FabSwingers.com forum: How many no-shows?

By *ooBoo2300 OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I’ve been arranging a social meet first, as I’m a single female, before agreeing to a full meet.

What would you say is your success rate for single men showing up to socials?! I’m currently on 33% but realise it’s early days!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're doing the right thing by having a social first but unfortunately there are a lot of people on the site now, men, women and couples who have no intention of meeting. I am suspecting that the couple profiles are probably lone men, but i think there are a lot who like the idea of the site but have no intention of ever meeting and are on it for fun and who find it funny by agreeing to meet and inconveniencing that person and not showing up... I have had at least 3 such "meets" Xx

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

About 95% in 2 years.... not bad... I am spoilt.

I do get majorly pissed off when stood up/cancelled last minute, etc. Thankfully it’s only happened a couple of times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why arrange a meet and then not showing up? I dont get that.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I’ve been arranging a social meet first, as I’m a single female, before agreeing to a full meet.

What would you say is your success rate for single men showing up to socials?! I’m currently on 33% but realise it’s early days!!

It's not infallible but a good approach. I think I'm lucky with only two to date. First was to an avatar pic, who walked right past me, didn't even acknowledge or do the polite coffee and 'sorry no my type' route. Later insulted me after my 50mile drive back home to say I didn't look like my one month old photos. Spittin' feathers. Never again, a photo or nada, not for me. The other one did apologise as got cold feet, but that was a 70miles e/w trip.

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By *erynaughtyMan
over a year ago

Derby

One no-show to date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two within over a year. Just got cold feet. Sometimes you just never know. But there were signs so it wasn't a complete surprise.

Keep your chin up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we tried to organise a gangbang, invited over 10, not 100% sure how many, but despite all having good verifications, and plenty of notice given ,only one turned up, lost our faith abit tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many messers on here. A social is a great way to filter those out.

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"I’ve been arranging a social meet first, as I’m a single female, before agreeing to a full meet.

What would you say is your success rate for single men showing up to socials?! I’m currently on 33% but realise it’s early days!!

Couples turning up for socials is 100% for us so far, so have faith

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

never had a no show in almost 14 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just single guys who don’t turn up for meets, I’ve had a few couples go quiet a day or two before, never turn up and never respond again/ block.

Had a couple agree to meet, but only the guy turned up.

It’s not just this site though, it seems to happen all over, I think a lot of people like the idea of it rather than actually doing it. Then not turning up is easier than explaining you don’t want to do it anymore.

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By *ooBoo2300 OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I imagine couples would be more reliable tbh. I don’t get why someone would delete their profile rather than ping a message saying I can’t make it. They could then block me if worried about my reaction!!! Why disappear?!

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By *linyMan
over a year ago

Manchester/London

I’ve had no shows from single females aswell as couples.

When hosting a ‘Pourvolonte’ party, we always ensure we allow 25% no show for couples and single men. We do meet the attendees beforehand to ensure they’re genuine and if they don’t show for the social then they don’t get an invite to the party.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We (MF couple) have been meeting guys from here since middle of August. Our "stats"

Arranged meets: 16

Cancelled by other party: 5

Postponed by us: 1 (Char was ill)

No show/no communication: 5

Actual meets: 5

Char has just about gone off the whole thing now as we just can't get single guys willing to work around our need to book two weeks ahead and Char's possible health issues near the day (recovering from cancer).

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Just check whether you arranged a meet with anyone that’s likely to have an unexpected period, a sick child, a relative on death’s door or an unreliable car.

The single women of fab mustn’t be amongst the unluckiest in the world.

Hope it works better for you than it does for everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my FB on here and I see her regularly. Aside from that we go to clubs too on occasion and have met people through that. So really only 1 meet arranged and it went well

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By *ooBoo2300 OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I’ve had no shows from single females aswell as couples.

What’s a Pourvolonte Party? Even google couldn’t tell me that one!!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"we tried to organise a gangbang, invited over 10, not 100% sure how many, but despite all having good verifications, and plenty of notice given ,only one turned up, lost our faith abit tbh

Some men have no balls. All talk and no action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About 95% in 2 years.... not bad... I am spoilt.

I do get majorly pissed off when stood up/cancelled last minute, etc. Thankfully it’s only happened a couple of times.. "

So do we - one that really annoyed us was a couple who we had been chatting to for a while... they cancelled as we were literally about to leave the house. What made it so annoying was that the next day they had a new verification from the night before!! Told us they couldn’t get childcare, was obviously a load of bull!

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

100% but we only meet at clubs, so ruling out any disappointments

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By *dRocMan
over a year ago

St Helens

100% for me too. I've never cancelled a meet and so far, fingers crossed, neither has the other party

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've had one no show ever, excluding gangbangs which are notorious for it.

I've cancelled two meets for health reasons (in as much time as I could with no hard feelings), and had a handful called off for similar reasons.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

"About 95% in 2 years.... not bad... I am spoilt.

I do get majorly pissed off when stood up/cancelled last minute, etc. Thankfully it’s only happened a couple of times.. "

We are about 90% successful...so happy

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By *linyMan
over a year ago

Manchester/London

"I’ve had no shows from single females aswell as couples.

It’s a party that used to be held twice a year but my cohosts and I took a long break but we’re thinking of resurrecting one for this year.

What’s a Pourvolonte Party? Even google couldn’t tell me that one!!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always have a social first, I'd say i have a 90% success rate with those.

The worse time was when I'd travelled to London and was going to spend the night with a guy in my hotel.....unfortunately he lost his phone so couldn't let me know that he couldn't make it! Yeah right

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By *chilles and RavenCouple
over a year ago

Guernsey

No shows to date are roughly half or meets which is all the more frustrating. But don't give up they ones that show up are always worth it

We have had loads to drive past the car or we are waiting for 30 mins.. But this point we have got bored and entertained ourselves. A few hours later you get oh I got scared. Blocked there is no second chance.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"we tried to organise a gangbang, invited over 10, not 100% sure how many, but despite all having good verifications, and plenty of notice given ,only one turned up, lost our faith abit tbh

Lady offered a GB for older guys as a sort of tribute to her G/father. Several cancelled, late phone call from her to me, "did I still want to come as would be solo?" Was a fantastic meet, they missed out big time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last 4 people who replied to my meets and said they were coming to a social never turned up.

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos

I’ve had two ‘no shows’ recently! And a few say they will and then same day something comes up- I know this happens but sometimes it’s frequent so think I’ll move on...

All socials one ‘second meet’

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By *uriouscpldartfordCouple
over a year ago

Bluewater

We have had 3 no shows this year, it’s very frustrating.

We chatted to all on phone made arrangements and they don’t turn up.

Not sure if they just bottle it or it’s just a game for them which turns them on, rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few cancelled meets. Messaged a few times, arranged a meet then no response. I've travelled to post code areas 10-15 miles away because I've thought someone was genuine and had verifications but got there and no response...... Hate time wasters, if your just here to view there's plenty of free porn sites, you don't have to waste peoples time.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"I’ve been arranging a social meet first, as I’m a single female, before agreeing to a full meet.

What would you say is your success rate for single men showing up to socials?! I’m currently on 33% but realise it’s early days!!

Just remember, with many single guys, when it comes to meets etc, they dont show because their wives wont let them out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We found that most single guys were no shows, we counted 6 who turned up to meet for a drink, most of which backed out of the bedroom fun.

However, the six that did show represented about 33% if those who agreed to meet but didn't turn up or even call to let us know they had cancelled.

No wonder we stopped meeting.

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By *occerstar579Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

I think it helps by displaying verses of your socials. It shows you are genuine and will turn up. It also shows that you respect a social as being that...not expecting anything more. I've always said a social is the opportunity to leave someone wanting more. Hopefully mine do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been arranging a social meet first, as I’m a single female, before agreeing to a full meet.

What would you say is your success rate for single men showing up to socials?! I’m currently on 33% but realise it’s early days!!

I’m on100% but I don’t rush into a social meet either. I also don’t send pics during that time, s out the pic collectors and those who want to charge through the whole site.

I play by my own rules on here and won’t jump to anyone’s demands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a mood thing. You can be climbing the walls one day, then lose the lust 24hrs later.

I avoid planning ahead for that reason. Spontaneity is the key for me!

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By *eordie4321Man
over a year ago

wallsend

I’d show up for a social with you. Even if it didn’t go any further x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I've had one no show in 4 years.

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