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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That’s my problem and has trouble meeting as I’m initially very nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a social at a pub first. A little Dutch courage goes a long way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I just tell myself that they're probably just as nervous as I am

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It would have to be a non alcoholic beverage as I’m teetotal. I couldn’t ask if people swing how does one bring the subject up lol

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"That’s my problem and has trouble meeting as I’m initially very nervous "

Looks like you already go to clubs, is that not working for you?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"It would have to be a non alcoholic beverage as I’m teetotal. I couldn’t ask if people swing how does one bring the subject up lol"

If they're in a swinging club, chances are they swing. Just chat to people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just tell myself that they're probably just as nervous as I am "

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey


"That’s my problem and has trouble meeting as I’m initially very nervous "

It`s all to do with being in an unfamiliar environment. The more times you do it, The easier it gets.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"That’s my problem and has trouble meeting as I’m initially very nervous "

Are you getting meets and then you're to shy to actually meet them or does it go wrong ?

Fair play to you if you're getting offers of meets

Just be honest and say you're a bit shy/nervous at first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not yet played in Decadance just trying to chat but most just want to play alone

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich


"That’s my problem and has trouble meeting as I’m initially very nervous

It`s all to do with being in an unfamiliar environment. The more times you do it, The easier it gets. "

This

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Not yet played in Decadance just trying to chat but most just want to play alone"

Just keep chatting, someone will come along

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m great when confident but when I’m nervous I clam up and people don’t seem to want to start a convo. Decadance really helped me overcome my club virginity

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I’m great when confident but when I’m nervous I clam up and people don’t seem to want to start a convo. Decadance really helped me overcome my club virginity "

So you've made a good start, not easy for single guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s not. I get lots of people viewing my profile which is nice but none seem to want to chat, such a pity

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"It’s not. I get lots of people viewing my profile which is nice but none seem to want to chat, such a pity"

Well you're obviously getting out and about, I wish you luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's a fact that nobody within swinging is going to approach you and encourage you out of your shell, you need to make yourself approachable. I'm far from unsympathetic to your plight, it must be really difficult to approach people if you're alone.

Someone suggested an organised social and I'd second that, especially if the hosts are good at introducing people to each other.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I concur with nicecouple comments above .. best way to come out of your shell is by attending few socials .. swingers are like any other person you meet pubs and clubs , unless you make an effort to chat with them they not going to bother ..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We went to a social some months back and I made sure I introduced myself to everyone sitting nearby. A big smile and a deep breath helps. I chatted to a few people but it's a lot easier if your friendliness is reciprocated. I understand that nerves make it difficult but talking about the weather and how you got to the venue can help if your mind freezes up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your kind advice. Sending much love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres nothing wrong with being a bit shy and nervous, just be open about it with potential meets, hopefully they should be understanding to your disposition.

Maybe have a good chat on the phone to break the ice before you meet, that may help?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s chatting on chat rooms is a problem also on written messages., I simply cannot write the opening message

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By *aisy6Woman
over a year ago

bath

Once you do it once you’ll be fine xx

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