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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

I know single men are the bottom of the bunch on fab as we are so many!

But when you have 100s messages to open how do you select which one to open and which one to reply to?

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

In all honesty we try and open and answer all messages even if it's just a polite sorry not interested

Unless it's a rude message

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"In all honesty we try and open and answer all messages even if it's just a polite sorry not interested

Unless it's a rude message "

Okay fair play, but what isit about a profile or message that makes you say yeah his worth a try?

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

All depends upon the message, not going to give examples or whoever sees this will use it as a template to get a reply and more

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"All depends upon the message, not going to give examples or whoever sees this will use it as a template to get a reply and more "

Hehe you can message me privately

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We dont give away secrets, pm and give us your attempt and we will let you no if it's the same way we would like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anything that shows the whole message before you looklike hi ,hows you ,sexy, fancy a fuck ...all just deleted with out opening that 50 to 60% gone in an instant.

then i open to see what there is left delete the porn dreamers then if there's a decent message ill look at profile first no profile or very little then delete again then ill be left with a handful of messages to look at and reply to

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"anything that shows the whole message before you looklike hi ,hows you ,sexy, fancy a fuck ...all just deleted with out opening that 50 to 60% gone in an instant.

then i open to see what there is left delete the porn dreamers then if there's a decent message ill look at profile first no profile or very little then delete again then ill be left with a handful of messages to look at and reply to"

Makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know single men are the bottom of the bunch on fab as we are so many!

But when you have 100s messages to open how do you select which one to open and which one to reply to? "

I open them all. I reply to the ones I'm interested in only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have a nice smiling face pic for their profile which also has their torso. That catches my attention and then I look at the profile and message text to see how much of a gentleman they appear to be.

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By *east88Couple
over a year ago

darlington

Same here a message that doesn’t just say Hi!

Face and body pics a must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to read all until it becomes to much and then we mass delete I'm sorry to say,

But we select someone firstly by what they look like, and reading their profile and verifications and then we read the message, after that it comes down to sending messages and what we receive back ie sence of humour likes dislikes, and if it all clicks we meet

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We never have hundreds. We read them all and reply to most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the profile before I open the message, do read all my messages and reply to all but the the really ignorant ones

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

One liners we don’t bother with but to be fair most couples want couples anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to reply to all except for blatantly copy and paste or rude messages. However im only looking for women or couples.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We dont get hundreds from guys as you are all blocked, but there are many couples that are pretty much run by or are just a guy too.

No pics, no veries, obvious professional pics (probably stolen) straight to sex talk etc.

All these put you straight on the delete list no matter who you are.

As do pics of you playing with others & yet you have no veries? so one can assume they are not on this site, ergo we don't even know if they know you have them on here. really? & you want us to meet you? Nah thanks...

;-)

S

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I read them all unless I have a huge influx. Or at least the message preview. Most of the time the message preview tells me if I want to keep reading or not.

I answer if they've read and addressed my profile, and they interest me.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Reply to all but men often then require a reason which is bullshit no is no there is no requirement for anybody to even open a message so no long open them as if they take to mine's to look at porfile there they will see there answer and save everybody's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (female) look at the profile first. If it's a possible fit I read the message. I usually respond to say no thank you unless it's really obvious they have not read our profile then I just delete.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

As others have said I always look at the profile and pics first.

A profile which is well written and humorous gets my attention,esp if they have a good selection of pics and I like their verifications.

If the profile is lazy ie ask or fill in later and had just cock pics or pics of other women ,I wouldn't even open the message.

Miss

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Quick question again, if you saw a profile like mine had message you, would you reply (let me know if there are any red flags or flaws on my profile)

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By *aryjane and spidermanCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

We actually do read the profile in full then at the likes and importantly you need to be fairly close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 166 unopened now. I havent got a system. Ones that are not rude are opened usually. Any that mention kik I open and send a fake kik name.

I more than likely miss some really hot guys but i haven't got the patience to go through them all

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

You have some good veries

My advice would be to lose the sunglasses and hat in a couple of pics and also the heavy cummer part won't appeal to everyone.

Some may question you not accomodating,if you are single maybe pop on why you can't don't accommodate.

Miss

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

They need an avatar, i'll go check out their profile if they have an avatar. Prefer this not to be a dick pic and if their whole page is dick pics i won't bother reading the message.

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I have 166 unopened now. I havent got a system. Ones that are not rude are opened usually. Any that mention kik I open and send a fake kik name.

I more than likely miss some really hot guys but i haven't got the patience to go through them all "

Haha, why do you give them a fake kik? , you don’t like using that app or is there a deeper reason ?

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"You have some good veries

My advice would be to lose the sunglasses and hat in a couple of pics and also the heavy cummer part won't appeal to everyone.

Some may question you not accomodating,if you are single maybe pop on why you can't don't accommodate.

Miss"

Very nice feedback I was looking for thanks

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"anything that shows the whole message before you looklike hi ,hows you ,sexy, fancy a fuck ...all just deleted with out opening that 50 to 60% gone in an instant.

then i open to see what there is left delete the porn dreamers then if there's a decent message ill look at profile first no profile or very little then delete again then ill be left with a handful of messages to look at and reply to"

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Jump

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"In all honesty we try and open and answer all messages even if it's just a polite sorry not interested

Unless it's a rude message

Okay fair play, but what isit about a profile or message that makes you say yeah his worth a try?"

The latest ones are opened first as if you open one half way down and delete its the latest one that pops up. If you are after a magic method there isn't one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty we try and open and answer all messages even if it's just a polite sorry not interested

Unless it's a rude message "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anything that shows the whole message before you looklike hi ,hows you ,sexy, fancy a fuck ...all just deleted with out opening that 50 to 60% gone in an instant.

then i open to see what there is left delete the porn dreamers then if there's a decent message ill look at profile first no profile or very little then delete again then ill be left with a handful of messages to look at and reply to"

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By *rank40 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Bump

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

No face pic in message - delete

Dick pic in message - delete

Not physically attracted - delete

Loads of action photos on profile - delete

Hi/Hey/How's you/You're close wanna fuck/Etc - delete

Obviously copied and pasted - delete (especially annoying when they send the same copy and paste message every week or so, then they get a block)

Obviously haven't read my profile - delete

Too far away - delete

Poor spelling and grammar - delete

It goes on...

I reply to maybe 2% of messages. If I'm in a good mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We reply to all even if it's to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know single men are the bottom of the bunch on fab as we are so many!

But when you have 100s messages to open how do you select which one to open and which one to reply to? "

If we were receiving messages from solo guys - would have to be interesting, show you have read profile and understood it.

You don't have cock pics all over your profile. If your came across of being full of yourself - delete

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

UI'd say married guys pretending to be single are bottom of the pile!

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