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By *kbrad OP   Man
over a year ago

thurrock

Hey Guys

Meeting a girl this week whose fantasy is to be dominated, do you have have any tips? Brought some underbed straps so she can be tied up. I've been assertive in bed but never really dominated so wondered if you guys had advice?

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Do your research. Clarify what she's after first. Domination doesn't nessesarily mean being tied up or restrained.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If it's her fantasy and needs that you are satisfying, your best option is to ask her about what she needs. You should cover safety and control aspects, only staying within agreed boundaries.

Restraining someone who you do not know is potentially something that many of us could be uncomfortable about, as it requires levels of trust that potentially aren't going to be established quickly.

See if there are any role play ideas that she'd like and also find what she needs to be fully sexually satisfied. Taking control to an extent can be about leading things, introducing some elements of surprise and so much more. It could for some be about giving up much of their selves to someone who is unknown but you ideally will be talking to get about things. It's the mental as much or more potentially than the physical things you do, they're the expression of it.

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By *as_no_ideaCouple
over a year ago

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The other thing to consider is whether she has any underlining medical issues, the last thing you need is a medical emergency whilst she is restrained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes discuss with her what she thinks being dominated involves and come up with a joint list x hope you both have fun x

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Don’t tie her up on a first meet, that’s a recipe for disaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your asking for tips you clearly don't have a clue.

Domination isn't something to do in a matter of fact way.

It takes trust and time to develop that trust.Strapping a girl to your bed isn't Domination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trusting to be tied up by someone she has never met before!!!! :-0

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By *kbrad OP   Man
over a year ago

thurrock

Thanks for the advice everyone she's keen to experiment and being tied up was her idea! But we both agreed that we want to ease into it, and have it as an option, not necessarily something that we will jump I to straight away. It's something we are both very keen to explore but want to do it in the safe and right way.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

hi mate I have a fully bi sub she is a really nice girl and we have safe fun and don't forget the safe word you both have for when she hits her limit.

and you will both find out and explore more as you learn

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Hey Guys

Meeting a girl this week whose fantasy is to be dominated, do you have have any tips? Brought some underbed straps so she can be tied up. I've been assertive in bed but never really dominated so wondered if you guys had advice?"

These are generally just lazy birds, best to avoid..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope she ties you up and purple Aki walks in

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By *kbrad OP   Man
over a year ago

thurrock

We've made sure to out a safe word in it should just be good fun but want to make sure I do it right

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Plenty of info online.

You need to talk to her to make sure you are both on the same page.

Have clear boundaries of what is acceptable and what is a definite no.

Heath issues, allergies and safe word all need to be discussed.

One persons idea of domination might be a total turn off to someone else.

Communication beforehand is the key thing here.

Good luck!

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By *kbrad OP   Man
over a year ago

thurrock

Thanks Minnie that's great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of communication! Being with someone who cares about your safety and enjoyment is sexy, even if they're playing the role of a meanie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side of this is there any or many female dominance about and where to start looking to be a womans sub ?

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