FabSwingers.com forum: Fab is not what it used to be

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I remember when the people on this site were honest and turned up to meets when a time was arranged.

Been let down by 3 men tonight and a couple months ago when we last had childcare for a night ago it was 2 guys.

So close to just deleting after 11 years here and not coming back.

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By *hrissy TvTV/TS
over a year ago

birmingham

They must be mad I would turn up. Just wish u was closer xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im so sorry

that's so disrespectful.

Dont delete.. take a break! Look at things from distance. It helps some x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try clubs hun less hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It most definitely has changed...for the worse.. however there are a few decent ones on here, just takes a lot more harder looking nowadays!

Sounding old I know!

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By *ilthy and ProudCouple
over a year ago

Stratford upon Avon

Ahhh just arranging first meet, now hugely suspect. You do NOT need to be messed around, you need respect xxx

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

That's why I'm attending more socials and clubs.

Less chance of a let down

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There are a lot more people on here than there used to be and I suspect a lot of men are using it as wank fodder, talk the talk but won’t follow up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not really here for the sob story its a rant.

Clubs arent really an option due to where I live and lack of childcare options.

I really hate to see this site turn out like this. The guys I almost met were all verified. So blocking non verified isnt going to change anything.

And no real competition to fab means I am faced with just giving up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really here for the sob story its a rant.

Clubs arent really an option due to where I live and lack of childcare options.

I really hate to see this site turn out like this. The guys I almost met were all verified. So blocking non verified isnt going to change anything.

And no real competition to fab means I am faced with just giving up.

People mess you about, seriously? They are the ones missing out. It's so disrespectful

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"Ahhh just arranging first meet, now hugely suspect. You do NOT need to be messed around, you need respect xxx"

If I’m ever in with a shout to meet u, just say

Great pics

But there r to many TW’s .. so good luck with yr meet

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We've not been here long but we find it hard too! Get let down or ghosted so often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We share the frustration op. We’ve been let down with no shows far to many times lately and its getting worse. Seems that there’s a very high proportion of guys who are all mouth and no trousers.

Don’t understand the reasons, if they don’t have the bottle to show then what’s the point of being on here unless like said earlier in the thread it’s wank fodder. The excuses that we’ve had for not showing up (when they haven’t just disappeared) are comical. There’s a lot of guys complaining about the struggle they have getting meets, bet there’s an equal percentage of couples looking for singles who are also being fucked around.

Clubs aren’t the solution to the frustration as it depends on who is there and if theres an attraction, we’ve done far too many club visits where there’s a real poor turnout.

Think it’s just the nature of people and the way it is on sites like this that just attract time wasters and fuckers who treat it like a social media platform. We’ve looked at alternatives and afraid to say that this appears to be the best, buckle up, it ain’t improving any time soon

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By *wing_Bi4FunCouple
over a year ago

Truro

Totally agree Ifem.

We have been on this site for 10 years had a break 4years ago, got married children.

First time around was great few meet's some great socials and chats with genuine couples bi fem & guys, the site was swinging site back then

Now this time around, too many fakes time wasters.

We have been let down quite a few times this year and last year (sometimes things happen) but most were time wasters. Or we have had some disrespectful guys turn up just wanted to cum and go.

We are paying site supporters, but the non verified non paying are ruining it for others and especially the genuine respectful guys that want a meet.

The site definitely needs more rules, if you cant be picture verified after week or so get blocked etc..

To many keyboard warriors on here now.

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

Hi guys

Unfortunately we have to echo most of the comments here

We haven’t been let down recently as we haven’t got as far as arranging to meet but I’d say we’ve been ghosted over 10 times in the last few weeks

We are looking for a single lady to join us so not easy but we had more success a while back

Some have 1 verification which is by cam and a single sentence from a single guy. Made it look a bit fake

Only thing we can do is keep trying but it just makes you over suspicious

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By *layful soulsCouple
over a year ago

wellington

We can't even remember the last time we weren't let down or messed around in some form. Like others on here can't do clubs, so just get left out in the cold.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Until they are actually there, I just assume they aren't going to show

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By *ieandteaseMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Things ain't what they used to be. A common phrase in the Romania army.

People today are rude, self centred and in a hurry for everything. Ancient Greek.

The more things change the more they stay the same, we'll human nature anyway.

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

"Until they are actually there, I just assume they aren't going to show "

We are very much think like this now too unfortunately

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"I remember when the people on this site were honest and turned up to meets when a time was arranged.

Been let down by 3 men tonight and a couple months ago when we last had childcare for a night ago it was 2 guys.

So close to just deleting after 11 years here and not coming back."

We've had exactly this. Been let down by 3 singke blokes in one night. Also our last 3 doggin trips have been fruitless. Really makes you think why bother. And maybe thats why theres nit so many playing couoles around.

We change our tact. We swap and go clubbing, or a house party. We don't let it get to us, we just turn it into date night, and we have fun whatever.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP where had you arranged to meet these three men and did you arrange to meet them all at the same time or one after the other ?

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By *imandHer 123Couple
over a year ago

Highland

"Until they are actually there, I just assume they aren't going to show "

I tend to think that way ... no expectations

I spend a lot of time chatting over weeks as it seems to ' out ' the majority of those who are not as interested as they first seemed .

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"OP where had you arranged to meet these three men and did you arrange to meet them all at the same time or one after the other ?"

I was going to ask that too. Was it a group thing or were they Plan A, Plan B and Plan C? I know some people do have back up plans due to previous no show issues.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Yea another echo of the general theme, been here nearly 10 years.....

It definitely changed, like many have said I think many more have joined many like the idea then bottle it, many just here to get off and a ton who don’t understand how it works and think they should get laid because we are swingers

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Still plenty of us genuine peeps about....

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"OP where had you arranged to meet these three men and did you arrange to meet them all at the same time or one after the other ?

I was going to ask that too. Was it a group thing or were they Plan A, Plan B and Plan C? I know some people do have back up plans due to previous no show issues. "

My thoughts too. Did each individual know he was going to be part of a three man team?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bookmarked as it's as much an issue for men too. Verifications seem to make little difference on this issue.

Plan A, B and C seems very common place and not uncommon for another option to appear.

The scenario you have described OP is one which seems to be very high in risk on actually happening if forums are anything to go by.

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By *onny-2008Man
over a year ago

Manchester/ Lancaster

"I remember when the people on this site were honest and turned up to meets when a time was arranged.

Been let down by 3 men tonight and a couple months ago when we last had childcare for a night ago it was 2 guys.

So close to just deleting after 11 years here and not coming back."

yes there seems to be a lot of fakes on here and other sites , and that is spoiling it for all us genuine fabbers

maybe you just need to keep hold of contact details of the ones you have met , good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we aranded a gang bang, invited more than ten guys and two couples, all keen and verified,, one guy turned up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No shows are happening alot along with ghosting. Some do though which makes it worth it. We always show if we say we will. We have had some great meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we aranded a gang bang, invited more than ten guys and two couples, all keen and verified,, one guy turned up"

arranged even

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By *nlyyours16Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

So sorry to hear this. We’ve been let down by men twice last month and once previously- btw all were verified.

When you open a conversation you can’t even pose a question “are you going to turn up or not”, it’s disrespectful.

I believe clubs or even using these forums is only the way to find people as they would have some shame before letting you down. Hope so anyway. Yet still believe that good people are out here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only about 10-15% of the prospective meets that I arrange actually happen. There's very often a last-minute bail for one reason or another. I always take the stated reason at face value but few then make an effort to get back in touch and try again.

I try to arrange meets for a night when I know there's a club event I can go to instead - it's always good to have a plan B.

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By *lienrockMan
over a year ago

Fife

I joined fab a few years back myself when I split from a marriage. It was a good place, funny forums which you still get and friendly couples & single women. Back then another popular site also had a casual dating section. Between fab & that I met lots of people, had amazing NSA experiences & a banter. Now it does seem to have been flooded with keyboard warriors, equality angry birds, fake profiles with awful porn pics & the I never meet unless you're mr universe crowd. At least you can still rant on here I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've witnessed a slow decline in reliability over the last 8 or so years.

And coupled with the fact I'm now past that mysterious age cut-off point (nn-60 only)!!, it's even worse!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We had two meets with single men this week.

Both turned up, on time and were friendly, polite and respectful.

Just in the interests of balance

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

"We had two meets with single men this week.

Both turned up, on time and were friendly, polite and respectful.

Just in the interests of balance"

I met 2 lovely guys this week too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So disappointing especially when there are decent people (like me) who are finding it difficult to get started. There are often good reasons why people have to pull out (excuse the pun) but you should at least show some courtesy if you can't make it and not waste people's time.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

From what I read nowadays it’s the guys letting the site down..

They have flocked on here in the past 4 or 5 years and think it’s free prostitution..

They don’t understand swinging ..

Although as a caveat most couples really don’t help themselves.. you can instantly tell if you’re chatting to the male or female..

There is so little respect for single guys on here .. possibly warranted by some, but some of us are good, genuine and honest people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I read nowadays it’s the guys letting the site down..

They have flocked on here in the past 4 or 5 years and think it’s free prostitution..

They don’t understand swinging ..

there are alot of couples and women on here who dont understand swinging either

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By *eds1Man
over a year ago

Salisbury

"I remember when the people on this site were honest and turned up to meets when a time was arranged.

Been let down by 3 men tonight and a couple months ago when we last had childcare for a night ago it was 2 guys.

So close to just deleting after 11 years here and not coming back."

They must be fools you are amazing and sexy shame so far away x

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Unfortunately it’s not

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"I remember when the people on this site were honest and turned up to meets when a time was arranged.

Been let down by 3 men tonight and a couple months ago when we last had childcare for a night ago it was 2 guys.

So close to just deleting after 11 years here and not coming back."

I agree, not what it used to be they should insist on the site supporter fees for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I read nowadays it’s the guys letting the site down..

They have flocked on here in the past 4 or 5 years and think it’s free prostitution..

They don’t understand swinging ..

there are alot of couples and women on here who dont understand swinging either"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember when the people on this site were honest and turned up to meets when a time was arranged.

Been let down by 3 men tonight and a couple months ago when we last had childcare for a night ago it was 2 guys.

So close to just deleting after 11 years here and not coming back."
i think fabs got better to be honest

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By *rebs001Man
over a year ago

Widnes

all been there one time or another, when get dropped twice in a week by same person ......then you know they're not in it

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