FabSwingers.com forum: If someone was about to take control of you totally, sexually...

By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Would you stop it...

Or would you go with it?

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

depends who it was I suppose; but considering that if anyone was close enough to me to take control I would probably just go with it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the level of trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just couldn't let go to let it happen for more than any amount of time I was able to determine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well depends on who it was but I would more the likely let it happen

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Depends who with.

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Definitely go with it, I'm too submissive not to.

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By * Star FilthMan
over a year ago

staplehurst

"Definitely go with it, I'm too submissive not to.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If I knew the person well hell yes

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd stop it. I have limits

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Depends who with. "

This x

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

With D yes 100%

Not with anyone else.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with it, albeit with a "safe" word!

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

it all depends on the person

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By *ulgehunterMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

I'm very sub,so I'd go with it

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

Who, what, when, where, how?? Yes with certain criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, yes!

(as long as I trusted him)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With Mr I’m totally submissive, but with anyone else it would be no. I’m not naturally submissive, am with him as it’s our dynamic, but anyone else I’d be likely to fight for dominance myself. It’s something that shocks some people, but that’s because they don’t get that just because you’re submissive to one person, doesn’t mean you are to anyone else x Viv x

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

I'd have to trust that person with my life before I have someone that much power over me.xxx

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I would 100% go with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with it, but only with my hubby because I trust him, and it's sexy as hell to be dominated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like losing myself in sex, but I don't like the idea of the use of control over me

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

Normally I prefer to be the more dominant one if that is the way the evening unfolds. However, I have been in the situation where a friend has taken control and she tied me down to the bed....it was unexpected but I trusted her and it led to a fantastic night!!

The key either way is trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He wouldn't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Total control means I have no say at all. That's never going to happen

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By *uriouscraig400Man
over a year ago

portishead

I absolutely would, I’m too submissive to say no!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

As much as I like the idea, with someone I could trust

I'm too feisty & stubborn to ever let anyone have full control over me, I just don't think I could

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By *unky harryMan
over a year ago

bridgend

Just don't stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been a fantasy of mine for a while now... but there would still have to be ground rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a fantasy of mine xx

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Would you stop it...

Or would you go with it?"

Totally depends on who with, and in what scenario. I'd love to though

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm submissive so I would definitely enjoy giving up control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id go with it, if i sniff hesitancy or nerves i switch go dom ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id go with it, if i sniff hesitancy or nerves i switch go dom ..."

Tie me up, tie me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id go with it, if i sniff hesitancy or nerves i switch go dom ...

Tie me up, tie me down

Naughty lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id go with it, if i sniff hesitancy or nerves i switch go dom ...

Tie me up, tie me down

Naughty lol"

Always

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Very much depends on the person and how much it had been discussed beforehand - trust and mutual respect would be major factors in making that decision if it were a spur of the moment thing

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By *winflamesCouple
over a year ago

Near Surbiton

"Would you stop it...

Or would you go with it?"

Trust is key, but I (Mrs) love being dominated like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would never happen

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By *ensousladyWoman
over a year ago

Naughtyville

I'm too much of a free spirit to be controlled... but that said, sexually I can switch but only with my fwb & one other fb!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm a sub, but that control was earned by my Dom, which is no easy feat

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

The thing is, what is the tipping point where you would allow to be induced into sub space?

What would be in place (intellectual/physical/emotional)?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Would you stop it...

Or would you go with it?"

Yes, but only with Cal as I trust him implicitly.

Nita

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Depends on the person and the scene. Usually if anyone is taking control C is there as my Dom and to make sure I don't get badly hurt. I know my safe words and I know my limits. If I was playing that way with someone all limits, etc would be outlined first!!

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

Totally go with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation and who more than likely probably go with it

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Suppose I’m trying to establish what was it that allowed you to let go.

There is a series of steps on a “heroes journey”, mythology calls the first step the call to adventure.

Typical would be, princess playing ball by a pond.

Her ball lands in a lake, too far to reach.

She sits there crying when a frog comes out of the pond and says, ‘take my flipper and join me in the depths of the pond’.

What is the point you decide (or not) to take the choice to enter the pond.

At what point did you start living your own mythology of who you are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never has happened im always in total control sexually

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

That would totally not work for me.

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"That would totally not work for me."

And how is that?

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

It certainly works for me! My Master has complete control over me sexually and I love it!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Total control means I have no say at all. That's never going to happen"

You always have a say. "Total control" is never actually total if the sex is consensual. The sub is the one with the power.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably. As long as my won't list is adhered to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d probably wake up from the dream!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I’m in charge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I feel like I could do anything for a Domme. Just don't tell me to rob a bank.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Total control means I have no say at all. That's never going to happen

You always have a say. "Total control" is never actually total if the sex is consensual. The sub is the one with the power."

This

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

"Total control means I have no say at all. That's never going to happen

You always have a say. "Total control" is never actually total if the sex is consensual. The sub is the one with the power.

This

Would You be the controller or controlled?

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

There has to be a level of trust but there are 3 men I would allow total control over me, I'm naturally submissive in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With mr c yes yes yes

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By *entonMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Suppose I’m trying to establish what was it that allowed you to let go.

There is a series of steps on a “heroes journey”, mythology calls the first step the call to adventure.

Typical would be, princess playing ball by a pond.

Her ball lands in a lake, too far to reach.

She sits there crying when a frog comes out of the pond and says, ‘take my flipper and join me in the depths of the pond’.

What is the point you decide (or not) to take the choice to enter the pond.

At what point did you start living your own mythology of who you are?"
my thoughts exactly

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

As has been said, there has to be complete trust but also respect.

If like me you are lucky enough to have found someone that is genuinely a perfect match, then go for it!

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