FabSwingers.com forum: Straight or bi

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know on here bi couples mostly state that they dont want to meet with straight men,but what if those straight men are bi or willing to play bi but put straight on they profiles because it keeps the option open to play with straight couples,because if the straight couples see the male profile is bi then they'll not be interested.

So some straight men may play bi.

Has anyone got any views on this?

Thanks.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Yup, you’ll be right. I’m a straight guy, I know it and so does my wife but if someone thinks differently, there’s sod all I can do about that.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If everyone was honest with themselves then it wouldn't be an issue in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone was honest with themselves then it wouldn't be an issue in the first place."

This

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"If everyone was honest with themselves then it wouldn't be an issue in the first place."

they may be honest with themselves but just dont want to tell everyone, especially if theyv real friends on here...

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Some guys are bi in certain situations. Most of my meets are with straight guys but I guess if they're just getting their cock sucked it's not really bi

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Some guys are bi in certain situations. Most of my meets are with straight guys but I guess if they're just getting their cock sucked it's not really bi"

no mate thats definitely bi

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Lots of men are fab straight judging by all the posts on here.

It will annoy some who see it as being dishonest,others will be ok with it.

Miss

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Lots of men are fab straight judging by all the posts on here.

It will annoy some who see it as being dishonest,others will be ok with it.

Miss"

This

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By *ycallMan
over a year ago

Dorking

"Some guys are bi in certain situations. Most of my meets are with straight guys but I guess if they're just getting their cock sucked it's not really bi"

LOL

Putting your dick in another guys mouth is massively bisexual.

I think that some guys are just scared to admit it on there profile. Worried about what people will think.

Shame really as the more guys there are who are confident about being bisexual the less stigma there is it attached to it.

Standing up and being proud can change people’s opinions, unfortunately secretly sucking cock doesn’t.

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By *oAngelsCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

Personally, we just prefer guys that are comfortable enough to admit they're bi.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Some guys are bi in certain situations. Most of my meets are with straight guys but I guess if they're just getting their cock sucked it's not really bi

LOL

Putting your dick in another guys mouth is massively bisexual.

I think that some guys are just scared to admit it on there profile. Worried about what people will think.

Shame really as the more guys there are who are confident about being bisexual the less stigma there is it attached to it.

Standing up and being proud can change people’s opinions, unfortunately secretly sucking cock doesn’t."

Meh. Maybe

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By *ikerswingCouple
over a year ago

mcr

playing bi and being bi.two totaly diffrent things in our opinion, we have lost count of the amount of msges we get from straight guys saying i can play bi but only do this or that.for us that isnt bi play.we insist on guy/guy play to start off the fun suprising how many run a mile when we ask if there ok with that.we never areange to meet someone who has straight on there profile as we see it as if you can lie about that what else can you lie about .

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By *oAngelsCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

"playing bi and being bi.two totaly diffrent things in our opinion, we have lost count of the amount of msges we get from straight guys saying i can play bi but only do this or that.for us that isnt bi play.we insist on guy/guy play to start off the fun suprising how many run a mile when we ask if there ok with that.we never areange to meet someone who has straight on there profile as we see it as if you can lie about that what else can you lie about ."

Our sentiments exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some guys are bi in certain situations. Most of my meets are with straight guys but I guess if they're just getting their cock sucked it's not really bi

LOL

Putting your dick in another guys mouth is massively bisexual.

I think that some guys are just scared to admit it on there profile. Worried about what people will think.

Shame really as the more guys there are who are confident about being bisexual the less stigma there is it attached to it.

Standing up and being proud can change people’s opinions, unfortunately secretly sucking cock doesn’t."

All guys wank cock in hand. I'm sure most guys would give themselves a BJ if they could lol. So what is wrong with another guy helping you out lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People often develop their understanding of their sexuality, if not 100% straight, at a different place to their primary interest and often their same gender interests aren't simply a cut and paste alternative. Sometimes swinging is a lifestyle where people can be in association with alternative options that don't present as readily when in serial m/f relationships and sex, which possibly is both drivers by underlying needs or just lights the fuse.

Many bi couples dislike a straight man who wants the woman but will pretend to be bi, to get the couple to meet him - many detest it, as they won't get satisfaction and will get angry about being deceived. Likewise some straight people get angry when a bi guy deceives them that he is straight, even though no same gender sex happens, it's their preference.

Until big brother has total surveillance and inappropriate. Behaviour is out-lawed or impossible, people will be dishonest, because of their own reasons.

People game systems to some extent, exaggerating careers, to get jobs, or Fabs sex and partner preferences. Some traits are somewhat hidden, others such as race, typically aren't.

Some people are able to have sex with people they don't fancy. Some straight men earn a lot of money acting in gay porn. Couples and singles here would generally prefer a natural sexual contact, not a contrived pr acted performance. An honest profile and communication is key here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People often develop their understanding of their sexuality, if not 100% straight, at a different place to their primary interest and often their same gender interests aren't simply a cut and paste alternative. Sometimes swinging is a lifestyle where people can be in association with alternative options that don't present as readily when in serial m/f relationships and sex, which possibly is both drivers by underlying needs or just lights the fuse.

Until big brother has total surveillance and inappropriate. Behaviour is out-lawed or impossible, people will be dishonest, because of their own reasons.

People game systems to some extent, exaggerating careers, to get jobs, or Fabs sex and partner preferences. Some traits are somewhat hidden, others such as race, typically aren't.

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford

I've met couples as bi guy and met bi guys who have joined me and female.

Lot of Guys who put straight and then say bi purely to get in females pants, leads to crap meet, so not bother. If your bi and not open honest enough to put straight your loss.

What does make me laugh is couples who won't meet bi guys in straight 3sum and state their homophobia, but then when ive looked at their verifications and noticed they've meet few guys that have got straight on profile or changed to straight and are very bi and I know as I've been in bi group sessions with them. Homophobic couples tend to get very pissy when ive told them, I never mention guys profile name though, that is their choice to lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab contains the most closeted, confused and/ or self-denying gay and bisexual men I have ever come across in the last 23 years of being around them. I am really surprised at the scale of how many are like this, even lads in teens to 30s.

I understand with the middle aged guys upwards due to the eras they grew up in, but the younger men still a surprise. I had some bad experiences when I came out in 1990s but it is no way near as bad as that now.

Life is too short to live a lie chaps, you don’t want to look back on your death bed and regret living your life a lie. Be brave like many of us have been and face what you are and come out. All the best

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like being bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My reaction to seeing a fabber get in touch when they've got 'straight' on their profile.. typically just think YEAH RIGHT & block them for lying.

Maybe we should all just take the orientation part as meaning straight ACTING then lol. I'm bi but that doesn't mean I'll happy suck or fuck with just any bloke. If they're comfortable enough to say bi curious or just bi it's a plus in my books.

One told me recently he says straight on his profile to stop putting single women off. Well mate.. that's lying. Heh. What else are you lying about dude?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I've met couples as bi guy and met bi guys who have joined me and female.

Lot of Guys who put straight and then say bi purely to get in females pants, leads to crap meet, so not bother. If your bi and not open honest enough to put straight your loss.

It may not be homophobia, just their choice. It's fair for others not to deceive them.

I have certain food tastes and iit would be wrong for vendors to deceive me about their food, just because they don't have what I ask for.

Sure, there are degrees of intolerance, maybe some bigotry, against race, sexuality and more in the UK but unless people express it, there's no space for others to deceive them as well as non-bigoted people, who have made a decision to meet different types of men.

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford

"I've met couples as bi guy and met bi guys who have joined me and female.

Lot of Guys who put straight and then say bi purely to get in females pants, leads to crap meet, so not bother. If your bi and not open honest enough to put straight your loss.

It may not be homophobia, just their choice. It's fair for others not to deceive them.

I have certain food tastes and iit would be wrong for vendors to deceive me about their food, just because they don't have what I ask for.

Totally agree with you, but when I say they were homophobic, I mean their bigoted and vocal and Andy with it, unfortunate but they can't live and let live and nasty too

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I think people are way too harsh on 'fab straight' guys. I don't mind how they identify on their profiles.

You chat or meet, you have fun, that's all there is to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people are way too harsh on 'fab straight' guys. I don't mind how they identify on their profiles.

You chat or meet, you have fun, that's all there is to it"

Truth is most couple profiles are written and managed by the male and it is his viewpoint that he puts forward. In our experience most fems are a lot more open and accepting of bi males especially if they are bi themselves but do not want to rock the boat with their views. Very rarely do we ever get to talk to the female half until maybe the confirmation phone call they are a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about straight men who fuck TVs or CDs , does someone in a wig and thong make a woman , sexuality is confusing for most , admitting what they are takes balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont entertaine guys who have straight on the profile, but message saying ,but im bi but dont want it on my profile, if your bi then say so, its like saying your a woman then suddenly saying actualy im a guy, be honest, if your dishonest on your profile then we dont trust you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"we dont entertaine guys who have straight on the profile, but message saying ,but im bi but dont want it on my profile, if your bi then say so, its like saying your a woman then suddenly saying actualy im a guy, be honest, if your dishonest on your profile then we dont trust you"
true. I prefer accurate labels as it enables me to make an informed decision.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Something I wont get het up over!

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I just assume that if a guy has messaged me then he's interested, whether he identifies as straight or not. I can see how couples might be a bit suspicious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just assume that if a guy has messaged me then he's interested, whether he identifies as straight or not. I can see how couples might be a bit suspicious "

yes i think its very different for a couple

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

"I just assume that if a guy has messaged me then he's interested, whether he identifies as straight or not. I can see how couples might be a bit suspicious "

Probably OK if you're a single guy being contacted. Would say 9 out of 10 "fab straight" guys who contact us are only bi if they are getting to play with F. In our opinion that's not really bi. Also shows they haven't read our profile or,have chosen to ignore it.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

At the same time are you really going to make him sit down and complete a 10 page questionnaire about everything hes ever done?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We simply state “if you list as straight, we count you as straight” the end no discussion.

We’ve burnt too many times with guys stating they are bi just so they can play with me. And we don’t count guys that “are ok hubby sucking me for a bit” it has to two way involvement

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

I freely admit that I am bi however the vast majority of the messages I receive on Fabswingers are from "straight" guys according to their profiles, be it single guys or on couples profiles!

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

"At the same time are you really going to make him sit down and complete a 10 page questionnaire about everything hes ever done? "

Obviously not. But we are clear that same sex play is what we are looking for. So, if they choose to ignore it we consider that to be rude. We don't contact guys who have straight on theirs on the off chance nor do we contact any who say "100% straight" or similar. Common courtesy really.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Like Elizabeth the 1st said

'I have no desire to make windows of mens souls'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really cannot understand why people would lie to get people in bed that would not want to go with them due to sexuality. How could you possibly enjoy it? I can’t think of anything worse. I like to be upfront and honest about everything so I can attract people that actually want me for me. Makes the sex much better and authentic

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Didn't know manners were so intrinsically linked to the soul

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Personally, we just prefer guys that are comfortable enough to admit they're bi."

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Personally, we just prefer guys that are comfortable enough to admit they're bi.

Of course, me too, but we all know that life and people are not that easy to define

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m bi and my bf is straight. Simple x

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By *ullpa72Man
over a year ago

Isle of Arran

I am bi loud and proud .if that means missing out here and there so be it .

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Still exploring my bi side so I describe myself as bi curious. For me hiding my bi side on here make no sense because it would limit my opportunities to explore that side of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep saying to bi lads on here that plenty of women are fine with it and even some straight MF couples, not all of them reject bi men. I had few messages off women so they are clearly fine with it. Just be honest, life is too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women are bi and some men are bi... What is the problem..? Life can be fun and concerns regarding other peoples opinions is irrelevent..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m bi and my bf is straight. Simple x"

Love this answer, made me laugh.

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