FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging vs ‘open relationship’

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, what would you say is the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe, if you’re swinging, that you play with others together and that there is an expectation that your partners also enjoy recreational sex with multiple partners. That you may also go to clubs and attend socials, be part of the scene.

Before anyone shoots me down, yes of course you can swing by playing separately.

Good question and I look forward to seeing other interpretations.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

An open relationship feels like it relates more to polyamory. Not reaching it but getting closer. They start to include more emotional connections, rather than keeping it more simple fun in the swinging world. Not for me. I know who I love and want to spend the rest of my life with.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I see swinging as we meet others both together and alone,but there is no emotional connection or dates .

Open relationships i would say there are feelings involved and its more than friendship/fun that is had on here.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there is; they're one in the same as far as I can tell. Admittedly swinging would be the broader term, and an open relationship could be a category within in that umbrella.

Though I imagine that everyone has their own interpretations.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Either a cop out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, what would you say is the difference?

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a relationship is a commitment to someone swinging is anything goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, what would you say is the difference?

a relationship is a commitment to someone swinging is anything goes

Who's to say you can't be committed to a person and also swing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, what would you say is the difference?

a relationship is a commitment to someone swinging is anything goes

Who's to say you can't be committed to a person and also swing?

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the person you are committed to maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, what would you say is the difference?

a relationship is a commitment to someone swinging is anything goes

Who's to say you can't be committed to a person and also swing?

the person you are committed to maybe "

Surely if you're committed to a person then you both have a say in any goings on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, what would you say is the difference?

a relationship is a commitment to someone swinging is anything goes

Who's to say you can't be committed to a person and also swing?

the person you are committed to maybe

Surely if you're committed to a person then you both have a say in any goings on."
of course

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

In my mind swinging is purely sexual, with no emotional ties to anyone else but you partner.

And an open relationship, could possibly involve emotional attachment.

I do imagine a lot of people use them interchangeably, some people don't like the term swinger so would use open relationship instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, what would you say is the difference?

Is it not all in the word, relationship?

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

R had an open relationship with her ex but prefers swinging, which we did right from the start. In an open relationship you're usually one-on-one with others, but with swinging you're almost always together when with others. We both love watching the other one!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’d say that you’re more likely to discuss EVERYTHING in swinging as it’s more a partnership and look to your OH for their ‘consent’ to go ahead with the meet whereas an open relationship is more an individual route of choosing who you date and when. Living that part of your life and decisions separately

I don’t think I’ve explained that very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d say that you’re more likely to discuss EVERYTHING in swinging as it’s more a partnership and look to your OH for their ‘consent’ to go ahead with the meet whereas an open relationship is more an individual route of choosing who you date and when. Living that part of your life and decisions separately

I don’t think I’ve explained that very well "
i think either style has to be one of discussion or they wont work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in an open relationship.... but I’d class it as we can’t both go and play together as someone needs to be home with the kid! When we get a night off we will occasionally go to a club so we can play together. We just have fun with other people. There isn’t any feelings involved (obviously good to get on with someone) but that’s it. Me and my husband are very much in love but we like to have fun with each other, other people, or all together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see swinging as fun, we have a laugh but there is no emotional connection with the people we play with.

We are in a 100% committed relationship, in my opinion an open relationship is the sex and an emotional connection

I am happy to have fun swinging with my Mr but I would not want an emotional connection to develop with the people we swing with that would be too far

We find what we do hot but only love each other I think that’s when a line is crossed when it goes from an act to feelings/emotions getting involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The big turn on for us both is watching each other with other people. In that respect its totally different to an open relationship where people fuck other ppl independent of one another. Swinging for us is about pure love and trust. I think an open relationship indicates they may be bored of one another xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see swinging as we meet others both together and alone,but there is no emotional connection or dates .

Open relationships i would say there are feelings involved and its more than friendship/fun that is had on here.

Miss"

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"Either a cop out"

So swinging is not for you then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The big turn on for us both is watching each other with other people. In that respect its totally different to an open relationship where people fuck other ppl independent of one another. Swinging for us is about pure love and trust. I think an open relationship indicates they may be bored of one another xx"

I think many in an open relationship aren’t bored but are polyamorous and can have multiple connections. We don’t have an open relationship but many successful ones exist and like swinging isn’t indicative of a lack of love or trust often it’s quite the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Either a cop out"

How is it a cop out? Swinging is about non-monogamy. Many couples are very much in love and it’s an add on to a happy marriage.

Sounds like you’re not into swinging? Lol - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh i can see that view point. Its not a massive step away from swinging i guess although it would be a step too far for us! X

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By *lubberMan
over a year ago

Rothwell

Swinging is one off experiences that both of you take part in together. Open relationship is you do your own thing at your own time irrelevant of your partner but not without them knowing.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

There are many ways to describe a relationship where people have sex with other people not just the two and for every couple its different. Its best not to get too obsessed over labelling things.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

The way I see it, an "open" relationship is a broad term which includes

- Swinging - mainly meeting others for sex

- Poly - actual relationships with other people in addition to sex

Sex is still central to everything but there's additional baggage (or lack of it) depending on whether you swing or go poly

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

To me its swinging is more something you share together as a couple with other people (although not necessarily at the same time or in the same room) and an open relationship is where you share something that is a totally separate enterpise with another partner/s. But there are many shades of relationship/setups. Lots of people have different interpretations. What's matters is whatever you do is fair and ethical with all in involved.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Either a cop out"

How is it a cop out...

Either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us swinging is something we do together. It's fun, we always have a great time with whoever we are with but then we go home and it's just the 2 of us again. We don't want to get emotionally involved with anyone else which I think would then constitute an open relationship. We are in love with each other and committed so swinging is something we explore together and enjoy immensely without any complicated extra emotions thrown in xx

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"In my mind swinging is purely sexual, with no emotional ties to anyone else but you partner.

And an open relationship, could possibly involve emotional attachment.

I do imagine a lot of people use them interchangeably, some people don't like the term swinger so would use open relationship instead."

What he said

For me swinging is our rules, sex on top of our relationship. We don't cross boundaries, we do it together and make sure we are both enjoying the moment. I suppose it's each to their own. Open relationships take it beyond sex, pure pleasure and fun. An emotionally envolved relationship is formed one on one and that's not for us kinks xx

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