FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys at swingers clubs

By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

So I'm looking into club scene, quest specifically, is it something people would recommend? As I know I could get quite nervous if I was to go alone, but are the people welcoming? I've only heard good things but you never know! And if there are any single guys that go and can give me an insight into there experiences, it would be greatly appreciatted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you need to start 3 threads about the same subject?

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By *rad_ell12 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

A bit new too the forums pages, didnt realise I did this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New to forums? You posted first time 12 weeks ago..

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

As a couple we like to go to clubs. To meet other couples and singke guys. Everyone is always friendly and helpful. Nothing to be nervous of. Some days quieter than others

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"New to forums? You posted first time 12 weeks ago..

Busted !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quest is like a health club lounge bar but with people doing stuff in rooms off. Go along to check it out, don’t feel that you have to fuck to make it a successful night, chat to as many people as possible, men, women and couples, and choose your night carefully.

Might be worth phoning them for a chat beforehand and to check that they are accepting single men. Don’t forget your ID and bring any alcohol you are drinking. I hope this time you make it there OP!

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter

We personally think that single men are more then welcome at clubs. That is what we are looking for. And there is no need to be nervous in the slightest. In the club we go to everyone in there is very welcoming. But that is just speaking from us. Not sure if every club is the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We personally think that single men are more then welcome at clubs. That is what we are looking for. And there is no need to be nervous in the slightest. In the club we go to everyone in there is very welcoming. But that is just speaking from us. Not sure if every club is the same "

Is it local to you ?

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter

Yeah it’s called steamers quay in Torquay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah it’s called steamers quay in Torquay "

I’m in Leeds bit far but a club is on my list

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter

"Yeah it’s called steamers quay in Torquay

I’m in Leeds bit far but a club is on my list

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do you do many clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quest is good I go as a coupleand on my own and I've never had a problem. The hot tub is a good place to get more conversations going usually. Mr

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

I've been a couple of times to Chams as a single guy.

Be friendly and respectful and you'll have a great time

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By *indMasterUKMan
over a year ago

All over England

All the clubs welcome single guys (so long as you dont turn up to a couples only event)! Make sure you do your research as some clubs have specfic themed nights - bi, naked, greedy girls, etc.

The staff are typically chatty, and so are the other single guys.

There is always a good social scene at most clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys are great, but some single guys are a pest. By all means be a great one not a pest. Swinging clubs are great with them.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) went to clubs a few times before I met Hannah. I went out of my way to be friendly, chatty, respectful, non-pushy etc. and never had a problem.

The reception to me varied from indifference to very happy to chat. I certainly experienced no hostility. With my approach, I was not looking for sex and had no expectations, and I got lucky every time.

There were single men who just lurked and didn't say anything to anybody, or were just plain creepy. That's what you don't want to be like. They didn't get anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Luke) went to clubs a few times before I met Hannah. I went out of my way to be friendly, chatty, respectful, non-pushy etc. and never had a problem.

There were single men who just lurked and didn't say anything to anybody, or were just plain creepy. That's what you don't want to be like. They didn't get anywhere. "

Listen to this guy, be like him!

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I (Luke) went to clubs a few times before I met Hannah. I went out of my way to be friendly, chatty, respectful, non-pushy etc. and never had a problem.

There were single men who just lurked and didn't say anything to anybody, or were just plain creepy. That's what you don't want to be like. They didn't get anywhere.

Listen to this guy, be like him!"

Seconded!

we don’t play with single guys, but will happily chat, and understand that it’s no fun being at a party alone and not knowing anybody. While we’re always clear not to lead anybody on, just make sure that you don’t misinterpret friendliness for we want to have sex.

We would much prefer a conversation and a drink with somebody that’s open, friendly and with no expectations, than some corner lurker that creeps behind us into a playroom and then hides in the shadows wanking like nosferatu

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Yeah it’s called steamers quay in Torquay "

That's a nice chilled out club, been there myself a few times. Enjoy.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

If i was a single guy i probably wouldn't go to clubs. Looking at the guys we play with when we go they have one thing in common. In some way they are extra ordinary! Either, amazingly tall, or well built, or hung, or fit. There's no time for Mr average. If i was single I might possibly arrange to meet someone at a club, but would i go on the off chance? Nope. Save your money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love meeting single guys in clubs. We’re not looking for Mr fantastic....just a normal guy who can hold a conversation and has a cheeky glint in his eye. Just a shame the numbers of single guys in clubs seems to be on the decline

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Looking at the guys we play with when we go they have one thing in common. In some way they are extra ordinary! Either, amazingly tall, or well built, or hung, or fit. There's no time for Mr average."

That's more about your preferences than the experience a non-'extraordinary' single man might have. Not everyone will be wanting the same things as you.

I'm tallish but not notably so, not remotely well built or 'hung', and not at all 'fit'. And sure enough, some people have no time for me. But others do.

If I can have a good time at a club, then surely anyone who is friendly, not pushy, and capable of conversation can too.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"New to forums? You posted first time 12 weeks ago..

Why have a snap at him if you are not going to answer his question! No need to be pedantic with someone asking a question.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"So I'm looking into club scene, quest specifically, is it something people would recommend? As I know I could get quite nervous if I was to go alone, but are the people welcoming? I've only heard good things but you never know! And if there are any single guys that go and can give me an insight into there experiences, it would be greatly appreciatted!"

Ok most people are welcoming as long as you give respect and have manners.

Secondly you need to pick which club you want to go to and see when they allow single males.

Thirdly a lot of single guys go so its not a forgone certainty you will get lucky so treat it as a social outing with potential possibilities. #

Finally its ok to be nervous lots are it may be a good idea to contact your choice of club first and they may offer you a tour when you arrive and you may find a regular sees fit to chat with you.

Good luck hope it works out ok.

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