FabSwingers.com forum: Guys, how did you convince your wife to try a threesome?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Love to hear your experiences of persuading a partner who isn’t as sure as you to invite someone else into your bed

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I don’t think persuading a partner to do something they don’t want to is a good plan...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don’t think persuading a partner to do something they don’t want to is a good plan..."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them? Talk about it? Get them to ask for info on the forums? Maybe they just aren't that interested?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Love to hear your experiences of persuading a partner who isn’t as sure as you to invite someone else into your bed"

You don't, you accept that she doesn't want to and move the fuck on.

The men behind these posts are why I stay single.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are inherently monogamous you won’t be able to. But pressuring them will cause some other issues - besides the ones being on here might. Issues like insecurity and inadequacy. If your sex life is full and great and you both are into additional partners it works. Most people don’t want that and won’t change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Convincing her isn't the right way for a start, just talk about the possibility and if it's a no then it's a no

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

And if she says no don’t ask again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But are you even a couples account or is this account so you can try to push her into the lifestyle because you want a 3some? That seems sketchy to me if she’s not involved with this profile.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Love to hear your experiences of persuading a partner who isn’t as sure as you to invite someone else into your bed

You don't, you accept that she doesn't want to and move the fuck on.

The men behind these posts are why I stay single. "

Preach.

Women are their own people with their own wants, desires, fears, limits, etc. Respect their wishes as much as you respect your own.

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By *ornyspiceCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Did not need convincing, the wife surprised me as we talked about it before hand. It just sort of happens pure bliss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"convince" oh dear, that isn't going to work. May as well offer her money...

The best you can do is offer a safe environment for her to express any desires she wishes to do (as she probably would for you) pushing her (or convincing) her us only likely to push her away.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Ask? Yes. Suggest? Yes. Persuade? Never.

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By *pa and dCouple
over a year ago

Barnet

In a relationship that swinging can prosper in, you'll both be open minded, interested in the others pleasure, able to talk frankly and not be overwhelmed by feelings of jealousy. When you find a relationship that has these things you can talk long and deeply about anything you each may desire and as a result come to an agreement as to what you will/wont do as a couple or individually.

It's as simple as that really. Have never tried (nor had) to convince Ppa of anything, nor has she me. That's just one reason why I love her.

(Apologies to the previous poster who I sent this to as a private reply also - d'oh)

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Love to hear your experiences of persuading a partner who isn’t as sure as you to invite someone else into your bed"

I don’t think persuade is the right term

Suggest yes but don’t force anyone into anything

It’s all about choice ....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It would appear from your verification summary that you've already achieved this as a couple OP. "Verified by 3 people, newest 2 years ago

1 fem. 2 men. By 2 meet. 1 cam." Perhaps discuss it with her like you did before, but do remember if the answer is no then let it go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just asked my first wife. She said "yeah could be fun"..My current partner of 29 years was pretty much the same, I just asked her..of course there were discussions on swinging and swapping..The first experience for my first wife was with my boss/friend and his partner..if they both would have instantly dismissed the idea, then I would have probably just have left it at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always talked about a bit of sharing but apart from a d*unken fun night few decades ago, never thought it would happen.....then unexpected light swinging started with nudist beach in Gran Canaria when a playful episode led to a chap joining us to play with Mrs!! Since then we had few encounters !

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"how do i persuade....?"

You don't.

You talk with her like the autonomous human being she is. By all means suggest the idea and ask how she feels about it. Have a discussion. Don't push or persuade her into anything she's unsure about, don't take her to a club under false pretences either, I've seen that more than once and it's horrible for everyone.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

For the record in our case it was my wife who first brought up the subject of threesomes, months before we married.

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By *hedireCouple
over a year ago

wigan

OP your profile is contradictory. SHE is bi curious (male desire?) Yet you're asking for males and HE is straight. We see far, far too many couples where fem is bi or bi curious and rest of the profile says NO BI MALES. In our experience the male of the couple operates the account. Sometimes we will simply block for less. Had meets where the male is push push pushy to get his partner to perform with the female. What if she asked you to suck another guys cock ? Wank a guy ?

We find both bi or bi curious couple meetings without expectations the most relaxing and successful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

OP is your wife aware of the fab account?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody persuaded me to try anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody persuaded me to try anything. "

snap

it really bother's me when couples dont know each other enough to talk openly and honestly ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was me (mrs) that brought up the subject and Mr didn't believe i was being serious..now he does..and we love it.

3sums, 4sums..more sums...

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By *ungfunfellaMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Same here my ex gf was the one who suggested it, in my experience the girls are the ones who have the bottle to suggest it and I was more than happy to go along with it

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Sorry OP, have a real semantic problem with convince, why would you want to convince someone to do what you want and not what they want?

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

You may want a FMF encounter! She might want a MFM? Will you be so keen???? The

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

OP, does your wife know about the fab account?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one should be convince or pushed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just asked, because she was more than keen on the idea we did it. If you don’t know your partner well enough to gauge if you should be asking then you definitely shouldn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive said this many times now amazing that so many couple are together yet dont really know each other i think thats sad

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

I just asked my Mrs and her girlfriend to move over and let me in the bed too!

Worked a treat!

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By *ibsonVicMan
over a year ago

Minworth

I tried on a few occasions. Tried keeping it light.

It became clear that "no way!" was the only response I was ever going to get.

She doesn't want to so that's that. End of story.

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

The real trick is persuading her not to have a threesome lol!

We just saw some porn and both said "hey, that looks like fun, let's try it." Porn is usually a good intro to new kinks and ideas.

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I think pursuade is the wrong word. It has to be something you all want. Perhaps have a conversation with her and ask if it's something she ever considered. Then ask what kind she would like if it was ever to happen. Let her lead. If she's against it the drop it. Your relationship is too important to risk it on pushing a fantasy you don't share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss it in a mature adult way, be open and honest about what you would like to happen. However, if she says no leave it at that and know that if she ever changes her mind she'll feel she can talk to you about it.

Convincing someone to join in this world that doesn't want to be a part of it will only lead to big problems later...

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