FabSwingers.com forum: Interest but few real takers

By *picknspan OP Man
over a year ago

North West Leeds

No doubt many men on here similarly get quite a lot of interest but few takers... it is frustrating.

When getting this interest here is there a good or bad way of handling it?

Tried keen, mean, moody and patient.

Any ideas?

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By *picknspan OP Man
over a year ago

North West Leeds

Mmm bit like this thread then....

Ii is a little like fishing.

I 'cast' my maggot out into the waters of Fab and sometimes get a bite. Then I try to reel them in and whilst they appear to be on the hook... I often lose them before they are landed.

Wrong bait? They go for it.

Not strong enough hook?

Poor technique when it comes to reeling in?

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By *impleSailorMan
over a year ago

the moon

How about just being normal. That is a rare thing in here.

"take the bait" "reel them in"

Perhaps things like that aren't helping yourself

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By *picknspan OP Man
over a year ago

North West Leeds

"How about just being normal. That is a rare thing in here.

"take the bait" "reel them in"

Perhaps things like that aren't helping yourself "

Was just using an analogy... it is like a metaphor.... I think analogies and metaphors are fairly normal.

Either way, doesn't seem to be happening much

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Define "interest" - what may appear to be "interest" to you, may not be to the other person.

Personally I've found just being myself, not being pushy and being open, honest, respectful, considerate and taking my time to get to know people a little has been the right way to go and not automatically assuming someone wants to jump into bed with me just because they sent me a message or Fabbed my pic goes a long way too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop being so keen to seal the deal

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By *picknspan OP Man
over a year ago

North West Leeds

"Define "interest" - what may appear to be "interest" to you, may not be to the other person.

Interest as in messaged me

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By *picknspan OP Man
over a year ago

North West Leeds

"Stop being so keen to seal the deal "

Tried being keen and being chatty and patient

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Define "interest" - what may appear to be "interest" to you, may not be to the other person.

Interest as in messaged me"

Well then it comes down to holding their interest - remember they've messaged you based on profile text and pics so have little idea of personality or whether you will get on and that can only come through swapping messages initially.

Sometimes you'll find a connection others messages will fizzle out as one or other or both of you realise there's no spark - it happens and you just have to accept it and move on as there is no magic formula to "make" it happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not a given that people want to have sex just because they are being polite in any way. They are just being polite. You don’t need to try any tactic other than being yourself. This site has thousands of men compared to females. It’s not personal, it’s volumes.

You could have the perfect profile and messages. But so could 20 others on the same day.

Speaking as a couple we get about 10 messages most days directed to Mrs S. some are polite, some are just deleted immediately but most are unexpected and not wanted.

Compare it to your phone, some stranger Randal LG calls you, while being polite and expects you to have sex with them at the end of it. They didn’t ask you to call........

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By *picknspan OP Man
over a year ago

North West Leeds

"It’s not a given that people want to have sex just because they are being polite in any way. They are just being polite. You don’t need to try any tactic other than being yourself. This site has thousands of men compared to females. It’s not personal, it’s volumes.

You could have the perfect profile and messages. But so could 20 others on the same day.

Speaking as a couple we get about 10 messages most days directed to Mrs S. some are polite, some are just deleted immediately but most are unexpected and not wanted.

Compare it to your phone, some stranger Randal LG calls you, while being polite and expects you to have sex with them at the end of it. They didn’t ask you to call........"

But they message me... I reply and we exchange messages details etc and then often nothing. Why message me and then disappear? Not like I am impolite or pushy

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

But they message me... I reply and we exchange messages details etc and then often nothing. Why message me and then disappear? Not like I am impolite or pushy"

Like I said further up, maybe they didn't find a spark or connection after the initial chat back and forth, maybe someone else came along who took their eye, maybe they were a bloke pretending to be a woman, all of these and many more reasons could be the explanation - you'll probably never know for sure so no point sweating it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could have the perfect profile and messages. But so could 20 others on the same day.

Speaking as a couple we get about 10 messages most days directed to Mrs S. some are polite, some are just deleted immediately but most are unexpected and not wanted.

Compare it to your phone, some stranger Randal LG calls you, while being polite and expects you to have sex with them at the end of it. They didn’t ask you to call........

But they message me... I reply and we exchange messages details etc and then often nothing. Why message me and then disappear? Not like I am impolite or pushy"

I message men for all sorts of reasons, as do others I'm sure. Stop reading anything into it

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

Look at it being like you are chatting to a woman at a bar. Sometimes it goes beyond some cursory chit chat, most times it won’t. If you are lucky you might sit with her for a bit at her table, but that’s as far as it usually goes. Very occasionally you may strike lucky. That’s what Fab is like. Without the Cheese and Onion crisps.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Avatar won’t help think of dating before messaging, you have messaged us only to be deleted, so get a standard thought you ply sex you get fucked off simples.

Effort will get rewards or if all else fails nip

To a club and don’t sit around wanking talk properly good luck

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By *picknspan OP Man
over a year ago

North West Leeds

"Avatar won’t help think of dating before messaging, you have messaged us only to be deleted, so get a standard thought you ply sex you get fucked off simples.

Effort will get rewards or if all else fails nip

To a club and don’t sit around wanking talk properly good luck "

I do not recall messaging you, I would have remembered the mouse traps Im sure!

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