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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

Theyre jealous

Simple

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By *MattyMan
over a year ago

Naked coffee house near you - Wiltshire - Swindon

I once had a message saying a lady had seen i was friends with someone and if i was to meet her then she would not meet me, even for a social. I found it weird as she would not explain why either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's rotten.

It's hard enough to find meets on here as it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh the wonderful world of fab as with all sectors of communities there are some who want to control and manipluate, your mine Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"
i imagine it happens a lot but not always said out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too"

Pathetic isn't it.

I have had it too, and I'd never met the guy doing it either, he would message abuse, I would block, he would pop up again. In the end I ignored him.

But a few people messaged saying he had put up abusive status's. One reason for changing my name.

Luckily people who do that only make themselves look bad.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It definitely happens - it's not nice at all.

I understand, to some extent, people not wanting to meet people who have met others. But actively messaging and saying not to is crappy.

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Ive had the reverse....., "hi, youve been seeing xxxxxx and thought as we live closer and very much into the same experiences...we might be better suited....."

Spoke to xxxxxx as wondered why recieved such a message and they were very apologetic as she had been chatting with the other lady at a local club....

Verifications on here are fine but wasnt happy about being discussed at a club....

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I won't deny I've done it..

Not, as in meet XY or Z, and I won't see you, but more a case of informing them why I wouldn't be happy, and if they chose to meet that person then I wouldn't want to see them again.

I put my own health above everything, and I'm not prepared to risk it for someone else's 5 minutes of fun.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

It's more common than most realise!!

I know a couple of ladies that have LISTS of people and if you've met anyone on that list then it's a no go

One specifies all club/party hosts which obv includes me. I'd love to ask her why. If she is under the assumption we fuck all the customers then she is very wrong, I actually very rarely play when hosting as I'm too busy hosting!

There is a lot of assumptions made on fab though I've realised.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Jealousy is a horrible thing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"
it is however a product of boasting about what you have done via veris or status updates, keep what you do to yourself and it will mostly be eradicated

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"I won't deny I've done it..

Not, as in meet XY or Z, and I won't see you, but more a case of informing them why I wouldn't be happy, and if they chose to meet that person then I wouldn't want to see them again.

I put my own health above everything, and I'm not prepared to risk it for someone else's 5 minutes of fun.

I do get why........but i personally would appreciate being told in person rather than a message .................

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealousy is a horrible thing xx"
I'm jealous of your arse

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By *idnightxBrownCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's just people being salty and jealous of your fun.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?it is however a product of boasting about what you have done via veris or status updates, keep what you do to yourself and it will mostly be eradicated "

So you think that because a person has veris they deserve such treatment?

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By *nkedMilfWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

I've not done the message thing, but I have to admit I've refused to meet people if they've met a certain person - I wasn't a fan of how said person conducted their sex life.....and I value my health, that's way more important to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?it is however a product of boasting about what you have done via veris or status updates, keep what you do to yourself and it will mostly be eradicated

So you think that because a person has veris they deserve such treatment?"
no not at all I'm saying the meet for sex veris play a part in causing this reaction as do the status updates, people who actually send the messages are out of order as i said keep what you do to yourself it can inadvertently create bad feeling bragging about it.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I won't deny I've done it..

Not, as in meet XY or Z, and I won't see you, but more a case of informing them why I wouldn't be happy, and if they chose to meet that person then I wouldn't want to see them again.

I put my own health above everything, and I'm not prepared to risk it for someone else's 5 minutes of fun.

I do get why........but i personally would appreciate being told in person rather than a message .................

"

I did tell them in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?it is however a product of boasting about what you have done via veris or status updates, keep what you do to yourself and it will mostly be eradicated

So you think that because a person has veris they deserve such treatment?no not at all I'm saying the meet for sex veris play a part in causing this reaction as do the status updates, people who actually send the messages are out of order as i said keep what you do to yourself it can inadvertently create bad feeling bragging about it. "
different people react differently such is life, enjoy what you do sure but keep it to yourself in some instances its disrespectful eg youre chatting to someone for a while, you maybe organise a meet in a weeks time and they brag theyve met four others in the run up to it, the fact they had four meets not the problem but bragging about it is disrespectful to that person, i think obviously it depends on the people concerned and what they are looking for

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’d hope that individuals would make up their own mind about who they meet.

I have mentioned to guys that they should be careful with certain individuals due to their behaviour but I’ve never sent unsolicited messages about anyone unlike others that I know of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t ever send someone a message can’t meet because you’ve met **** but I will decline to meet people even socially after reading veri’s and seeing who they have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, 2 occasions different women wouldn't meet me because of some one else I'd met.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't doubt it happens either openly telling someone or just not meeting someone because they have met someone else - where it's because of health concerns e.g. that someone else openly does bareback with multiple partners, or personal direct experience of that person and being affected by it, then I can understand it.

If however the reason is based on ill informed opinions or dislikes of someone else based on very little information, then it's harder to understand.

To an extent the latter is a bi-product of forum use and meeting forumites, as opinions about others get formed based on that usage or from forum gossip, which is not always accurate or fair.

If someone said to me they wouldn't meet me (or meet me again) because I had met someone else, I think it would depend on how well I knew the person making that judgement as to whether I'd listen to what they had to say and try and understand why they felt that way. Either way I'm my own person and capable of deciding for myself whether someone is right for me to meet or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't doubt it happens either openly telling someone or just not meeting someone because they have met someone else - where it's because of health concerns e.g. that someone else openly does bareback with multiple partners, or personal direct experience of that person and being affected by it, then I can understand it.

If however the reason is based on ill informed opinions or dislikes of someone else based on very little information, then it's harder to understand.

To an extent the latter is a bi-product of forum use and meeting forumites, as opinions about others get formed based on that usage or from forum gossip, which is not always accurate or fair.

If someone said to me they wouldn't meet me (or meet me again) because I had met someone else, I think it would depend on how well I knew the person making that judgement as to whether I'd listen to what they had to say and try and understand why they felt that way. Either way I'm my own person and capable of deciding for myself whether someone is right for me to meet or not."

Well said

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams


"I don't doubt it happens either openly telling someone or just not meeting someone because they have met someone else - where it's because of health concerns e.g. that someone else openly does bareback with multiple partners, or personal direct experience of that person and being affected by it, then I can understand it.

If however the reason is based on ill informed opinions or dislikes of someone else based on very little information, then it's harder to understand.

To an extent the latter is a bi-product of forum use and meeting forumites, as opinions about others get formed based on that usage or from forum gossip, which is not always accurate or fair.

If someone said to me they wouldn't meet me (or meet me again) because I had met someone else, I think it would depend on how well I knew the person making that judgement as to whether I'd listen to what they had to say and try and understand why they felt that way. Either way I'm my own person and capable of deciding for myself whether someone is right for me to meet or not."

Absolutely very true..love this xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’ve had women block me on here and beforehand tell me to leave their ‘man’ alone.

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams


"Yes I’ve had women block me on here and beforehand tell me to leave their ‘man’ alone. "

So not just me that's happened to then xx

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Jesus this place is mental sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus this place is mental sometimes."
hey it can always get worse

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I won't deny I've done it..

Not, as in meet XY or Z, and I won't see you, but more a case of informing them why I wouldn't be happy, and if they chose to meet that person then I wouldn't want to see them again.

I put my own health above everything, and I'm not prepared to risk it for someone else's 5 minutes of fun.

"

“5 minutes”. That long? Lol.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

In all seriousness. Nothing will ever surprise me about what goes on on this site!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I wouldn't want to meet someone who acted that way anyway... I would just block them.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't randomly message someone to say "hi, I won't meet you because you've met so and so" but, I openly admit there are people I won't meet because of who they are friends with and mix with.

I'm well aware of the sneaky tricksy bullshit and if that means not meeting people to keep out of drama then that's what I shall do. I wouldn't deny the reason. I'd just be all "sorry dude/dudette but you seem pretty close to such n such and that's a whole pile of bullshit and aggro I don't want or need"

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably have but doesn't bother us. Had messages spread round that we are fake and time wasters etc etc just because we wouldn't meet people. I have no interest in guys per say.

Its funny how if someone who seems popular takes a dislike to you, how many others jump on the band waggon if they think it will earn them favour lol. We treat people as individuals not how others may decide to see them.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

Sorry - guilty of not reading the rest of the thread as I’m making lunch - but it’s very common!

I’ve stopped meeting young hotties lately - but when I did my ‘Peachy Hate Group’ (the term I affectionately used for them) would message them en masse, tell them I’d sleep with anything and everything, and that if they met me again/showed their veri from me then no self respecting woman would ever meet them again!

Thing is - none of the guys had the balls to meet me again!

Made me cry at the time but I couldn’t give a flying fuck now!!

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?

Sorry - guilty of not reading the rest of the thread as I’m making lunch - but it’s very common!

I’ve stopped meeting young hotties lately - but when I did my ‘Peachy Hate Group’ (the term I affectionately used for them) would message them en masse, tell them I’d sleep with anything and everything, and that if they met me again/showed their veri from me then no self respecting woman would ever meet them again!

Thing is - none of the guys had the balls to meet me again!

Made me cry at the time but I couldn’t give a flying fuck now!! "

Wow. That’s OTT! Well I always enjoy a kiss from you xx

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?

Sorry - guilty of not reading the rest of the thread as I’m making lunch - but it’s very common!

I’ve stopped meeting young hotties lately - but when I did my ‘Peachy Hate Group’ (the term I affectionately used for them) would message them en masse, tell them I’d sleep with anything and everything, and that if they met me again/showed their veri from me then no self respecting woman would ever meet them again!

Thing is - none of the guys had the balls to meet me again!

Made me cry at the time but I couldn’t give a flying fuck now!!

Wow. That’s OTT! Well I always enjoy a kiss from you xx"

Likewise my lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a message from a woman warning me off a man, saying he was abusive and had been assaulting women he met. Don't know if it was true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not done the message thing, but I have to admit I've refused to meet people if they've met a certain person - I wasn't a fan of how said person conducted their sex life.....and I value my health, that's way more important to me"

Same here

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Meh, it's happened to me before, a woman went round trying to stop people meeting me, I wasn't too fussed, if someone is stupid enough to listen, I wouldn't want to meet them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had people tell me in person if I met so and so individual they wouldn’t meet me again, and this happened on first meets but I have a way more messed up story than that lol

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults! "

Tbh - as in its’ nastiest form it’s essentially bullying - couples aren’t subjected to this! There are two people in a couple which makes them harder to bully as they’re a unit in themselves - and therefore less susceptible to unpleasantness from others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens a lot shame the lassies feel jealous or threatened

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I have come across this. It used to upset me a little because I'm actually not that trampy despite the view some have formed (note I said not that trampy).

These days though I care not a jot. I don't have anything to be ashamed of. I like my life Fab and otherwise. If you take someone else's word about me without knowing me then I can't do anything about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!! No never happened to me but maybe I’ve not been here long enough ! It would definitely take a lot of arm breaking and waterboarding of me for someone to put me of you !!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a guy message a lady who I met saying was married!

If it is who I think it is he was caught out cheating by his gf & there both on here as a couple,

He had a single profile but neglected to hide it from her & she saw my veri with this lady & read his!

Somehow this is my fault.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults!

Tbh - as in its’ nastiest form it’s essentially bullying - couples aren’t subjected to this! There are two people in a couple which makes them harder to bully as they’re a unit in themselves - and therefore less susceptible to unpleasantness from others! "

Oh, I didn't realise, it didn't happen to couples. This is unacceptable behavuior towards singles!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It’s not quite the same but I’ve had conversations that then end because they say some woman doesn’t like him talking to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults!

Tbh - as in its’ nastiest form it’s essentially bullying - couples aren’t subjected to this! There are two people in a couple which makes them harder to bully as they’re a unit in themselves - and therefore less susceptible to unpleasantness from others! "

Couples get singles asking to meet one half behind the other's back. Or stirring trying to split them up. They still get shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"
Not experienced this yet but only been here a while ! They’re would have to break some arms and a lot of water boarding to put me of you !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt anyone has bothered telling someone else not to meet me, but I know for a fact that some people have "warned" others about me.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults!

Tbh - as in its’ nastiest form it’s essentially bullying - couples aren’t subjected to this! There are two people in a couple which makes them harder to bully as they’re a unit in themselves - and therefore less susceptible to unpleasantness from others!

Couples get singles asking to meet one half behind the other's back. Or stirring trying to split them up. They still get shit."

Yeah I’m sure they do - just a different kind of shit!

I also know of men or women in couples who’ve offered to meet single friends of mine behind their partners back though - so it works both ways!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I had a woman tell me once that I couldn't meet anyone that she met because it's not the done thing

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It happens. I avoid those who get into it, generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults!

Tbh - as in its’ nastiest form it’s essentially bullying - couples aren’t subjected to this! There are two people in a couple which makes them harder to bully as they’re a unit in themselves - and therefore less susceptible to unpleasantness from others!

Couples get singles asking to meet one half behind the other's back. Or stirring trying to split them up. They still get shit.

Yeah I’m sure they do - just a different kind of shit!

I also know of men or women in couples who’ve offered to meet single friends of mine behind their partners back though - so it works both ways! "

You also in my experience get the male in couples trying to meet the female in the other couple on there own too

Happened to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I’ve had women block me on here and beforehand tell me to leave their ‘man’ alone. "
I was going to block you because of all the pestering me for sex....but there hasn’t been any lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

Even if I did I would still meet you and make my own mind up I don't listen to other people I make my own mind up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I’ve had women block me on here and beforehand tell me to leave their ‘man’ alone. I was going to block you because of all the pestering me for sex....but there hasn’t been any lol "

But seriously - it all sounds very messed up and a bit childish

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults! "

I am absolutely gobsmacked, no idea that this would happen on a swinging site, showing my naivety I suppose, wow...

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I've seen people put on their profiles they won't meet people who meet other groups of people such as TVs. Makes no sense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to get guys of couples wanting to meet solo in secret. That's been going for years.

Also couple years ago chatting couple seemed ok but when we met turned out to be a real arse. So politely excused our selves and got really angry and abusive. Next we knew she had gone through our friends list and our friends friends list sending messages slating us, cos wouldn't jump into bed with her then bf.

One reasons don't show friends lists, like veris some also use them as shopping lists

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I think people should make there own minds up ..

I am guilty of looking at the standard of people who the person has met ..

And if they’ve a lot of verifications I wouldn’t message that person..

Just my preference and said without any prejudice..

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Fab is full of smoke and mirrors. Individuals acting all angelic when the truth is they are just twats in disguise. There are two people on fab that we would not play with anyone that had played with them. That is our choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults!

Tbh - as in its’ nastiest form it’s essentially bullying - couples aren’t subjected to this! There are two people in a couple which makes them harder to bully as they’re a unit in themselves - and therefore less susceptible to unpleasantness from others! "
i got involved innocently with a woman doing this to another woman over a guy she had met and liked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv seen people named on on a couple of profiles. I won't meet you if you've met so and so.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

Don’t say you have met them, it it worries you!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I ve had men not display the veri I gave them cos a fem they meet regular would be upset ...or even asked me not to give them a veri ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ve had men not display the veri I gave them cos a fem they meet regular would be upset ...or even asked me not to give them a veri ..."

It's odd isn't it. I always suspect that's because they have told the person they are not meeting anyone else.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Can't say we have, I've heard from others it happens.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I had someone message me and say... Eww you've met.... that's taken you off my hotlist. I no longer want to meet up some time now"

Ok... Fine by me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and a very popular woman on here told me of another very popular woman on here she wouldn't meet any guys who met her

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"oh and a very popular woman on here told me of another very popular woman on here she wouldn't meet any guys who met her "

You know I must admit there was a particular forumite that I used to think ‘what a wazzock’ every time he posted on the forums. I wouldn’t have met him, even for a social (that like 80% of my meets are) but I bumped into him at a party and you know what... he was THE nicest man ever!! That just goes to show how silly all this is (& I’m the first to admit that I am also to blame!) but I’ve never had this whole ‘won’t meet you if you met him/her rule’. There’s a girl I DESPISE hearing of on here because she once did something VERY nasty to me in ‘real life’ but I wouldn’t not meet if someone had met her. Our ‘beef’ is personal and so long as they don’t talk to her about me or vice verse all is well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't deny I've done it..

Not, as in meet XY or Z, and I won't see you, but more a case of informing them why I wouldn't be happy, and if they chose to meet that person then I wouldn't want to see them again.

I put my own health above everything, and I'm not prepared to risk it for someone else's 5 minutes of fun.

"

Similar here. I've not done it out of jealousy but because I value myself and my health!

I'd never randomly message someone but they've messaged me and when I've declined they asked why.

I had to block quite a few local men due to them meeting this one particular woman. Shes known to be a class a user and regular barebaker.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"
yes I have.. ive also had people mail me that they have been warned about me too.. so it does happen.

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales


"Oh my, never come across this over my 11 years. It's real school playground tell tell stuff.

We're all supposed to be Adults!

Tbh - as in its’ nastiest form it’s essentially bullying - couples aren’t subjected to this! There are two people in a couple which makes them harder to bully as they’re a unit in themselves - and therefore less susceptible to unpleasantness from others!

Couples get singles asking to meet one half behind the other's back. Or stirring trying to split them up. They still get shit."

We have had this done to us by a man on here because we wouldn’t meet him, basically saying I had been meeting him alone.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

Nope, never happened to me. But then; I do live in Outer Mongolia as far as most in here are concerned........

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

Herts

I was asked 'if I knew XXXX'

I said 'yeh' as I had given this person a lift home

I was then blocked by that woman.

A lift?! All of 3 miles!!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've not done the message thing, but I have to admit I've refused to meet people if they've met a certain person - I wasn't a fan of how said person conducted their sex life.....and I value my health, that's way more important to me"

This for me too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't doubt it happens either openly telling someone or just not meeting someone because they have met someone else - where it's because of health concerns e.g. that someone else openly does bareback with multiple partners, or personal direct experience of that person and being affected by it, then I can understand it.

If however the reason is based on ill informed opinions or dislikes of someone else based on very little information, then it's harder to understand.

To an extent the latter is a bi-product of forum use and meeting forumites, as opinions about others get formed based on that usage or from forum gossip, which is not always accurate or fair.

If someone said to me they wouldn't meet me (or meet me again) because I had met someone else, I think it would depend on how well I knew the person making that judgement as to whether I'd listen to what they had to say and try and understand why they felt that way. Either way I'm my own person and capable of deciding for myself whether someone is right for me to meet or not."

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes I’ve had women block me on here and beforehand tell me to leave their ‘man’ alone. "

Same here, although they'd never met the man in question either, and it didn't just stop at blocking...she became a full-on online stalker.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Such interesting reading.

People thinking that they have hate groups.. vain much.

The thing is, despite some claiming to be 'the definition of a swinger' those folk are usually the ones who have such discussions in the background.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I would advise people not to meet those who have met me. There's no coming back from that trauma .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"
Not exactly like that but a few years ago I got one saying why are you on here this place is not for people like you to this day I don't know what they were talking about but people are strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never had anything like that in my my inbox, but to be fair very little enters my inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow.... now I found out why people hide their verifications...

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

It happens quite a lot but mainly off site on kik groups etc. In general its info about who are barebackers and also screen shots of abusive messages sent by some men.

Its not the nicest thing to do but if someone doesn't want to meet people because they met someone else its their choice I guess.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

Its only ego rubbing, making you choose between them and who ever.

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any


"It's more common than most realise!!

I know a couple of ladies that have LISTS of people and if you've met anyone on that list then it's a no go

One specifies all club/party hosts which obv includes me. I'd love to ask her why. If she is under the assumption we fuck all the customers then she is very wrong, I actually very rarely play when hosting as I'm too busy hosting!

There is a lot of assumptions made on fab though I've realised. "

Spot on!

Unfortunately there are people who take many things far too literally.

Just because fab has to have tick boxes for preferences, some people block on that basis, whereas in the real world people aren’t so binary!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there a lot of people on here who are ambiguous about the scene and like to think ‘their’ variety of swinging is ‘better’ than ‘the others’ variety of swinging. If they have exclusion criteria it makes them feel superior, and that includes excluding those who have met someone they’ve decided is not good enough for their ‘better’ version of swinging.

It’s all smug bollocks of course.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Never received such a message and if we did I think it would make us more likely to meet the person they were bad mouthing. I wonder why anyone would think threatening not to meet you is any kind of threat at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had a message saying a lady had seen i was friends with someone and if i was to meet her then she would not meet me, even for a social. I found it weird as she would not explain why either."

There are all kinds of reasons why this might be the case. I've seen a profile here that said "if you're talking to x with a view to meet or have already met x, do not message me as we don't meet the same people as she's my best friend and that's weird to us". Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly youre gorgeous. Id meet you at the drop of a hat

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience."

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Never received a message like this but we have chatted to single men and women that say it’s happened to them and they won’t display some verifications because of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly youre gorgeous. Id meet you at the drop of a hat "

Smoooooth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there "

That's actually not true. Profiles that have received verifications show 'verified by x people' and it breaks the verifications down by women, men, tv/ts and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?it is however a product of boasting about what you have done via veris or status updates, keep what you do to yourself and it will mostly be eradicated

So you think that because a person has veris they deserve such treatment?"

I have lots of veris and have attended many clubs and social events with this pocket rocket GNG . We like to be sociable and are very good friends. We are out for Sunday lunch tomorrow with a few of our fab friends..It's not always about the sex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll hold my hands up and say I’ve said those kinds of things in messages before.

It’s never been unprompted. It’s always when someone has asked if I want to meet them and xyz person. Often that xyz person will be someone that’s messaged me some very sleazy/sexually risky stuff. So if that’s the case I’ll say I’m not meeting them and advise the other against too.

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any

TBH People who have a ‘blocking’ mentality are generally not open and inclusive types, nor socially adequate. So my general view is let them get on with their own ‘brand’ of swinging.

Having been at this game for many years, UK swing clubs and others around the world such as at Cap d’Agde, the wider audience one finds are wholly inclusive!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there

That's actually not true. Profiles that have received verifications show 'verified by x people' and it breaks the verifications down by women, men, tv/ts and couples. "

People can hide the verification summary if they want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there

That's actually not true. Profiles that have received verifications show 'verified by x people' and it breaks the verifications down by women, men, tv/ts and couples.

People can hide the verification summary if they want to. "

Good point... I sit corrected.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there "

I couldn't care less if people know mine are there or not. I wouldn't actually care if they got rid of the whole verification system altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there

I couldn't care less if people know mine are there or not. I wouldn't actually care if they got rid of the whole verification system altogether. "
me neither it just causes trouble

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there "

The reasons I've already outlined. The green tick shows we have at least a verification, if that's not good enough for some then so be it. We haven't seen a reduction in interest because of it and like we said earlier our fab experience is for the better.

Example: veris were on show and one guy wanted to meet, however we wanted a break. He bemoaned that we'd been talking for two weeks and in that time we had two meets, his argument was we should have met him within those weeks. Screw that, we'll meet when we're ready and don't want to be listening to that. Veris off means none of that rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had it in a club. A lady came up to us to warn us about another couple in there. We ended up talking to the couple she warned us about and got on great with them. Had a great time playing with them. We put it down to jealousy in this case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had it in a club. A lady came up to us to warn us about another couple in there. We ended up talking to the couple she warned us about and got on great with them. Had a great time playing with them. We put it down to jealousy in this case. "

Yep a lot of that shite goes on in clubs and if you just stick to one it becomes more of a regular occurrence as people get more and more involved in each other others lives and the bitchiness starts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, quite a few intact. It's a common enough inbox message from ladies. When you look at the ratio of those to total messages it seems to be a reflection of a lot of jealousy on here.

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By *anmyraWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

As with any group of people, there will always be a percentage with "issues". Those who can't cope with rejection, the bullies, the insecure who use others to boost their egos, the manipulative, the narcissistic et al. It's no different to a class of children or a group of people on a train. These kind of things will always happen as people all have slightly differing agendas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree, if someone messages us I always check their pics and veris. Always look at the profiles of whom they've been verified by.

If I see something I dont like, I/we will not meet them.

That's how veris work, as well as proving the person is real and not a time waster. It tells you about their standards.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I totally agree, if someone messages us I always check their pics and veris. Always look at the profiles of whom they've been verified by.

If I see something I dont like, I/we will not meet them.

That's how veris work, as well as proving the person is real and not a time waster. It tells you about their standards."

But the question is would you not meet said person under the word/threat of another? Say if Sally mails you and says ‘if you meet Jean then I won’t meet you’?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im aware blacklists are on here

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

When we organised the Norwich social we had messages saying we'd like to come but we won't if so-and-so are going. We just replied "That's a shame."

I can't believe that people let others dictate their social life to them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not message someone saying I would not meet them if they met so and so. But I do put notes on a lot of profiles if I have seen them veri a gross profile. I then send them on their way if they randomly message me in future, which some have.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"I totally agree, if someone messages us I always check their pics and veris. Always look at the profiles of whom they've been verified by.

If I see something I dont like, I/we will not meet them.

That's how veris work, as well as proving the person is real and not a time waster. It tells you about their standards.

But the question is would you not meet said person under the word/threat of another? Say if Sally mails you and says ‘if you meet Jean then I won’t meet you’?"

I make my own decisions regardless of what people may or may not need to tell me about a meet.

I walk away from drama as my intention on here is to have nsa sex not get involved in fab politics

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"I totally agree, if someone messages us I always check their pics and veris. Always look at the profiles of whom they've been verified by.

If I see something I dont like, I/we will not meet them.

That's how veris work, as well as proving the person is real and not a time waster. It tells you about their standards.

But the question is would you not meet said person under the word/threat of another? Say if Sally mails you and says ‘if you meet Jean then I won’t meet you’?

I make my own decisions regardless of what people may or may not need to tell me about a meet.

I walk away from drama as my intention on here is to have nsa sex not get involved in fab politics "

This would be our view too. Although we have to admit we have never come across this ourselves but heard this from one of our friends that it happen to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The MAIN reason we hid our veris. From couples asking 'what was he like' to 'you met him so you'll meet me' and 'he's Asian so you'll meet anything' coming from all types of people. We now keep our fab play to ourselves and it's been a much better experience.

Whats point of having any veris if you hide them from everybody ?lol nobody would know they were there

I couldn't care less if people know mine are there or not. I wouldn't actually care if they got rid of the whole verification system altogether. "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I totally agree, if someone messages us I always check their pics and veris. Always look at the profiles of whom they've been verified by.

If I see something I dont like, I/we will not meet them.

That's how veris work, as well as proving the person is real and not a time waster. It tells you about their standards.

But the question is would you not meet said person under the word/threat of another? Say if Sally mails you and says ‘if you meet Jean then I won’t meet you’?

I make my own decisions regardless of what people may or may not need to tell me about a meet.

I walk away from drama as my intention on here is to have nsa sex not get involved in fab politics "
same here. Someone tried to involve me in a blacklist years ago. I told them to fuck off and id meet who i liked

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I think I've been black listed it's the only plausible reason why I'm not inundated with offers lol

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

It’s preference, not jealousy. Yes I actively avoid people who play with a certain someone, so what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im aware blacklists are on here"

Now I'm curious how many I'm on.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

yes iv had something simlar but its was more of a 'sly' move as they are/was friends and apparently both liked me so one of the 2 made a sly/stealth move and said 'look shes planning on asking you around for drinks but fuck her off and we can do something next week!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?

yes iv had something simlar but its was more of a 'sly' move as they are/was friends and apparently both liked me so one of the 2 made a sly/stealth move and said 'look shes planning on asking you around for drinks but fuck her off and we can do something next week!' "

Such a nice friend

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I understand that one of the posters on this thread has done this to me based on rather sketchy information from another fabber.

Make your own mind up, and dont get drawn into petty schoolyard behaviour.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?

yes iv had something simlar but its was more of a 'sly' move as they are/was friends and apparently both liked me so one of the 2 made a sly/stealth move and said 'look shes planning on asking you around for drinks but fuck her off and we can do something next week!'

Such a nice friend "

yep. thought i was either being tested or i was about to get involved with a pair of headaches so i walked away... i definitely deserved a blue peter badge for that, i was going through a dry patch at the time too!!

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By *lbatross77Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've been blocked by a couple of people on here for seeing someone else. Weirdos..

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I have a friend on here who I have seen regularly since February. We have had many one to one meets and attended parties together.

A few weeks ago someone messaged me saying I shouldn't be meeting with him as he is a dangerous man with anger issues.

I asked her how she knew and she said she'd been speaking to him for a week and had got this info from his messages. She had never met him at all.

He has been on here for years with lots of friends and many verifications all good. She had been on site a week.

She was going down his friends list warning everyone.

A few women have stopped speaking to him since this and she has left the site.

Why do people do this? What do they gain from it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree, if someone messages us I always check their pics and veris. Always look at the profiles of whom they've been verified by.

If I see something I dont like, I/we will not meet them.

That's how veris work, as well as proving the person is real and not a time waster. It tells you about their standards."

not just us then,that is good to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a friend on here who I have seen regularly since February. We have had many one to one meets and attended parties together.

A few weeks ago someone messaged me saying I shouldn't be meeting with him as he is a dangerous man with anger issues.

I asked her how she knew and she said she'd been speaking to him for a week and had got this info from his messages. She had never met him at all.

He has been on here for years with lots of friends and many verifications all good. She had been on site a week.

She was going down his friends list warning everyone.

A few women have stopped speaking to him since this and she has left the site.

Why do people do this? What do they gain from it? "

What if it's true?

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By *artinsureMan
over a year ago

acton


"Jealousy is a horrible thing xx"

I know it’s off the topic however you look incredible

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"I have a friend on here who I have seen regularly since February. We have had many one to one meets and attended parties together.

A few weeks ago someone messaged me saying I shouldn't be meeting with him as he is a dangerous man with anger issues.

I asked her how she knew and she said she'd been speaking to him for a week and had got this info from his messages. She had never met him at all.

He has been on here for years with lots of friends and many verifications all good. She had been on site a week.

She was going down his friends list warning everyone.

A few women have stopped speaking to him since this and she has left the site.

Why do people do this? What do they gain from it?

What if it's true?"

If it is he's a very good actor.

I have been seeing him at least every other week for 8 months and chatted with him on here for weeks prior to our first meet.

I have met with others at parties who have known him much longer than me and have no issues.

Over the last few months we have spent many hours together.

I would like to think I know him better than someone who had only spoken to him on here for a week.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Im aware blacklists are on here

Now I'm curious how many I'm on."

me too

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

It’s an interesting one this. If you see how some people behave when things haven’t gone their way, the jealousy and plain nastiness, it does make me wonder why people meet go on to meet them.

I would always make my mind up about a person myself I don’t need others to tell me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a friend on here who I have seen regularly since February. We have had many one to one meets and attended parties together.

A few weeks ago someone messaged me saying I shouldn't be meeting with him as he is a dangerous man with anger issues.

I asked her how she knew and she said she'd been speaking to him for a week and had got this info from his messages. She had never met him at all.

He has been on here for years with lots of friends and many verifications all good. She had been on site a week.

She was going down his friends list warning everyone.

A few women have stopped speaking to him since this and she has left the site.

Why do people do this? What do they gain from it?

What if it's true?

If it is he's a very good actor.

I have been seeing him at least every other week for 8 months and chatted with him on here for weeks prior to our first meet.

I have met with others at parties who have known him much longer than me and have no issues.

Over the last few months we have spent many hours together.

I would like to think I know him better than someone who had only spoken to him on here for a week. "

Just because she'd only had a profile on here for a week doesn't mean she hadn't been here before or known him outside this site.

Sounds like you've assessed the situation though.

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By *occerstar579Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"I totally agree, if someone messages us I always check their pics and veris. Always look at the profiles of whom they've been verified by.

If I see something I dont like, I/we will not meet them.

That's how veris work, as well as proving the person is real and not a time waster. It tells you about their standards.

But the question is would you not meet said person under the word/threat of another? Say if Sally mails you and says ‘if you meet Jean then I won’t meet you’?"

I'm actually more inclined to meet them as no one should dictate who can see who. If someone choses not to see me because I've met someone else That s fine it's their choice but I'm not gonna be held to ransom.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"I have a friend on here who I have seen regularly since February. We have had many one to one meets and attended parties together.

A few weeks ago someone messaged me saying I shouldn't be meeting with him as he is a dangerous man with anger issues.

I asked her how she knew and she said she'd been speaking to him for a week and had got this info from his messages. She had never met him at all.

He has been on here for years with lots of friends and many verifications all good. She had been on site a week.

She was going down his friends list warning everyone.

A few women have stopped speaking to him since this and she has left the site.

Why do people do this? What do they gain from it?

What if it's true?

If it is he's a very good actor.

I have been seeing him at least every other week for 8 months and chatted with him on here for weeks prior to our first meet.

I have met with others at parties who have known him much longer than me and have no issues.

Over the last few months we have spent many hours together.

I would like to think I know him better than someone who had only spoken to him on here for a week.

Just because she'd only had a profile on here for a week doesn't mean she hadn't been here before or known him outside this site.

Sounds like you've assessed the situation though. "

She was the one who told me she had only spoken to him on here. She said she was new to Fab but that he had said something that had upset her. She wouldn't say what and when I asked him about it he told me she was pushy and he refused to meet her.

My thoughts are sour grapes tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a friend on here who I have seen regularly since February. We have had many one to one meets and attended parties together.

A few weeks ago someone messaged me saying I shouldn't be meeting with him as he is a dangerous man with anger issues.

I asked her how she knew and she said she'd been speaking to him for a week and had got this info from his messages. She had never met him at all.

He has been on here for years with lots of friends and many verifications all good. She had been on site a week.

She was going down his friends list warning everyone.

A few women have stopped speaking to him since this and she has left the site.

Why do people do this? What do they gain from it?

What if it's true?

If it is he's a very good actor.

I have been seeing him at least every other week for 8 months and chatted with him on here for weeks prior to our first meet.

I have met with others at parties who have known him much longer than me and have no issues.

Over the last few months we have spent many hours together.

I would like to think I know him better than someone who had only spoken to him on here for a week.

Just because she'd only had a profile on here for a week doesn't mean she hadn't been here before or known him outside this site.

Sounds like you've assessed the situation though.

She was the one who told me she had only spoken to him on here. She said she was new to Fab but that he had said something that had upset her. She wouldn't say what and when I asked him about it he told me she was pushy and he refused to meet her.

My thoughts are sour grapes tbh. "

Very true

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By *opite_xWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I wouldn’t meet certain people based on their veri’s. It’s not ‘because you’ve met xxxx I won’t meet you’ but if they’ve met loads of really attractive girls (usually slimmer) than me I worry I won’t be their type and my anxiety would be too high to enjoy the meet.

It’s less jealousy and more confidence in myself

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Must admit some time back we got a message saying just that "If you meet this couple then we wont meet you" what idiots and they claimed to be good friends of ours. We deleted them and blocked them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet certain people based on their veri’s. It’s not ‘because you’ve met xxxx I won’t meet you’ but if they’ve met loads of really attractive girls (usually slimmer) than me I worry I won’t be their type and my anxiety would be too high to enjoy the meet.

It’s less jealousy and more confidence in myself"

It's a shame you feel that way as from what I can see you are attractive with a great body but fair play for not trying to push if you don't think you will be comfortable and enjoy yourself.

The flip side is profiles I see with people saying that if you've had meets with people they deem unattractive then they won't meet as you will obviously sleep with anyone. Some people dont seem to realise that even if you are stunning, the wrong personality can mean you don't want to meet and also a good personality could mean a meet with someone who would not normally be the sort of person you would go for.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I have a friend on here who I have seen regularly since February. We have had many one to one meets and attended parties together.

A few weeks ago someone messaged me saying I shouldn't be meeting with him as he is a dangerous man with anger issues.

I asked her how she knew and she said she'd been speaking to him for a week and had got this info from his messages. She had never met him at all.

He has been on here for years with lots of friends and many verifications all good. She had been on site a week.

She was going down his friends list warning everyone.

A few women have stopped speaking to him since this and she has left the site.

Why do people do this? What do they gain from it?

What if it's true?

If it is he's a very good actor.

I have been seeing him at least every other week for 8 months and chatted with him on here for weeks prior to our first meet.

I have met with others at parties who have known him much longer than me and have no issues.

Over the last few months we have spent many hours together.

I would like to think I know him better than someone who had only spoken to him on here for a week.

Just because she'd only had a profile on here for a week doesn't mean she hadn't been here before or known him outside this site.

Sounds like you've assessed the situation though.

She was the one who told me she had only spoken to him on here. She said she was new to Fab but that he had said something that had upset her. She wouldn't say what and when I asked him about it he told me she was pushy and he refused to meet her.

My thoughts are sour grapes tbh. "

I think I got the same ‘warning’ - duly ignored! It was the 2nd I’d had in the space of a few weeks (about 2 different guys). I’ll make my own mind up about people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet certain people based on their veri’s. It’s not ‘because you’ve met xxxx I won’t meet you’ but if they’ve met loads of really attractive girls (usually slimmer) than me I worry I won’t be their type and my anxiety would be too high to enjoy the meet.

It’s less jealousy and more confidence in myself"

I’m exactly the same. !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So. A few years ago a very well-known forumite put a thread on here saying that people were getting inboxes saying ‘if you meet xxxxxxxxx I won’t meet you’, I thought this person must have been smoking the devils lettuce as “who even inboxes that shit” but I’ve since found out from a few men that they have received things like that about me too.

Bizarre!!

Have you ever had such an inbox?!

How common is this absolutely weird practice?"

We've had a couple of message sin the past from people saying things along those lines about other members.

We delete them. We meet whom we choose; it's not for others to tell us who or what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im aware blacklists are on here

Now I'm curious how many I'm on.

me too"

I know of at least three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im aware blacklists are on here

Now I'm curious how many I'm on.

me too"

Would be gutted if I haven't made it on any yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we organised the Norwich social we had messages saying we'd like to come but we won't if so-and-so are going. We just replied "That's a shame."

I can't believe that people let others dictate their social life to them!"

I've looked at whose going to a social and have declined going because a certain person I know is going. The reasons are personal but it's usually because they cause drama or I wouldn't want to meet them and they then decide to verify me.

I'd say it happens more frequently you you might think at socials. And to say they dictate my social life isn't true. My social life on fab is miniscule compared to outside it, so it have very little effect. I chose not to go, much like I choose who I meet, not that they dictate I don't meet them. If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we organised the Norwich social we had messages saying we'd like to come but we won't if so-and-so are going. We just replied "That's a shame."

I can't believe that people let others dictate their social life to them!"

There are people I don't want to be in the same town as, let alone room as, and I certainly wouldn't want to spoil other peoples nights by default down to a shitty atmosphere or murder, therefore it would be better to know in advance if they intended on attending and avoid said situation.

P

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I relish the fact that others want to talk about me and what I do how good I am and what I do wrong, Better then the paper, I've had repeat performances from my meets so not worried about people talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months "

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months "

Who is the local fab whore ?

Asking for a friend

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

If you practise safe sex then no one should be concerned who you have met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a cpl who wouldnt leave any verification for us because their regulars might get upset . That's what they told us.

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of the things that's been going on here for years. I've had people say they wouldn't meet me as I've met xxxxx. I've also had a friend messaged and given abuse for meeting me.

I've never sent one of these massages and I'm secure enough to choose who I wish to meet with. Socials don't always lead to full on meets but through socials I have made some truly amazing friends and that's how I like it.

If I had listened to others I'd have missed my chance to make these amazing friends.

Great topic OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone telling us what we can or can't do would be blocked, simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you practise safe sex then no one should be concerned who you have met"

So you saying for you that's the only criteria needed to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens ALL the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months "

No judgment from you hey.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months "

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"If you practise safe sex then no one should be concerned who you have met

So you saying for you that's the only criteria needed to meet? "

Nope, not at all but it’s a major factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months

Who is the local fab whore ?

Asking for a friend

"

Surely you have one in your area, the one who fills up the local update section daily x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months

Who is the local fab whore ?

Asking for a friend

Surely you have one in your area, the one who fills up the local update section daily x"

I don’t think I’d be bothered enough to work myself up over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months

No judgment from you hey. "

I refered to the OP's question being school yard behaviour not my own actions. Yes I am judgemental about those meeting the local fab whore AND I don't apologise for it. It's not a secret, it's on my profile for all to see, but I wouldn't dream of sending pms about avoidance or dictating who a potential meet can meet. We are all here for what WE can get for ourselves in the end and I need who I meet, and they meet who they meet, easy really xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months

No judgment from you hey.

I refered to the OP's question being school yard behaviour not my own actions. Yes I am judgemental about those meeting the local fab whore AND I don't apologise for it. It's not a secret, it's on my profile for all to see, but I wouldn't dream of sending pms about avoidance or dictating who a potential meet can meet. We are all here for what WE can get for ourselves in the end and I need who I meet, and they meet who they meet, easy really xx"

Hey, I kinda agree I’ve done similar.

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By *opite_xWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores.. it just makes it OK for guys to call you sluts and whores."

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"School yard mentality

But saying that I won't meet anybody that has met the local fab whore, daily verifications and only been on a few months "

Daily verifications for how long? She may be on holiday and going to clubs and parties. Some people do not verify straight away.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Im aware blacklists are on here

Now I'm curious how many I'm on.

me too

I know of at least three"

Where are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im aware blacklists are on here

Now I'm curious how many I'm on.

me too

I know of at least three

Where are they?"

Reading, Camberley and Blackpool, in my case.

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By *ongleggedfemaleWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

Yep..had friends message saying women they were taking to wouldn't meet them because they had met me.

People make sweeping assumptions based on a few photos. They know nothing about your life or relationships but think they know everything. Or are clearly stuck up their own arses!

That said there is one bareback gangbang profile on here I wouldn't meet any guy who I knew had been there. But that's a personal choice.

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Yep..had friends message saying women they were taking to wouldn't meet them because they had met me.

People make sweeping assumptions based on a few photos. They know nothing about your life or relationships but think they know everything. Or are clearly stuck up their own arses!

That said there is one bareback gangbang profile on here I wouldn't meet any guy who I knew had been there. But that's a personal choice."

Yep, wouldnt meet you after looking at your profile as your way to sexy for me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a woman who I’ve never met, spoken to, interacted with, or even viewed her profile before, was sending men messages telling them not to meet me. She would message the men who verified me either with abuse, or asking about me.

So odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep the verifications I have been sent private. I’d hate to be a stated cause of people not meeting each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores.. it just makes it OK for guys to call you sluts and whores.""

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