FabSwingers.com forum: I may have a problem!

By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

Bear with me here, i have to summarize my mind before i go crazy. The way i see it, my inability to get many meets, if any that is, is firstly my shyness. I get talking with someone then it all goes cablooey with them most probably not wanting to meet me due to my picture, of which happened a few months back. I had a good meet only last week, we chatted, we spoke of what we wanted from this and we had some soft fun to end with as she was on. Now i was a total gentleman the entire time, she even said so when she replied to my message yesterday, but she also said that we were running two different lines. She wants FWB's and FB's, of which i want, no wish to become one of them, i understood what she said. Or did i? I have noticed in my years of being on here that i have a need, a need for Sexual fun. I have never been rude to anyone but over my Ten Years since i lost my Virginity i have felt a need or Must, Lust maybe, pining for the Female form in all its varieties. Oh i have had meets where its been just purely sexual fun, actually all of them have been, but this last one felt different as i said she was on and i felt i hadnt done enough to pleasure her in this instance or i just dont understand the meaning of Friends with Benefits or Fuck Buddies. Am i crazy, after ten years, do i still not understand the meaning of Fabswingers in general? Socializing is key, i do know that but the best places for socializing is a club, there are non near where i am and the nearest ones mean getting to them by public transport due to not driving, you may say get a friend to give you a lift to the club night! i havent got many friends on here, One Couple really, but that feels rude to me. All the club meets always are on days that i have to be in work the next morning and i only know my rota a week in advance and then i hear about a club meet and then think "oh crap i could have gone to that, but now i cant due to work". Sex i think has taken over my life and i dont know how to become a better man currently. Sorry for the long post had to get this out of mind as it was driving me insane since yesterday.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

So what problem do you have x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think you may just be over thinking things ??

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

Do you think i am just over thinking things, i just dont know anymore

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

A needy person is not usually a sexy person.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Do you think i am just over thinking things, i just dont know anymore"

Are you OK xxxx

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

I dont actually know

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I dont actually know"
do you have anyone to talk too why u upset?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just relax. Nothing turns a woman off like a man gagging to get his end away. You have to be cool. Ice cool. If this means you increase your wanks then so be it.

In the meantime, don’t make Fab your soul place of looking for ladies. There are other sites. Spread yourself about a bit.

If you get some interest, go have fun - a night out, some chat, some company. Don’t make sex the obvious end goal. If it happens, great, if it doesn’t then so be it.

Don’t over think things. Don’t assume folk are thinking one thing and doing another.

Just

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Just relax. Nothing turns a woman off like a man gagging to get his end away. You have to be cool. Ice cool. If this means you increase your wanks then so be it.

In the meantime, don’t make Fab your soul place of looking for ladies. There are other sites. Spread yourself about a bit.

If you get some interest, go have fun - a night out, some chat, some company. Don’t make sex the obvious end goal. If it happens, great, if it doesn’t then so be it.

Don’t over think things. Don’t assume folk are thinking one thing and doing another.

Just "
relax

(I got carried away)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, you are over thinking. I advise that you step back, consider what "you" want not what anybody else tells you you should be wanting, then set about achieving it. In the mean time hang around the forum, chat to people, notice that everyone uses fab in their own way and relax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a reset op, i think you are over thinking things lovely x

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

bolton

Jeez.. Just because you’re here isn’t a ticket to getting laid, I’m sure the ladies here will tell you to change your photos as they won’t be for the large majority, you say you only meet with a couple which won’t be for a lot and at that it’s only every few months plus you can only give less than a weeks notice, add in your desperation.. You’re closing a lot of doors for yourself before you even chat to someone that might be interested..

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"Jeez.. Just because you’re here isn’t a ticket to getting laid, I’m sure the ladies here will tell you to change your photos as they won’t be for the large majority, you say you only meet with a couple which won’t be for a lot and at that it’s only every few months plus you can only give less than a weeks notice, add in your desperation.. You’re closing a lot of doors for yourself before you even chat to someone that might be interested.. "

That is not what i am saying in the least, im not desperate anymore, i havent been that desperate for nigh on 6 years i think when i had a multi-year gap with absolutely nothing, back then i was desperate, not now. I am not closing doors, they are being closed for me before i have a chance of stepping in the door and i am trying to understand why. What is the dynamic, how can i change said dynamic and what you have said is not very helpful in my eyes and mind. Also i never expect to get laid ever, if it happens it happens, simple as!

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

bolton

My apologies, I’ve obviously misunderstood the meanings of “sex has taken over my life”.. “my inability to get a meet” and “ I’m pining for the female form in all its varieties”...

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"Just relax. Nothing turns a woman off like a man gagging to get his end away. You have to be cool. Ice cool. If this means you increase your wanks then so be it.

In the meantime, don’t make Fab your soul place of looking for ladies. There are other sites. Spread yourself about a bit.

If you get some interest, go have fun - a night out, some chat, some company. Don’t make sex the obvious end goal. If it happens, great, if it doesn’t then so be it.

Don’t over think things. Don’t assume folk are thinking one thing and doing another.

Just relax

(I got carried away)"

Could you elaborate what other sites there are, i know of this and Dogging but not any others im afraid

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Its not allowedto mention other sites but think yku will find this the up there with the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are local and see your constant status updates, it's a fine line between notifying your free and pleading and to be honest it comes across the later

Try and be more up beat and positive, probably hard when u are down but certainly worth a try

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By *cottishcockMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Takes time

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"We are local and see your constant status updates, it's a fine line between notifying your free and pleading and to be honest it comes across the later

Try and be more up beat and positive, probably hard when u are down but certainly worth a try "

Yes i am trying to change that dynamic currently.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"So what problem do you have x"

No paragraphs I think.

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"So what problem do you have x

No paragraphs I think.

Sorry not an English Teacher, no offence intended.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

My eyes hurt. Could we have a synopsis, please?

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"My eyes hurt. Could we have a synopsis, please?"

Sorry it was a lot and i had to get it out of my head whilst i was thinking it and like you it hurt my head to write let alone read it as i wrote it

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