FabSwingers.com forum: Is Swinging the last taboo ?

By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

In the modern world I think it’s really strange that a couple in an established relationship especially if married ( not FBs , FWBs or singles) who choose to have exciting sex with similar other couples would be considered to be at the very least ‘a bit odd’ or more likely ‘perverted’ by the General Public . Try casually mentioning around the family dinner table or in the workplace that you are swingers and see what reaction you get !

In these days when Homosexuality Transgender ,Naturism etc has gladly generally overcome these prejudices us swingers are the last ones in the closet hiding our dirty little secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're in a very loving and serious relationship, but we're both bi and are swingers. We don't "broadcast" it but we don't hide it either. We're very proud of who we are

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

No, hairy armpits are the last taboo...

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By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We're in a very loving and serious relationship, but we're both bi and are swingers. We don't "broadcast" it but we don't hide it either. We're very proud of who we are

Well you face is hidden so you are hiding your identity which perhaps supports my suggestion .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have a point, op. The general public (and the press) is a long, long way from being relaxed and accepting of swinging. Can't see it changing any time soon.

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By *aughty50sCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire - but we travel a lot

"I think you have a point, op. The general public (and the press) is a long, long way from being relaxed and accepting of swinging. Can't see it changing any time soon."

Seconded. Maybe we should just celebrate that we have taken our relationships to a new, higher, uninhibited level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you have a point, op. The general public (and the press) is a long, long way from being relaxed and accepting of swinging. Can't see it changing any time soon.

Seconded. Maybe we should just celebrate that we have taken our relationships to a new, higher, uninhibited level

Absolutely, and anyway it's kinda nice being part of the underground movement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the modern world I think it’s really strange that a couple in an established relationship especially if married ( not FBs , FWBs or singles) who choose to have exciting sex with similar other couples would be considered to be at the very least ‘a bit odd’ or more likely ‘perverted’ by the General Public . Try casually mentioning around the family dinner table or in the workplace that you are swingers and see what reaction you get !

In these days when Homosexuality Transgender ,Naturism etc has gladly generally overcome these prejudices us swingers are the last ones in the closet hiding our dirty little secret."

I think trans/ sexuality prejudices still exist, not totally overcome yet.

Sex is bad. Sex should be between 2 married people with the lights off.

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By *tripandteaseCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I think you have a point, op. The general public (and the press) is a long, long way from being relaxed and accepting of swinging. Can't see it changing any time soon.

Seconded. Maybe we should just celebrate that we have taken our relationships to a new, higher, uninhibited level

Absolutely, and anyway it's kinda nice being part of the underground movement."

We call ourselves the un-normals and we find it a turn on too g something that's not seen as "ordinary"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, hairy armpits are the last taboo...

Not to everone its not, im indiffent to it, im of the oppinion that body hair is a natural occurrance and what people do with their own is non of my concern, i may well be in a minority here given how much voice is given in the forums concerning smooth vs natural

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

The upper class are far more accepting of swinging, having a mistress ,or lover than the working class ,remember reading about the Sloane rangers in Chelsea 50 men 50 women all had sex with each other no embarrassment

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think the stigma of being ginger will take longer to be done away with. (joke)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the stigma of being ginger will take longer to be done away with. (joke) "

They have no souls.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I think you have a point, op. The general public (and the press) is a long, long way from being relaxed and accepting of swinging. Can't see it changing any time soon.

Seconded. Maybe we should just celebrate that we have taken our relationships to a new, higher, uninhibited level

Absolutely, and anyway it's kinda nice being part of the underground movement.

We call ourselves the un-normals and we find it a turn on too g something that's not seen as "ordinary"...."

Me too.

Owing to some kind of personality flaw (or long ingrained hang ups) I only seem to be able to really enjoy sex if it's illicit and 'naughty'.

The moment I try to go public and introduce a partner to the wider world, it all goes wrong

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

We are open about swinging and our family know. Not that we've escorted, though. Thst's still taboo.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm not sure if it's that taboo anyone, especially amongst younger people. A radio report I heard a while ago was about a survey on relationship and sexual attitudes in the UK. It found that in comparison to previous years peoples attitudes towards open relationships, polygamy, non heterosexual relationships, casual sex and kink are far more supportive and positive. However attitudes towards cheating and affairs is now viewed way more negatively that it has been in previous decades. So if anything cheating is now the big taboo.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I tell everyone, have no shame and gladly talk to people about it. I even took my hairdresser too a club or 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't class swinging as taboo, I wouldn't class it as kink

There is a need in the "scene" for swinging to be held up as the height of kink when its far far from it.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

At anyone time there’s 30k people on here, so what’s the actual figure, if everyone was here at same time doesn’t seem so taboo. Bearing in mind these are the circles we mix in though.

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

we trust each other 100%, would never dream of cheating and will be together until the end, we’re soul mates. We will also happily watch each other having sex with others.

We know some vanilla couples who would judge us if they knew our “secret “, yet a few of them have had affairs or have marriage problems.

Makes us feel a little smug to be honest that they don’t know what we know

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By *egan_CDTV/TS
over a year ago

In the closet

"I think you have a point, op. The general public (and the press) is a long, long way from being relaxed and accepting of swinging. Can't see it changing any time soon."

The same really applies to all the things the OP cited as ‘accepted’ too. An awful lot of people tolerate difference grudgingly because they’ve been told that they have to.

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By *aughty50sCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire - but we travel a lot

"we trust each other 100%, would never dream of cheating and will be together until the end, we’re soul mates. We will also happily watch each other having sex with others.

We know some vanilla couples who would judge us if they knew our “secret “, yet a few of them have had affairs or have marriage problems.

Makes us feel a little smug to be honest that they don’t know what we know

Yes, that's us exactly too.

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