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By *oredathome0603 OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Hey guys and girls (mainly the girls)

I wud like to know wht is wrong with me or my profile or both. I have been on this site for a long time bnow and dont get any replies or have had any meets. Please help a nice but naughty guy out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 months is not a long time on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve spoken to lots of other women on here and the amount of grief we get and nonsense from single males is almost constant. We’re naturally very wary about meeting people or even replying a lot of the time (particularly in my case - I make it clear I’m not looking for single guys but I still get bombarded with messages every day by chancers). It’s exhausting replying to everyone even in the negative.

If you really want to meet women your best bet will be parties or clubs. It’s a safer environment for us and you’re likely to meet people there who can become your friends on here.

And I agree - 3 months is not a long time on here.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

In addition to everything above about how women are wary due to bombardment....

Your profile isn't interesting. Ask yourself "why should a lady read and reply to me rather than the other 30 guys who messaged her during her busy work day?"

Profiles need to be almost like adverts, saying what you can offer and not a list of wants. A greater variety of photos will help. And yes, three months is not a long time in here. It is not "instashag".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve spoken to lots of other women on here and the amount of grief we get and nonsense from single males is almost constant. We’re naturally very wary about meeting people or even replying a lot of the time (particularly in my case - I make it clear I’m not looking for single guys but I still get bombarded with messages every day by chancers). It’s exhausting replying to everyone even in the negative.

If you really want to meet women your best bet will be parties or clubs. It’s a safer environment for us and you’re likely to meet people there who can become your friends on here.

And I agree - 3 months is not a long time on here. "

Just block single men from messaging you would sort the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey is your profile the best it can be and are your pics the best they can be and are you really straight lol your profile is your advert and you live and die by it here, also your username not great improve these things and hopefully things will improve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve spoken to lots of other women on here and the amount of grief we get and nonsense from single males is almost constant. We’re naturally very wary about meeting people or even replying a lot of the time (particularly in my case - I make it clear I’m not looking for single guys but I still get bombarded with messages every day by chancers). It’s exhausting replying to everyone even in the negative.

If you really want to meet women your best bet will be parties or clubs. It’s a safer environment for us and you’re likely to meet people there who can become your friends on here.

And I agree - 3 months is not a long time on here.

Just block single men from messaging you would sort the problem "

I’ve had to do that before! But if I block single men then the genuine friends that we do meet when we’re out and about can’t get in touch. Double edged sword

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I am going to repeat yet again, after all the previous posters, that 3 months is nothing in Fab world. Some men wait a year or more for their break, some yet don't make it as they try to treat Fab as instashag or a site full of free prostitutes that would meet anyone. This is a swingers site, where the social aspect is almost as important as the sexual aspect. You need to make your profile stand out from thousands of other males, and at the moment there is nothing catchy there. Why would anyone send you a message to see if you were free if they have no idea what you can offer that's different from what thousands of other profiles can offer, too?

You are limiting yourself by your chosen age group. Also, you say on your profile you are straight, yet you have a verification (hidden) from a man. Either show your verification to prove it was just social/part of threesome etc, or hide your verification summary. There is 3rd option- own up if you are bi/bi-curious. Admitting that on your profile would close some doors, but could open other doors.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like others have said you need to put a bit more about yourself on your profile. also unless you go to clubs and socials you are unlikely to get many wanting to take the chance of meeting you. good luck though

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It takes months for single men to become established, as there are so many of you here.

Most advice focuses on making your profile as strong as possible, so that it really sells you well, use the forums, go to local fab socials and clubs - all to increase the potential of others knowing you positively. Look through each forum section for advice on any of those things that would be relevant to you.

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

I reiterate all the comments here, plus

(Excuse the bluntness) your grammar is terrible, that would put us off straight away.

I’m not the best speller by any means, but I spell check everything before I send/post.

Bad grammar and spelling smacks of laziness, and if a person is lazy with that, what else are they lazy with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs and socials. Talk to people there and people will see you are serious and not a fantasist. I imagine there are plenty of couples like us who have children and both work so playtime is limited so they dont risk it on someone who hasn't met before.

I appreciate that might sound a bit chicken and egg but that's why clubs are a good start.

Good luck

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

As above. 3 months isn’t long in fab world. Give it time. Go to a social. Don’t sound as if your the best thing since sliced bread. And finially. Relax and enjoy the ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are interested then they reply if they are not then they don't. The reasons they don't is down to various things from your message, photos and profile along with age size and looks.

What you need to do is actually get their attention and having a good informative profile, good photos and an interesting personalised message, these things you can do a lot about to improve your chances.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Many women look at a profile before opening your message. If they are not enticed that may just delete the message without reading it. So both profile and message need to be interesting to them.

Also I suspect you're username will put some off.

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