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Respecting Boundaries

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’re relatively new to the site and have already had some fantastic experiences. Unfortunately we’ve now had two incidents where other Fabbers have failed to respect our boundaries. These both happened on repeat meets.

How common is this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its uncommon

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Not very common. I wouldn't be meeting them again tbh.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It'll depend on what your boundaries are, how strict or unusual they are (people get caught up in the moment), and then from person to person. And on how clearly you communicate them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are respectful and some aren't.

Did you tell them your boundaries before the meet? What happened?

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Depends on the rules, situation and person I guess.

I have a rule about not touching my chest.

Had a couple we know join in the heat of the moment. We were fine with that. She went to grab my chest. I said no. She moved her hand away, play continued on, everything was great.

Had a guy join us, wouldn't stop stroking my chest after being told repeatedly so he was kicked out.

Most people take that rule very seriously though which is good.

Another boundary I have is that I do not like to be touched by strangers unless I invite them to.

This is strange for most people never mind swingers so when I try to explain no I don't want to say hi with a hug and cheek kiss people ignore it. Had someone we'd spoke to, who knew this rule try to greet me with a hug, I reminded him and his way to deal with it was to kiss my hand. No! Don't touch me unless invited!

People ignore that boundary way more than the chest one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re relatively new to the site and have already had some fantastic experiences. Unfortunately we’ve now had two incidents where other Fabbers have failed to respect our boundaries. These both happened on repeat meets.

How common is this?

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not common and not funny they need to be told or they will just keep doing as they will see you as soft ..your in charge not them so tell them back off or fuck off ..thats what i would do anyway

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"We’re relatively new to the site and have already had some fantastic experiences. Unfortunately we’ve now had two incidents where other Fabbers have failed to respect our boundaries. These both happened on repeat meets.

How common is this?

not common and not funny they need to be told or they will just keep doing as they will see you as soft ..your in charge not them so tell them back off or fuck off ..thats what i would do anyway "

Surely no one's 'in charge' - boundaries are a two-way street that should be respected by all parties.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"We’re relatively new to the site and have already had some fantastic experiences. Unfortunately we’ve now had two incidents where other Fabbers have failed to respect our boundaries. These both happened on repeat meets.

How common is this?

not common and not funny they need to be told or they will just keep doing as they will see you as soft ..your in charge not them so tell them back off or fuck off ..thats what i would do anyway

Surely no one's 'in charge' - boundaries are a two-way street that should be respected by all parties."

Everyone is incharge of their own body!

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool


"We’re relatively new to the site and have already had some fantastic experiences. Unfortunately we’ve now had two incidents where other Fabbers have failed to respect our boundaries. These both happened on repeat meets.

How common is this?

not common and not funny they need to be told or they will just keep doing as they will see you as soft ..your in charge not them so tell them back off or fuck off ..thats what i would do anyway

Surely no one's 'in charge' - boundaries are a two-way street that should be respected by all parties."

I think they meant you're in charge of making and enforcing your own boundaries.

As is the other party but you can't expect people to know your boundaries if you don't clearly explain them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re relatively new to the site and have already had some fantastic experiences. Unfortunately we’ve now had two incidents where other Fabbers have failed to respect our boundaries. These both happened on repeat meets.

How common is this?

not common and not funny they need to be told or they will just keep doing as they will see you as soft ..your in charge not them so tell them back off or fuck off ..thats what i would do anyway

Surely no one's 'in charge' - boundaries are a two-way street that should be respected by all parties.

Everyone is incharge of their own body! "
really when im on dance floor it seems to do moves im not in charge of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boundaries should always be respected by both parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boundaries should always be respected but when people have weird hang ups they are probably best avoided in the first place....

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

My boundries are little no fingering and no anal.

The NO anal is easy to uphold. It's the fingering, we verbally say little to none. But most just carry on, or they stop for a bit, then start again. Fingering changes my ph balance. If they are smokers it's a garentee to thrush. Costs me £12 to sort and out of action for a bit.

My fella is quite good at " hosting and policeing" meets. Not in an agressive way.

Set your boundries, it's your body, your doing it for your fun.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"My boundries are little no fingering and no anal.

The NO anal is easy to uphold. It's the fingering, we verbally say little to none. But most just carry on, or they stop for a bit, then start again. Fingering changes my ph balance. If they are smokers it's a garentee to thrush. "

Could they put a condom over their fingers ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies and good to hear this is uncommon, as these incidents made us a bit wary of arranging any further Fab meets.

We made it very clear what our boundaries were at the very start and there were no issues on the initial meets. The fact both incidents occurred on repeat meets took us by surprise.

Despite them being two totally unconnected meets the parties involved reacted quite aggressively when they were told no. We get that things can potentially blur in the heat of action but the complete lack of respect was quite frankly, shocking. Suffice to say we won’t be meeting either party again.

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