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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

Sexually inexperienced guys,turn on or turn off?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Definitely OFF !

I don't have that much spare time for amateurs

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"Definitely OFF !

I don't have that much spare time for amateurs "
Its not looking very promising then

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Off. Even if they are sexually inexperienced, they should work on other kinds of experiences, but unfortunately they don't. They go on a swingers' website instead, hoping to pick up easy women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"Off. Even if they are sexually inexperienced, they should work on other kinds of experiences, but unfortunately they don't. They go on a swingers' website instead, hoping to pick up easy women. "
Your so right,i agree,what other kind of experience's do you recommend?

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Off ... like my meets to know what they are doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Off. Even if they are sexually inexperienced, they should work on other kinds of experiences, but unfortunately they don't. They go on a swingers' website instead, hoping to pick up easy women. Your so right,i agree,what other kind of experience's do you recommend?"

Online sex isn't a quick fix. Meeting people in the real world would be a start. How do you think people got together in the days before the internet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 9/10 times it would be a turn off.

That said if I was attracted to someone then helping them explore is a bit of a sexy scenario.

However they couldn't be younger than me

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"Off ... like my meets to know what they are doing

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What if you fell head over heels for someone,then it turned out he wasn't that experienced in the bedroom,would you disown him?

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"Off. Even if they are sexually inexperienced, they should work on other kinds of experiences, but unfortunately they don't. They go on a swingers' website instead, hoping to pick up easy women. Your so right,i agree,what other kind of experience's do you recommend?

Online sex isn't a quick fix. Meeting people in the real world would be a start. How do you think people got together in the days before the internet?"
Its just a bit of titillation to be on here in all honesty,it would be nice to meet someone though,as for the real world,now that's a bit of a minefield.

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By *avidv0695Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Definitely a turn off as I’ve found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it depends on the level of inexperience too.

Your profile doesn't say much and you've been here over a year. You're also unable to accommodate.

To a lot of women this will ring many alarm bells

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Off. Even if they are sexually inexperienced, they should work on other kinds of experiences, but unfortunately they don't. They go on a swingers' website instead, hoping to pick up easy women. "

And easy we aint

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I suppose it depends on the level of inexperience too.

Your profile doesn't say much and you've been here over a year. You're also unable to accommodate.

To a lot of women this will ring many alarm bells "
Very inexperienced,and yes I know my profile's a bit short,hard to know what to put really,not keen on accommodating someone of the net,which is a bit odd I know,if I met someone when I was out then I guess I would take them home.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I only get a few weekends free and if I'm not working or with my kids that time is precious. Also not all of my free time I'm feeling randy or in the mood to get dressed up. As it takes around 2 hours to go from MtF and hopefully look good for whomever I'm meeting.

So the concerns with an inexperienced person is they quickly finish,get really embarrassed or emotional then scuttle off.

Now an experienced person is aware of their respective needs and yours, will take their time and give you an evening to remember not forget. So to be brutally honest for me it's a no brainer

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I met a few inexperienced guys when I was single. One guy had never had a bj before and I quite enjoyed his reaction.

Experience is preferable though.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Off ... like my meets to know what they are doing

What if you fell head over heels for someone,then it turned out he wasn't that experienced in the bedroom,would you disown him?"

I am head over heels in love with someone

I don’t fall in love easily but no chance falling in love without being sexually compatible

Sex is an important part of a relationship

And from a swinging point of view meeting an inexperienced guy would be a massive turn off

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends how inexperienced.

A massive turn off for me is an experienced man who thinks he knows what I want better than I do.

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

I guess I knew the answer wasn't going to be favourable,and that's fair enough,someone with lots of sexual experience would satisfy you more,i guess,but is it really a deal breaker,if you like someone,you like them right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more about the person and the chemistry to be honest. I had a friend who had only ever slept with one person, yet he was a fantastic lover - respectful, responsive, romantic. Some so-called experienced guys can be a bit arrogant (oh and women ... and couples!)

It's the chemistry not the cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess I knew the answer wasn't going to be favourable,and that's fair enough,someone with lots of sexual experience would satisfy you more,i guess,but is it really a deal breaker,if you like someone,you like them right?"

More experience doesn't always mean more satisfying. Skills are natural and not really learnt for a lot of people .

It's also very much about the dynamic between people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess I knew the answer wasn't going to be favourable,and that's fair enough,someone with lots of sexual experience would satisfy you more,i guess,but is it really a deal breaker,if you like someone,you like them right?"

With no disrespect your inexperience shines through in how you think sex works. It's not that someone with more experience is more likely to be able to satisfy. It's all about mindset and being on a similar wavelength. That's what makes it enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess I knew the answer wasn't going to be favourable,and that's fair enough,someone with lots of sexual experience would satisfy you more,i guess,but is it really a deal breaker,if you like someone,you like them right?

With no disrespect your inexperience shines through in how you think sex works. It's not that someone with more experience is more likely to be able to satisfy. It's all about mindset and being on a similar wavelength. That's what makes it enjoyable. "

And that stuff comes with experience.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off. I don't want to have to teach a guy how to please a woman

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's dependent on the person and inexperience is relative and subjective really. I'd expect that as someone ages, they gain more experience, even if they don't increase the amount of partners.

In a club or the wider world, we'll not typically discuss experience levels much, if it all, for casual sex - we get on and enjoy ourselves, with those who seem to match us. Clubs are probably a good starting point to get more partners, experience and social contacts in the swinging world. But single men ought not to assume that others are easy to get to fuck. Fab itself is really tough for single men who have experience.

It's probably better to develop your confidence and have the motivation to always want to understand your partners and their needs, then to go about satisfying them.

If you want to improve your potential results on fab, there are lots of threads that cover the core elements of this. People won't take too kindly to being titillation for someone, when they are looking for well matched partners for their scarce free time.

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I guess I knew the answer wasn't going to be favourable,and that's fair enough,someone with lots of sexual experience would satisfy you more,i guess,but is it really a deal breaker,if you like someone,you like them right?

With no disrespect your inexperience shines through in how you think sex works. It's not that someone with more experience is more likely to be able to satisfy. It's all about mindset and being on a similar wavelength. That's what makes it enjoyable.

And that stuff comes with experience. "
I wonder if women can tell by your body language if you haven't had much experience? I like the idea of meeting someone and just being upfront and saying I haven't been with many women,im not sure it would happen though,its too embarrassing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s fun if yours is the first cock they have ever played with .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess I knew the answer wasn't going to be favourable,and that's fair enough,someone with lots of sexual experience would satisfy you more,i guess,but is it really a deal breaker,if you like someone,you like them right?

With no disrespect your inexperience shines through in how you think sex works. It's not that someone with more experience is more likely to be able to satisfy. It's all about mindset and being on a similar wavelength. That's what makes it enjoyable.

And that stuff comes with experience. I wonder if women can tell by your body language if you haven't had much experience? I like the idea of meeting someone and just being upfront and saying I haven't been with many women,im not sure it would happen though,its too embarrassing."

The lack of confidence would give you away if nothing else. Best to be upfront though. You'll probably find that someone looking for a relationship won't be that bothered about your inexperience as those of us that are looking to swing and/or fulfill fantasy sex.

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"It’s fun if yours is the first cock they have ever played with . "
Well it hasn't been played with for a very long time

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By *xciter7169 OP   Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I guess I knew the answer wasn't going to be favourable,and that's fair enough,someone with lots of sexual experience would satisfy you more,i guess,but is it really a deal breaker,if you like someone,you like them right?

With no disrespect your inexperience shines through in how you think sex works. It's not that someone with more experience is more likely to be able to satisfy. It's all about mindset and being on a similar wavelength. That's what makes it enjoyable.

And that stuff comes with experience. I wonder if women can tell by your body language if you haven't had much experience? I like the idea of meeting someone and just being upfront and saying I haven't been with many women,im not sure it would happen though,its too embarrassing.

The lack of confidence would give you away if nothing else. Best to be upfront though. You'll probably find that someone looking for a relationship won't be that bothered about your inexperience as those of us that are looking to swing and/or fulfill fantasy sex."
Im not the most confident of people I admit,i like the idea of being upfront,dont know how you would fit that into the conversation though.

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