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"Hi, I’ve been a member of the site for a while and mainly use it for meeting likeminded people online rather than in person. I’ve recently had some free time and tried to set up a few meets and after some initially promising chats been informed of someone’s “prices”. I love swinging because I enjoy feeling wanted by and giving pleasure to someone “new”, so the idea of paying for their company turns me right off. Is this becoming more common or have I just avoided it until now?" You will start to read the profiles and spot them at a thousand yards so won't enter into conversation with them. It's all about phrases and euphemisms. You'll learn. We all do. | |||
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"Hi, I’ve been a member of the site for a while and mainly use it for meeting likeminded people online rather than in person. I’ve recently had some free time and tried to set up a few meets and after some initially promising chats been informed of someone’s “prices”. I love swinging because I enjoy feeling wanted by and giving pleasure to someone “new”, so the idea of paying for their company turns me right off. Is this becoming more common or have I just avoided it until now?" If you see it report it. | |||
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"As much as its called a swingers site it isnt and hasnt been for a while. Its a free sex site so expect plenty of unsavory things to happen." agree it needs a firm tug back to the realms of swinging | |||
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"As much as its called a swingers site it isnt and hasnt been for a while. Its a free sex site so expect plenty of unsavory things to happen." That's correct There are singles on here who meet singles. That's not swinging. Couples meeting others is swinging , It's just sex with others . | |||
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"Seen a lot of profiles wanting well off older gents, or ‘gifts’. Always report them and they don’t last long." We "supposedly" well off older gents are often referred to as Sugar Daddies in some profiles. | |||
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"Rise in prostitution ?? or just a rise in guys offering money ?? " You don't get one without the other! | |||
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"Rise in prostitution ?? or just a rise in guys offering money ?? You don't get one without the other! " thats was my point kinda | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference." not really. As they can do both without them offering it via fab. Plenty are on both... which is allowed | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference." Can these people not have a private life too? | |||
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"Hi, I’ve been a member of the site for a while and mainly use it for meeting likeminded people online rather than in person. I’ve recently had some free time and tried to set up a few meets and after some initially promising chats been informed of someone’s “prices”. I love swinging because I enjoy feeling wanted by and giving pleasure to someone “new”, so the idea of paying for their company turns me right off. Is this becoming more common or have I just avoided it until now?" Been getting worse for sometime now, goes hand in hand with all the fake accounts and time wasters. | |||
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"Report them, not as Admin follow this stuff up though. Though we've reported loads of fakes and similar and they're still there plying there trade now. " Yep me too | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference. Can these people not have a private life too? " Yes they can but I would rather not be involved. | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference. Can these people not have a private life too? Yes they can but I would rather not be involved." Why? | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference. Can these people not have a private life too? Yes they can but I would rather not be involved." so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why | |||
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"As much as its called a swingers site it isnt and hasnt been for a while. Its a free sex site so expect plenty of unsavory things to happen." I'm sure some swingers are unsavoury too | |||
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"There does seem to be more events that are in a hotel that require a contribution you pay your £40 - £50 starts off with 2-3 guys then with in a hour about 10 - 12 guys come and go.The room in the travelodge cost about £100 the organiser takes about £500 in contributions would this be considered a form of prostitution" It can be. Or not. Or teetering on the fine line. Unfortunately. | |||
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"What /where I’m clearly giving out the do not contact me vibe .. haven’t experienced it yet but it’s an adult site so it’s expected. Tinder used to be riddled with it " It still is ..They're a pain in the arse tbh | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference. Can these people not have a private life too? Yes they can but I would rather not be involved. so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why" I had a feeling saying why might get some pushback. As I said it is a useful cross reference and my original post was suggesting a way of being more informed about who on here (singles and couples) are also escorts. It is for any individual to then decide if that is of interest or not. As you are asking why for me then personally I would choose not to get involved purely from the point of view of sexual health risk. I would take the same exactly approach to someone who was not an escort who was showing say multiple different verifications a week on their profile. This is just my personal feeling on how comfortable I am with swinging with people who have a high number of sexual partners (escort or not). There is no moral judgement involved. | |||
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"Rise in prostitution ?? or just a rise in guys offering money ?? " This! I got offered £30 for a blowjob a few days ago... if a girl wanted to go down that route it’s not hard and this isn’t the site for it, but guys seem to think they can just price up girls on here | |||
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"There does seem to be more events that are in a hotel that require a contribution you pay your £40 - £50 starts off with 2-3 guys then with in a hour about 10 - 12 guys come and go.The room in the travelodge cost about £100 the organiser takes about £500 in contributions would this be considered a form of prostitution It can be. Or not. Or teetering on the fine line. Unfortunately." I think that anything above the cost if the room is profit and should be classed as prostitution surely? | |||
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"I,ve (Hev) been offered money on my single profile several times, but declined. One bloke in Wellington is quite persistent, setting up new profile to get around blocks. So its definitely not just women asking for money, its men offering it to. " men asking for money to shag them...... really....... so the absolute fact that men struggle to get meets here anyway must put them in the lowest of the low percentage wise lol | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference. Can these people not have a private life too? Yes they can but I would rather not be involved. so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why I had a feeling saying why might get some pushback. As I said it is a useful cross reference and my original post was suggesting a way of being more informed about who on here (singles and couples) are also escorts. It is for any individual to then decide if that is of interest or not. As you are asking why for me then personally I would choose not to get involved purely from the point of view of sexual health risk. I would take the same exactly approach to someone who was not an escort who was showing say multiple different verifications a week on their profile. This is just my personal feeling on how comfortable I am with swinging with people who have a high number of sexual partners (escort or not). There is no moral judgement involved." What's the differance with someone who has lots of veri's and gets reg checks and is always clear. To someone whos meet 5 people oved a year and never been checked? It only takes one encounter to pick something up. Plus you don't mention if they are safe sex or not. | |||
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"Rise in prostitution ?? or just a rise in guys offering money ?? This! I got offered £30 for a blowjob a few days ago... if a girl wanted to go down that route it’s not hard and this isn’t the site for it, but guys seem to think they can just price up girls on here" Not condoning this at all, but isn’t the simple answer just to block men from contacting you? You can then just find the ones you are interested in yourself. This approach would seem to take care of 95% of the complaints about single men and their attitudes on this forum. There must be a reason why people don’t do this yet continue to complain. | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference. Can these people not have a private life too? Yes they can but I would rather not be involved. so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why I had a feeling saying why might get some pushback. As I said it is a useful cross reference and my original post was suggesting a way of being more informed about who on here (singles and couples) are also escorts. It is for any individual to then decide if that is of interest or not. As you are asking why for me then personally I would choose not to get involved purely from the point of view of sexual health risk. I would take the same exactly approach to someone who was not an escort who was showing say multiple different verifications a week on their profile. This is just my personal feeling on how comfortable I am with swinging with people who have a high number of sexual partners (escort or not). There is no moral judgement involved. What's the differance with someone who has lots of veri's and gets reg checks and is always clear. To someone whos meet 5 people oved a year and never been checked? It only takes one encounter to pick something up. Plus you don't mention if they are safe sex or not. " I completely agree with your points. Sexual health is about using a combination of ways of de-risking yourself. Safe sex, how regular you are screened, understanding the risks of each sexual activity and the number of sexual partners involved in your sexual network (and how transparent it is) all feed into that. Sex is only 100% risk free in a monogamous relationship. You ask what is the risk profile between the two examples you quote. The answer for each is the number involved in their sexual network between being tested clear and having sex with you (plus how safe sex was practiced within that network). | |||
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference." I've met several ladies who work on that site, but never been charged as we met through fab. Sex workers can be swingers too. | |||
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter. Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site." Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either. Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex? | |||
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter. Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site. Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either. Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex?" It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare. | |||
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter. Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site. Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either. Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex? It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare." I treat all the people I meet with respect and definitely prefer a mutually satisfying time. The downside to meeting with prostitutes is that you pay for their time and when that is up you leave, whether your both satisfied or not. | |||
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter. Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site. Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either. Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex? It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare. I treat all the people I meet with respect and definitely prefer a mutually satisfying time. The downside to meeting with prostitutes is that you pay for their time and when that is up you leave, whether your both satisfied or not." See? You are still comparing. | |||
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter. Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site. Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either. Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex? It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare." Unfortunately, being seen and treated as a free prostitute is a far too common occurance. | |||
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"As much as its called a swingers site it isnt and hasnt been for a while. Its a free sex site so expect plenty of unsavory things to happen." agreed | |||
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter. Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site. Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either. Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex? It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare. Unfortunately, being seen and treated as a free prostitute is a far too common occurance. " And that is why we are free to use common sense and the block button. | |||
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