FabSwingers.com forum: Sums this site up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they used to meet straight men, but have since changed to only meeting bi

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

Maybe that's just how they want that particular party to go?

You'll find all sorts of frustration on here mate, but it's everybody's choice how they go about fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!"

Whats confusing?

Their party will be an organised affair, and if they're even half decent at arranging events, there will be careful balancing of the numbers of couples, single women and (possibly) TVs on the guest list. Events are organised in such a way to prevent things turning into a sausage fest, and to make sure there's a good ratio of different genders to keep things interesting for everyone.

Just because they have been verified by single men outside their events doesn't mean they're required to make any and all events open to single men.

Hope that clarifies things for you.

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

Also the veri may have changed his orientation since they met. You'll spin into the ground if you over-analyse this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!"

That profile could of changed their sexuality after the meet. Men do that a lot on here. Either that or after playing with a 'straight' guy they have decided it's not worth it

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

Don't let it get to you too much! Life is too short and all that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi the veri was from someone who ATTENDED one of their events recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar thing with a couple on here.

Profile says no single guys but all but one of the 10+ veris is from single guys??

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

"Hi the veri was from someone who ATTENDED one of their events recently"

Maybe he didn't like it and it scared him straight.

Move on OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi the veri was from someone who ATTENDED one of their events recently"

Like people have said try to ignore it and move on. There could a few reasons why they were invited but either way it doesn't change their current preferences. You could try your luck with them but don't be upset if they shut you down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From the profile which is very long I would say they arn`t new to swinging or Bi preferences,as for trying my luck.

i wouldn't do that with them or anybody on here I read their profiles 1st and if i do not suit for whatever reason i do NOT contact them.

As a user of this site over many years seen changes all for the worst,as for just moving on and not over anglicizing,thats the issue with this site you cant believe whats written so do you ignore it and PESTER people or be honest from the start.

The trend seems to be to ignore profiles message everyone more than once and say what you thing the recipient wants to hear.

Bring back the good old days when this was a swinging site and your messages got answered even with a no thanks.

Or i`am i just getting old lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I think what your saying is fair. The site has probably changed over the years in a way where people are less open about what they want. I think too many people have been burned so most act cautiously.

It's also probably because of the sheer number of users on here that send copy and paste messages to couples ect. They are trying to filter out the bad.

I don't know the profile your talking about but the worse that could happen from messaging them is a rejection. It's not pestering of you ask once and then leave it.

Just don't throw abuse after

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I cant message them they have blocked single guys,I wouldn't chance my arm with them anyway.

As i play by the rules etc maybe thats the rub maybe i shouldn't.

The point i was making was the have a VERY VERY CLEAR profile stating what they want and its long and established.

But when you check the Verification the very 1st one and the latest is form a single ST8 male.

In complete contradiction to their own profile.

People moan on here about pestered by guys,unwanted messages,unwanted friends requests etc etc so when you read a profile like this which is isolated is it not a wonder that guys on here ignore them

maybe I`am dying breed of guys on here who understand the word "no" can handle rejection and actually read the profiles 1st and play by the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!"

There party there rules - and guess what they get to invite anyone one they like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guess you didn't read my last post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their*****

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I cant message them they have blocked single guys,I wouldn't chance my arm with them anyway.

As i play by the rules etc maybe thats the rub maybe i shouldn't.

The point i was making was the have a VERY VERY CLEAR profile stating what they want and its long and established.

But when you check the Verification the very 1st one and the latest is form a single ST8 male.

In complete contradiction to their own profile.

People moan on here about pestered by guys,unwanted messages,unwanted friends requests etc etc so when you read a profile like this which is isolated is it not a wonder that guys on here ignore them

maybe I`am dying breed of guys on here who understand the word "no" can handle rejection and actually read the profiles 1st and play by the rules.

Yeah people seem to do things differently now. They won't say if they want single men on their profiles because they get flooded with hundreds of messages a day. In this situation I say let them approach you if there interested.

It is a contradiction but a lot of people do this now so they don't have a full inbox everyday. A profile now seems to be a vetting screen to deter the majority/bad men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I cant message them they have blocked single guys,I wouldn't chance my arm with them anyway.

As i play by the rules etc maybe thats the rub maybe i shouldn't.

The point i was making was the have a VERY VERY CLEAR profile stating what they want and its long and established.

But when you check the Verification the very 1st one and the latest is form a single ST8 male.

In complete contradiction to their own profile.

People moan on here about pestered by guys,unwanted messages,unwanted friends requests etc etc so when you read a profile like this which is isolated is it not a wonder that guys on here ignore them

maybe I`am dying breed of guys on here who understand the word "no" can handle rejection and actually read the profiles 1st and play by the rules.

You seem to be massively overthinking this.

Clearly they're meeting who they want to meet, how they want to meet.

Why are you getting so upset over this?

It may well be that they have a block on single straight men messaging them to prevent an avalanche of shit messages, but they have messaged individual guys who have caught their eye who have then been invited to join them and verify them. It happens.

You say you can't handle rejection, but you sure seem to be taking this couple's choices of meet personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok then don`t put a verification on your profile that contradicts it!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!"

Why take it personally! Plus...

They don't need to justify why a certain group won't be there.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not personnel as previous stated i always read profile 1st take what they say and if i do not match i do not contact them.

The point i was making was the quality of profiles on here compared to a few years ago and the contradictory statements between profiles and verification's.

If your a guy who like me understands the scene and can read before making an approach.

Who do i approach do i take what they say literally (which judging by the threads from women and couples thats what they want) or do i like many guys on here ignore it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok then don`t put a verification on your profile that contradicts it!!!!!!"

People can put whatever verifications they want on their profile. I certainly do.

Sexuality is fluid. People can go through phases of wanting to experiment, may get an urge to play bi once in a blue moon, may try something then decide it's not for them... don't police people on fab fun they're having and you're not. It's not a good look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!

Why take it personally! Plus...

They don't need to justify why a certain group won't be there..... "

What more do you want... As you've said they've blocked single guys. So none of you waste your time messaging....

Sounds like you are miffed you can't go lol

Loads of parties around, keep on searching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I understand where you're coming from.

The main point here is people don't use there profiles with their clear intentions anymore. If they want to meet single guys then they get too many messages so they have to take measures to stop that.

They are the minority on here so if you want to meet them you have to show what my interest them and let them decide. The ball is in their court.

That is how the site is now and that will be the majority of profiles so it's up to you if want to continue with the situation how it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!

Why take it personally! Plus...

They don't need to justify why a certain group won't be there.....

What more do you want... As you've said they've blocked single guys. So none of you waste your time messaging....

Sounds like you are miffed you can't go lol

Loads of parties around, keep on searching

You don't seem to understand his point.

He isn't saying I should have a right to go ect. He is saying their profile says no single guys but they meet single guys.

That's it. I understand that is how it is on here but he's probably been on here for a long time so back then it was all open and honest on profiles before the site was flooded with men.

Not everyone is a grumpy oldan throwing their toys out of the pram.

I could be wrong though, just my view of the situation

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just move on to the profiles that are looking for guys like you, don't get angry or focus too much on the ones that don't. Fab is what you make it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks bicurious27 you get what I`am saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Similar thing with a couple on here.

Profile says no single guys but all but one of the 10+ veris is from single guys??

That's easy though, they don't want messages from single guys but look for their own!

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

Remember, if you choose not to receive messages from single guys, the site automatically puts up the 'not looking for single guys' tag.

So while they might want to meet and play with a straight guy, they want to do it on their terms and not be deluged with a million messages.

It's not that difficult to understand surely?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand fully how the site works the point i made in earlier post that this Guy who is ST8 attended their Party.

Call me old fashioned but if a couple state on their profile that they do not meet single guys and ONLY Bi people,and their profile is Very clear in block capitols that reinforces that.

Does that mean we should ignore what ever on profiles

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I understand fully how the site works the point i made in earlier post that this Guy who is ST8 attended their Party.

Call me old fashioned but if a couple state on their profile that they do not meet single guys and ONLY Bi people,and their profile is Very clear in block capitols that reinforces that.

Does that mean we should ignore what ever on profiles"

How do you know the guy in question didn't change his profile to straight after he attended the party or left the veri? Many guys here flip flop their sexuality to fit with profiles looking for a specific thing.

It never ceases to amaze me how much time people spend worrying about what other people have on their profiles or how others choose to use Fab - life's too short and all that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now there is a confession couples take note when you state on your profiles you do not meet Bi guys!

As the profile which again maybe old fashioned is the gateway to what that member is looking for you would expect to read it and understand the contents and act accordingly.

So the policy would be to ignore profiles

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

I would take what they said as a polite no thanks. Forget it and move on as you're winding yourself up over what other people are doing

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As the profile which again maybe old fashioned is the gateway to what that member is looking for you would expect to read it and understand the contents and act accordingly.

So the policy would be to ignore profiles "

Not sure how you draw that conclusion? If you want to choose to ignore a profile it's of course your prerogative, but don't be surprised if it gets you nowhere.

Like I said, pointless worrying about how other people choose to use the site, just focus on how you do

P.S. if you use the reply + quote button people will know who you're replying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now there is a confession couples take note when you state on your profiles you do not meet Bi guys!

As the profile which again maybe old fashioned is the gateway to what that member is looking for you would expect to read it and understand the contents and act accordingly.

So the policy would be to ignore profiles"

...I don't understand what it is you're not getting about this, or why you're so hung up on this.

You say you can handle rejection fine, but you really seem to be getting yourself worked up over this whole "Couples using Fab preferences to screen out the guys they don't want" thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand fully how the site works the point i made in earlier post that this Guy who is ST8 attended their Party.

Call me old fashioned but if a couple state on their profile that they do not meet single guys and ONLY Bi people,and their profile is Very clear in block capitols that reinforces that.

Does that mean we should ignore what ever on profiles"

We does it bother you so much? He was fab straight I expect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As the profile which again maybe old fashioned is the gateway to what that member is looking for you would expect to read it and understand the contents and act accordingly.

So the policy would be to ignore profiles

Not sure how you draw that conclusion? If you want to choose to ignore a profile it's of course your prerogative, but don't be surprised if it gets you nowhere.

Like I said, pointless worrying about how other people choose to use the site, just focus on how you do

P.S. if you use the reply + quote button people will know who you're replying to"

The point i was making I use the site as it is intended to meet like minded people however if their profile says one thing but the verification's contradict it should i ignore the profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I understand fully how the site works the point i made in earlier post that this Guy who is ST8 attended their Party.

Call me old fashioned but if a couple state on their profile that they do not meet single guys and ONLY Bi people,and their profile is Very clear in block capitols that reinforces that.

Does that mean we should ignore what ever on profiles

We does it bother you so much? He was fab straight I expect

Perhaps because I`am straight forward,genuine and see what i read

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

How can one couples profile sum up the whole of fab and its tens of thousands of members

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As the profile which again maybe old fashioned is the gateway to what that member is looking for you would expect to read it and understand the contents and act accordingly.

So the policy would be to ignore profiles

Not sure how you draw that conclusion? If you want to choose to ignore a profile it's of course your prerogative, but don't be surprised if it gets you nowhere.

Like I said, pointless worrying about how other people choose to use the site, just focus on how you do

P.S. if you use the reply + quote button people will know who you're replying to

The point i was making I use the site as it is intended to meet like minded people however if their profile says one thing but the verification's contradict it should i ignore the profile "

But as I showed it's very possible the verifications didn't contradict at all - just someone changed their sexuality.

You are right about one thing though - you *should* ignore the profile, as in pass it by and not contact it - if it doesn't match up with what you are looking for, or you don't match what they state they are looking for, there is no point contacting it.

There's also less point fretting about how others choose to run their profiles - just move along to one whose requirements you do meet - it really *is* that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand fully how the site works the point i made in earlier post that this Guy who is ST8 attended their Party.

Call me old fashioned but if a couple state on their profile that they do not meet single guys and ONLY Bi people,and their profile is Very clear in block capitols that reinforces that.

Does that mean we should ignore what ever on profiles

We does it bother you so much? He was fab straight I expect

Perhaps because I`am straight forward,genuine and see what i read"

They run parties, who's to say who they invite to their parties it's more than likely to be totally different to what they look for in their own personal meets ... just pass on by, you seem to be awfully bothered by something you have no control over! You don't fit their requirements but the other guys did!

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Maybe they should just not display their veris, like you OP...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As the profile which again maybe old fashioned is the gateway to what that member is looking for you would expect to read it and understand the contents and act accordingly.

So the policy would be to ignore profiles

Not sure how you draw that conclusion? If you want to choose to ignore a profile it's of course your prerogative, but don't be surprised if it gets you nowhere.

Like I said, pointless worrying about how other people choose to use the site, just focus on how you do

P.S. if you use the reply + quote button people will know who you're replying to

The point i was making I use the site as it is intended to meet like minded people however if their profile says one thing but the verification's contradict it should i ignore the profile

But as I showed it's very possible the verifications didn't contradict at all - just someone changed their sexuality.

There's also less point fretting about how others choose to run their profiles - just move along to one whose requirements you do meet - it really *is* that simple."

Perhaps because I`am straight forward,genuine and see what i read

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they should just not display their veris, like you OP...

At last a piece of good advice takes all the confusion out and returns the site to some sanity.

What a sarcastic sod i am no offence meant

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Maybe they should just not display their veris, like you OP...

At last a piece of good advice takes all the confusion out and returns the site to some sanity.

What a sarcastic sod i am no offence meant"

Perhaps you missed the irony... None taken

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

If they are party organisers then maybe they don’t use their personal profile for guests list.. they may use the forum!!!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As the profile which again maybe old fashioned is the gateway to what that member is looking for you would expect to read it and understand the contents and act accordingly.

So the policy would be to ignore profiles

Not sure how you draw that conclusion? If you want to choose to ignore a profile it's of course your prerogative, but don't be surprised if it gets you nowhere.

Like I said, pointless worrying about how other people choose to use the site, just focus on how you do

P.S. if you use the reply + quote button people will know who you're replying to

The point i was making I use the site as it is intended to meet like minded people however if their profile says one thing but the verification's contradict it should i ignore the profile

But as I showed it's very possible the verifications didn't contradict at all - just someone changed their sexuality.

There's also less point fretting about how others choose to run their profiles - just move along to one whose requirements you do meet - it really *is* that simple.

Perhaps because I`am straight forward,genuine and see what i read"

If you're as straight forward as you suggest you'd accept that you didn't fit their criteria and realise there is absolutely no point in trying to analyse it or worry about it.

Ultimately it was these people's party and up to them completely who they invited.

Put it another way - if you held a party I am sure you would pick and choose who you wanted present, and wouldn't want just anyone to attend - absolutely no difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're as straight forward as you suggest you'd accept that you didn't fit their criteria and realise there is absolutely no point in trying to analyse it or worry about it.

Ultimately it was these people's party and up to them completely who they invited.

Put it another way - if you held a party I am sure you would pick and choose who you wanted present, and wouldn't want just anyone to attend - absolutely no difference "

This this this this this.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Just checked party for November for Bi people run by Bi Couple alas no single guys allowed frustrating but Ok.

However reading their profile which i always do (strange i know) makes it VERY clear in capitals that they do not meet anyone with ST8 profile you have to be Bi.

Then looked at their Veris and the very 1st one was from a single guy who is also ST8.

Confused soon will be!!"

Maybe he changed his profile from bi to straight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok then don`t put a verification on your profile that contradicts it!!!!!!"

Some bi men lie and say they're straight.

Today they may want to meet bi men. Tomorrow they may want to meet just couples.

Just because they have a veri from a man today, doesn't mean they want to meet men tomorrow.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Similar thing with a couple on here.

Profile says no single guys but all but one of the 10+ veris is from single guys??

Some put that to stop single guys inundating them with messages and then they contact males when required. I’ve had several couples contact me for meets that says “no males” on their profile.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Similar thing with a couple on here.

Profile says no single guys but all but one of the 10+ veris is from single guys??

Some put that to stop single guys inundating them with messages and then they contact males when required. I’ve had several couples contact me for meets that says “no males” on their profile.

I'm looking for single guys, just had to apply filters to stop them messaging about the social when it states twice on my profile about posting on the forum

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Organise your own party for straight folk.

That’ll show them pesky bi wierdo’s

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