FabSwingers.com forum: Le Boudoir Rejected Membership Club

By *eamgreen30 OP Couple
over a year ago

stroud

Who else has been rejected as a member? I filled in the application for both Mr B and I online including pictures as required by them and got rejected lol. Now I’m not gonna get butthurt about it because frankly I’m not that bothered but I’ve heard of this happening to a few couples over the age of 35. Is this the issue do you think? Or perhaps we’re just not the right look for their classy establishment

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

There’s been similar threads on here before.

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By *aucyPlayersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I’ve been rejected twice before as a single female. Not sure we would get a different response as a couple

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We've never applied to any of these style clubs. No point because if beautiful people like you guys didn't get through we definitely wouldn't!

Theres one near ish to us and you have to be under 45 I believe. As I say we've never applied being a larger couple we'd almost definitely be rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was surprised I was accepted!! I've not been yet though. I hope you find luck in other clubs.

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We didn’t have a problem being accepted, although have heard of a few people having a problem.

Way we see it nobody has anything to prove to anybody. Enjoy your swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

I don't actually think anyone was butt hurt just asking a question.

We know we wouldn't meet exclusive club standards therefore we don't apply. Doesn't bother us one bit as we know we wont be for everyone

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By *eamgreen30 OP Couple
over a year ago

stroud

"Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

Oh darling believe me, I’m really not bothered although I do think it’s an unfair and quite judgmental process. I have enough fun without having to go there, we just happen to be staying in London next month and thought we’d have a night there. No bother, I’m happy to devour Mr B alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think their veting process is in bad taste and does not offer inclusion to all.

Frankly their are other clubs out there that will welcome you regardless of age, colour, size and sexual orientation.

I've not even given this club a second thought after I heard a number of people rejected for whatever reason, no need to state the obvious!

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

"I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I read their FaQ and to be honest I was quite shocked. Don't allow same sex people without proof they're married (but hetro couples don't need that!). TV and TS are classed as single males unless they've had reassignment surgery. All seems very judgemental to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said Mavis who has hidden her profile !! Lol

They are also homo and transphobic. I guess a private club can get away with it.

Plenty of other GREAT places to go

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

You have Our Place4 Fun not far from there

Abfabs, Hellfire and some more..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's very common. If you don't fit into their idea of 'beautiful people'.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It is a shame as I would like to go but because I am over 35 and don’t look like brad Pitt no chance - been rejected once already

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I read their FaQ and to be honest I was quite shocked. Don't allow same sex people without proof they're married (but hetro couples don't need that!). TV and TS are classed as single males unless they've had reassignment surgery. All seems very judgemental to me"

I did like the idea of giving it a try, but if that is the case, I'm no longer interested.

Not that I (we) would be accepted anyway by the sound of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

Oooooo Mavis!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick too chams people where the real people are

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Said Mavis who has hidden her profile !! Lol

They are also homo and transphobic. I guess a private club can get away with it.

Plenty of other GREAT places to go

It seems crazy in 2019 people are still being phobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snore off Mavis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

Why are you so rude when people disagree with you!

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By *exyCouple999Couple
over a year ago

South Bucks

We are both over 35 and have been members for some time. It's a great club and very successful too, so they must be doing something right. We love it there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always going to be small minded people in the world but I never expected a swingers club to be phobic.

I thought all orientations were accepted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been rejected twice before as a single female. Not sure we would get a different response as a couple "

Seen your profile as you are on my nearby list.

Shocked you were rejected as you are an attractive lady and together you look like a great couple.

Would you still want to join as a couple when they rejected you as a single lady?.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Who else has been rejected as a member? I filled in the application for both Mr B and I online including pictures as required by them and got rejected lol. Now I’m not gonna get butthurt about it because frankly I’m not that bothered but I’ve heard of this happening to a few couples over the age of 35. Is this the issue do you think? Or perhaps we’re just not the right look for their classy establishment

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. I have applied twice and been rejected twice both times a email saying currently over subscribed with single men.At first I thought it maybe my age however looking at their reviews there are a couple of guys a 2-3 years younger than me so I have decided to accept that they are over subscribed with single guys.I don’t think I will apply again I stick with OP4F just that for me it would have been nice to have a second club to go to in London that is easy and convenient for me to get to via public transport.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

Wow!! Just because we don't agree with certain things we must have no standards and shag the whole site?

Yes people can run their club how they choose to!! Our local party/club only allows couples and women.

And we know we wouldn't be accepted for a selected members only club so wouldn't apply. Not sure how you get we will sleep with anyone who asks from that. Our block list is a mile long!!

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

"Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

Is this a proper response?

The OP is clearly asking other people’s thoughts and is not asking for such a stupid ridiculous response such as this.

It’s people like you that ought to be removed, you offer nothing to the OP or others, just have to respond with a personal jibe that quite frankly is awful. You should be ashamed of yourself, you really should. Look in the mirror and see what’s looking back at you. Does it make you proud?

Jeez!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

Is this a proper response?

The OP is clearly asking other people’s thoughts and is not asking for such a stupid ridiculous response such as this.

Jeez! "

I ought to be removed from what?

The club can choose who they let in. ALL clubs choose. If they determine the person to be d*unk or unwashed or just not the type of clientele they want in their club- such as groups of men- that is up to them.

It is well known that LB have their own rules, same as KK. People can apply but they may be turned down.

Just the same as on here. Unless of course all the whining people fuck everyone who asks.

But if they don't fuck everyone, why are they crying that someone (a club) has turned them down?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

""I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

I get what your saying with swing clubs. But we only attend Bdsm clubs where you have to be members and even hsve referances. At every turn there is stuff that could seriusly, hurt or even kill you. Would not want some numpty walking in, and trying needle plsy on a whim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mavis is just a troll guys !!

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

Yes you are quite correct, but isn’t it sad that we have such people in our midst, nothing nice to say, or to offer, just hurtful for the sake of it.

Why can we not just be nice to each other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

And a he I think.

Never says anything nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

Do people complain when they can't get in?

Who gives them references?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

Why are you so rude when people disagree with you! "

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I’ve been rejected twice before as a single female. Not sure we would get a different response as a couple "

More fool them, you're teh sexeh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

Do people complain when they can't get in?

Who gives them references?"

Pretty sure for BDSM clubs you need at least one referee who's a member of the clergy (not difficult, they're all into it, the dirty feckers).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

Yes you are quite correct, but isn’t it sad that we have such people in our midst, nothing nice to say, or to offer, just hurtful for the sake of it.

Why can we not just be nice to each other? "

It’s very sad, but the internet and all social platforms allows people to say things they wouldn’t have the guts to say in a face to face situation.

But... we laugh at their rudeness and tease them a little just for fun !

Poor Mavis can’t help it that she’s really a man and not getting any at home !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mavis is entitled to her opinion, regardless of if you agree with it, and doesn't warrant a dogpile I think. Rise above it folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mavis is entitled to her opinion, regardless of if you agree with it, and doesn't warrant a dogpile I think. Rise above it folks.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion if it’s stated in a polite and reasoned manner. She was just plain rude ! Manners, maketh humankind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mavis is entitled to her opinion, regardless of if you agree with it, and doesn't warrant a dogpile I think. Rise above it folks.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion if it’s stated in a polite and reasoned manner. She was just plain rude ! Manners, maketh humankind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

Yes you are quite correct, but isn’t it sad that we have such people in our midst, nothing nice to say, or to offer, just hurtful for the sake of it.

Why can we not just be nice to each other?

It’s very sad, but the internet and all social platforms allows people to say things they wouldn’t have the guts to say in a face to face situation.

But... we laugh at their rudeness and tease them a little just for fun !

Poor Mavis can’t help it that she’s really a man and not getting any at home !

Is calling me a man and saying I'm not getting any being rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

Do people complain when they can't get in?

Who gives them references?

Pretty sure for BDSM clubs you need at least one referee who's a member of the clergy (not difficult, they're all into it, the dirty feckers)."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m kinda with Mavis on this one... it’s there club, so they can have whoever they want join ..if they choose to turn busisness down that’s their choice.

As many have previously stated, plenty other options available.

And for the record we haven’t tried joining ourselves, and reading the above it’s probably not somewhere we would choose to go anyways!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m kinda with Mavis on this one... it’s there club, so they can have whoever they want join ..if they choose to turn busisness down that’s their choice.

As many have previously stated, plenty other options available.

And for the record we haven’t tried joining ourselves, and reading the above it’s probably not somewhere we would choose to go anyways!

We are most likely way too old to be accepted anyways!! Haha

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Unfortunately ‘vetting’ is just how it is these days - pubs do it, clubs have done it for years.. so what’s wrong if a swingers club only what to attract certain clientele... it’s a choice thing and prob what their members want... otherwise I guess they wouldn’t have a successful buisness?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is "

I'm the exact opposite of the type of person they want to attend but I'm not offended at all.

It's their business and their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is "

All clubs have a dress code same as some pubs but they don't refuse entry for being too fat, old or ugly. There was a thread very similar to this a few months ago and the owner of the club replied to the OP and said "your wife wasn't attractive and you were too overweight".

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Me! I am proud of the rejection I get. They are in good company.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’m actually surprised at this thread

Was unaware that Le Boudoir rejected applications

I have been a member previously and went a few years back

If age is what it’s about I guess I don’t be welcome anymore as I’m 46 next week lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All clubs have a dress code same as some pubs but they don't refuse entry for being too fat, old or ugly. There was a thread very similar to this a few months ago and the owner of the club replied to the OP and said "your wife wasn't attractive and you were too overweight".

well that just put me off even considering of visiting a club (any club).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well that just put me off even considering of visiting a club (any club)."

People of all shapes,sizes, sexual orientation, colour, disabilities are allowed into most clubs so don't believe everything you read. Clubs are really nice places to meet new people so go and judge for yourself.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well that just put me off even considering of visiting a club (any club).

I mean just look at me and my local club let me join! Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well that just put me off even considering of visiting a club (any club).

Don't think I'm brave enough going without someone holding my hand

The comments I read about various clubs and some experiences of those who have been there aren't helping either. Think I'll safely stick with private meets.

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By *reamweaversCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Mrs DW rejected also. No explanation sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

It was that thread rather than the policy that put me off the club even though I have a number of friends who rate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

It was that thread rather than the policy that put me off the club even though I have a number of friends who rate it"

So why are people annoyed when they can't get in?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

So why are people annoyed when they can't get in?"

Just my opinion but I imagine because it's not very tasteful.

How would you feel if you rocked up to a pub or a club and they used the words 'You arent coming in you are too ugly/fat/etc'?

If you are happy to be told that then good for you, but I imagine itd be pretty hurtful for many people.

Having read this thread and taking into account the past issues its definitely not somewhere I'd like to attend even if I were accepted.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

well that just put me off even considering of visiting a club (any club)."
. I remember the thread where the couple stating the club said your wife wasn’t attractive and you were too overweight.I also remember that the pictures the couple used were a few years old which I believe the couple admitted too.At the end of the day the club have the right to who they want or don’t want but manners don’t cost anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What type of pics?

Think you have to be a certain age, body shape and facially attractive to them lol

I fail all three......

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

""I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

Best quote I read yet on this status

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

I imagine HIM to be obese, with a straggly beard with the remains of his cheese sandwich in it and wearing skid marked y fronts and a filthy string vest

Trying to read the forums and watch porn through a cum splattered monitor screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

Best quote I read yet on this status"

That's not including this place?

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

To be fair guys and girls and other orientations if they are in london they have a massive base of people so they can afford to be as picky as they want, party of me wants to apply to join the rejection club

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

I imagine HIM to be obese, with a straggly beard with the remains of his cheese sandwich in it and wearing skid marked y fronts and a filthy string vest

Trying to read the forums and watch porn through a cum splattered monitor screen "

Hate to ruin your image but she is definitely a she

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

If I remember rightly that was in mail after the man sent many mails asking for a reason why. Assuming this is true maybe he should have taken the first mail as an answer which may have been less blunt

Who knows though, none of us were privy to the mails exchanged

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Stop attacking people for commenting please, also a bit more civil wouldn't hurt when people do answer, then backs wouldn't be put up for a reaction.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

Who knows though, none of us were privy to the mails exchanged"
. That is how I remember and the couple also admitted to using pictures that were a few years old

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

No such thing as bad publicity.

It’s a nice club.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

This

Nobody has a right to attend such places. If they don't want you then tough, If I was holding a swingers party I would have entry criteria too. Just find somewhere else that does want you and stop with all the entitled bollocks.

And Mavis is definitely all woman btw, a nice one at that.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

This

And Mavis is definitely all woman btw, a nice one at that."

I never said for any moment they can't choose who they like.

It's the attack that those of us who wouldn't get accepted or weren't keen on some of their policies will shag anyone that got me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was also refused membership, and I’m fine with that. I had been told beforehand they do not like ladies with curves (and my curves have cushions). Every club is different and are entitled to run it how they see fit. Maybe more should run similar, I’ve turned up at one place and there was ladies walking around in tracksuits, and men in grubby jeans and not smelling so good. I don’t see those lucky enough to have a good body moaning about BBW nights? There’s something for everyone, you just have to find it

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By *heeseandWineCouple
over a year ago

Reading and Southampton

You have Our Place4 Fun not far from there

Abfabs, Hellfire and some more..

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Yes with other good clubs like these in the London area we wouldn't even bother with this elitist and picky club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

I imagine HIM to be obese, with a straggly beard with the remains of his cheese sandwich in it and wearing skid marked y fronts and a filthy string vest

Trying to read the forums and watch porn through a cum splattered monitor screen "

Correct.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Mavis is just a troll guys !!

I imagine HIM to be obese, with a straggly beard with the remains of his cheese sandwich in it and wearing skid marked y fronts and a filthy string vest

Trying to read the forums and watch porn through a cum splattered monitor screen

Correct."

I think he was describing himself when he wrote that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

This

And Mavis is definitely all woman btw, a nice one at that.

I never said for any moment they can't choose who they like.

It's the attack that those of us who wouldn't get accepted or weren't keen on some of their policies will shag anyone that got me! "

My point is, it's the same as mailing someone on here and them saying no thank you. Then the rejected person getting all butthurt and saying "well I never wanted to fuck you anyway!"

So the people saying the club shouldn't be able to turn people away, is the same as saying people can't say "no thanks".

And if people can't say no thanks then the inference is that they should fuck anyone who asks.

It's a business. Their policies. People wanting to go there know their policies exist. They know they may be turned down- same as on here.

If the club gives a nasty reason, why are people then saying "well I wouldn't go there anyway!"

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

This

And Mavis is definitely all woman btw, a nice one at that.

I never said for any moment they can't choose who they like.

It's the attack that those of us who wouldn't get accepted or weren't keen on some of their policies will shag anyone that got me!

My point is, it's the same as mailing someone on here and them saying no thank you. Then the rejected person getting all butthurt and saying "well I never wanted to fuck you anyway!"

So the people saying the club shouldn't be able to turn people away, is the same as saying people can't say "no thanks".

And if people can't say no thanks then the inference is that they should fuck anyone who asks.

It's a business. Their policies. People wanting to go there know their policies exist. They know they may be turned down- same as on here.

If the club gives a nasty reason, why are people then saying "well I wouldn't go there anyway!"

We would never apply as we aren't what they're looking for and we know that!! We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea. Clubs can do what they want I never said otherwise.

I just don't like their attitudes towards trans people and same sex couples. Like having to prove they're married because the odd single guy might sneak in (which is what they said on their site but could just as easily happen with couples!!) Or having to prove you've had reassignment surgery to be accepted as trans (bit harsh and upsetting for a lot of people).

People can run their business how they see fit! They also cant complain if people criticise that because that's what people will do!!

To be honest clubs seem like a clique anyways no matter where you go!!

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Every day thousands of men, women and couples get rejected on here - imagine if everyone started a thread when that rejection hurt their ego!

And the few that have started such threads are always told to stop whining, accept it and move on.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I suppose in world where Love Island is seen as acceptable television as are all those other reality programmes where participants are based on their looks, then a club like LeBoudiour would exist.

In the year 2019 it is sad that people can defend a business that judges it clientele on looks. Yes there are clubs catering for specific preferences, but the big difference is that you don't get turned away from those clubs for not being in that category.

In terms of personal preference all reasonable people accept that we fall for what attracts us. That is acceptable for individuals but not for businesses, otherwise you go down the "no blacks, no Irish and no dogs" signs (no pun).

The other point made is that people are free to associate with who they like. Firstly (within certain legalities) that is the way of the world, secondly if you look at verifications it is clear on Fab that certain people only mix with who they perceive as being their own attractiveness anyway. Those who perceive themselves as good looking certainly do. As individuals it is their choice, but it is poor that a business works on that basis.

My upbringing was character counted rather than inherited money or genetic good looks. But the world of today has turned that upside down with a government full of Etonians and people like Kim Kardashian (who came to fame through Ray-J's sextape) making a fortune, so unfortunately LeBoudiour will thrive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every day thousands of men, women and couples get rejected on here - imagine if everyone started a thread when that rejection hurt their ego!

And the few that have started such threads are always told to stop whining, accept it and move on. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to le boudoir a number of times. It is not full of gorgeous people but quite normal people in our opinion. We are both over 50 and I (female) am by no means thin. We have also played with a very lovely TV there more than once. Always found the club friendly and welcoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been to le boudoir a number of times. It is not full of gorgeous people but quite normal people in our opinion. We are both over 50 and I (female) am by no means thin. We have also played with a very lovely TV there more than once. Always found the club friendly and welcoming.

I think the issue is they are not clear about their criteria so it ends in speculation. Other clubs that are selective don't have this issue as they are very clear what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue is they are not clear about their criteria so it ends in speculation. Other clubs that are selective don't have this issue as they are very clear what they are looking for. "

How is that different to people's profiles on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the mandatory registration form and ID on first entry we wouldn't bother with any club that asked us to jump through hoops to prove ourselves in anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue is they are not clear about their criteria so it ends in speculation. Other clubs that are selective don't have this issue as they are very clear what they are looking for.

How is that different to people's profiles on here?"

Because they are providing a service. It's totally different.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I've always enjoyed their soirées.

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

"I suppose in world where Love Island is seen as acceptable television as are all those other reality programmes where participants are based on their looks, then a club like LeBoudiour would exist.

Please tell me when this golden age was when people didn’t choose a casual screw on the basis of physical attraction? This is a swinging site, swinging clubs are for swinging. They are not the first place you consider when looking for a life partner. By now people know that LB selects and that you may get turned down. Arbitrarily? Possibly, but don’t whinge it’s you’re turned down and certainly don’t claim that you wouldn’t want to go anyway, you would have done which is why you applied. Move on

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"I suppose in world where Love Island is seen as acceptable television as are all those other reality programmes where participants are based on their looks, then a club like LeBoudiour would exist.

Err, I have never applied to LB, and so I have never been turned down.

It is a business and in the same way I don't buy the Sun I can still critical of its managements business ethics. In my books LB's criteria is unacceptable.

Secondly if you read my comments I stated:

"In terms of personal preference all reasonable people accept that we fall for what attracts us."

and

"The other point made is that people are free to associate with who they like. Firstly (within certain legalities) that is the way of the world, secondly if you look at verifications it is clear on Fab that certain people only mix with who they perceive as being their own attractiveness anyway."

So I am not sure you actually read my comments.

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By *eamgreen30 OP Couple
over a year ago

stroud

Wow lol I really started a debate here huh! Look at the end of the day I understand that each club has their own rules and they are absolutely entitled to accept who they like. I really don’t care that I can’t go to this club, we’re not even local. It was to be a one off because Mr B and I are visiting London for a couple of days next month lol. We regularly visit angels and enjoy it very much and have plans to visit chams and Xstaia in the future.

The point is that it’s quite shocking that if you don’t fit into someone else’s ideal you can be rejected based on a photograph. We all know that sometimes there can be a huge difference between what the pic shows and what reality is. I’m a fucking awesome bird I’ll have you know! Ok I May have a few piercings and a shit load of tattoos but I’m still amazing in bed and a generally cool person (if I do say so myself lol) and Mr B is an absolute stud as far as I’m concerned so to be rejected by narrow minded idiots it’s really not that big of a problem for us

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By *ig Beautiful BabesCouple
over a year ago

London

Mrs here. I was rejected a couple of years ago because I’m old fat and ugly hahahaha. Guess what - I actually don’t give a shit. Plenty of other places. Pink oyster parties rejected me but then the male host asked to meet me privately - told him to jog on.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"Mrs here. I was rejected a couple of years ago because I’m old fat and ugly hahahaha. Guess what - I actually don’t give a shit. Plenty of other places. Pink oyster parties rejected me but then the male host asked to meet me privately - told him to jog on. "

Don't worry, I am also old, fat and ugly in many people's books. The irony is that I do not even do clubs and only applied because guys I know kept asking me to go there with them.

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

“We run exclusive parties in a discreet South London location for select larger ladies and their genuine admirers. By larger ladies we mean true BBW over a size 18 ONLY!”

All sorts of criteria at clubs and parties. This lifestyle is where you can explore particular fantasies, or not depending on what floats your boat. You just need to move on and not whine if you are not accepted. I’ve been rejected many a time (too short, too old, too bald Even too young, although that was some time ago!)

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Jesus, I don't like the sound of this place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus, I don't like the sound of this place."

Sounds like a dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that was a fun thread, bit on the fence with this one, on the one hand it’s up to the owners who they let into a PRIVATE members club, just as we wouldn’t be allowed into a under 40’s night or a bi Male night or a gay club or at least not particularly welcome.

On the other hand arbitrarily judged someone just by a photo is not great......oh wait isn’t that what the majority of people do on fab!!! So suck it up

On a side note seem to be a fair few rejected for membership who live some distance away, maybe that is part of the criteria they use

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I don't really give a flying monkeys who LB invite to be members. I am sure they have their reasons and I am not sure many clubs are that inclusive. To have seperate nights for LGBT, BBW and BMFC hardly reeks of inclusivity. It reeks of, we only really want TVs or fatties once a month. It is not inclusive to charge single guys more money or limit their numbers.

I respect LB to be allowed to follow their conscience..

Members or potential members will vote with their feet.

I like men only golf clubs. I just wish those who moan would set up their own....

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By *hades Of GreyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

They have a lousy website!

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"They have a lousy website!

Did you see their multilingual section?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I respect LB to be allowed to follow their conscience..

Members or potential members will vote with their feet.

I like men only golf clubs. I just wish those who moan would set up their own...."

What?! BBW nights and BMFC do not discriminate! Inform yourself before talking.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"They have a lousy website!

Did you see their multilingual section?"

Is that a sort of group culliningus night ?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Personally don't see an issue: it's not a job application. When it comes to sex people can exclude whoever they want.

Human nature to take things personally I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why are people annoyed when they can't get in?

Just my opinion but I imagine because it's not very tasteful.

How would you feel if you rocked up to a pub or a club and they used the words 'You arent coming in you are too ugly/fat/etc'?

If you are happy to be told that then good for you, but I imagine itd be pretty hurtful for many people.

Having read this thread and taking into account the past issues its definitely not somewhere I'd like to attend even if I were accepted.

It's a bit like the number of times I've been blocked on sending a face pic. It's the way of things

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"They have a lousy website!

Did you see their multilingual section?

Is that a sort of group culliningus night ? "

I wish.

Have a look.

I am not even laughing.

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

I’ve always been put off from trying for membership due to their acceptance protocols. Now I’m not a bad looking lassie and have a decent figure, but it’s taken me nearly 40 years to like myself, I’m not ready for a pass/fail judgement from a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of a coincidence...

"If your names not down you're not coming in"!!

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

To be fair, they set out their stall. If your old or a male or female Shrek your not getting in. That will make it incredibly exclusive to the jet set professional couples who want something more exclusive... It offers something that most competitors don't and no shortage of exclusive couples in the capital..

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By *ser574Man
over a year ago

London

I think LB is overrated.

Although I've been there many times alone and with my ex the impression I have is they are trying to squeeze every penny you've got.

And I have seen people that can be easily considered as of low hygiene, looks and attitude

It s sad that it s the only club in central London so for me it's the only option

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I think LB is overrated.

Although I've been there many times alone and with my ex the impression I have is they are trying to squeeze every penny you've got.

I have to agree its overrated but more to the point many who go are well how do I put it.... up their own arses? Well that was my impression and lets face it its the people there who make it fun.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"To be fair, they set out their stall. If your old or a male or female Shrek your not getting in. That will make it incredibly exclusive to the jet set professional couples who want something more exclusive... It offers something that most competitors don't and no shortage of exclusive couples in the capital.. "

And the jet-set professional cabin crew with long legs.

The problem is, are they "exclusive" enough themselves to decide who is "exclusive"?

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By *ser574Man
over a year ago

London

"I think LB is overrated.

Although I've been there many times alone and with my ex the impression I have is they are trying to squeeze every penny you've got.

I have to agree its overrated but more to the point many who go are well how do I put it.... up their own arses? Well that was my impression and lets face it its the people there who make it fun. "

True. Hope the scene in Manchester is more interesting

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

So, to be clear no one is bothered that they got rejected from a club they applied to?

Ive been to a few, this is the best by far, It could have twice the number of guys on a Friday but it keeps numbers down.

Looks like everyone has found an environment they are happy too swim in - a win/win I’d say. Long may the LB nights continue, if i ever fancy a game of table football or catch up on Emmerdale Farm then i could always head out west.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do people cope when someone on here turns them down?

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By *ser574Man
over a year ago

London

"How do people cope when someone on here turns them down?

In the same way people who turn me down react...move to the next one

But lately I find it is a lot of work to make a connection with someone here. It s like the cold call business: you make 10 calls, you get interest from 2 and have a deal with 0.5

That's the reality of the matter for single males here and in the swinging world in general

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By *yster EaterMan
over a year ago

Reading

"We are both over 35 and have been members for some time. It's a great club and very successful too, so they must be doing something right. We love it there."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect LB to be allowed to follow their conscience..

Members or potential members will vote with their feet.

I like men only golf clubs. I just wish those who moan would set up their own....

What?! BBW nights and BMFC do not discriminate! Inform yourself before talking. "

We have seen on another website, a single white male refused to be put on the guest list for a bmfc night. He was a moderator on the other site and had used his personal log in to ask to go on the list. That seemed very discriminating. They said no one there would play with him. Again, not their place to say whether anyone there would have. As it happened he knew several people on the list and only wanted to attend socially to catch up. You may not be on the other site, or aware of what happened but consider yourself “informed”

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I respect LB to be allowed to follow their conscience..

Members or potential members will vote with their feet.

I like men only golf clubs. I just wish those who moan would set up their own....

What?! BBW nights and BMFC do not discriminate! Inform yourself before talking.

They would never say that. They must have said what they say on their website - that the women are unlikely to be interested or words to that effect, which are the honest truth.

As someone who has been going to BMFC and other similar events for years, I am well informed. I also know the much less popular events that do discriminate and that I do not set foot in. They will follow in the footsteps of other similar ones that did not pass the test of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect LB to be allowed to follow their conscience..

Members or potential members will vote with their feet.

I like men only golf clubs. I just wish those who moan would set up their own....

What?! BBW nights and BMFC do not discriminate! Inform yourself before talking.

They would never say that. They must have said what they say on their website - that the women are unlikely to be interested or words to that effect, which are the honest truth.

The have and they did. You may think you are well informed, but I know this for a fact happened. It is not for anyone to decide who plays with who, there may have been less interest but, who are the event organisers to suggest who may or may not be played with. This was easily five years ago, but it happened. Imagine what would happen if it was suggested to a none white person that if they attended on a club night that was a standard night, that the women there would not be interested because it wasn’t a bmfc night! The person in question was apologised to and he withdrew his request to attend and went to the other local club on the event night. I from memory believe the wording of the forum event post was changed and their website. I haven’t seen or heard of it happening since, and I am not suggesting it is a regular occurrence, just saying it definitely happened once and was very off putting.

Things may well have changed in the time since then and these nights are more open. But you can’t tell people to inform themselves and not have the full facts, as no matter how many years you have been to these sort of events, you can’t attend every single one. You may well have missed the one where that happened. Even the biggest expert on any subject in the world can get things wrong or miss things.

The better way of wording your post would have been that bbw and bbc nights are far more open and welcoming. Having been to BBW nights there are indeed people of all races, religions, sexualities and sizes, in attendance and all seemed welcomed. Although now I have said this there is bound to be someone pipe up and say that they were refused to attend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will definitely visit this club the next time, I’m in London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Groucho marx said.

" i wouldnt be a member of a club that would have me as a member"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I sue this club ?

If I’m rejected for membership...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I sue this club ?

If I’m rejected for membership..."

If you thought you were rejected from membership of a private club on the basis of race, gender, sexual orientation or some other protected characteristic under equality law you could, in theory, try to bring a case against the club, but then you'd have to prove it. In short, don't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I sue this club ?

If I’m rejected for membership...

What if it’s because I’m not attractive enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went a few months ago. No problem getting accepted. No idea why they refuse people.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"They have a lousy website!

Most swinging club sites do. The websites make C cringe as a web developer they stress him out haha

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"People have sex parties and choose who to invite. It's their club and their rules. They can allow whoever they like in.

I guess you all fuck whoever asks, good for you!

Why are you so rude when people disagree with you! "

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Why not concentrate on where you can go, rather than where you can't?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

If you think the process is unfair and judgemental why did you apply in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I sue this club ?

If I’m rejected for membership...

What if it’s because I’m not attractive enough?"

You could see it as a business opportunity and set up a club for all the rejected. Call it Les Miserable! - and put me down as a founder member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stick too chams people where the real people are "

Totally awesome club..

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I respect LB to be allowed to follow their conscience..

Members or potential members will vote with their feet.

I like men only golf clubs. I just wish those who moan would set up their own....

What?! BBW nights and BMFC do not discriminate! Inform yourself before talking.

They would never say that. They must have said what they say on their website - that the women are unlikely to be interested or words to that effect, which are the honest truth.

Fair enough. And yes, I know black men who were refused entry to some of the more remote clubs.

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By *tickyPollCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

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hubby and I are over 35 and are members of LB . If they don’t want you as member, they need to go to spec savers!!!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

They keep begging me to join them but as I keep explaining to them they don't fit my criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They keep begging me to join them but as I keep explaining to them they don't fit my criteria."

Haha,love this

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By *BWarksCouple
over a year ago

warwick

We’ve been to this club a few times and quite like it , will no doubt go again when in town

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

Might just apply now to see if the rejection confirms our fears that we are simply middle aged with "parent" bods. Non gender specific there, see what we did? We embrace inclusivity, fuck we might even go vegan. Oh to be young and attractive again.

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By *eachSchnappsCouple
over a year ago

somewhere where the sun is always shining

Got rejected but don’t care as was in London on a off and looking for somewhere to go. Went to Rios had a good laugh. Age deffo against us lol Personality is more important. W’ed boycott the place and not support it. Plenty of better places to go too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect LB to be allowed to follow their conscience..

Members or potential members will vote with their feet.

I like men only golf clubs. I just wish those who moan would set up their own....

What?! BBW nights and BMFC do not discriminate! Inform yourself before talking.

They would never say that. They must have said what they say on their website - that the women are unlikely to be interested or words to that effect, which are the honest truth.

Fair enough. And yes, I know black men who were refused entry to some of the more remote clubs."

Which is wrong, completely wrong. If club’s welcomed everybody every night, there wouldn’t need to be specific nights that specific people would attend and then anyone can find what they want any night they can go x

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

""I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

Nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can you boycott it if they won't let you in?

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By *eachSchnappsCouple
over a year ago

somewhere where the sun is always shining

Good point lol maybe those rejected on grounds of ageism should get together and launch legal action. x

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Got rejected but don’t care as was in London on a off and looking for somewhere to go. Went to Rios had a good laugh. Age deffo against us lol Personality is more important. W’ed boycott the place and not support it. Plenty of better places to go too."
. If you can travel or willing to travel then I take your word that there are better places to go and looking at the club reviews pages that are plenty of clubs outside London that have lots of fabulous reviews there is no reason to doubt your word.The flip side for some of us in London or can’t travel or not willing to travel is we have Le Boudior and OP4F which are members only clubs so you have to apply and be accepted and Rios which for a single guy can be hit and miss.At first I was disappointed that I was rejected as I prefer local but I have accepted it and now attend OP4F and Rios which are easy for me to get to.

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By *eamgreen30 OP Couple
over a year ago

stroud

How can you boycott it if they won't let you in?"

Why are you so defensive? I mean, you sent me a private message to apologise if you’d offended me the other day with your comment to which I replied no but now you’re starting to piss me off! Jog on with your crappy attitude. Go troll a different post or something. If you really had any balls you wouldn’t have a hidden profile unless you’ve just blocked me in which case you’re still a coward.

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By *eamgreen30 OP Couple
over a year ago

stroud

"Clearly the butthurt is strong.

They can have whoever they like in their club. They said no. Why cry about it?

If you think the process is unfair and judgemental why did you apply in the first place? "

Because I wanted to go to the club. I’ve never had to send a picture for a membership before anywhere and if that’s how they judge who can and can’t be allowed in then it’s an unfair process. We’re all a little bit fickle and self absorbed or we wouldn’t be on a site like fab in the first place. Swinging is like a frivolous activity and so when you hear of an amazing club that’s classy and exciting you apply despite knowing that it’s a gamble because let’s face it, you want to be one of the chosen ones.

I gambled and failed. Never mind I’ll move on the next club lol. Xtasia and chams are our next adventures I think.

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By *eachSchnappsCouple
over a year ago

somewhere where the sun is always shining

Applied to OP4F no probs. Have applied elsewhere no probs. Have been around the world no probs. Applied to LB got rejected lol Heard it’s a small place anyway. If in London the new kestrels sounds FAB go there. More space better facilities x

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

"Applied to OP4F no probs. Have applied elsewhere no probs. Have been around the world no probs. Applied to LB got rejected lol Heard it’s a small place anyway. If in London the new kestrels sounds FAB go there. More space better facilities x"

It’s larger than OP4F and smaller than Kestrels. It doesn’t have table football or a pool table, an essential addition in any self respecting swingers club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can you boycott it if they won't let you in?

I wasn't replying to your post. Why are you so angry?

I wish people would stop mentioning my balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if I could sue a couple or female for rejecting me after I sent a face pic on Fab....

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

We are members and we are old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are members and we are old. "

You definitely don’t look old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s larger than OP4F and smaller than Kestrels. It doesn’t have table football or a pool table, an essential addition in any self respecting swingers club "

Quite right! Table footie done properly is a deeply erotic experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s larger than OP4F and smaller than Kestrels. It doesn’t have table football or a pool table, an essential addition in any self respecting swingers club

Quite right! Table footie done properly is a deeply erotic experience

Table football screams high class establishment...

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

It was that thread rather than the policy that put me off the club even though I have a number of friends who rate it"

Exactly my thought too. I was surprisingly accepted just over three years ago and went one night soon after. Had a great time, I must admit, but didn't go again (nothing to do with the club) until after my membership had expired.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

It was that thread rather than the policy that put me off the club even though I have a number of friends who rate it

I was seriously contemplating renewing it (or whatever the process is) and then saw that thread. Despite having no major problem with them choosing who they want, I totally agree that the attitude of the owner was appalling and decided not to bother. I suspect I wouldn't have 'made the cut' this time anyway."
. I remember the thread the owners and some of the regulars did not come across very well.I also remember the OP kept on pushing for a answer when perhaps it would have been best to have left alone after all if we get rejected most of us just accept it and move on.I have applied twice and been rejected twice so I don’t think I will apply again.Perhaps you should apply and if you make the cut as you put it start a thread saying that there is still hope for the older generation at Le Boudior

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

It was that thread rather than the policy that put me off the club even though I have a number of friends who rate it

I was seriously contemplating renewing it (or whatever the process is) and then saw that thread. Despite having no major problem with them choosing who they want, I totally agree that the attitude of the owner was appalling and decided not to bother. I suspect I wouldn't have 'made the cut' this time anyway.. I remember the thread the owners and some of the regulars did not come across very well.I also remember the OP kept on pushing for a answer when perhaps it would have been best to have left alone after all if we get rejected most of us just accept it and move on.I have applied twice and been rejected twice so I don’t think I will apply again.Perhaps you should apply and if you make the cut as you put it start a thread saying that there is still hope for the older generation at Le Boudior "

Haha, I might just do that. I'd have zero emotional issue being rejected so have nothing to lose. If the owner were to see this, though, I suspect what little chance I had would vanish very quickly

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

It was that thread rather than the policy that put me off the club even though I have a number of friends who rate it

I was seriously contemplating renewing it (or whatever the process is) and then saw that thread. Despite having no major problem with them choosing who they want, I totally agree that the attitude of the owner was appalling and decided not to bother. I suspect I wouldn't have 'made the cut' this time anyway.. I remember the thread the owners and some of the regulars did not come across very well.I also remember the OP kept on pushing for a answer when perhaps it would have been best to have left alone after all if we get rejected most of us just accept it and move on.I have applied twice and been rejected twice so I don’t think I will apply again.Perhaps you should apply and if you make the cut as you put it start a thread saying that there is still hope for the older generation at Le Boudior

Haha, I might just do that. I'd have zero emotional issue being rejected so have nothing to lose. If the owner were to see this, though, I suspect what little chance I had would vanish very quickly

"
. Looking at the club reviews for the last 2 months there are a two from single guys 45 - 50 one off who is a regular by the look of his reviews as well as couple which perhaps will give some the confidence to apply and hopefully be accepted.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Wow. Shocking. Both several comments and the vetting in my opinion.

Judgemental. Exactly the quality I teach my daughter NOT to be

Never known a pub to do it.

Regardless though it IS judgemental whoever does it and I'd purposely stay away. Not a very redeeming quality

Pubs do it all the time - well where we live - no trainers, dress codes etc... it’s all vetting

And this is why certain people like to frequent such places I guess, a certain standard which they expect

Whether it be right or wrong, just how it is

I remember that thread and the owners attitude was pretty vile. The regulars defending his comments rather than letting him get on with it didn't come across too great either.

It was that thread rather than the policy that put me off the club even though I have a number of friends who rate it

I was seriously contemplating renewing it (or whatever the process is) and then saw that thread. Despite having no major problem with them choosing who they want, I totally agree that the attitude of the owner was appalling and decided not to bother. I suspect I wouldn't have 'made the cut' this time anyway.. I remember the thread the owners and some of the regulars did not come across very well.I also remember the OP kept on pushing for a answer when perhaps it would have been best to have left alone after all if we get rejected most of us just accept it and move on.I have applied twice and been rejected twice so I don’t think I will apply again.Perhaps you should apply and if you make the cut as you put it start a thread saying that there is still hope for the older generation at Le Boudior

Haha, I might just do that. I'd have zero emotional issue being rejected so have nothing to lose. If the owner were to see this, though, I suspect what little chance I had would vanish very quickly

. Looking at the club reviews for the last 2 months there are a two from single guys 45 - 50 one off who is a regular by the look of his reviews as well as couple which perhaps will give some the confidence to apply and hopefully be accepted."

Trying to be careful how I 'tread' here, but I don't think it's just about age. Anyway, we'll see.

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By *eachSchnappsCouple
over a year ago

somewhere where the sun is always shining

By the sounds of it is very subjective and not a consistent result. x

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By *atonMan
over a year ago

barnet

Same experience..ageist club ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people."

Me too x

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By *atonMan
over a year ago

barnet

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

Me too x"
I concur ...went to a killing kittens gig once ..yes lots of beautiful people but the most vacuous empty intellectually bereft food fighting ,posh morons .

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By *eachSchnappsCouple
over a year ago

somewhere where the sun is always shining

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By *eachSchnappsCouple
over a year ago

somewhere where the sun is always shining

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

Me too x"

Love it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

Me too xI concur ...went to a killing kittens gig once ..yes lots of beautiful people but the most vacuous empty intellectually bereft food fighting ,posh morons . "

If that's how you feel about them, why did you go? Or did you only start calling them names when they'd turned you down?

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By *eachSchnappsCouple
over a year ago

somewhere where the sun is always shining

Don’t think they did get in hence the post x

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By *atonMan
over a year ago

barnet

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

Me too xI concur ...went to a killing kittens gig once ..yes lots of beautiful people but the most vacuous empty intellectually bereft food fighting ,posh morons .

If that's how you feel about them, why did you go? Or did you only start calling them names when they'd turned you down?

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well I didnt know what they were like till I went and I wasnt turned down ..what a breathtakingly stupid response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

Me too xI concur ...went to a killing kittens gig once ..yes lots of beautiful people but the most vacuous empty intellectually bereft food fighting ,posh morons .

If that's how you feel about them, why did you go? Or did you only start calling them names when they'd turned you down?

Which KK event did you go to?

well I didnt know what they were like till I went and I wasnt turned down ..what a breathtakingly stupid response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

Me too xI concur ...went to a killing kittens gig once ..yes lots of beautiful people but the most vacuous empty intellectually bereft food fighting ,posh morons .

If that's how you feel about them, why did you go? Or did you only start calling them names when they'd turned you down?

well I didnt know what they were like till I went and I wasnt turned down ..what a breathtakingly stupid response

I do apologise for my breathtaking stupidity. You called them vacuous empty intellectually bereft food fighting posh morons. The people you meet are very lucky to have such compliments thrown their way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny - I find sexy is an attitude not a look. I’d much prefer a club with fun average looking people than a club full of beautiful but dull people.

Me too xI concur ...went to a killing kittens gig once ..yes lots of beautiful people but the most vacuous empty intellectually bereft food fighting ,posh morons .

If that's how you feel about them, why did you go? Or did you only start calling them names when they'd turned you down?

well I didnt know what they were like till I went and I wasnt turned down ..what a breathtakingly stupid response

What were you expecting though? Your comments are quite venomous and while they are clearly extreme to make your point KK does have a reputation for attracting a certain stereotype of clientele

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg who the hell wants to be a member with such awful rules as that urghhh

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