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By *ilkey69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of pestering and non acceptance of rejection, members received abusive message here, not in real life, so cannot be followed on fab/online.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

If we get 1 or 2 then I think your point is fair.

But if you get like 50/hour, you'll give up too.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Because as soon as I reply "no" I just get loads of follow up messages asking for reasons, trying to change my mind, giving abuse or telling me it's my loss. If you don't get a reply then just assume they are not interested and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

"

its all about time, women just dont have enough, they are inundated with messages from handsome men some of which they would meet if they had time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

"

Because we get too many messages and many people think any response means that we're going to have sex with them, and/or they abuse us when we decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x"

Hi peach, you're hot, we should fuck

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Its up to the person if they wanna reply! I personally dont due to the vile abuse ive recieved when ive replied " not for me"...so nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

Hi peach, you're hot, we should fuck "

Yes

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

Hi peach, you're hot, we should fuck

Yes

Peach x"

That was easy

Peach x

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Saves wasting time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

"

If a stranger says "good morning" to me I reply with a cheerful "good morning" and go about my business. I don't expect to have sex with them or they me so I feel safe to respond positively. It's different on fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x"

You elucidated nicely, We should not fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

You elucidated nicely, We should not fuck "

See if this msg was in my inbox showing an attachment I would probably reply!

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check out the site FAQ's OP. It's made very clear that a non-reply is NOT considered rude and should be taken as a 'no thank you'.

You may think that the one message you have sent someone is worthy of a response but you should consider that your message is likely just one of hundreds that person has been sent that day. It's not fair to expect people to reply to every single message they get.

Those takeaway menus that get posted through your door. Did you ask for them? Do you phone them up just to tell them 'thanks' but you're really not interested?

No, I thouht not.

And lets face it, would an inbox full of 'no thanks' messages make you feel any better? I think not.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

"

Not replying to you is a no, women and couples get hundreds of messages so why should they have to actually reply "no" which will then lead to the guy asking "why" ?

We're supposed to be adults so just accept that no reply means no interest and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its up to the person if they wanna reply! I personally dont due to the vile abuse ive recieved when ive replied " not for me"...so nope! "
omg Jessica reply to me i beg you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on fab to make friends with everyone who sends me a message.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

"

Yes we are all here to make new friends, but only friends we choose to make.

We always reply if there is a mutual interest, if there isn't we simply don't.

In our normal lives, if we say hello to a stranger we do not have a clue what their interests or likes might be, on this site we have the benefits of a profile so it is totally different.

The mistake that we see a lot of people make on here is they make contact prior to taking the effort to reading a profile.

If you take the time to read the FAQs, no reply means no thanks.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Sorry... I'm not getting this thing, bout women in a queue, asking to fuck me! Mind you, in this scenario, I'd expect superhuman powers to please them all..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Sorry... I'm not getting this thing, bout women in a queue, asking to fuck me! Mind you, in this scenario, I'd expect superhuman powers to please them all.. "

Yeah, except imagine it where you don't want to fuck at least three quarters of them, some seem not to have bathed, they're hounding you, some of them are threatening you and throwing drinks, etc.

It's not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

"

unfortunately this hits a nerve with a lot here and its in the FAQs which of course we've all read lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have normal lives to lead away from fab as well and just don’t have the time to reply to all the messages and if you do reply you will often end up with another 1 or 2 messages in response to that reply, filling your inbox even more or as some have said receiving rude and abusive messages.

It also depends what and when I am looking for something as to whether or not I might reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to a message even if it's a polite no thanks

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By *ilkey69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Because as soon as I reply "no" I just get loads of follow up messages asking for reasons, trying to change my mind, giving abuse or telling me it's my loss. If you don't get a reply then just assume they are not interested and move on. "

A no and a block would be better than receiving abuse

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By *ilkey69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x"

No I think just a reply then a block easy.

That's not impossible.

Happy Fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always reply to a message even if it's a polite no thanks "
but you have time because you dont have many messages to answer

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

No I think just a reply then a block easy.

That's not impossible.

Happy Fabbing "

Then men would complain about that.

And sometimes the volume is such that that's impossible, too.

The system works. Everyone needs thick skin for this.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"I always reply to a message even if it's a polite no thanks "

Do you get many?

Single women and couples do.

We don't always reply, no point in wasting time if there is no shared interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

No I think just a reply then a block easy.

That's not impossible.

Happy Fabbing "

Firstly, when confronted by hundreds of msgs, just to send back a no thanks is a massively daunting job. And don't forget whilst you are replying more msgs are arriving!

Secondly why reply if you are going to block anyway? Why block them for sending a msg?

The system in place works; no reply = no thanks! That is simple and easy to understand right?

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always reply to a message even if it's a polite no thanks but you have time because you dont have many messages to answer "

I have enough to get through, I'm not saying I get 100's daily but when I do get one I reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone (a male) hasn’t bothered to read the profile, I’m not going to bother to reply!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If someone (a male) hasn’t bothered to read the profile, I’m not going to bother to reply! "

That too.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"If someone (a male) hasn’t bothered to read the profile, I’m not going to bother to reply! "

Absolutely spot on.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

Hi peach, you're hot, we should fuck

Yes

Peach x

That was easy

Peach x"

Can I watch

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Because it's not worth the hassle.

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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

Because we get too many messages and many people think any response means that we're going to have sex with them, and/or they abuse us when we decline. "

great way to put it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine this: You go to the pub for a drink. Before you've even purchased a pint a queue of ladies has built up so you start to greet them. The first 50 say 'Hi!' So you start responding appropriately. After 30 'Hi!' replies back, you're a little bored but continue as it's polite. The next 100 women make a comment on your body shape, no greeting, just 'Hottest body on fab. We should fuck' You don't know these women but appreciate the first dozen msgs. You're only 150 women in and the queue is now out the door. You decide you don't like feeling like a piece of meat so you decide to sneak out and come back tomorrow.....

Do you get what I mean op?

It's not women being rude, it's just impossible!

Peach x

You elucidated nicely, We should not fuck

See if this msg was in my inbox showing an attachment I would probably reply!

Peach x"

I need to put armour before sending message to you with my pics

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We nearly always reply to messages, other than the one word/one line, no effort messages that is, they don't deserve a reply as 0 effort = 0 reward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If some stranger gives you a greeting it's normal to reply with a comment.

Why then can't we on here just say no or yes instead of ignoring others.

We are all on here to make new friends.

"

No answer is a no

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