FabSwingers.com forum: Single men in clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I've not really been to different clubs and only been a few times.

But all I tend to see is alot of the single men just huddled round watching an having a wank.

It's like just watching live porn but I've now started to view the clubs as a place to go to the spa and play some pool an be able to be dressed down and relaxed even if nothing happens.

Ladies and couples etc is it that when you see the sole male you just see the desperation and steer clear or is it just not for you.

I'm just curious. Fellas what do you expect from going into a club as a single male?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"So I've not really been to different clubs and only been a few times.

But all I tend to see is alot of the single men just huddled round watching an having a wank.

It's like just watching live porn but I've now started to view the clubs as a place to go to the spa and play some pool an be able to be dressed down and relaxed even if nothing happens.

Ladies and couples etc is it that when you see the sole male you just see the desperation and steer clear or is it just not for you.

I'm just curious. Fellas what do you expect from going into a club as a single male? "

No, I don't see this at all, I only go to clubs for single males.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

seen loads do this , we sit in bar socialize few drinks then head off 10ish to play most times me (m) go in hot tub sauna leaver her to chat. seen quite a few males join then get the tour then sit in chill area on there phones logged into fab

rather than go chat , men who wank are waiting to be invited ,may work for them but we like to have a chat see if any spark there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Same I prefer to have some conversation or even just some light suggestive touching works a treat I'm not one for standing their having a wank tbf I can do at home

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"seen loads do this , we sit in bar socialize few drinks then head off 10ish to play most times me (m) go in hot tub sauna leaver her to chat. seen quite a few males join then get the tour then sit in chill area on there phones logged into fab

rather than go chat , men who wank are waiting to be invited ,may work for them but we like to have a chat see if any spark there."

Most clubs don't allow phones.

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

rather than go chat , men who wank are waiting to be invited ,may work for them but we like to have a chat see if any spark there.

Most clubs don't allow phones."

Was about to say. All the clubs I've been in don't allow phones.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I often chat to single guys at the bar. If I give a single chap a tour of the club, I suggest they time time to talk to single ladies, men and couples early in the evening, more chance of being asked to join in later if they have been friendly and made a good impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet to go to a club, think I'm a little nervous about going in my own. However if I grew a set and went then I wouldn't be whipping the lad out to wank! Can do that at home.

Would be more a social thing to try and meet some people and if fun happens then great! See it more of a night with a possible added bonus if I'm really lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet to go to a club, think I'm a little nervous about going in my own. However if I grew a set and went then I wouldn't be whipping the lad out to wank! Can do that at home.

Would be more a social thing to try and meet some people and if fun happens then great! See it more of a night with a possible added bonus if I'm really lucky"

That's exactly the right mindset to have. Get chatting and you will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been to a club but really thinking about it think it's more nerves than anything stopping me from doing it

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Rarely do you get the penguin flock these days you must be unlucky OP. Clubs are monitoring their quotas more and letting less single guys in or so my personal experience. Ok you do get the odd excitable man but in general more hang round the bar areas and most are polite and respectful. In truth its the male half of a couple who is more problematic these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is definitely my pet hate, single guys not even trying to talk to women/couples, but expecting the invite to play? I'm sorry, I am old-fashioned, my brain needs to be stimulated before my body can join. And just because I am in a swingers club, it doesn't mean I'd play with anyone.

One simple advice I'd give to any man who finds himself in a swingers club - TALK to people! The first or the second person you chat with may not be interested, but it's much better than either just staring at people, playing 'footsie' in the hot tub and hoping they get the hint, joining the ranks of the wanking zombies or trying to touch uninvited.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well said miss. Physical interaction is only so much of the journey the best is when your able to have that conversation to the point where you are mentally torturing their mind an eventually the walk better start to walk or you can be skinned alive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For those that haven't been to a club before. Yes it is nerve racking and out of your comfort zone but just go in and get yourself a drink. Just don't be sat in a corner knocking back drinks because no one wants somone that's paraletic and being abnoxious

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

We've always found that it's the guys who chat to anyone with a bit of humour and NOT being obviously after a quick shag who do the best. They don't have to be the most physically attractive or have the biggest cock. Just be polite and have some personality.

There is one guy we know who goes to a club in Leeds and has an AMAZING amount of sex with females (not going to name him) and he does so well just because he is genuinely friendly and likeable !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Completely agree if you go in their as a single male focused on sex and getting a fuck..... Well you stink of desperation an it's not gonna be the best night for you.

Myself I go to a club I have a shower relax in the jacuzzi for a bit then go for a cig and have a chat and even when I go bakc I tend to play pool and start speaking to people around me because you have to move people to take your shot so converse there and also your 1 on 1 with a person Just have a conversation. An not soley about sex lol

Suttle compliments work amazingly

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Dude as a single guy in clubs you need to develope what Alot of guys don't it seems, the ability and confidence to talk and harmlessly flirt to/with these couples and females. I mainly go clubs because not many people seem to think my pics are the best( I know I'm not a photographer) so find it hard to get meets and get told I'm better looking and a better person face to face. I go with no expectations but to have a laugh but having is the biggest turn on for most people. Learn these ways, have no fear of rejection. Guys huddled up do it as a comfort thing and can show a lack of confidance in social skills

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By *rajxMan
over a year ago

harrow

Inspiring post. I've never been to a club but would feel encouraged to go now. Anyone in London that would like to join?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Inspiring post. I've never been to a club but would feel encouraged to go now. Anyone in London that would like to join? "

Go it alone.

You will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK different question. What would make you feel more comfortable for a first time going to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rarely do you get the penguin flock these days you must be unlucky OP. Clubs are monitoring their quotas more and letting less single guys in or so my personal experience. Ok you do get the odd excitable man but in general more hang round the bar areas and most are polite and respectful. In truth its the male half of a couple who is more problematic these days. "

Agree about the male half of the couple being an issue... We went to le boudoir this past weekend and had to tell a few to back off. Crowding round or just standing there leaning over us. Creepy!

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"So I've not really been to different clubs and only been a few times.

But all I tend to see is alot of the single men just huddled round watching an having a wank.

It's like just watching live porn but I've now started to view the clubs as a place to go to the spa and play some pool an be able to be dressed down and relaxed even if nothing happens.

Ladies and couples etc is it that when you see the sole male you just see the desperation and steer clear or is it just not for you.

I'm just curious. Fellas what do you expect from going into a club as a single male? "

We wouldn't go to clubs if it wasn't for single men. I love the attention from one, two or more of them. They just have to be respectful, clean and to my taste and if they find me to theirs we can have great fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree about the male half of couples being a problem. Some just don’t accept we don’t play with couples and are there for the single guys.

We mainly go to clubs to play with single guys so if they weren’t there we probably wouldn’t go. And have to add that I find it a massive turn on if me and hubby are playing and the guys watching are wanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love the experience but there aren't any near me, here in Norwich

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

If my Mrs sees a guy she's interested in she'll make eyes at him or go straight in for the kill lol... All you need to do is give a little warm smile. Yes some guys put pressure on or follow her around the club, not good. The worst just grope her without even asking (when playing with others in an open room).

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Perfect example was in a club a few weeks ago, me and Mrs playing together on bed. A guy plonks himself down pretty much in our space starts wanking away carried on for five minutes. Then jumps up raises his arms all disgruntled hadn’t been able to touch storms of.

Hadn’t said a word, so in my opinion if you lack social skills best not to be a prick and get to fuck and let those who can get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any London good clubs for singles??

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I always try to initiate chats with everyone when I'm there, make new friends and have fun conversation! Problem with some single males is they expect sex being there rather than treating it like a more chilled out nightclub

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perfect example was in a club a few weeks ago, me and Mrs playing together on bed. A guy plonks himself down pretty much in our space starts wanking away carried on for five minutes. Then jumps up raises his arms all disgruntled hadn’t been able to touch storms of.

Hadn’t said a word, so in my opinion if you lack social skills best not to be a prick and get to fuck and let those who can get on with it "

Some people just expect it like you say but just because it's a hot day doesn't mean your gonna get ice cream without asking for it first

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

rather than go chat , men who wank are waiting to be invited ,may work for them but we like to have a chat see if any spark there.

Most clubs don't allow phones."
theres a chill out area (café) where can check phone .ie babysitters etc most clubs allow

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"Never been to a club but really thinking about it think it's more nerves than anything stopping me from doing it "
we always say treat it like going on holiday or a place you aint been , have a drink in the bar area and like you would do if away just strike up conversation you would sit on your own ? at our club as we regs at the bar area after there tours new members are introduced to members

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

As a single man, I've mainly just used clubs as a place to relax, hang out, use the facilities and meet people. When I go with my partner we've tended to befriend the single guys who have just made nice conversation with us without being creepy or pushy. I think you just cant go wrong with being a friendly, chatty, all round decent human who makes the effort without being pushy or creepy. Granted she's not wanted to have sex with every guy we've got on with but its sure half the battle and sure some have peaked an interest in terms of taking things further. I think on the whole if a couple is interested once you've introduced they'll make the move if and when their ready.

I think go to a club, be yourself and make a effort to indtroduce yourself and genuinely get to know people as people (rather than a potential fuck toy). Then rest kind of sorts its self.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well to all you lovely people that have commented. Thank yiu for sharing your experience and advice I know alot of those wanting to go into clubs can really take some good advice from this thread so thank you

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