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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol "That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF  | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF "Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off   | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol "he he "round" or "through"  | |||
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"POF as I say is for pg fun fabs is more for grown ups welcome and happy swinging." Im not new lol, ive been here ages hehe I call it Fish For Fanny! Far more appropriate name!  | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF
Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off "ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off  | |||
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off " | |||
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"POF is better for me than here
Here, I get the kinky people quicker "so it's easier to come on here! | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? " LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest "Pretty much the same as here then | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest "Amen to that Sista! | |||
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off
" sweet Jesus!
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off
sweet Jesus!
...where is the drool emoticon? I DEMAND we have a drool emoticon! " ...... there you go | |||
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off
sweet Jesus!
...where is the drool emoticon? I DEMAND we have a drool emoticon!
...... there you go"Thanks for all the love ladies; restores my faith in sites like this  | |||
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off
sweet Jesus!
Thinks all men should take a leaf out of book when ot comes to pics.....very sexy indeed!
...where is the drool emoticon? I DEMAND we have a drool emoticon!
...... there you go
Thanks for all the love ladies; restores my faith in sites like this " | |||
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" Thanks for all the love ladies; restores my faith in sites like this "Viewing your pics restored one or two things for me thanks
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest "Totally agree | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF "find me on POF and come to Dub and you'll be in luck
Interesting how the pic in the suit turns me on the most.... rawr | |||
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" Thanks for all the love ladies; restores my faith in sites like this
Viewing your pics restored one or two things for me thanks
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"POF as I say is for pg fun fabs is more for grown ups welcome and happy swinging. Im not new lol, ive been here ages hehe I call it Fish For Fanny! Far more appropriate name! "I don't think 'fish' and 'fanny' should ever be in the same sentence 
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest Totally agree "me too! it's so frustrating. I thought I stay on POF to look for something more serious and be on this site to have fun while I'm looking for THAT special guy. WRONG! I'd rather have it honest like here than going through all the lies on POF just to find out they just want to fuck you. | |||
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" Interesting how the pic in the suit turns me on the most.... rawr" Have to agree hunny, can't beat a sharp suit! | |||
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" Interesting how the pic in the suit turns me on the most.... rawr Have to agree hunny, can't beat a sharp suit! "don't you just want to grab that tie and pull him against you????  | |||
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" Interesting how the pic in the suit turns me on the most.... rawr Have to agree hunny, can't beat a sharp suit!
don't you just want to grab that tie and pull him against you???? "+1....thought I was shagged out after the last 3 fun-filled, exhausting days, now realise I could easily get going again | |||
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"this has somehow turned into a "We want M_O" thread "**googles train fares to Bristol** | |||
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" **googles train fares to Bristol** "Checking Ryanair for flights  | |||
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"this has somehow turned into a "We want M_O" thread "Haha .. I wish; have you noticed I've only had one encounter since joining? And I was on here before for several months without any luck as well. The women in Bristol and surrounding areas, it seems, are not so attuned to the delights I offer, as you might think?!
However, I'm a patient man and hardly desperate ...so, good things come to those that wait? | |||
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" However, I'm a patient man and hardly desperate ...so, good things come to those that wait? " ... I'm officially in lust and luurve | |||
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"this has somehow turned into a "We want M_O" thread
Haha .. I wish; have you noticed I've only had one encounter since joining? And I was on here before for several months without any luck as well. The women in Bristol and surrounding areas, it seems, are not so attuned to the delights I offer, as you might think?!
However, I'm a patient man and hardly desperate ...so, good things come to those that wait? "and mind blowing things come to those who travel from Bristol to Yorkshire hehe | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest Totally agree
me too! it's so frustrating. I thought I stay on POF to look for something more serious and be on this site to have fun while I'm looking for THAT special guy. WRONG! I'd rather have it honest like here than going through all the lies on POF just to find out they just want to fuck you. " | |||
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"apparently I was too kinky they kicked me off several times lol" I have yet to manage that.. lol even though I have looked for some very specific things on there.
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"this has somehow turned into a "We want M_O" thread
Haha .. I wish; have you noticed I've only had one encounter since joining? And I was on here before for several months without any luck as well. The women in Bristol and surrounding areas, it seems, are not so attuned to the delights I offer, as you might think?!
However, I'm a patient man and hardly desperate ...so, good things come to those that wait? and mind blowing things come to those who travel from Bristol to Yorkshire hehe "And Yorkshire's not too far from Arse End of the Universe....... | |||
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"this has somehow turned into a "We want M_O" thread
Haha .. I wish; have you noticed I've only had one encounter since joining? And I was on here before for several months without any luck as well. The women in Bristol and surrounding areas, it seems, are not so attuned to the delights I offer, as you might think?!
However, I'm a patient man and hardly desperate ...so, good things come to those that wait? and mind blowing things come to those who travel from Bristol to Yorkshire hehe
And Yorkshire's not too far from Arse End of the Universe....... "Maybe as neighbours we should tag team him | |||
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"I've not heard of it but from the descriptions on here then I am intrigued. Is it officially a dating site. What kind of things do the guys say, that they enjoy romantic moonlit walks hand in hand "yeah right  same bullshit, different site lol | |||
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"I've not heard of it but from the descriptions on here then I am intrigued. Is it officially a dating site. What kind of things do the guys say, that they enjoy romantic moonlit walks hand in hand "Well they don't start off with "fancy a shag" or "are you free at 2pm for an hour" | |||
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off
"Well I looked...it was a dirty job but I did it for the benefit of fellow Fabsters....yep, pics are hot. I hope you appreciate the sacrifice I made | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest Totally agree "Have you ever thought that guys (and a lot of the time it is the same guys on here as on PoF) are more honest on here because they can be.......... and the reason they can be is the women are a bit more open about wanting a shag. I find it odd that so many women complain about dating sites just being a shag-fest.... and then they join a swinging site to get away from it. | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest Totally agree
Have you ever thought that guys (and a lot of the time it is the same guys on here as on PoF) are more honest on here because they can be.......... and the reason they can be is the women are a bit more open about wanting a shag.
I find it odd that so many women complain about dating sites just being a shag-fest.... and then they join a swinging site to get away from it."I think its because people on here are just more honest about not wanting to find a partner, just a shag, whereas although it may be the case on pof, theres the whole rigmarole of messaging to go on a date first! | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest Totally agree
Have you ever thought that guys (and a lot of the time it is the same guys on here as on PoF) are more honest on here because they can be.......... and the reason they can be is the women are a bit more open about wanting a shag.
I find it odd that so many women complain about dating sites just being a shag-fest.... and then they join a swinging site to get away from it.
I think its because people on here are just more honest about not wanting to find a partner, just a shag, whereas although it may be the case on pof, theres the whole rigmarole of messaging to go on a date first!"Nahhh you can tick the casual encounters option and cut all the bullshit... but most women don't and then diss the guys who do........ and then come on here lol | |||
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off
Well I looked...it was a dirty job but I did it for the benefit of fellow Fabsters....yep, pics are hot. I hope you appreciate the sacrifice I made "I've just had to have another look as couldn't believe my eyes the 1st 3 times | |||
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"I see it a bit differently. I joined POF to find someone with the potential for a long-term relationship. I'm on Fab to enjoy sex while I'm still single. I completely seperate the two. So why is it weird that I choose no intimate encounters on POF? I would like to give the impression that I'm looking for something serious. " Do you mean the guys looking for a relationship won't take you seriously if they know you are also sleeping around | |||
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"I see it a bit differently. I joined POF to find someone with the potential for a long-term relationship. I'm on Fab to enjoy sex while I'm still single. I completely seperate the two. So why is it weird that I choose no intimate encounters on POF? I would like to give the impression that I'm looking for something serious. Do you mean the guys looking for a relationship won't take you seriously if they know you are also sleeping around "some wouldn't, in my experience. But it't not about that. I mean I would like to meet men looking for relationship on POF. It makes it easier when I seperate NSA sex. But as said previously, that's not working either I don't know what the right thing is really. Seems POF is really a waste of time. | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF "really mate? why not, ive been on there a while and struggle to get a decent relationship on the go, but met loads of people from there and had plenty of fun. are you just trying in the sex section of the site? coz its probs a bit of a waste of time i find. but if your genuine about maybe wanting relationships you should easily find people to go out with and shit always ends up happening sooner than later if they like you its bit different crack than pulling on here, coz the intimate enoucters people dont reply much unless ur looking unreal and what they want, and no verification system to back you up etc. but when asking people who up for dating alot of the lasses have their backs up with guys asking them for sex etc, and its usually a quick way to make them think your like the rest and kill the conversation off. but if ur genuinely interested in them and go on proper dates you definetally will have some fun, and you will be suprised at how many lasses have their fun and make their excuses to leave it at that, even if they have i dont do one night stands or im not interested in sex, they usually mean i dont do one night stands on your terms and not interested in sex with anyone!! just my own terms and who i like! i think i struggle on there coz im quite a nice guy - maybe too nice for them, so in a way im perfect for them to have their fun with and get back to dating other people again afterwards, its just people who go on like they are desperate or make out like they just interested in getting in their knickers that wont do well on sites like that coz they are sick to death of it from all angles! i dont know why they dont just cometo a website like this if thats what they want! | |||
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"I see it a bit differently. I joined POF to find someone with the potential for a long-term relationship. I'm on Fab to enjoy sex while I'm still single. I completely seperate the two. So why is it weird that I choose no intimate encounters on POF? I would like to give the impression that I'm looking for something serious. Do you mean the guys looking for a relationship won't take you seriously if they know you are also sleeping around
some wouldn't, in my experience. But it't not about that. I mean I would like to meet men looking for relationship on POF. It makes it easier when I seperate NSA sex. But as said previously, that's not working either I don't know what the right thing is really. Seems POF is really a waste of time. "ive dated loads of girls on there over a year, had loads of 1-2 dates with them, only 1 lass ive had 3 dates with. now with someone and date 3 coming up haha, think this one might actually get to date no 4. think its coz she alot like me thought, too nice and people always take advantage or mess her about but im not like that and dont think she is so actually might of found a good one for a change. but yeah alot of lasses ive clocked on here and there do seperate it completley - guess this is more private than fish too, fish is full of people and you see people you know in real life on there sometimes! but i do think the amount of people who say what they really want and follow through dont really happen on that site. but i dont mind, its fun trying and i dont like to bother people when on nights out so its a good way to meet more people - and only takes 1 good person to make up for the rest! i do seperate the two myself as well, unless i find another swinger lol! i do find it the best dating site thought, match too expensive and alot of the people on there are on fish anyways! its just fish is free and a bit of a free for all, so always best to get to know someone for a few weeks chatting on messages and then phone, thats worked very well for me over the last few months and 2 out the last 3 girls ive dated have seemed pretty close to starting a proper relationship the site works i think, but you just gotta put more work in than chat to someone for a short time then meet pretty quick, i think it helps lots and lots to speak on phone and chat for a while then you get the feeling you know them more, and more chance of getting that relationship you want. and working out if they just after sex! as they need to be a bit of a grafter and player to keep interest going after a few weeks to still meet | |||
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"Must be those horrible pics babe...turn any woman off
ooo yessss terrible pics, had a good loooong look at them and they really turned my head .... errrrr me off
sweet Jesus!
...where is the drool emoticon? I DEMAND we have a drool emoticon!
...... there you go
Thanks for all the love ladies; restores my faith in sites like this "Lovely pics, I have to agree with those above. Pity your in Bristol! I had lots of fun on POF and met my OH off there 4 months ago. Now we're both on here as a couple. | |||
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"Do you mean the guys looking for a relationship won't take you seriously if they know you are also sleeping around "well if you advertise for sex, the man sees you want sex dont you, if he's after a relationship does he want someone thats advertising for just sex? if a guy sees ya after sex, or even if you got a proper dating profile and you entertain them going on about sex etc then the man is going to think you want to meet for sex coz thats the impression your giving him, so after you had sex and start wanting a relationship the guys going to run as he only messaged you for sex! so i think it is right to give that impression your not after sex if you want a relationship on there if you want to attract the few genuine guys on there. after all putting up sexy photos, going on about sex on your profile like your interested in it or like nsa or even entertaining the guys dirty talk before you met, all things that going to make the guy think you want it, and when he realises its relationship you want that type of man is usually going to mess you about or leave after they had their way men can be straight forward at times with relationships and often say what they mean/want, when you go down the sex angle on dating sites dont expect a relationship coz ur appealing to the wrong sort of guys, espiecially on there its a bit of a free for all at times i think with how many people they are haha! | |||
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"PoF may well call itself a dating site but for as long as I can remember it was always first and foremost a knocking shop... a place to look for a leg-over. I was at a wedding not long after Christmas and a large group of guys where chatting in the bar.... and showing off photos of conquests on their phones... as they do. One guy said words along the lines of ... if you find one you fancy on PoF checkout fabs (and another swinging site) first and message them on there, you don't have to do the date thing first. Another guy replied with "yeah I've been told that one before". Even my nephew told me he'd joined PoF and said it was common knowledge that guys have to say they want to date even if they just want casual sex, just to get the girls interested, even though a lot of the girls will happily have sex on the first or second meet.......... I did try and point out the error of his ways and had a good long chat about honesty. " you're a great auntie! Yeah, unfortunately I had to realise that too about POF lol. It's obvious I don't mind a good shag here and there, but it's not nice when someone pretends they're interested in you until they get laid and then disappear. But I guess that's the oldest story of the world lol | |||
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"Do you mean the guys looking for a relationship won't take you seriously if they know you are also sleeping around
well if you advertise for sex, the man sees you want sex dont you, if he's after a relationship does he want someone thats advertising for just sex?
if a guy sees ya after sex, or even if you got a proper dating profile and you entertain them going on about sex etc then the man is going to think you want to meet for sex coz thats the impression your giving him, so after you had sex and start wanting a relationship the guys going to run as he only messaged you for sex!
so i think it is right to give that impression your not after sex if you want a relationship on there if you want to attract the few genuine guys on there. after all putting up sexy photos, going on about sex on your profile like your interested in it or like nsa or even entertaining the guys dirty talk before you met, all things that going to make the guy think you want it, and when he realises its relationship you want that type of man is usually going to mess you about or leave after they had their way
men can be straight forward at times with relationships and often say what they mean/want, when you go down the sex angle on dating sites dont expect a relationship coz ur appealing to the wrong sort of guys, espiecially on there its a bit of a free for all at times i think with how many people they are haha!"so you think the way I've approached it so far is actually the right way? As soon as a guy starts sexy talk o POF, I ignore them, as I don't want to indulge them in it. My POF profile doesn't mention anything about sex or has sexy pics. | |||
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"PoF may well call itself a dating site but for as long as I can remember it was always first and foremost a knocking shop... a place to look for a leg-over. I was at a wedding not long after Christmas and a large group of guys where chatting in the bar.... and showing off photos of conquests on their phones... as they do. One guy said words along the lines of ... if you find one you fancy on PoF checkout fabs (and another swinging site) first and message them on there, you don't have to do the date thing first. Another guy replied with "yeah I've been told that one before". Even my nephew told me he'd joined PoF and said it was common knowledge that guys have to say they want to date even if they just want casual sex, just to get the girls interested, even though a lot of the girls will happily have sex on the first or second meet.......... I did try and point out the error of his ways and had a good long chat about honesty. " all dating sites are potential knocking shops though! of course men are going to use it looking for sex, its a website that can put them in touch with 1000s of local women who all want a man! the websites a tool to meet people, i think if you want a relationship you gotta put more work in that just agreeing to meet someone and hoping it happens. ive done that alot last year and not had one person i wanted to make my girlfriend materialise, but changed tact a bit and focus on going slower and getting to know people more and feel im getting closer ever time now! yeah you are going to get sex from dates, thats a fact, its no differnt online to offline, its a guy meeting a girl, but only going to get a good relationship when its a genuine guy and genuine girl who are into each other, quite often the dating sites people get distracted/spoiled by the attention and cant give it up as they dont get it in real life the same. can get in the way of starting a relationship and can turn genuine people the wrong way evenif not their intention at first. plus always people who lie to get what they want like you said makes it harder! sites a tool to find people, nothign more nothing less, its always up to you to put the work in to make it work, and i think if your not getting success change the way you vet your dates take more time and get to know people and then if you have the chemistry when you meet things will be alot better than meeting for the first time when all you have done is email each other and maybe text or had a short call or two | |||
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"Do you mean the guys looking for a relationship won't take you seriously if they know you are also sleeping around
well if you advertise for sex, the man sees you want sex dont you, if he's after a relationship does he want someone thats advertising for just sex?
if a guy sees ya after sex, or even if you got a proper dating profile and you entertain them going on about sex etc then the man is going to think you want to meet for sex coz thats the impression your giving him, so after you had sex and start wanting a relationship the guys going to run as he only messaged you for sex!
so i think it is right to give that impression your not after sex if you want a relationship on there if you want to attract the few genuine guys on there. after all putting up sexy photos, going on about sex on your profile like your interested in it or like nsa or even entertaining the guys dirty talk before you met, all things that going to make the guy think you want it, and when he realises its relationship you want that type of man is usually going to mess you about or leave after they had their way
men can be straight forward at times with relationships and often say what they mean/want, when you go down the sex angle on dating sites dont expect a relationship coz ur appealing to the wrong sort of guys, espiecially on there its a bit of a free for all at times i think with how many people they are haha!"Would guys who are genuinely interested in a relationship be put off by a woman saying they would also like a relationship, but will be happy with nsa whilst they are waiting for the right one to come along? | |||
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"Do you mean the guys looking for a relationship won't take you seriously if they know you are also sleeping around
well if you advertise for sex, the man sees you want sex dont you, if he's after a relationship does he want someone thats advertising for just sex?
if a guy sees ya after sex, or even if you got a proper dating profile and you entertain them going on about sex etc then the man is going to think you want to meet for sex coz thats the impression your giving him, so after you had sex and start wanting a relationship the guys going to run as he only messaged you for sex!
so i think it is right to give that impression your not after sex if you want a relationship on there if you want to attract the few genuine guys on there. after all putting up sexy photos, going on about sex on your profile like your interested in it or like nsa or even entertaining the guys dirty talk before you met, all things that going to make the guy think you want it, and when he realises its relationship you want that type of man is usually going to mess you about or leave after they had their way
men can be straight forward at times with relationships and often say what they mean/want, when you go down the sex angle on dating sites dont expect a relationship coz ur appealing to the wrong sort of guys, espiecially on there its a bit of a free for all at times i think with how many people they are haha!
so you think the way I've approached it so far is actually the right way? As soon as a guy starts sexy talk o POF, I ignore them, as I don't want to indulge them in it. My POF profile doesn't mention anything about sex or has sexy pics.
"yeah thats a good way, try getting to know people over a longer peroid of time, the lass im just starting to see now i talked to her for a month, and after a week she was dropping hints for me to ask her out, after two weeks asked me out on her own back and made her wait to get to know her more, early days yet as only saw her first time on friday, but things seem alot better than my way of doing it last year which was a bit like - well that one didnt work out, lets see whos next, with the intenion of finding someone new to take out for the next weekend (and trust me was with total intention of reltationship too! no need to look for nsa on there coz u will find it anyways with people humping and dumping you if thats what you want as well lol!) | |||
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" yeah thats a good way, try getting to know people over a longer peroid of time, the lass im just starting to see now i talked to her for a month, and after a week she was dropping hints for me to ask her out, after two weeks asked me out on her own back and made her wait to get to know her more, early days yet as only saw her first time on friday, but things seem alot better than my way of doing it last year which was a bit like - well that one didnt work out, lets see whos next, with the intenion of finding someone new to take out for the next weekend (and trust me was with total intention of reltationship too! no need to look for nsa on there coz u will find it anyways with people humping and dumping you if thats what you want as well lol!) " Interesting... well maybe I stick around for another while. But I'm not very hopeful. Thanks for the tips! | |||
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"Would guys who are genuinely interested in a relationship be put off by a woman saying they would also like a relationship, but will be happy with nsa whilst they are waiting for the right one to come along?" depends, i'd probs be wary about going out with someone on their i'd also clocked was on here as well if i wanted a proper relationship for the future etc. can create trust issues maybe i think most lasses on pof who are like nsa and want relationships just do what i do, they go on dates all the time, enjoy the company and if they click like they want then it happens, and if the lady wants some fun (if they not for her but still fancys them and had a nice time) she goes for it, like i say ive had a a few where ive not been the one for them and had a good date and we had unreal time in bed (not being big headed but u know when u connect with someone in bed lol) and then they either started messing about cancelling future arrangements or just said your not for me for what ever reason i think those that are open to fun and want relationship, just look for relationship and maybe take advantage of the situation if it feels right on the night, and thats how they get their nsa. thats why i was like if you genuine about relationship and keep trying you will keep getting fun coz it seems to be the way alot of lasses work on there, which i dont mind, at least makes dates more fun when you dont work out, and im tough skinned enough to be let down and not let it bother me! | |||
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"The thing is.... I'd be more inclined to think of a guy as being a genuine dater looking for a relationship if he knew he could go for the nsa and yet still opted to take the dating route. Besides.... I wouldn't want to hide my past and who I am from anyone I was interested in dating...... nor would I want to date anyone who judged me negatively for enjoying sex. I am well aware that most (and I do mean most) guys in our society think of women from sites such as this as 'damaged goods'.. I like being able to filter those out quickly." that's a very good point! I would agree that if someone wants to be with me they should accept the fact that I had a past. I wouldn't want to rub it in their face straight away though, but I would definitely be honest about it when this talk comes up. I just wouldn't want to portray myself as a promiscuous woman on a dating site, mainly to filter out some of the guys who are only after that. | |||
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"I've not heard of it but from the descriptions on here then I am intrigued. Is it officially a dating site. What kind of things do the guys say, that they enjoy romantic moonlit walks hand in hand
Well they don't start off with "fancy a shag" or "are you free at 2pm for an hour""Hahaha! I hate it when I get these from couples!! | |||
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"I thought plenty of fish was a dating site? LOL so did I when I joined it but it's turned out to be a sex fest site with guys lying to get in your knickers. Here it's much more honest Totally agree
Have you ever thought that guys (and a lot of the time it is the same guys on here as on PoF) are more honest on here because they can be.......... and the reason they can be is the women are a bit more open about wanting a shag.
I find it odd that so many women complain about dating sites just being a shag-fest.... and then they join a swinging site to get away from it."Very true!! I guess they work to the status quo...1 site for dating, another for shagging. Very custom made!! | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF "You know the old saying "If it's looks too good to be true, it usually is"? You look way too yummy to actually be a swinger! More like a male model from an upmarket escort site.. Perhaps people just don't believe you! | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF
You know the old saying "If it's looks too good to be true, it usually is"? You look way too yummy to actually be a swinger! More like a male model from an upmarket escort site.. Perhaps people just don't believe you!"I'm glad you said that because I'm beginning to wonder whether there is some truth in what you're saying. Believe it or not, I very rarely get any messages from women and I regularly get knock backs - Of course for some girls I'll simply not be their 'type' but I was taken a back with all the love my pics have received on this thread. As you can see from a recent meet; I am very real ...so local ladies don't be shy | |||
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"I'm glad you said that because I'm beginning to wonder whether there is some truth in what you're saying. Believe it or not, I very rarely get any messages from women and I regularly get knock backs - Of course for some girls I'll simply not be their 'type' but I was taken a back with all the love my pics have received on this thread. As you can see from a recent meet; I am very real ...so local ladies don't be shy "Ok, I have found something negative about you. You're a localist! You're excluding me because I'm not local | |||
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"I'm glad you said that because I'm beginning to wonder whether there is some truth in what you're saying. Believe it or not, I very rarely get any messages from women and I regularly get knock backs - Of course for some girls I'll simply not be their 'type' but I was taken a back with all the love my pics have received on this thread. As you can see from a recent meet; I am very real ...so local ladies don't be shy
Ok, I have found something negative about you. You're a localist! You're excluding me because I'm not local "Haha; I travel but within reason | |||
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"I'm glad you said that because I'm beginning to wonder whether there is some truth in what you're saying. Believe it or not, I very rarely get any messages from women and I regularly get knock backs - Of course for some girls I'll simply not be their 'type' but I was taken a back with all the love my pics have received on this thread. As you can see from a recent meet; I am very real ...so local ladies don't be shy "Yeah, I believe you! Your pictures are fantastic and I just have to stop the lady seeing em! BUT.. If it eventually gets you a better match for your meets, stick with it! Anyone can lower standards and pull someone they are not really attracted to...
I can talk about this because I look like you when I take my shirt off! I also have two arms, two legs and a torso! It's just that mine is built for comfort, not speed! If you take it as car models, say BMW... You are an M5 and I am a 118D ED! lol
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"I'm glad you said that because I'm beginning to wonder whether there is some truth in what you're saying. Believe it or not, I very rarely get any messages from women and I regularly get knock backs - Of course for some girls I'll simply not be their 'type' but I was taken a back with all the love my pics have received on this thread. As you can see from a recent meet; I am very real ...so local ladies don't be shy
Yeah, I believe you! Your pictures are fantastic and I just have to stop the lady seeing em! BUT.. If it eventually gets you a better match for your meets, stick with it! Anyone can lower standards and pull someone they are not really attracted to...
I can talk about this because I look like you when I take my shirt off! I also have two arms, two legs and a torso! It's just that mine is built for comfort, not speed! If you take it as car models, say BMW... You are an M5 and I am a 118D ED! lol
Stay lucky matey and stick out for whom you want."I'm a patient man ...I'll be here | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF
You know the old saying "If it's looks too good to be true, it usually is"? You look way too yummy to actually be a swinger! More like a male model from an upmarket escort site.. Perhaps people just don't believe you!
I'm glad you said that because I'm beginning to wonder whether there is some truth in what you're saying. Believe it or not, I very rarely get any messages from women and I regularly get knock backs - Of course for some girls I'll simply not be their 'type' but I was taken a back with all the love my pics have received on this thread. As you can see from a recent meet; I am very real ...so local ladies don't be shy "wishing I still lived in the West Country! | |||
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"Nothing says "ive worked my way around Plenty Of Fish so now ive come here to get my rocks off" like this line lol
That's interesting, I didn't have any luck on POF
You know the old saying "If it's looks too good to be true, it usually is"? You look way too yummy to actually be a swinger! More like a male model from an upmarket escort site.. Perhaps people just don't believe you!
I'm glad you said that because I'm beginning to wonder whether there is some truth in what you're saying. Believe it or not, I very rarely get any messages from women and I regularly get knock backs - Of course for some girls I'll simply not be their 'type' but I was taken a back with all the love my pics have received on this thread. As you can see from a recent meet; I am very real ...so local ladies don't be shy
wishing I still lived in the West Country!"Give me a shout if you ever are | |||
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" I am well aware that most (and I do mean most) guys in our society think of women from sites such as this as 'damaged goods'.. I like being able to filter those out quickly." That's the point I was trying to make on a different post, but you put it so much better than I did! It pisses me off how blokes think it's ok to sleep around and have fun but if we ladies do it's somehow a bad thing. I think my dating days are over. All this chat of blokes just wanting nsa and lying and stuff is depressing. Think I'll stick to fun during the day and sleeping alone. | |||
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