FabSwingers.com forum: Abusive messages?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Funny how after you give someone a knock back( espescialy single males) you get a reply with lots abuse ie ur mingers etc etc

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"Funny how after you give someone a knock back( espescialy single males) you get a reply with lots abuse ie ur mingers etc etc "

We say no thank you and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how successful these guys are in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block block block if everyone blocked the abusive ones then they will have less to be abusive to ... they don't get a second chance with us ..just blocked

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Funny how after you give someone a knock back( espescialy single males) you get a reply with lots abuse ie ur mingers etc etc "

pathetic really arnt they!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

You get it on here, on the street if you don't respond favourably. It comes from a time when you could be shamed, I don't worry any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how after you give someone a knock back( espescialy single males) you get a reply with lots abuse ie ur mingers etc etc "

Very common unfortunately, and the reason I don't reply to messages with a no thanks anymore.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Funny how after you give someone a knock back( espescialy single males) you get a reply with lots abuse ie ur mingers etc etc "

Just pray he gets knob rot and his foreskin drops off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women can be equally as bad, as if they were doing you a favour by offering to fuck you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Were decent people our profile says we will find you ; but getting lots of abuse , makes you wonder if youd hadve met???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously. Delete and block. You are not on here to take abuse from idiots who are too thick to read your profile. Or from those who think they are God's gift to sex. Believe me, they never are! Just stick to people who are proper swingers and know manners

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Too be honest if heard it in a local pub it would be a one arrow! But saying that in real life probably wouldnt even approach us??

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"I wonder how successful these guys are in the real world "

Certainly reaffirms that saying “no” was the correct decision.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Fortunately we have had only had 1 abusive message in 6 years and that was only 2 weeks ago.

After his initial vulgar message we sent him a humorous reply (we should have blocked him, i know) he then threatened to come and stab us both to death.

Thankfully Admin blocked him from the site.

The strange thing was, he had about 6/7 good verifications. Figure that.

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

Dont let it get to you. Block and move on.

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By *amsiMan
over a year ago

Hanworth

"Funny how after you give someone a knock back( espescialy single males) you get a reply with lots abuse ie ur mingers etc etc "

I am always polite, I had recently sent a polite message to a couple only to receive an abusive reply over 2 messages, apparently i would have better luck with whores.

I reported to admin but heard nothing back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is the best tool, a bit like the ones you block.

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By *straightguys4uMan
over a year ago

bromley

On the other side of things.........

Funny how many of the "couples" and "single fems" are either using Fabs as an advert for their pay site, or looking for a "sugar daddy", or selling their custom nudes/vids.

A free site will always have problems like this - which is why verifications are important.

Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should be able to leave negative feedback as well

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"We should be able to leave negative feedback as well"

No. That's a terrible idea. For obvious reasons.

Op, rant away. But when they reveal their true selves, you know you have dodged a bullet. So. Brush it off.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"We should be able to leave negative feedback as well

No. That's a terrible idea. For obvious reasons.

Op, rant away. But when they reveal their true selves, you know you have dodged a bullet. So. Brush it off. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We should be able to leave negative feedback as well

No. That's a terrible idea. For obvious reasons.

Op, rant away. But when they reveal their true selves, you know you have dodged a bullet. So. Brush it off. "

I concur

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By *handraWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I just delete any messages where the guy doesn't interest me and block them if I get many more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocked assholes just create a new profile and carry on with the abuse. Happened to me. Reporting only works for the existing profile but nothing stops them from creating a new one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sick of some of the messages. I was an inch off deleting profile but hidden for time being.

I have reported the people but nothing has been done.

I don't have faith in the mods to do anything on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a very random message from a lovely polite “lady” having been in the chat rooms , can’t remember the exact wording but it was along the lines of “die you sad c*nt”

Charming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're new, but so far have had mostly polite inquiries from single males. The wife has the final say, and if someone is really bad, it's just words on the internet. They likely wouldn't be so bold face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but if they thought you were mongers just shows how low their standards are so just thank them wish them luck

And move onto the people who appreciate you and your partner

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By *angerineMan
over a year ago

somewhere inbetween the right and wrong

I don't get why people would get all pissy about it.

It's not likely they've been led on all day beforehand.

If (ok ok, when) I'm turned down a simple "no worries, thanks for taking the time to reply" puts an end to it and nobody gets wound up.

Some people, I just don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the other side of things.........

Funny how many of the "couples" and "single fems" are either using Fabs as an advert for their pay site, or looking for a "sugar daddy", or selling their custom nudes/vids.

A free site will always have problems like this - which is why verifications are important.

Rant over."

Funny. That's the second post on this forum I've seen recently suggesting that. I assume you've reported every one that you've found being as I believe it's against the rules of the site to advertise.

I personally haven't seen any doing that so certainly not convinced it's the many you claim

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By *tudiousPipWoman
over a year ago

W Yorks

"Blocked assholes just create a new profile and carry on with the abuse. Happened to me. Reporting only works for the existing profile but nothing stops them from creating a new one."

Yup. Had this too. Same profile pic and everything! And cos I filter out brand new members he had to wait a few weeks before he could abuse me. That's how long he stewed on me blocking him.

It's made me reluctant to block. At least with ignoring messages, or deleting them, I'm in control. Block or report and you're taken out of it. I know admin policy is to not tell you their decision about complaints about users, but I do think that complaints about abuse on the site should be followed up with a message to the complainant about what measures have been taken. The fact that this doesn't happen suggests that they are as powerless to stop puppet accounts, created to abuse, as we are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blocked assholes just create a new profile and carry on with the abuse. Happened to me. Reporting only works for the existing profile but nothing stops them from creating a new one."

I agree I had someone start chatting to me a few weeks back with a suspiciously similar style of writing to one I'd previously reported and blocked. Sure enough as soon as I turned him down again the abuse took on the same style as previously. Like someone else posted above it has put me off the polite no thank you responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got messages of abuse from guys because I met a woman that they got rejected from. But I just told them to F*#% off, reported them then blocked them. Then ignored and blocked them when they started another profile.

I don’t understand why they are so childish about getting rejected but it can’t get them anywhere acting out like that.

I would like fab to have a blacklist of email addresses, so if someone was abusive to lots of people on here then when their profile gets deleted by fab at the same time it also logs their email address blocking it from registering again.

I mean ok they can start up another email address but would put off some from emailing again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blocked assholes just create a new profile and carry on with the abuse. Happened to me. Reporting only works for the existing profile but nothing stops them from creating a new one.

Yup. Had this too. Same profile pic and everything! And cos I filter out brand new members he had to wait a few weeks before he could abuse me. That's how long he stewed on me blocking him.

They are unwilling to do anything

I'm on modelling sites and if I get level pushed or abuse they are kicked off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm exceedingly lucky and don't tend to get abuse on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get some much abuse when I either don’t reply or say no thanks.

Get called all sorts but just brush it off

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