FabSwingers.com forum: The elusive single bi fem.

By *ecky and just OP Couple
over a year ago

Godalming

So, no complaints, B and I have both been on here a while as singles and now as a couple. We’ve had a lot of fun and made some good friends.

We both have some fantasies and it’s obviously a lot easier to fulfill the ones involving single guys, something we’ve enjoyed doing a lot.

Now, we both have a fantasy about a bi fem joining us. I use the term ‘joining us’ as we want her to be involved and into it as much as we are, we’re not in need of a prop or a toy.

So here’s the question, if you’re a single bi fem, who would you rather be approached by, our couples profile or Becky’s single profile? We’ve tried both for a while and neither seem to work.

Admittedly, we are quite selective with who we approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It shouldn’t matter really as long as both accounts seem legit. Contact from just men makes me uncomfortable. Talking to both is essential for me because I need to like both.

I am interested in the dynamic between a couple to know if it will be a good fit, as well as the usual physical attraction etc.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd much rather receive a message from the people I'll be meeting, so if a couple from the couple's profile. That way I can talk to both freely and get a proper idea of what they are like.

It can be difficult to find a single female on here just via messaging alone. Socials/club nights where you meet in person and then can build that chemistry further is a good idea (not in a patronising way! Just messaging cold can be tough).

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By *ecky and just OP Couple
over a year ago

Godalming

Not patronising at all, thanks.

We’ve been to lots of clubs, especially on couple/single fem nights and haven’t managed to find the right one. It’s more about finding someone that we can add to our group of friends rather than a one off.

We’ll keep looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP or anyone else. out of interest, how easy did you find single ladies to approach in club? Just barging over and saying hi sounds a bit overbearing.

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By *ecky and just OP Couple
over a year ago

Godalming

We’re happy approaching anyone, whether they want to go further or not is the crux.

We’ve had a few encounters in a club where a single lady will be chatty or want to watch but won’t want to go any further.

It must be intimidating/difficult for a single fem as well.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"We’re happy approaching anyone, whether they want to go further or not is the crux.

We’ve had a few encounters in a club where a single lady will be chatty or want to watch but won’t want to go any further.

It must be intimidating/difficult for a single fem as well. "

Same as guys, and even couples, if they are not regulars at a particular club then yes most people can seem a little frosty at first, but once we’ve all got chatting about weird crushes or favourite pizza toppings we find almost everyone to be surprisingly normal.

Good thought someone made in another thread is if the ladies are really attracted to each other then things seem to go with a bang fairly easily after that. Maybe let your partner take the lead a bit more?

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If I was looking to meet couples, I would prefer to be contacted by the couples profile and chat to both.

You have a good profile and are both trim, so am surprised that you are struggling.

The only suggestion I would have, is to maybe make it clearer on your profile that you are particularly looking for a single lady at the moment.

Best of luck

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"OP or anyone else. out of interest, how easy did you find single ladies to approach in club? Just barging over and saying hi sounds a bit overbearing."

We haven’t had any problems they tend to come and chat to us, though we are genuinely friendly with no agenda. So often contact us away from a club and friendship and other things grow from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d certainly want to be messaged by the couples profile. Always a bit suspicious when it’s a solo account saying they want a single fem to join a couple given how many fake accounts there are. Also has to be equal chatting or I feel as though it’s one side of the couple pushing the other into it.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We prefer a single female to contact/be in touch with us.

If I was to project, it would be they come for fun on their own terms and not as a hunted trophy.

Hey, perhaps the unicorn hunters can advise us differently.

Let’s not loose the fun of all this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d prefer the couple profile. However, I only play with couples I’ve met in clubs because I find fab communication too difficult. As someone mentioned, if the females get on it often escalates into lots of room fun naturally.

Hope you find someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely prefer messages from the couple.

I'm fed up of couples asking if I'm free to meet that evening and not making any effort to get to know what I'm like and if we want the same sort of things. Single guys get all the flack on here but recently they've been a lot better than the couples

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