FabSwingers.com forum: How many chances...

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fabsteroos

How many chances would you give someone to meet if they have let you down already but with seemingly some ‘genuine’ reasons?

Asking for a friend.....

Bhubaysi

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By *haremoreMan
over a year ago

Manchester

One

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By *ing CobraaMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

Not second chances regardless of how genuine... what’s the point putting your self through some bullshit that will almost certainly happen next time too

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

One. We don't expect chances to be given to us either.

We we had to cancel a social once, the guy went to all the trouble of arranging another social so that he could revenge cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give them a second chance if I thought it was a genuine reason but no more if it happened again

Hev xx

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

My friend says no more chances, 3 is too many!

Friend is furious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on a reason.

I would appreciate a second chance myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on a reason.

I would appreciate a second chance myself.

Could have been a valid reason?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I always think giving someone a chance means giving them the benefit of the doubt once. Am I misinterpreting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One my time is valuable and I don't appreciate being let down

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm starting to think I should stop giving chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My friend says no more chances, 3 is too many!

Friend is furious!

x "

Tell your friend to bin the offender

Right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would give one chance as things and emergency’s do crop up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a zero tolerance stance - no second chances. Maybe harsh as some maybe genuine, majority not though.

Plenty more fishes in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on a reason.

I would appreciate a second chance myself.

Could have been a valid reason?

Yes, it could have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chance depending on the reason

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

If a reasonable explanation is presented, then given another chance.

If it happens again no way Jose. People need to organise their lives and not mess others around.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I believe in second chances but guys on here seem to let down a lot, so 1 chance, but I'm not 1 for messing people about

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Out of 16 arranged meets, we've actually met with five and postponed one ourselves. So we now work on there being only a 1:3 chance that someone's going to turn up.

If they let us know beforehand then they'll get a second chance. But almost all just go silent and don't reply to messages or let us know. So they don't get another chance.

Bry (and Char)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fabsteroos

How many chances would you give someone to meet if they have let you down already but with seemingly some ‘genuine’ reasons?

Asking for a friend.....

Bhubaysi "

It depends on the person/people and the reasons why to how we would respond..

Each to their own I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do give second chances but very much on case by case basis.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

Ive only ever cancelled twice, one was when i came off my motorbike on the way to meet them, and even sent pics of my bike, and the other was when my cat drank antifreeze and had to rush to emergency vet and still lost him, and that was with a few hours notice. Got blocked by both

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ive only ever cancelled twice, one was when i came off my motorbike on the way to meet them, and even sent pics of my bike, and the other was when my cat drank antifreeze and had to rush to emergency vet and still lost him, and that was with a few hours notice. Got blocked by both"

Was it the same person you were meeting? My friend has been let down 3 times by the same man....she is pretty fed up bless her.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it depends who it is, whether we met before and whether they had a genuine reason. Usually- 1 chance if the reason seemed genuine and/or they let me know beforehand. If just total silence- immediate block.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

Was it the same person you were meeting? My friend has been let down 3 times by the same man....she is pretty fed up bless her....."

No. One was a few years ago when i crashed, and other was 7 months ago, which i was gutted about as theyd been on my hotlist since i joined, so gutted i missed meeting, but more gutted i lost my boy over my stupidity

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Two is too many, in my experience! However I may be persuaded to give them a second chance, but only if they have a very good reason for blowing be out the first time.

This site has too many pretenders for me to think otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fabsteroos

How many chances would you give someone to meet if they have let you down already but with seemingly some ‘genuine’ reasons?

Asking for a friend.....

Bhubaysi "

None , had it a couple of times, arranged to meet then pathetic excuses, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fabsteroos

How many chances would you give someone to meet if they have let you down already but with seemingly some ‘genuine’ reasons?

Asking for a friend.....

Bhubaysi "

Never had any not turn up

We have been postponed a couple of times. We have had a few guys turn up without accompaniment

Walked away from a few.

One

Two rarely but that would depend if we believed them

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

A couple of tomes I’ve had meets cancel on me last minute, and only one no show, but I always to say to a potential meet, anything could happen so whilst I’ll do my absolute best to be there, there is always the unforeseen circumstances something drastic could happen, ie children, parents or loved one falling ill....

So I would always give someone at least a second chance, I like to think I’m a fair judge of character and I know if someone is keen on meeting or not.

Just don’t get the no shows and then blocking you, all very odd!?!

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We would give them one chance as sometimes there are genuine reasons for having to cancel

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

One chance only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as someone who cancelled yesterday I’d say one. And only if you REALLY think they are genuine. Every time I’ve foolishly stretched to more they have just messed me about again.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

One more chance and would expect them to be in touch to rearrange,

If they cancelled again that would then be a no from us.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends if we’ve met before. If we haven’t there’s no second chances. If we have one mor opportunity

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m a trusting kinda guy so I understand that cars break down , people get the shits and people die so I’d give you a lot of chances with the correct excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how friendly you are with them on Fab, but one chance is enough.

Otherwise it will show own desperation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None, no second chance. hard knocks & bitter experience taught us that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a trusting kinda guy so I understand that cars break down , people get the shits and people die so I’d give you a lot of chances with the correct excuse

I have had all those "reasons" for cancellation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was meeting, i would always give another chance, if the reason seeked genuing. I know emergencies creep up. I've had to cancel myself. Luckily they understood and gave me another chance. If they then did it again, that's when i pulled the plug

Holly

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Depending on circumstances I'd give a 2nd chance. We are all human and some things are just out of our control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was meeting, i would always give another chance, if the reason seeked genuing. I know emergencies creep up. I've had to cancel myself. Luckily they understood and gave me another chance. If they then did it again, that's when i pulled the plug

Holly"

Seemed genuine*

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

Every situation is different & many people are naturally suspicious since they have been messed around in the past. I think you have just got to trust your gut feeling, It`s usually right.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"One. We don't expect chances to be given to us either.

We we had to cancel a social once, the guy went to all the trouble of arranging another social so that he could revenge cancel. "

We had this too, couldn't believe someone would be so childish.

we have given 2nd chances a few times but honesty they have rarely paid off.

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By *haggynMuffCouple
over a year ago

Kidlington oxtord

You get one chance only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how far out it is. With my work it is possible that future plans may need to be cancelled. I would expect that for others too. If I need to cancel I give as much notice as possible and would expect the same in return. I wouldn’t mess anyone around at short notice, but recognise emergencies happen. In all likelihood I will have spent a considerable time getting to know the person I’m meeting so I treat them as I would any friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One and blocked! Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cancelled once felt terrible my van had broken down and she gave me a second chance and we are still goid friends

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I give 2nd chances as I would like to have them as well, life has twists and turns and if they are not prepared to give me a second chance when I speak to them everyday then they are a cockwomble and I am decidedly better off

P.s if you are reading this and joke cancel on me tomorrow there will be trouble

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