FabSwingers.com forum: taking the initiative

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it that the ladies never take the initiative ?.

How many men on here have had a lady make the first move and message them....

I think it should be looked into by the organisers. ...maybe for a lady to receive 5 messages, she then has to contact a man.....

After all we are supposed to live in an EQUAL society.

Although it's just the same in the normal world (ha ha) of going round pubs and clubs ect. Women never speak first, it's all put onto the man.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I hardly ever make the first move.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've sent lots of first messages x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Free will. If I wanted to, and saw profiles I wanted to learn more about, I would.

Equality doesn't mean forcing people to message when they don't want to.

Unfortunately for a lot of guys, it does mean that women have way more options... and know it.

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By *mJamsCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

If I like the look of someone and their profile intrigued me I’m not shy about messaging first or sending a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see a great status or an exceedingly well written/funny profile then I'll send a message first but I'm not particularly visually stimulated tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that the ladies never take the initiative ?.

How many men on here have had a lady make the first move and message them....

I think it should be looked into by the organisers. ...maybe for a lady to receive 5 messages, she then has to contact a man.....

After all we are supposed to live in an EQUAL society.

Although it's just the same in the normal world (ha ha) of going round pubs and clubs ect. Women never speak first, it's all put onto the man."

Who's to say those 5 messages would be wanted ones and from people that match what the lady is looking for?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't have a problem with messaging first. I actually sent a message to a Persian model on here earlier, he looked amazing considering he was in his 40's. Unfortunately he's left the site already

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a bit like the suggestion that messages would have a character minimum. It'd be worked around.

"hey bb u sexay xxxxxxxxxxxxx"

Or. Pick a profile of someone I'm never going to meet. "Sorry mate, just filling my quota so I can get messages again" and block.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I don't have a problem with messaging first. I actually sent a message to a Persian model on here earlier, he looked amazing considering he was in his 40's. Unfortunately he's left the site already

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What did you say to him.. lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I don't have a problem with messaging first. I actually sent a message to a Persian model on here earlier, he looked amazing considering he was in his 40's. Unfortunately he's left the site already

What did you say to him.. lol "

I just asked him to send me a recent face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have a problem sending the first message at all...

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"If I like the look of someone and their profile intrigued me I’m not shy about messaging first or sending a wink."

Do I intrigue u enough for yr first move ?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Why is it that the ladies never take the initiative ?.

How many men on here have had a lady make the first move and message them....

I think it should be looked into by the organisers. ...maybe for a lady to receive 5 messages, she then has to contact a man.....

After all we are supposed to live in an EQUAL society.

Although it's just the same in the normal world (ha ha) of going round pubs and clubs ect. Women never speak first, it's all put onto the man."

So you want to force women to message men?

If that happened i'd leave the site. I do message men first and I do make the first move sometimes but when I want to, not just to stroke fragile male egos.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

I’ve received a few. Though some of those turned out to be timewasters.

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

We've had a few from ladies

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Why is it that the ladies never take the initiative ?.

How many men on here have had a lady make the first move and message them....

I think it should be looked into by the organisers. ...maybe for a lady to receive 5 messages, she then has to contact a man.....

After all we are supposed to live in an EQUAL society.

Although it's just the same in the normal world (ha ha) of going round pubs and clubs ect. Women never speak first, it's all put onto the man."
Wow that is a new one.

Whatever happened to the freemarket?

Speaking as the woman in this couple, I've often initiated contact, but damned if I would do so as a part of a dictact. As in my real life, I speak to whom I want, not who I'm told to. The day that fab did this (clue:they never will) is the day they see a mass exodus from the females here, and that would include from couples.

Mrs fgos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She must then message a man?

What if she is only here looking for women?

What a silly idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that the ladies never take the initiative ?.

How many men on here have had a lady make the first move and message them....

I think it should be looked into by the organisers. ...maybe for a lady to receive 5 messages, she then has to contact a man.....

After all we are supposed to live in an EQUAL society.

Although it's just the same in the normal world (ha ha) of going round pubs and clubs ect. Women never speak first, it's all put onto the man."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only really interact with those i approach. That way I know I like the look of them and I don't have to bother reading my messages.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

then we would have men complaining that women only messaged them so that they can receive more messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh God, I'd LOVE a woman to make the first move. But let's be realistic, gents. The odds are against us.

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By *shyaWoman
over a year ago

bedford

"If I see a great status or an exceedingly well written/funny profile then I'll send a message first but I'm not particularly visually stimulated tbh "

that's the case of lame or lazy profiles - if can't be bothered to make the effort, shouldn't expect much interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50 plus different single lady meets not one has come about from a single lady messaging us first, it rarely happens and when it dies they generally haven’t bothered to read the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've sent lots of first messages x"

Could you send me one please ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm old fashioned. I still like to be approached by men.

But perhaps it's time to change my ways as I delete and block more than I would like to.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I've sent lots of first messages . Not all reply though

If I see someone I like I have absolutely no issue making the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ill do what i want to do and not what someone tells me to do ..its not us women's fault that the numbers dont stack up and its not our fault that we normally get enough messages sent as for what we are looking for .. i chase no one and if they have fragile ego's because of that then tuff shitties i say ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've sent lots of first messages x"
could you send me one please x??

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Why should people be forced to msg? If there's no conection and chemestry just move on to next one. Fact we are all here doesn't mean we must all must meet each other's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t have a problem sending the first message at all..."

bugger I’m a year out side your range such a shame nice profile you and your bed room sounds like a gorgeous hot place an your company must be so good as well x

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