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Couples - what sort of single men do you invite along?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wonder if there's any consensus among those couples out there who want to add a man into the mix - which sort of men & messages turn your heads?

It's all academic, of course.

I seem to be as unexciting to couples as I am to single women on here. But you can't blame a man for trying to gain the advantage

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

We aren’t the most experienced, but we don’t have a type. For us it’s a matter when the planets align; we need to have the time, be in the mood, have the opportunity and have someone we connect with.

I think guys think that just because one of us is online that we are looking for sex... but we are in our 40’s... I was just checking out a book review on the forum

Mr.T

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

a guy who "gets it". We like a man to understand that he's an equal in the dynamic and have a mature attitude.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

If me and my partner were looking for a single guy for me a big consideration is always the way they treat and respect My Girl. She is my everything and I would need to be happy that he was worthy of her and treat her right. Plus although I am straight it's still important that I get on with the guy and gel them as a person. At the end of the day we'd be working together to give My girl a great time, so getting on well together is a must. Team work between us all is the key.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"a guy who "gets it". "

This, for us, is the most important thing and comes before looks, cock size* or any of the other attributes that guys that don't get it think are important.

* Although that is important too. Debs doesn't like too big.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

As a couple but hubby being bi ,we need to more than a normal couple as sharing me is one thing but playing with hubby is another and after a few questions we can tell if its worth going further or are they just saying what we want hear ..

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By *issitCouple
over a year ago

Banbury

The message has to show some effort and show why you’re worth chatting to, it needs to engage the brain, that’s where it all starts, in the imagination. Conversation is so important as is good banter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone with a sense of humour for starters after all its suppose to be fun,in reasonable shape and no porno sex! Get into it lusty and horny

Turn up

Be clean and smelling nice

And Respect!

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By *ngelsbyname88Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"a guy who "gets it". We like a man to understand that he's an equal in the dynamic and have a mature attitude."

This!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

op what do single men look for in a couple?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"op what do single men look for in a couple?"

This one likes to find people he might get on with, who sound like they'd really enjoy my presence, and who want a mutually enjoyable experience. Those are all good signs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we are interested in younger non hairy men, clean, polite and non pushy.

On my single female profile though, I am into hairy chested, non pushy older men with a good sense of humour..and some ear plugs coz I,ve been told I talk a lot..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a guy who "gets it". We like a man to understand that he's an equal in the dynamic and have a mature attitude."

The same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a couple we are interested in younger non hairy men, clean, polite and non pushy.

On my single female profile though, I am into hairy chested, non pushy older men with a good sense of humour..and some ear plugs coz I,ve been told I talk a lot..x

"

Any love for non-pushy, hairy chested younger men? I hear they're really lovely. Apparently.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We always look for a guy with a reasonable amount of emotional intelligence.A big cock doesn't go amiss either!

Mike

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Has to be able to hold a conversation, not flash , good appearance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for light hearted, no porn based sex ideas, someone who’s not just looking to couples as a last ditch to get off but rather be involved in an experience. We like men who respect our bubble and that we are together.

It’s about everyone’s enjoyment for us, we aren’t a couple that likes the cuckold or sort of use my wife thing, just I like two sometimes.

Also a brain and an attractive face for me. Sometimes in person we have chosen someone based in part on looks but also gut instinct, some people feel gentle but confident which I really like. If you mean messages, I like when someone has read our profile and is on the same wavelength, it doesn’t have to be a long message, short funny ones get a reply whether we want a meet or not. I like when they attach a face pic and we can quickly see if there’s attraction there. I’m waffling this morning . Sorry - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some really great answers (no waffle in sight!)

Thanks all. I’m learning a lot.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We look for single blokes who csn get hard and fuck with a condom on. Simples.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

Stopped looking for single men as sadly the majority who message us didn't respect what we are looking for. It is one of the issues with sites like this, men being blinded by their erections.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We look for light hearted, no porn based sex ideas, someone who’s not just looking to couples as a last ditch to get off but rather be involved in an experience. We like men who respect our bubble and that we are together.

It’s about everyone’s enjoyment for us, we aren’t a couple that likes the cuckold or sort of use my wife thing, just I like two sometimes.

Also a brain and an attractive face for me. Sometimes in person we have chosen someone based in part on looks but also gut instinct, some people feel gentle but confident which I really like. If you mean messages, I like when someone has read our profile and is on the same wavelength, it doesn’t have to be a long message, short funny ones get a reply whether we want a meet or not. I like when they attach a face pic and we can quickly see if there’s attraction there. I’m waffling this morning . Sorry - Mrs "

We agree with all of this. It makes a huge difference if the guy smiles as well, moody pics do not work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having their own membership to the clubs we use is normally the best start.

Sin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a guy who "gets it". We like a man to understand that he's an equal in the dynamic and have a mature attitude."

nuff said me thinks

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Only the lucky one's...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if there's any consensus among those couples out there who want to add a man into the mix - which sort of men & messages turn your heads?

It's all academic, of course.

I seem to be as unexciting to couples as I am to single women on here. But you can't blame a man for trying to gain the advantage "

One where we think we won’t end up chopped up and dissolved into a bath of acid

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

We would only entertain a friendly open guy how has the confiden and funny how can talk to us in a club also must have hair on his head not over BMI of 25% .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"a guy who "gets it". We like a man to understand that he's an equal in the dynamic and have a mature attitude.

nuff said me thinks "

It's quite an eye opener how many men have a very immature nudge, nudge, wink, wink attitude when it comes to sex. Anyone who uses the word "naughty" is immediately under suspicion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a guy who "gets it". We like a man to understand that he's an equal in the dynamic and have a mature attitude."

This

We prefer someone with veris from couples as while we were confident, having someone who knows the score means we dont have to worry about them. I imagine when we become pros we will entertain the thought of less experienced guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy ones

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

A great thread OP. You've got some awesome replies here. It's been exciting reading through them.

An academic approach can so apply to hold that base but is interestingly muddied somewhat by the fascinating nuances in each. This is why I love talking to couples, mainly, of course, with the person who holds most of the sexual power in the couple dynamic. A blank slate is needed everytime.

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