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By *istress-Mazikeen OP   Woman
over a year ago

bolton

I am now beginning to understand why so many people get frustrated with single guys.

I am free day times this week and been trying to arrange meets.

Can I get what I want!!!

If only Single Guys would read the profile

Even my meets today say TALL....

Sorry Rant over....getting more and more disillusioned on here.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A chance is a chance.

You get nothing if you do nothing, and you might get something if you do something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on stilts tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that object sailing overhead would be the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These type of posts always amaze me, being a single woman myself i know just how many messages women get, i get easily 50+ most days, ok some are just daft, not worth replying to, from guys you fancy but theres always some good looking, decent guys amoung them, how can a woman on here not get a meet? i have no idea why women come on saying that cant get a meet but i flatly refuse to believe it from my own experiences for being a woman on here and knowing how easy it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too high an expectation, too many conditions...

I have read a few profiles that I question if they would even meet themselves, with the conditions on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wont just meet and play with anyone, i have my own personal standards as has everyone, but come on even if your the most picky person in the wprld with the amount of single guys on here theres got to be someone for you surely?

Unless your Miss Piggy looking for Brad Pitt i suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too high an expectation, too many conditions...

"

She's only going to meet with people that fit her bill, not just anyone with a cock.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am now beginning to understand why so many people get frustrated with single guys.

I am free day times this week and been trying to arrange meets.

Can I get what I want!!!

If only Single Guys would read the profile

Even my meets today say TALL....

Sorry Rant over....getting more and more disillusioned on here.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"

Oh I know exactly what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preston near Bolton then is it, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 5 foot 10" master race reporting in ... get it together men of Bolton

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

With total respect OP, you and every one else is indeed entitled to specify what you want/don't want and what you like/don't like but the more criteria that you specify so you will decimate your possible catchment field.

A very high percentage of (so-called) single men on here are married and playing away. You state that you cannot accommodate and you will not meet in a club or hotel. As there is somewhere between very little and no chance at all of a married bloke taking you back to his house your quarry is probably reduced by I'd guess 90%.

You require your man to be taller than the average (5' 9") I've no idea by how much, but that's got to take some more away from the 10%.

You set an age range of 30 to 46 and you are 52. Nothing wrong with that whatsoever but you are specifying you only want guys who are into older women.

I don't think I'm allowed to quote your profile in a forum post but of course you will know what I mean when I refer to your words '... don't let that put you off' Well chances are it will put people off.

I could go on but the point is there isn't much left of that 10% and out of what is left, you still need to like/fancy each other, fit the time window and geographically be not too far away during that time window.

Chances are, the guys who are PMing you realise all or some of this and are hoping you might relax your criteria to actually make a meet possible

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"A chance is a chance.

You get nothing if you do nothing, and you might get something if you do something "

Ahh! So it's OK to just ignore preferences, even if they are many and varied! Profiles are there to get meets with the sort of people you want to meet, not just have sex with anyone just because they mail!

If it is obvious that someone hasn't read our profile, we ignore.. Stuff like two line profiles, no pictures and very short mail.. Since we changed the profile we have had to tell some guys to read the profile for the reasons we are saying no!

To the OP... This kind of post usually gets a more vitreolic response, leave it here and think yourselves lucky you weren't flamed!

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By *venturusoMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Too high an expectation, too many conditions...

I have read a few profiles that I question if they would even meet themselves, with the conditions on their profile."

absolutely, that's just the way this site is, it's a veritable sweet shop for the ladies, some of the prescriptive criteria I read from ladies who would struggle to get a second look in a dark room are beyond belief, but hey they still get the messages and many of them still get the meets so who can argue with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A chance is a chance.

You get nothing if you do nothing, and you might get something if you do something "
...In general life situations your logic may apply, but l don't think it does in this situation. Being pushy when FREE sex is on offer with will just get someone instantly blocked with us. It isn't as if there's a shortage of single guys out there. We can afford to pick and choose who fucks me.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"A chance is a chance.

You get nothing if you do nothing, and you might get something if you do something

Ahh! So it's OK to just ignore preferences, even if they are many and varied! Profiles are there to get meets with the sort of people you want to meet, not just have sex with anyone just because they mail!

If it is obvious that someone hasn't read our profile, we ignore.. Stuff like two line profiles, no pictures and very short mail.. Since we changed the profile we have had to tell some guys to read the profile for the reasons we are saying no!

To the OP... This kind of post usually gets a more vitreolic response, leave it here and think yourselves lucky you weren't flamed! "

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Different folks, different strokes.

If you will, consider us just for an example (sure it can't JUST be us?), we like a bit of variety and we try to accept people on face value. Our criteria is only as tight as it needs to be and we like to think its quite wide. However we do have some limitations and some things that are an absolute NO.

When we get a PM that's off the 'our criteria scale' it just makes us laugh, the further off the mark it is, the more it makes us laugh

We joined this site so long ago I couldn't tell you how long ago, you'd have to ask admin but I think it was shortly after the site went live and in all that time we have NEVER had a nasty message. We've had some that lead to meets/friendships, loads of nice ones, loads of funny ones and some so stupid they were still funny.

To us every new message is taken as a compliment because it means, for whatever their reason might be they are showing an interest in us (or one of us at least )

Other people it seems choose to take offence to messages from people who don't fit their criteria

OK so we make our choices, others make theirs as to how they feel about the messages they get be it that they fit their criteria or not.

We choose to be happy about it and some people don't, they choose to get angry and upset about it.

So I have a question to ask...

What do people think is best...

Is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact has only PM'd you to piss you off and get angry about it?

Or is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact is, showing an interest in you ( = compliment?), hoping that you may relax your criteria a bit ( = compliment?)

Personally I always choose 'Happy' over 'Angry'

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"

You set an age range of 30 to 46 and you are 52. Nothing wrong with that whatsoever but you are specifying you only want guys who are into older women.

Chances are, the guys who are PMing you realise all or some of this and are hoping you might relax your criteria to actually make a meet possible "

Especially when you are being verified by people outside of your age range !

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By *itianmandyWoman
over a year ago

london


"

You set an age range of 30 to 46 and you are 52. Nothing wrong with that whatsoever but you are specifying you only want guys who are into older women.

Chances are, the guys who are PMing you realise all or some of this and are hoping you might relax your criteria to actually make a meet possible

Especially when you are being verified by people outside of your age range !"

.

Oops!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"So I have a question to ask...

What do people think is best...

Is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact has only PM'd you to piss you off and get angry about it?

Or is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact is, showing an interest in you ( = compliment?), hoping that you may relax your criteria a bit ( = compliment?)

Personally I always choose 'Happy' over 'Angry' "

Or is it better to assume that the guy is after a shag, any shag so he copies and pastes a message and alters it a little for you.. Still not filling the criteria! Which shows he has no respect and thinks you owe him a shag!

There, you can see it at least two ways and we are not yet desperate enough to latch onto guys who would shag anything! And I would say there are a majority who would..

We also look at who they have met if a guy, who appears to have read the profile mails us. If they have met mainly larger people, we wonder why they would want to meet us. Maybe any port in a storm? (either us or the larger ladies!) Ages 18-99? Shape & size not important? Smacks of anything for a shag if you ask us!

BTW.. Happy or angry doesn't come into it for us! Either someone respects our wishes and desires or they don't! If they do, no problem.. If they don't.. No problem but block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we put quite clearly in our profile that we oraganise gang bangs and look for single guys for our nights but do not meet single guys 1 on 1.

Half the single guys that contact us enquire about the gb nights and we swap details. The other half are looking for 1 on1 meets, these we delete. Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well it sounds like a height thing,

lets face it you cant block different heights on here,

and i know alot of guys wont read it, and those that do, well alot will think, im close enough and still message

its the same crack as the age range. the guys out side of it are daft and think well they not seen me coz if they had that rule wouldnt apply!

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"So I have a question to ask...

What do people think is best...

Is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact has only PM'd you to piss you off and get angry about it?

Or is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact is, showing an interest in you ( = compliment?), hoping that you may relax your criteria a bit ( = compliment?)

Personally I always choose 'Happy' over 'Angry'

Or is it better to assume that the guy is after a shag, any shag so he copies and pastes a message and alters it a little for you.. Still not filling the criteria! Which shows he has no respect and thinks you owe him a shag!

There, you can see it at least two ways and we are not yet desperate enough to latch onto guys who would shag anything! And I would say there are a majority who would..

We also look at who they have met if a guy, who appears to have read the profile mails us. If they have met mainly larger people, we wonder why they would want to meet us. Maybe any port in a storm? (either us or the larger ladies!) Ages 18-99? Shape & size not important? Smacks of anything for a shag if you ask us!

BTW.. Happy or angry doesn't come into it for us! Either someone respects our wishes and desires or they don't! If they do, no problem.. If they don't.. No problem but block! "

YES I agree with you totally, there is often more than one way to look at things. You have made it perfectly clear that there are several negative ways to look at it. I was making the point that there are positive ways to look at it.

So now both points of view have been repeated but the question is unanswered. Stating or implying that people who don't share your prospective are 'desperate' quite simply supports my point.

'The guy is only after shag' is that really so wrong? After all isn't swinging fundamentally about having 'casual' sex with people?

People advertise themselves on sites like this as potentially being available for having sex with other people, subject to no conditions at all, or loads of very strict conditions. Given that everyone on this site is inviting or at least exposing themselves to being contacted by anyone, seems to me that complaining about the wrong sort getting in touch is comparable to going swimming and then complaining about getting wet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are sure a lot of men can't read.we have had so many messages from people who have not read profile.we just block them.we put in profile athletic men only please.we have to just laugh or it will drive you mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am now beginning to understand why so many people get frustrated with single guys.

I am free day times this week and been trying to arrange meets.

Can I get what I want!!!

If only Single Guys would read the profile

Even my meets today say TALL....

Sorry Rant over....getting more and more disillusioned on here.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"

Im as Tall as anyone lay down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

an experiment for couples

allow males to message you and at the bottom of your profile put a phrase for men to put in subject box.

about 75% wont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"an experiment for couples

allow males to message you and at the bottom of your profile put a phrase for men to put in subject box.

about 75% wont"
We must be in the lucky area of the country LOL, l'd say it's between 50 and 60% here. Youneed to move!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A chance is a chance.

You get nothing if you do nothing, and you might get something if you do something

Ahh! So it's OK to just ignore preferences, even if they are many and varied! Profiles are there to get meets with the sort of people you want to meet, not just have sex with anyone just because they mail!

If it is obvious that someone hasn't read our profile, we ignore.. Stuff like two line profiles, no pictures and very short mail.. Since we changed the profile we have had to tell some guys to read the profile for the reasons we are saying no!

To the OP... This kind of post usually gets a more vitreolic response, leave it here and think yourselves lucky you weren't flamed!

--------------------------------------

Different folks, different strokes.

If you will, consider us just for an example (sure it can't JUST be us?), we like a bit of variety and we try to accept people on face value. Our criteria is only as tight as it needs to be and we like to think its quite wide. However we do have some limitations and some things that are an absolute NO.

When we get a PM that's off the 'our criteria scale' it just makes us laugh, the further off the mark it is, the more it makes us laugh

We joined this site so long ago I couldn't tell you how long ago, you'd have to ask admin but I think it was shortly after the site went live and in all that time we have NEVER had a nasty message. We've had some that lead to meets/friendships, loads of nice ones, loads of funny ones and some so stupid they were still funny.

To us every new message is taken as a compliment because it means, for whatever their reason might be they are showing an interest in us (or one of us at least )

Other people it seems choose to take offence to messages from people who don't fit their criteria

OK so we make our choices, others make theirs as to how they feel about the messages they get be it that they fit their criteria or not.

We choose to be happy about it and some people don't, they choose to get angry and upset about it.

So I have a question to ask...

What do people think is best...

Is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact has only PM'd you to piss you off and get angry about it?

Or is it better to assume the non-criteria fitting contact is, showing an interest in you ( = compliment?), hoping that you may relax your criteria a bit ( = compliment?)

Personally I always choose 'Happy' over 'Angry' "

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"an experiment for couples

allow males to message you and at the bottom of your profile put a phrase for men to put in subject box.

about 75% wont"

Yep, we've been using that 'catch' for many years.

Also if you DO want single guys to contact you put "NO SINGLE MALES" at the start of your profile... try it, it does work

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"'The guy is only after shag' is that really so wrong? After all isn't swinging fundamentally about having 'casual' sex with people?"

That explains it all as to why we don't agree! No, we don't see swinging as having "casual sex" with others. Even if it was that, why does that make it OK for someone who patently doesn't fit the bill, trying it on? Never used to happen and certainly doesn't on the pay sites we are on!

Our view of Swinging is “recreational sex”! Sex with people of our choosing who match our wants and personalities and not just a casual shag! There is elsewhere on the forum another thread about a similar aspect to swinging. Complaints that people here are timewasters because they have preferences. IMHO that is casual sex, sex with anyone without criteria. Not our view at all!

But doesn’t affect us because we just block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preston near Bolton then is it, lol"

I can do it 20mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preston near Bolton then is it, lol

I can do it 20mins "

Ok speedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive actually decided to respond by saying , nahhh fuck off, distinctly disgruntled single guy or

DDSG.. for short

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wont just meet and play with anyone, i have my own personal standards as has everyone, but come on even if your the most picky person in the wprld with the amount of single guys on here theres got to be someone for you surely?

Unless your Miss Piggy looking for Brad Pitt i suppose "

I shagged Brad Pitt last night. I've had better.

He verified me saying that he prefers ginger pigs.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"'The guy is only after shag' is that really so wrong? After all isn't swinging fundamentally about having 'casual' sex with people?

That explains it all as to why we don't agree! No, we don't see swinging as having "casual sex" with others. Even if it was that, why does that make it OK for someone who patently doesn't fit the bill, trying it on? Never used to happen and certainly doesn't on the pay sites we are on!

Our view of Swinging is “recreational sex”! Sex with people of our choosing who match our wants and personalities and not just a casual shag! There is elsewhere on the forum another thread about a similar aspect to swinging. Complaints that people here are timewasters because they have preferences. IMHO that is casual sex, sex with anyone without criteria. Not our view at all!

But doesn’t affect us because we just block!

"

Well that just begs the question, if everything is perfect on the pay sites why be here and feel insulted by people who contact you who don't fit your criteria 100% ?

Would love to know the names of these idiot free pay-sites too.

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By *idlifecrisis40Man
over a year ago

Manchester (North)

Sorry if this seems a radical and extreme suggestion, but if women/couples are finding that the guys contacting them don't meet their requirements, why don't you just open the search page, enter your criteria and contact likely candidates yourself?

Or am I missing something?

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"

You set an age range of 30 to 46 and you are 52. Nothing wrong with that whatsoever but you are specifying you only want guys who are into older women.

Chances are, the guys who are PMing you realise all or some of this and are hoping you might relax your criteria to actually make a meet possible

Especially when you are being verified by people outside of your age range !

.

Oops! "

No,not 'oops'!

This one is a particular bugbear of mine. Single guys who get shitty with you when you point out they're well outside your age criteria and they respond with 'well you have verifications from someone outside'

1) What the fluck has that got to do with you and

2) Maybe, just maybe it wasn't a sexual meet. I know - revelation eh?

On our couples profile we have a very lovely veri from a single guy who we've met on many social occasions (and always a pleasure it is too) The veri doesn't say anything about playing, because we haven't. The amount of single guys who use this as a justification for trying their luck is unreal.

Some people just need to get over themselves and accept that preferences are there for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Sorry if this seems a radical and extreme suggestion, but if women/couples are finding that the guys contacting them don't meet their requirements, why don't you just open the search page, enter your criteria and contact likely candidates yourself?

Or am I missing something? "

Yes you would be missing the bulging inbox from all the unsuitable candidates,bad attention is almost better than no attention for some people,and im sure they would soon feel unloved and unwanted

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