FabSwingers.com forum: Clubs getting more for Posers??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry for starting this,but having been to alot of different clubs we've now seen a change which i think is impacting on 'some' folks not getting to know other people inside the club,and that is why we've seen clubs becoming more of a social or a piss up or about a fashion show.Its all about couples standing around.

Smoking themselves to death..

Drinking themselves to death..

Posing themselves to death.

Up there own arses to death.

Couples want 'you' to approach them to death...

The man of the couple is either dictating what his woman shall do to death..

I really could keep going on....

But i really think swinging in the clubs these days is going down bank for defo..and plus you have to pay £25-35 or even more per couple for this experience which i think nowa days is not worth paying every week.

We dont go to clubs as regular as we did as we would see the same heads in or even with the fresh faces preedict the evening.You may aggre or disagree with what i've said but this is the whole point of raising this Topic..

I hope we get some interested opinions or reviews from yourselves on what you all think about the club scene's of as lately.

please be gentle with us

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I dont know what period of time you are talking about but have to say thats not really been my experience of clubs, but as Ive only been to 7 or so, obviously I cant say its the same everywhere...

Yes some people smoke, Ive only seen maybe 3 people pissed and only one of them was a pain, havent seen anyone up their own arse (although maybe up someone elses

). None of which has ever stopped me enjoying myself.

Thought clubs were for social interaction as well as playing? They are for me.

Lots of people do get dressed up and personally Im pleased to see that they have made an effort - but Ive seen a few that should have made a bit more of an effort....

So all in all I havent had the same sort of experiences as you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope sorry only ever had good times in the clubs

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Were still very new to clubs really so we arent noticing too many of these things.

There do seem to be "slow" nights and better nights so far we have had maybe two slow nights and the rest have been very busy and popular with lots of fun had! Last club night we had was amazing :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont know what period of time you are talking about but have to say thats not really been my experience of clubs, but as Ive only been to 7 or so, obviously I cant say its the same everywhere...

Yes some people smoke, Ive only seen maybe 3 people pissed and only one of them was a pain, havent seen anyone up their own arse (although maybe up someone elses

). None of which has ever stopped me enjoying myself.

Thought clubs were for social interaction as well as playing? They are for me.

Lots of people do get dressed up and personally Im pleased to see that they have made an effort - but Ive seen a few that should have made a bit more of an effort....

So all in all I havent had the same sort of experiences as you..."

We love folks dressing to impressing

It's just that there are 'SOME' folks out in the clubs who have no intentions of talking to you or even socialising with other folks,they just want to tread the boards strutting there stuff wanting attention.

You might think were coming across as jelous people..NOT AT ALL

.!! We love sexy couples..But couples that are willing to talk to you even when u pass them or just a nod or a wink to say hello..I wonder sometimes why cpls are in theses clubs

as they end up leaving about 2 hrs before closing time not as we watch them like.

We have had some excellent fun in and out of rooms at clubs and made some cracking friends whom we keep in contact with which is fantastic.

But we do see a slide in cpls posing more than making the effort to socialise at least,isn't that what clubs are for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Were still very new to clubs really so we arent noticing too many of these things.

There do seem to be "slow" nights and better nights so far we have had maybe two slow nights and the rest have been very busy and popular with lots of fun had! Last club night we had was amazing :D"

Hiya Cherry!Ope u both keeping well? xx

After been in the company in so many clubs around the country been packed to the rafters we have had a better night always when it's been 'LESS' busier.

Maybe were getting bored i dont know but love to hear from Couples thoe??

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Hiya Cherry!Ope u both keeping well? xx

After been in the company in so many clubs around the country been packed to the rafters we have had a better night always when it's been 'LESS' busier.

Maybe were getting bored i dont know but love to hear from Couples thoe??

hey guys were good, looking forward to the weekend !

I think the less busy nights for us are more intimidating possibly because we can just be faces in the crowd then which helps put us at ease!

I have noticed even with our limited number of visits to clubs that you can start to see the faces over and over and I guess that aspect can get quite boring after time

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I dont know what period of time you are talking about but have to say thats not really been my experience of clubs, but as Ive only been to 7 or so, obviously I cant say its the same everywhere...

Yes some people smoke, Ive only seen maybe 3 people pissed and only one of them was a pain, havent seen anyone up their own arse (although maybe up someone elses

). None of which has ever stopped me enjoying myself.

Thought clubs were for social interaction as well as playing? They are for me.

Lots of people do get dressed up and personally Im pleased to see that they have made an effort - but Ive seen a few that should have made a bit more of an effort....

So all in all I havent had the same sort of experiences as you...

We love folks dressing to impressing

You might think were coming across as jelous people..NOT AT ALL

.!! We love sexy couples..But couples that are willing to talk to you even when u pass them or just a nod or a wink to say hello..I wonder sometimes why cpls are in theses clubs

as they end up leaving about 2 hrs before closing time not as we watch them like.

We have had some excellent fun in and out of rooms at clubs and made some cracking friends whom we keep in contact with which is fantastic.

But we do see a slide in cpls posing more than making the effort to socialise at least,isn't that what clubs are for?

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Clubs are for whatever you want them to be for, as a female half of a couple i understand what you are saying, but have you ever stopped to think some people are nervous n shy? Just because there are two people doesnt make them any less nervous if its their first time, i accept that some preen n go to peacock( thats not pee on cock unless its ya kink)but that happens everywhere....social interaction is of paramount importance to us as well....but just accept that maybe its not to others?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hiya Cherry!Ope u both keeping well? xx

After been in the company in so many clubs around the country been packed to the rafters we have had a better night always when it's been 'LESS' busier.

Maybe were getting bored i dont know but love to hear from Couples thoe??

hey guys were good, looking forward to the weekend !

I think the less busy nights for us are more intimidating possibly because we can just be faces in the crowd then which helps put us at ease!

I have noticed even with our limited number of visits to clubs that you can start to see the faces over and over and I guess that aspect can get quite boring after time"

Its nice to see some opnions coming in on this thread..keep um coming folks

Glad everything's O.K Cherry..ope to see at a club soon hey?

XxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even though some say, is a sex club...alot of people use it as a social stepping stone in swinging.

out those unresponsive to communication, or those lacking in acknowledging boundaries

I'd never go to a club,social and sit on my own alone without talking to someone, thatd be pointless, I could sit at home n have a wank or a shag with company

and to the people who dress up HOTnKINKY,dont blame me if my eyes gawp...ur free porn to my mind lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"even though some say, is a sex club...alot of people use it as a social stepping stone in swinging.

out those unresponsive to communication, or those lacking in acknowledging boundaries

I'd never go to a club,social and sit on my own alone without talking to someone, thatd be pointless, I could sit at home n have a wank or a shag with company

and to the people who dress up HOTnKINKY,dont blame me if my eyes gawp...ur free porn to my mind lol"

Now thats funny

I love what you wrote underneath..

out those unresponsive to communication, or those lacking in acknowledging boundaries

Yes at least u can have a wank,enjoy your company and have a great time without the addmission charges...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even though some say, is a sex club...alot of people use it as a social stepping stone in swinging.

out those unresponsive to communication, or those lacking in acknowledging boundaries

I'd never go to a club,social and sit on my own alone without talking to someone, thatd be pointless, I could sit at home n have a wank or a shag with company

and to the people who dress up HOTnKINKY,dont blame me if my eyes gawp...ur free porn to my mind lol

Now thats funny

I love what you wrote underneath..

out those unresponsive to communication, or those lacking in acknowledging boundaries

Yes at least u can have a wank,enjoy your company and have a great time without the addmission charges...

I pay myself so I can feel like a cheap whore, sometimes even namecall myself....and dont even phone or text afterwards to thank for the great time had!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"even though some say, is a sex club...alot of people use it as a social stepping stone in swinging.

out those unresponsive to communication, or those lacking in acknowledging boundaries

I'd never go to a club,social and sit on my own alone without talking to someone, thatd be pointless, I could sit at home n have a wank or a shag with company

and to the people who dress up HOTnKINKY,dont blame me if my eyes gawp...ur free porn to my mind lol

Now thats funny

I love what you wrote underneath..

out those unresponsive to communication, or those lacking in acknowledging boundaries

Yes at least u can have a wank,enjoy your company and have a great time without the addmission charges...

I pay myself so I can feel like a cheap whore, sometimes even namecall myself....and dont even phone or text afterwards to thank for the great time had!"

Glad someone has a sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have to agree with some of the comments on here - especially on Saturday nights at chams darlaston when there seems to be an influx of younger 'posers' who love to show off amongst each other and wouldn't dream if socialising with anyone who isn't in their cliquey group.

Of course it's up to everyone who they wanna chat with but the whole couples only scene puts us off as these nights wherever we have been seems very much you are either in it or not regarding the clique .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have to agree with some of the comments on here - especially on Saturday nights at chams darlaston when there seems to be an influx of younger 'posers' who love to show off amongst each other and wouldn't dream if socialising with anyone who isn't in their cliquey group.

So were not going mad then? or deluded

Thank you for your imput. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like anything, you get out of clubs what you put into them, some people just want to go and have everything/everybody handed to then on a plate, make no effort and them moan its been a crap night

Ive been going to clubs for about 11 years now and tho things have changed over the years i can honestly say ive never had a crap night, even if i go and dont want to play with anyone there i still have a good night chatting to friends etc because to me its not just about fucking, i never go with any expectations, i go chat and if play happens great if not then so what theres always another time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We probably fit into the category of people that you don't like.

We always make an effort to dress up.

We only engage in conversation with people that we like.

We will not play - just because we are there.

Perhaps you should get Club owners to write a disclaimer that entry to the Club is conditional on you shagging anyone who asks you, on demand?

We have been going to Clubs for around 7 years now and we get out of them what we want - we pays our money and we make our choices - cos that is our right

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

"We probably fit into the category of people that you don't like.

We always make an effort to dress up.

We only engage in conversation with people that we like.

We will not play - just because we are there.

Perhaps you should get Club owners to write a disclaimer that entry to the Club is conditional on you shagging anyone who asks you, on demand?

We have been going to Clubs for around 7 years now and we get out of them what we want - we pays our money and we make our choices - cos that is our right

Pretty much sums us up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We probably fit into the category of people that you don't like.

We always make an effort to dress up.

We only engage in conversation with people that we like.

We will not play - just because we are there.

Perhaps you should get Club owners to write a disclaimer that entry to the Club is conditional on you shagging anyone who asks you, on demand?

We have been going to Clubs for around 7 years now and we get out of them what we want - we pays our money and we make our choices - cos that is our right

Think that sums it up... No one forces you to shag..we like going to clean nice clubs for social as well if it happens fun... had many giggles and laughts in club jacuzzi's... It's our choice who and what and when.. and think others think same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We probably fit into the category of people that you don't like.

We always make an effort to dress up.

We only engage in conversation with people that we like.

We will not play - just because we are there.

Perhaps you should get Club owners to write a disclaimer that entry to the Club is conditional on you shagging anyone who asks you, on demand?

We have been going to Clubs for around 7 years now and we get out of them what we want - we pays our money and we make our choices - cos that is our right

H."

Right..where do you think that we go there just for a shag..and if we dont get one were dissapointed?

We go with an open mind..if something was to happen its a bonus at the end of the day right? if it doesn't then it doesn;t simples.

What i think your all missing is that,were finding it even harder these days to even socailise with people cuz there to busy posing etcc?

That's why i started to this thread,not to say we get disgruntled if nowt happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't understand where the thread went with thinking it was all about getting pissed off if posers don't want to shag ?

That's not the point at all - anyone attending a club should feel comfortable and equal to anyone else there - not ostracised by posers or uncomfortable because groups ignore you !

We have enjoyed many great nights at chams and the lodge and it's not just the playing , it's the atmosphere and the folks we chat with that makes a great night and s always dresses up because it makes her feel good , not just to get a shag !

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By *essandstanCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We're just looking to go to our first club and was a little put off at first, but as I read down, it all sounds good again

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Although not so much recently (Due to be out of the country and reviewing clubs in Europe etc)

We normally go once a month in the UK, to be honest we treasure our free weekends which arent that often and we dont want to spend every one we have free going to a club on the scene. We love it when we do go, but thats probably because we dont go every week.

We think we would get bored if we do, and we like to go to different clubs, though we do have our favourites, some of which we don't goto often enough more because of Geography than any other reason.

We don't live our whole on the scene. Some people do goto clubs more for the social aspect than they do to play, and on other nights they may go more to play than to chat, that's their perogative. Of course just because someone isn't up for playing with you, doesn't make them any less or more of a swinger than anyone else. We try not to judge and just make sure we have a good time if we do anything or not. Anything that happens is always a bonus frankly, and thats the best way to approach it, in our view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We probably fit into the category of people that you don't like.

We always make an effort to dress up.

We only engage in conversation with people that we like.

We will not play - just because we are there.

Perhaps you should get Club owners to write a disclaimer that entry to the Club is conditional on you shagging anyone who asks you, on demand?

We have been going to Clubs for around 7 years now and we get out of them what we want - we pays our money and we make our choices - cos that is our right

we also think like this.we are happy going home after only playing with each other if no one appeals to us.

we have turned couples down,thats not being rude.its just our choice.when we were single we wouldnt just fuck anyone.

we are happy chatting and socialising with anyone who also wants to chat.

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By *endynsampsonCouple
over a year ago

Runcorn

Yes no maybe, like many people have posted, many people use clubs for many things, we just like to go to be around the lifestyle!!!!. We enjoy clubs and we just love chilling and if we connect with people and can have a chat and a good laugh thats all the better. After 6 years of going to clubs we do still feel a little nervous and sometimes a little shy lol. We would love to meet different people everytime we go but haho we still have our own sexy fun xxxx

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

we also think like this.we are happy going home after only playing with each other if no one appeals to us.

same here ! its all attraction based or why bother ?

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