like to politely disagree. The assumption is that subs have ultimate power because they are always a gatekeeper. In my experience this is not the position with most subs. In my experience most subs wish to express their submission and unless another sub tops for them, then without a Dom a submissive cannot express their submission. In modern bdsm doms and subs have a symbiotic balanced relationship. In a marriage (using non pc language to make a point) does the wife have ultimate power because she can refuse her husband access to her body? The answer is clearly no. What if she wants sex with her husband, does he have to perform because she wants sex, clearly not. Take it one step further, how many women have arrived on the kink scene because they wanted their partner to dominate them but he did not want or could not do so. Additionally as a Dom, if my sub wants more sensation and I think she is not capable I can refuse to continue the scene. Similarly if the sub suddenly wanted needle play and it is not the dom's thing the dom can say no. What I am.suggesting is that the sub has the right that every person in a civilised society has, whether sub, dom or vanilla, and that is the right to determine what happens with their body. There is an old joke that sums up the balance of power for me, it is where the masochist says to the sadist 'beat me, beat me and the sadist says 'No!' Clearly this is merely my view and everyone is entitled to their own. | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ? No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. I would like to politely disagree. The assumption is that subs have ultimate power because they are always a gatekeeper. In my experience this is not the position with most subs. In my experience most subs wish to express their submission and unless another sub tops for them, then without a Dom a submissive cannot express their submission. In modern bdsm doms and subs have a symbiotic balanced relationship. In a marriage (using non pc language to make a point) does the wife have ultimate power because she can refuse her husband access to her body? The answer is clearly no. What if she wants sex with her husband, does he have to perform because she wants sex, clearly not. Take it one step further, how many women have arrived on the kink scene because they wanted their partner to dominate them but he did not want or could not do so. Additionally as a Dom, if my sub wants more sensation and I think she is not capable I can refuse to continue the scene. Similarly if the sub suddenly wanted needle play and it is not the dom's thing the dom can say no. What I am.suggesting is that the sub has the right that every person in a civilised society has, whether sub, dom or vanilla, and that is the right to determine what happens with their body. There is an old joke that sums up the balance of power for me, it is where the masochist says to the sadist 'beat me, beat me and the sadist says 'No!' Clearly this is merely my view and everyone is entitled to their own." Eloquently written and absolutely spot on. | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ? No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. I would like to politely disagree. The assumption is that subs have ultimate power because they are always a gatekeeper. In my experience this is not the position with most subs. In my experience most subs wish to express their submission and unless another sub tops for them, then without a Dom a submissive cannot express their submission. In modern bdsm doms and subs have a symbiotic balanced relationship. In a marriage (using non pc language to make a point) does the wife have ultimate power because she can refuse her husband access to her body? The answer is clearly no. What if she wants sex with her husband, does he have to perform because she wants sex, clearly not. Take it one step further, how many women have arrived on the kink scene because they wanted their partner to dominate them but he did not want or could not do so. Additionally as a Dom, if my sub wants more sensation and I think she is not capable I can refuse to continue the scene. Similarly if the sub suddenly wanted needle play and it is not the dom's thing the dom can say no. What I am.suggesting is that the sub has the right that every person in a civilised society has, whether sub, dom or vanilla, and that is the right to determine what happens with their body. There is an old joke that sums up the balance of power for me, it is where the masochist says to the sadist 'beat me, beat me and the sadist says 'No!' Clearly this is merely my view and everyone is entitled to their own. Eloquently written and absolutely spot on. " Interesting perspective. I believe there’s mutual interdependency, a sub cannot be a real sub without a Dom willing to play; a Dom cannot be a real Dom without a sub willing to play | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ?" 50shades has a lot to answer for.... | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ? No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. " Dominants can only dominant because a submissive gives their submission. Submissive’s can only submissive because a Dominant accepts there submission. You cannot have one without the other. It is a power exchange and both parties have the ability to safe word and stop everything. It us a beautifully equal relationship. | |||
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"Sub woman. 100percent..we have more control Isnt being sub about having less control ? No.. We only allow what we want.. When we say no its no.. As sub we are subservient to the dom. But the dom will only go so far without upsetting the sub.. The sub will only allow submissiveness when dom pleases them. Yes 2 way. But sub has the ultimate power. Doms are useless with the sub.. " Depends what type of sub and D/s you have. I'm a bratty sub, so am not totally subserviant. We sometimes have a "power battle" pushing my Dom to "Dom" on me. So I don't sub to please him. I can never out brat him. He knows exactly how to handle me. The sub has given the power exchange to the Dom / Domme, but they don't have the unltimate power. A Dom / Domme can stop a sceane/ play, wherever they feel nessicasry too. Even if a sub is screaming to carry on. It's dangerous to think that a sub has all the power. It's power exchange and understanding it from each side, thats how a D/S relationship works. | |||
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