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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tried anal sex the other night and it stung like fook!!!

But I have friends that say once you get past that it’s very enjoyable, but I haven’t got past the ring sting stage.

Any Abbie’s on how to move forward is welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of lube and loads of time. It's worth it

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England


"Tried anal sex the other night and it stung like fook!!!

But I have friends that say once you get past that it’s very enjoyable, but I haven’t got past the ring sting stage.

Any Abbie’s on how to move forward is welcome"

Plenty of foreplay. Stimulate the ring, plenty of lube and of course plenty more lube.

Its also important that the guy isnt doing it too hard. Maybe you take control so you go at you pace.

Maybe a bit of anal training with a but plug may help.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Practice makes perfect lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get them to dribble on your rusty sheriffs badge, if that doesn't work try lard, its organic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Loads of lube and loads of time. It's worth it "

We had loads of lube, but when it started to stretch I couldn’t help tensing up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of lube and loads of time. It's worth it

We had loads of lube, but when it started to stretch I couldn’t help tensing up"

It's good to use a finger in first.. then 2.. then 3.. and then slowly get in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try using a toy like and anal plug or beads first (with lube) in order to get you more relaxed with the sensation. Then lube, lube and more lube until you're used to it. Remember that unlike the vagina, you don't secrete liquid there when turned on, so you need help.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

More lube, more time, more foreplay, more positions and it will cum to you.

Lube has been well covered in the posts... so I'll address the rest....

Your bum is sealed by a series of ring like sphincter muscles. You need to be relaxed relaxed for these to open up to allow pleasurable entry.

Forplay will help to relax you and your sphincters.... tounge's, toys fingers... whatever floats your boat and turns you on.

Being really clean will help you relax, so douche super well, and then you can switch off the worries and just enjoy the stimulation.

Position is everything.... doggy is not usually a good first time position.... try lying on your back or side.... let your partner support the weight of your leg or legs.... you don't want any extra tension in your muscles. If you are nervous try sitting on top, then you are in complete control.

Control entry in stages and communicate clearly with your partner.... no thrusting.... firm pressure and smooth entry is desirable.... just hold it there... increase pressure slowly. ... the muscles will relax!

As the first sphincter opens, just hold it in there no thrusting or pulling out.... just let the muscle adjust to the new cock filled reality..... ignore any burn..... clitoral stimulation and dirty talk is good at this point....

Suddenly the discomfort passes and you will want more... want it deeper.... the next sphincter is similar but slightly easier....

You will feel full.. maby like you need to poo.... its normal and usually passes quickly (excuse the pun). Gently slow thrusting will now start to feel good.... and quite quickly you might be begging to be fucked harder and faster... avoid this in the beginning, as it will hurt and feel bruised afterwards.

Top tip

If doing anal dont let him cum first.... you need him to maintain a stiff solid erection throughout.

Also don't let him bring you to orgasm before commencing bum fun as it tightens up all your sphincters and it will make things a lot more difficult....

If youre still having trouble find a smaller cock or more experienced tutor xx

Good luck

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Self training, including relaxation and toys. When you are turned on, it's much easier too.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

The only thing I'd disagree with above is doggy...

The only reason being you can control it... Get him to stay still and you can slowly push back on him, allowing your body to adjust at it's own pace, knowing you're in control brings an element of relaxation in itself

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Some really good advice above. Can't really add much but the spoons position is good too as it allows you to adjust position and he can gently penetrate you and get into a position you are comfortable with.

Another thing that people use a lot is a thing that you sniff up your nose that swingers won't let me mention as this relaxes your whole body momentarily. I'm not a fan of them personally but I know people, male or female, that find them a help.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"The only thing I'd disagree with above is doggy...

The only reason being you can control it... Get him to stay still and you can slowly push back on him, allowing your body to adjust at it's own pace, knowing you're in control brings an element of relaxation in itself"

I have always stayed away from doggy with first timers, but what you say does make absolute sense!

I guess it all boils down to trust and communication between partners...

Thanks for the advise I look forward to trying it out, as soon as I can find a volunteer lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant really add any more to what others have already said but once you do get past the painful stage then its just pure bliss. I love being fucked, there really isn't no feeling like it. Hope you'll get to enjoy it

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

If you don’t want to why bother?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"If you don’t want to why bother?"

Well I work by the rule of three. Maybe the OP does too.

The first time you try pretty much anything you're going to have some negative reactions to it as you're never fully prepared as to what you're going to experience and how you react to the physical and emotional side of things.

The second time you have some idea, so you can more thoroughly prepare, you've an idea of what wasn't quite done right and what to expect.

The third time generally, for me, seals the deal. I'm relaxed enough to fully engage in the situation, know how my brain and body is likely to react and that's when I decide it's either a yey or nay for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mate of mines partner fouled herself when he pulled out

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By *an For YouMan
over a year ago

belfast/holywood

Butt plug first all the way. Opens you up. Cock slides straight in. Lots and lots of lube before and during

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Some good advice. I find having a wand on my clit takes the focus away from the stinginess

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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago

South East


"Loads of lube and loads of time. It's worth it "

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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago

South East

When I had anal sex with my partner I used one of her dildos, a sleek fairly small width wise on her we inserted it with lots of lube and then played with each other with out touching it to help her relax, then slowly moved to just slowly moving it in and out until she felt comfortable and happy, before we slipped it out and I entered her, as I was wider than then toy she did feel a slight stinging sensation but we took our time slowly building up until it become a fast motion.

Belive it or not that was my first time having anal sex. Still think about it today

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Years ago my ex and i practised with a starbar.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Years ago my ex and i practised with a starbar."

Not a curly-wurly?? Lol

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"Tried anal sex the other night and it stung like fook!!!

But I have friends that say once you get past that it’s very enjoyable, but I haven’t got past the ring sting stage.

Any Abbie’s on how to move forward is welcome"

my first anal sex was in a hot tub I was with a guy he just touched me I turned around told him fuck me and he did he put his cock up my arse and it felt so good and since then im a big lover of it rather my arse done than my pusy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try with a smaller cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tease it first. Maybe use a plug. Lots of lubricant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mate of mines partner fouled herself when he pulled out"

Quite possible until you're used to cleaning yourelf prior. Always good to have a wet flannel/towel on hand to clear up afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely good to use a plug before, lots of lube on him and you, and be as relaxed as possible

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I was very nervous the first time but I had a very good, patient mentor!

We experimented with butt plugs first to get me used to something being in there then we made sure we had plenty of time and used lots of lube.

He got me very aroused which helped.

50% of it is psychological you need to be relaxed and trust your partner. It is hard but you need to relax your sphincter muscles or it will hurt more and he needs to go slow.

Spooning helps.

If you really don't like it don't do it x

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

As a man i find giving anal sex a tad over rated. If tried it and found it ok. Prefer fucking a pussy over an ass.

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By *etasubTV/TS
over a year ago

West of Newcastle

Took me monthes to relax to be able to take anal. Agree with start small eg fingering, use latex disposable gloves available from any screw... Or tool..... Outlet, in boxes of 100, stops any scratching by the fingernails. Progress to small butt plug, always with plenty of lube, agree with sniffing popxxxxx, best position for initial entry doggy style for me but every one is different xxx

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I would suggest exploring and experimenting whilst alone. You will be far more relaxed. The key to a lot of the relaxation required is breathing and being mentally ready.

You would be surprised at what you can achieve once you know your own body well enough. Believe me, I definitely know!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"A mate of mines partner fouled herself when he pulled out"

Suit happens! Just have some baby wipes and tissues on standby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like many have said lube,slowly you take control but also try a bit of what we call training, try a butt plug a few days before for an hour or so starting small and if comfortable go up a size,

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left side. Spoon. Understanding partner who takes it slow. Get him to enter you but not move for ages until your ready

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill


"More lube, more time, more foreplay, more positions and it will cum to you.

Lube has been well covered in the posts... so I'll address the rest....

Your bum is sealed by a series of ring like sphincter muscles. You need to be relaxed relaxed for these to open up to allow pleasurable entry.

Forplay will help to relax you and your sphincters.... tounge's, toys fingers... whatever floats your boat and turns you on.

Being really clean will help you relax, so douche super well, and then you can switch off the worries and just enjoy the stimulation.

Position is everything.... doggy is not usually a good first time position.... try lying on your back or side.... let your partner support the weight of your leg or legs.... you don't want any extra tension in your muscles. If you are nervous try sitting on top, then you are in complete control.

Control entry in stages and communicate clearly with your partner.... no thrusting.... firm pressure and smooth entry is desirable.... just hold it there... increase pressure slowly. ... the muscles will relax!

As the first sphincter opens, just hold it in there no thrusting or pulling out.... just let the muscle adjust to the new cock filled reality..... ignore any burn..... clitoral stimulation and dirty talk is good at this point....

Suddenly the discomfort passes and you will want more... want it deeper.... the next sphincter is similar but slightly easier....

You will feel full.. maby like you need to poo.... its normal and usually passes quickly (excuse the pun). Gently slow thrusting will now start to feel good.... and quite quickly you might be begging to be fucked harder and faster... avoid this in the beginning, as it will hurt and feel bruised afterwards.

Top tip

If doing anal dont let him cum first.... you need him to maintain a stiff solid erection throughout.

Also don't let him bring you to orgasm before commencing bum fun as it tightens up all your sphincters and it will make things a lot more difficult....

If youre still having trouble find a smaller cock or more experienced tutor xx

Good luck"

Top shelf advice from the Carpenter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse"

But you have tried it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse"

Really I don't remember getting taught that anal sex is unnatural during a&p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, who you want meet ?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Hi, who you want meet ?"

Thanks, but no.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse"

We love it, and that’s from a nurse

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Love it but only with partner u can get bum training plugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lube lube lube n practice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse

Really I don't remember getting taught that anal sex is unnatural during a&p "

I can only think that comment is tongue in cheek as she has a pic of a cock in her arse on profile!

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By *heshireguy69Man
over a year ago

saddleworth


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse

Really I don't remember getting taught that anal sex is unnatural during a&p

I can only think that comment is tongue in cheek as she has a pic of a cock in her arse on profile! "

Can I just compliment you on your amazing arse. Very nice indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep sliding it in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use bonjela as lube to numb the hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse

Really I don't remember getting taught that anal sex is unnatural during a&p

I can only think that comment is tongue in cheek as she has a pic of a cock in her arse on profile! "

Oh you noticed too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Use bonjela as lube to numb the hole"

Those that realy work?

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By *issme quick sucmeslowMan
over a year ago

warringtonish

Make sure you use anal silcon lube it has a numbing agent in to youll soon have it up there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse

Really I don't remember getting taught that anal sex is unnatural during a&p

I can only think that comment is tongue in cheek as she has a pic of a cock in her arse on profile!

Can I just compliment you on your amazing arse. Very nice indeed "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of lube and loads of time. It's worth it

We had loads of lube, but when it started to stretch I couldn’t help tensing up"

When you tense take a deep breath, then you take control of the movement, when it relaxes you slowly slide on, rather than them pushing. It helps. - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *xotic indianCouple
over a year ago

leicester

I find using a nice glass dildo not too big .Have an anal douche make sure you are empty and clean

Plenty of lube and start slowly

Close your eyes and relax once your partner start to push the dildo you push slowly as if you want to open your bowel.

Once it's all inside just get use to it .Relax then you ask him to start pulling and pushing slowly or you can do it yourself .

May be he can caress your clit just to get your excited.

Lot of women enjoy caress their clit during anal sex .

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Use bonjela as lube to numb the hole

Those that realy work?"
yes i did it with my ex

Try it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

GF cant get enough anal ..always says yes

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"Unnatural,..... And that's from a nurse"

So are baked Alaskas, nylon socks and air travel. Whats your point?

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By *randmrssubdomCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I don't do anal but have rimmed other arse holes of female friends to help lubricate for anal

Still horny for me to help

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

A lot of great advice on here.

I would suggest a couple of alcoholic drinks might help you to get into a more relaxed state as well

Enjoy!!

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