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By *nkedMilf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Colchester

Morning!

Just after some advice, I'm heading to my first solo club night tomorrow; what's the etiquette with single girls and couples?

I've generally only done clubs as a couple, and never actually played with a couple solo.....

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Enjoy it!

All club rules apply, and your own personal rules do to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversation in the club, whether in the bar or play areas is the best way. Simply say hello!

In terms of etiquette, just ask if there are any do’s or dont’s before play starts. Most people are upfront.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I'd say the same as you'd say to guys, confidence, chat and banter and most nothing happens unless both parties are happy with it

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Enjoy and make sure that everyone knows that when you say no it’s a no. Your rulz me dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why! "

We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start!

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By *nkedMilf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Colchester


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why! "

Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of "

Don’t let it put you off, I may just scare people away with resting bitch face!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a side note, you are gorgeous! You will have no trouble grabbing attention. People will probably ask about that tattoos as an ice-breaker. Would gladly accompany you to a club if I was free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start! "

I find it’s less creepy (from a receiving end) if it’s the female half that initiates the chat. It is much easier for a girl to chat to a girl. But that might just be me

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of "

I really admire your independence. I would shit myself going solo and im a bloke. Im sure you can find a swinging partner to chaperone you.

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By *oundmywaybackWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I was really lucky as my first club visit as a single female I was chaperoned by an amazing lady who introduced me to many of her friends. I have now built up a little social network in my ‘local club’ 9 times out of 10 I will already know a couple there (even if it is just for a social) I find more couples will chat with me if they have seen me talking to others. I love going as a single female now. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of "

I find this too but just be social say hi I find nights when single guys allowed much more social but you do have to be clear with a few lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of

Don’t let it put you off, I may just scare people away with resting bitch face! "

Pmsl I was told I have one of those so maybe the case

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By *nkedMilf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Colchester


"On a side note, you are gorgeous! You will have no trouble grabbing attention. People will probably ask about that tattoos as an ice-breaker. Would gladly accompany you to a club if I was free "

If you want company at a club definitely shout me anytime, I'm always up for a club night

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By *nkedMilf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Colchester


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of

I really admire your independence. I would shit myself going solo and im a bloke. Im sure you can find a swinging partner to chaperone you. "

Sadly they are extremely hard to come by, plenty say yes but then won't go through with actually going, I've struggled to find one on the 18months I've been here!

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Morning!

Just after some advice, I'm heading to my first solo club night tomorrow; what's the etiquette with single girls and couples?

I've generally only done clubs as a couple, and never actually played with a couple solo.....

X"

Well expect waaaaay more attention going as a single girl haha

You will be in high demand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a side note, you are gorgeous! You will have no trouble grabbing attention. People will probably ask about that tattoos as an ice-breaker. Would gladly accompany you to a club if I was free

If you want company at a club definitely shout me anytime, I'm always up for a club night "

I tend to go during the day rather than night due to commitments but i may be able to find time in my schedule for a night club visit sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start! "

Good to know we’re not the only ones who thinks this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been to a club but would love to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go on my own but only go to mixed night (couples and singles). Pull a stool up at the bar and smile, you’ll be fine. Definitely make it clear when you’re not interested, a polite ‘no thank you’ should be enough. I explain to couples that I do play with couples but generally like to get to know them first. Some walk off

Ive met some great people and it’s rare I go and don’t know someone now, which makes the club scene more fun.

If you’re ever in the north east drop me a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m definitely going to give it a go. Great to see everyone being so helpful! I’m not sure which one to go to. I’ll have a look

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By *urplequeenWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Keeping an eye on this one as its something I will be doing in the near future. Though i have broken the ice already by going to the club previously with fwb. Lots of chat and getting to know people for me. I actually wasnt even asked to play once but think id made it clear that i only wanted social as was first ever visit

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of

I really admire your independence. I would shit myself going solo and im a bloke. Im sure you can find a swinging partner to chaperone you.

Sadly they are extremely hard to come by, plenty say yes but then won't go through with actually going, I've struggled to find one on the 18months I've been here!"

I hope you have a great time. I tend to find you always build up ideas in your head if you are unsure about things. I would suggest just go with the flow and enjoy yourself. Would be great to read up about it after your visit. Ggood luck.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I go on my own and tend to hang around the bar area ... which is good for striking up banter ... I travel alone in this country and abroad so it’s pretty much on a par with being in a bar alone ... I just chat and chat and don’t expect anything .... just relax and go with the flow

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I go on my own and tend to hang around the bar area ... which is good for striking up banter ... I travel alone in this country and abroad so it’s pretty much on a par with being in a bar alone ... I just chat and chat and don’t expect anything .... just relax and go with the flow "

If you're every in lovely Hull I'd like to say hello. Xx

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Go to a decent club .. one that has a bar ..

Enjoy a few drinks and chatter in the bar ..

You don’t have to take it further on your first visit

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By *nkedMilf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Colchester


"I go on my own but only go to mixed night (couples and singles). Pull a stool up at the bar and smile, you’ll be fine. Definitely make it clear when you’re not interested, a polite ‘no thank you’ should be enough. I explain to couples that I do play with couples but generally like to get to know them first. Some walk off

Ive met some great people and it’s rare I go and don’t know someone now, which makes the club scene more fun.

If you’re ever in the north east drop me a message "

Shame I was up in Bradford last week! But I'll certainly give you a shout if I'm up that way again!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Just don't over think it. Go with no expectations, be yourself and enjoy. Just let the rest flow naturally and you'll have a great time whatever you do or don't do.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!

We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start!

Good to know we’re not the only ones who thinks this "

My experience of scene as a couple and a single is that the atmosphere is often school disco like. In the sense that folk are there, available and wanting to hook up, but no know one is. Instead lots of people keeping them self to them self or just no making any kind of move. Personally I think a lot of it is people worried about breaking their comfort zone and fearing possible rejection. In a way I think its couples that tend to be the less outgoing and less likely to make a first move. Maybe because they are a couple, they have the comfort of each other. But a single on their own its do or die because the option is either socialise or be Billy no mates.

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By *nkedMilf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Colchester

Thanks guys and girls, if I manage to get my ass inside I'll report back on how it went

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go on my own but only go to mixed night (couples and singles). Pull a stool up at the bar and smile, you’ll be fine. Definitely make it clear when you’re not interested, a polite ‘no thank you’ should be enough. I explain to couples that I do play with couples but generally like to get to know them first. Some walk off

Ive met some great people and it’s rare I go and don’t know someone now, which makes the club scene more fun.

If you’re ever in the north east drop me a message

Shame I was up in Bradford last week! But I'll certainly give you a shout if I'm up that way again!"

Definitely message next time x

Let us all know how much fun you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't go on a couple's single lady night I would only go on a mixed with guys too. The one time I went on a non mixed night with my female bi friend we were made to feel awkward. We only had intention of playing with each other but found some woman of couples positively scowled at us for being there and the guys were looking at us like pieces of meat. It made us laugh because we had no intention of playing with anyone else but I don't think I would have liked it had that not been the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again, from experience, as a single female you have to work really hard at chatting and engaging with other people at clubs or parties. Couples are usually very distrustful. BUT having said that, I met a really lovely, kind, affectionate man at a club with his wife, and we were mates for years. So it can happen!

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

You’ll be popular xx

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