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By *aveyw OP Man
over a year ago

tramore

Had a meet with a couple on Sunday afternoon. A social but with the option of fun if all agreed. Met in a pub and all went well. Actually turned into a bit of a pub crawl. Discussed all scenarios and everyone seemed cool. Decided to head back to the hotel and the mrs gave me a really nice snog on the way. We had already had a couple of kisses during the day but for whatever reason the Mr called a halt there and then. Not in a nasty way, just said I think that’s it for tonight. Poor Mrs was mortified and was asking what was wrong. Anyway that was the end of it. Got a text from her later saying sorry and that he’d been having doubts about playing anymore. Disaster. Hotel room on my own and horny as hell. Just got slowly pissed in the hotel bar talking shite to the barman.

Ever happened to anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit cruel of hubby To pull the plug on it like that. He probably gets off on it, but I'm sure you know that and rose above it. I had a slightly similar situation week before last on holiday.

Was out with mate from tennis club in Portugal. We got back to our villa and had a coffee. I said right I am off to bed now guys, if you 2 fancy a snog or whatever, please be my guest and I trotted off to bedroom. I heard them talk for a few mins then footsteps and then door to bedroom closed. I was not wanted and not allowed to watch. First thought is slight disappointment and the feeling it hadn't gone as I hoped but I had started it so I was obliged to follow it through and What Mrs N felt like doing is far more important than my feelings. This is what that hubby should have done in my opinion but I do realize I am possibly in the minority.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Had a meet with a couple on Sunday afternoon. A social but with the option of fun if all agreed. Met in a pub and all went well. Actually turned into a bit of a pub crawl. Discussed all scenarios and everyone seemed cool. Decided to head back to the hotel and the mrs gave me a really nice snog on the way. We had already had a couple of kisses during the day but for whatever reason the Mr called a halt there and then. Not in a nasty way, just said I think that’s it for tonight. Poor Mrs was mortified and was asking what was wrong. Anyway that was the end of it. Got a text from her later saying sorry and that he’d been having doubts about playing anymore. Disaster. Hotel room on my own and horny as hell. Just got slowly pissed in the hotel bar talking shite to the barman.

Ever happened to anyone?"

It happens and unfortunately you have to respect their wishes as much as if you decided to bail out you would expect them to respect you.

Also it's not just about her, I'm glad she listened to her husband rather than forcing something he clearly wasn't happy with.

All parties concerned need to be happy it's not just about you getting your end away!

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By *aveyw OP Man
over a year ago

tramore

It would have done nothing for me if I thought anyone wasn’t comfortable

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"It would have done nothing for me if I thought anyone wasn’t comfortable "

Exactly and hopefully him pulling the plug early saved an even more awkward situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In another situation a few years ago we met for a social, everyone was happy and attracted so we said let's go back to ours for a coffee.

Well disaster struck us and the women smoked something on the way to ours from the pub and basically had a paranoia attack in our lounge after a few minutes. She went all jealous and nasty. It was terrible and we had to ask them to leave as she got so stroppy and weird.

Another reason why I am rather against that stuff of late as I can see what it does to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sounds like far from a disaster, sounds like you had a fun night but one member of the group didn't want to take it any further.

That's fine and it could have been a lot worse.

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By *aveyw OP Man
over a year ago

tramore

"That sounds like far from a disaster, sounds like you had a fun night but one member of the group didn't want to take it any further.

That's fine and it could have been a lot worse. "

True enough I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds like far from a disaster, sounds like you had a fun night but one member of the group didn't want to take it any further.

That's fine and it could have been a lot worse. "

I tend to agree with that if one person isn't happy then any repectful person would see that and be cool with it.

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By *aveyw OP Man
over a year ago

tramore

"That sounds like far from a disaster, sounds like you had a fun night but one member of the group didn't want to take it any further.

That's fine and it could have been a lot worse.

I tend to agree with that if one person isn't happy then any repectful person would see that and be cool with it. "

I thought I was. Just disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe next time you will manage your expectations and enjoy whatever happens for what it is?

It's not all about getting it in.

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By *ewismixedbbcMan
over a year ago

birmingham

hahaha i don’t know about woman but as a man that would be frustrating but depending on how worked up for it you are as a man my balls would be swollen lol . But respecting wishes of others is a must so id of took it on the chin ??

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By *linyMan
over a year ago

Manchester/London

That’s my conclusion too, if everyone involved is not happy then we don’t proceed. In my mind that’s just common courtesy.

"That sounds like far from a disaster, sounds like you had a fun night but one member of the group didn't want to take it any further.

That's fine and it could have been a lot worse.

I tend to agree with that if one person isn't happy then any repectful person would see that and be cool with it. "

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

"In another situation a few years ago we met for a social, everyone was happy and attracted so we said let's go back to ours for a coffee.

Another reason why I am rather against that stuff of late as I can see what it does to people.

Sounds like something out of "Reefer madness"

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