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Is it common to be regulary ignored??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive sent numerous messages on here to women that want the same as me? But regulary my Messages are unread and when they are read they turn out to be fake profiles is this common on this site? Only wanna meet for occasional daytime fun locally but never get replied too.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

You've only been here 7 days mate, give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've only been here 7 days mate, give it time "
plus are you 100% sure you want the same things and match what they are looking for?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

What did you expect to happen, you would join the site and ladies with queue up to have sex with you that's not how it works this is a lifestyle.

What is it that would attract ladies to reply to you rather than to one of the other profiles on here, you get out what you put in, does your profile have all the information and photos that ladies would need to get an idea of what a meet with you would be like?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

You only joined 7 days ago... you do know its Fabswingers and not instashag...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't tell from the lion head in your picture

but maybe like me they aren't intrested because of looks

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

No offence my friend but do you think that a one sentance profile saying "daytime meets only" is going to have ladies (who can get hundreds of messages) beating a path to your door?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's possible that as you can't accommodate, can only meet during the day in the week and have a photo with a very feminine looking bedroom in the background, women will assume (rightly or wrongly) that you're married.

Some women won't mind that, but many others would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't mean i'm not interested because of looks i mean my looks dont interest them

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

Your profile is your shop window and you’re not making the most of it. There are other reasons that I wouldn’t reply but you’ve not asked and so I can’t tell.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Ive sent numerous messages on here to women that want the same as me? But regulary my Messages are unread and when they are read they turn out to be fake profiles is this common on this site? Only wanna meet for occasional daytime fun locally but never get replied too."

7 days in and you're not getting genuine replies?

7 days is nothing in fabtime.

Visitors will look at your pictures.

Visitors will read your profile.

Not everyone you want to fuck will want to fuck you.

Your expectation-ometer needs significantly lowering.

You may want to review suggestions regarding your visitors.

You may need to upgrade your bait.

Search the forums for "advice". Use it or ignore it, you're not compelled to do either.

Hope that helps.

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill


"It's possible that as you can't accommodate, can only meet during the day in the week and have a photo with a very feminine looking bedroom in the background, women will assume (rightly or wrongly) that you're married.

Some women won't mind that, but many others would. "

Exactly the assumption I made!

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By *urhamgurlWoman
over a year ago

Durham

It might be those pants that put some women off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is key here no rush just keep trying and make friends if nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this sites name is to be changed to patientfabswingers.com

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

How do you work out that the ones that read your messages are fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive sent numerous messages on here to women that want the same as me? But regulary my Messages are unread and when they are read they turn out to be fake profiles is this common on this site? Only wanna meet for occasional daytime fun locally but never get replied too."

Short answer - yes. The majority of the time.

Then, when you do get a chat started, mostly they will just start blanking you after a while.

As others will tell you, an extreme amount of patience is required on here.

That, and a willingness to tolerate an almost total lack of apparent awareness of what would, in any "real" circumstance, be construed as polite conversational behaviour.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Whilst I appreciate that the OP has only bedn here a few days, that's not necessarily his grope.

I've been here a lot longer, but sometimes feel the same frustration in that I follow the advice freely given elsewhere to send a polite, well worded message to a lady to try to stand out from the crowd, only to see other posts from ladies saying they get so many messages that they just bulk delete them.

Which rather defeats the object of making an effort

I KNOW that there are massively more single men on here than any other demographic, and that the advice is if you don't get a response move onto someone else, but with such a "balls at coconuts" approach but it is demoralising to put effort in just to get deleted.

I've settled for just talking bollocks on the forum threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is your shop window and you’re not making the most of it. There are other reasons that I wouldn’t reply but you’ve not asked and so I can’t tell."

This

No matter how well constructed a message to us is we always check out the profile to decide if and how we'll reply. We usually do that before we even even read the message. And if what we see doesn't float our boat - and that could be for a variety of reasons - then that's that. Just because you message someone who appears to want the same as you, it won't necessarily follow that you are what they're looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Because I did have a reply with a phone number and when I whatsapped them they was a bloke pretending to be a women coz there pic on whatsapp was a bloke he admitted to being fake on here.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Ive sent numerous messages on here to women that want the same as me? But regulary my Messages are unread and when they are read they turn out to be fake profiles is this common on this site? Only wanna meet for occasional daytime fun locally but never get replied too."

Yes this is normal. They usually message or wink me first rather than the other way around. I figure women on here probably get enough hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately for you as a single Male it’s a numbers game

I would think that taking away those like us who are not looking for males it’s a high portion of males to those who want to meet them

Sorry but it’s an honest opinion

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

Sadly guys outnumber women by millions to one so any female get inundated with so many messages that they can’t answer. Lots of time wasters etc on here, they can because it’s a free service.

You will just have to accept the situation and reduce your expectations. But that shouldn’t stop you taking all the advice on manners and etiquette and you might even get lucky.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Because I did have a reply with a phone number and when I whatsapped them they was a bloke pretending to be a women coz there pic on whatsapp was a bloke he admitted to being fake on here."

Well when you've been here a bit longer you'll be able to spot those types of profiles. Best to use your big head tbh.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"this sites name is to be changed to patientfabswingers.com "

from the countless threads such as this i thought it was impatientfabswingers lol

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

UNLOS.

That was quick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh - looks like OP is no longer on site? Hmmm...

N x

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

and another impatient one disappears in a cloud of dust!!!! lol

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Presumably they were looking for instant gratification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive sent numerous messages on here to women that want the same as me? But regulary my Messages are unread and when they are read they turn out to be fake profiles is this common on this site? Only wanna meet for occasional daytime fun locally but never get replied too."

I was just about to message as well

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Ive sent numerous messages on here to women that want the same as me? But regulary my Messages are unread and when they are read they turn out to be fake profiles is this common on this site? Only wanna meet for occasional daytime fun locally but never get replied too.

I was just about to message as well "

Dam wanted local fun could have been next door, another I’ve missed out on wounded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Presumably they were looking for instant gratification. "

Maybe he got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this sites name is to be changed to patientfabswingers.com

from the countless threads such as this i thought it was impatientfabswingers lol "
well yes but we need to be patient

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