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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do people handle shadow profiles on here? I'm talking about profiles with no pictures/they are all set to friends only/all dick pics (even worse).

Seeing as the filter regarding this doesn't seem to work, I tend to block the ones that message me straight away regardless of how well written their bio is(I do say this on my profile so their fault if they don't read it). I just don't have the time to waste to get to the stage where we can swap face pics with every blank profile that shows an interest. Also I think it's totally unfair and sets us off on an uneven footing as they have some sort of idea of what I look like and I don't have any of them.

I get wanting to be discreet because of jobs or people you know on here etc. I'm just as worried about discretion as the next person but I just think there's no excuse to not even have a body pic or some sort of representation of you on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sometimes I do wonder if I am missing out on great people because of my principles regarding this but it's an issue I just can't seem to get past...

Even worse are the people that message saying "I can send pics if you want me to". Why even waste my time messaging me that?! Just send pics straight away if you want to get my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't got one atm but that and profile hidden is because of lack of time ... to get around the filter they just show one message then take it off again

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I delete as well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people handle shadow profiles on here? I'm talking about profiles with no pictures/they are all set to friends only/all dick pics (even worse).

Seeing as the filter regarding this doesn't seem to work, I tend to block the ones that message me straight away regardless of how well written their bio is(I do say this on my profile so their fault if they don't read it). I just don't have the time to waste to get to the stage where we can swap face pics with every blank profile that shows an interest. Also I think it's totally unfair and sets us off on an uneven footing as they have some sort of idea of what I look like and I don't have any of them.

I get wanting to be discreet because of jobs or people you know on here etc. I'm just as worried about discretion as the next person but I just think there's no excuse to not even have a body pic or some sort of representation of you on your profile. "
i agree, at least have some pictures to view

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Depends if they attach pictures with the message or not. 99% of them I ignore, but there are some hotties out there with no public pics. The only person I currently repeat meet has a silhouette profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just put on my profile to send a face pic with there first message. If they don’t I delete.

They normally resend one with it and say something like oops forgot the pic.

Some could probably say it’s unfair as they can’t see my face though.

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By *incsman1956Man
over a year ago

skegness

I work in education.....suicide to openly post pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore them if I notice at all I really don't see an issue though as they are not really serious are they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the OP. Pics are the only way to see if there's even minimal attraction. Face pics aren't necessary if you're not attracted to the words in their profile, or body type. Part of this whole thing is "window shopping." Then again, there are some attractive people with rotten personalities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mainly swing in clubs with my friends so most of the time my profile is hidden. I keep in touch with them through text, WhatsApp or phone calls so Fabs isn't my primary focus. If I see someone I fancy on here I will unhide my profile first and include pictures with first message. I know the first thing the lady or couple will do is look at the pictures and read my profile before deciding to reply. Seems to work OK.

I would never expect to be contacted out the blue without a picture as I agree you need to see if there is attraction from both photos and profile text. I also know having a shadow profile will put some people off full stop but I am OK with that as we all use Fabs in different ways..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer people with no public pics. They are private and discreet. It's not difficult to send pics via message after chatting a bit.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We generally would pass them by, seems to be linked to cheating guys! As said above, you don’t need public faces but some body shots etc!

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I always assume they are cheats. A few tasteful body pictures show you have made some sort of effort and no one except a partner would recognise you from them. Unless you have very recognisable tattoos.

I never believe the work reason they give. I get not showing your face in public photos, I don’t. There are many shots you can take that give people an idea of your body shape etc.

Shadow profile = lazy, cheat or both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always assume they are cheats. A few tasteful body pictures show you have made some sort of effort and no one except a partner would recognise you from them. Unless you have very recognisable tattoos.

I never believe the work reason they give. I get not showing your face in public photos, I don’t. There are many shots you can take that give people an idea of your body shape etc.

Shadow profile = lazy, cheat or both.

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A shadow profile is a very poor indication of somebody being a cheat. Better indications are them rarely being around in the evenings or weekends to chat, not wanting to meet for a social in public, etc. I am single and you could contact me at any time day or night and I would reply as I have no partner to hide it from. Same with socials.

If you have a shadow profile then you do accept nobody will contact you out the blue - if you don't put yourself in the shop window you are not going to catch the attention of browsers. Lazy no, it is a conscious choice because we don't all use the site the same way. I would much rather send out two messages with pictures to people I am attracted to than recieve fifty messages from people I am not.

Regarding body shots I will say that 90% of the people I have recognised locally are through tattoos or jewellery.

Some people are just more comfortable being openly visible in this scene than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always assume they are cheats. A few tasteful body pictures show you have made some sort of effort and no one except a partner would recognise you from them. Unless you have very recognisable tattoos.

I never believe the work reason they give. I get not showing your face in public photos, I don’t. There are many shots you can take that give people an idea of your body shape etc.

Shadow profile = lazy, cheat or both.

A shadow profile is a very poor indication of somebody being a cheat. Better indications are them rarely being around in the evenings or weekends to chat, not wanting to meet for a social in public, etc. I am single and you could contact me at any time day or night and I would reply as I have no partner to hide it from. Same with socials.

If you have a shadow profile then you do accept nobody will contact you out the blue - if you don't put yourself in the shop window you are not going to catch the attention of browsers. Lazy no, it is a conscious choice because we don't all use the site the same way. I would much rather send out two messages with pictures to people I am attracted to than recieve fifty messages from people I am not.

Regarding body shots I will say that 90% of the people I have recognised locally are through tattoos or jewellery.

Some people are just more comfortable being openly visible in this scene than others.

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