FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters r in abundance here

By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cold feet?

Genuinely had something come up?

Was excuse valid ?

Life sometimes gets in the way.....

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"Cold feet?

Genuinely had something come up?

Was excuse valid ?

Life sometimes gets in the way.....

Yeah could be those but why should we be on loosing end when we are commuting to come to meet and agreed to book a hotel at our own expense . Well I don’t know what to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light . "

Did you have sex chat with them? About what you'd do at the meet?

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By *inkyKittyWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

This is why Fab frustrates me!

Just when I think I have found a genuine single man, he stands me up!

I always report those who do stand me up and then block

Unless they have actually given me enough time and warning with an actual reason!

This is why I don’t do first time play meets, it’s always a social, if they can’t show up for that then I don’t trust them to make further plans where money is required!!

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light .

Did you have sex chat with them? About what you'd do at the meet?"

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Cold feet?

Genuinely had something come up?

Was excuse valid ?

Life sometimes gets in the way.....

Yeah could be those but why should we be on loosing end when we are commuting to come to meet and agreed to book a hotel at our own expense . Well I don’t know what to say

Book rooms with free cancellation. At least they let you know rather than just not showing up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well....why, if it’s not the first time, agree to be the ones who book the hotel?....sorry if sounds harsh but.....let them pay???

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By *heeseandWineCouple
over a year ago

Reading and Southampton

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light .

Did you have sex chat with them? About what you'd do at the meet?

That’s right we did and after going through those initial steps agreed to meet mutually. One had remembered to go to a festival other one just didn’t bother responding on the day . Lol at our expense why not eh."
Because we also lost money with no shows at hotels it's been club meets for us since the last one stood us up. The only exception is if we talk beforehand and it's at the guys expense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately,to some,wasting other people's time,is time well spent to them.

Sad,but true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light .

Did you have sex chat with them? About what you'd do at the meet?

They got what they wanted- no need to meet. It cost them nothing. They had a wank and moved on to the next project.

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"This is why Fab frustrates me!

Just when I think I have found a genuine single man, he stands me up!

I always report those who do stand me up and then block

Unless they have actually given me enough time and warning with an actual reason!

This is why I don’t do first time play meets, it’s always a social, if they can’t show up for that then I don’t trust them to make further plans where money is required!! "

It’s really disrespectful wasting someone’s time to get a bit of buzz but how do we educate such people . I know there are good people here too

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light .

Did you have sex chat with them? About what you'd do at the meet?

They got what they wanted- no need to meet. It cost them nothing. They had a wank and moved on to the next project. "

That exactly

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

We have had no shows for chat meets ,and never book a hotel unless free cancellation ,in fact our last meet booked the hotel to prove he was genuine as we had a 120 mile round trip ,He was worth it ,but ive found they chat loads arrange meet then on the day go quiet dont answer etc ,WTF ,,,,whats it all about ,the risk of sites like this but not much fun i agree ..

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light . "

In March we had six cancel!

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't engage in what is known as wankchat as those are generally the fantasists who only want to blow their load and move on to the next.

The first time I was stood up was the first and last time I gave someone a second chance. Because I was stood up again. Learning curve from the first few months.

Unfortunately I'm now fab battle weary and it takes quite some time to agree to meeting anyone new. Because it's only through time I can gauge whether they are fantasist or not.

Others have suggestions with regards to hotels but maybe suggest meeting halfway each time. It's only fair.

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light .

In March we had six cancel! "

Sorry to hear that we now know how it feels

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"We have had no shows for chat meets ,and never book a hotel unless free cancellation ,in fact our last meet booked the hotel to prove he was genuine as we had a 120 mile round trip ,He was worth it ,but ive found they chat loads arrange meet then on the day go quiet dont answer etc ,WTF ,,,,whats it all about ,the risk of sites like this but not much fun i agree .."

On a positive note our first meet was genuine he did a 120+ round trip too and was a decent guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a couple of no shows the other week. One from a guy who sent us a message saying he just realised he had no car insurance, minutes after we gave him our address. We posted on the forum our displeasure, without naming him, then got ourselves a 48 hour ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't engage in what is known as wankchat as those are generally the fantasists who only want to blow their load and move on to the next.

The first time I was stood up was the first and last time I gave someone a second chance. Because I was stood up again. Learning curve from the first few months.

Unfortunately I'm now fab battle weary and it takes quite some time to agree to meeting anyone new. Because it's only through time I can gauge whether they are fantasist or not.

Others have suggestions with regards to hotels but maybe suggest meeting halfway each time. It's only fair. "

I've met many couples and singles and never had a no show.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Cold feet?

Genuinely had something come up?

Was excuse valid ?

Life sometimes gets in the way.....

Yeah could be those but why should we be on loosing end when we are commuting to come to meet and agreed to book a hotel at our own expense . Well I don’t know what to say

You agreed to book it at your own expense. Your fault I'm afraid. Dud you choose to book a non refundable rate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This week we had a meet on and got chatting to two couples that wanted to meet ..no wank chat , seemed genuine even had club veris but when it came to the fem / fem chat suddenly they were unavailable or needed to cancel the meet because the female hurt her leg at work

.. so many fakes and timewasters on here now .. pretty pointless !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

Thanks! "

Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

Thanks!

Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc ."

Thank you!

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

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Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc ."

That’s the tricky part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

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Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc .

That’s the tricky part "

It does seem to be! Someone still has to pay up front therefore risks being stood up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

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Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc ."

What if he does that and is then stood up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of time wasters . Best of Fab lol

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Since coming on here I’ve never wore so many thermal socks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why Fab frustrates me!

Just when I think I have found a genuine single man, he stands me up!

I always report those who do stand me up and then block

Unless they have actually given me enough time and warning with an actual reason!

This is why I don’t do first time play meets, it’s always a social, if they can’t show up for that then I don’t trust them to make further plans where money is required!! "

Exactly ..Social meet first (it also s out the weirdos)

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"Loads of time wasters . Best of Fab lol "

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I genuinely feel most like the chase, they like to feel they can get a meet..

But when it comes to crunch time many can’t live upto the picture they’ve painted of themselves..

Or there pics are old or not them atall..

Such a shame but it’s getting to be like a tacky social media on here where people want attention for themselves or their pictures..

Wish it was back to being a genuine swingers site again ..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Best thing you can do is arrange a social meet first, rather than going to the expense of booking a hotel straight away OP. Lesson learned. Time wasting is done by men, women and couples. You soon get to know the signs with experience.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

So true, Couples also standup their meets.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We used to do it the other way around. Plan a weekend away, hotels booked anyway & then see if someone wanted to join us. If not or we had a no show it was no big deal as you were away for the weekend anyway.

There's no way we'd book hotels based on a strangers "I'll be there" No matter who they were. There are too many fantasists on here for sure, just as there are "Singles" that aren't & 39/49yr olds that aren't, but you don't have to play their game unless you choose to

S&H

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is."

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By *nlyyours16 OP Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

"Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is."

Thanks

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is.

Thanks

Welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is."

So what exactly will admin do if you report a no show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone fill me in as I am confused? Cannot accommodate,cannot travel how does that work then? Are these people time wasters?

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"We used to do it the other way around. Plan a weekend away, hotels booked anyway & then see if someone wanted to join us. If not or we had a no show it was no big deal as you were away for the weekend anyway.

S&H"

Definitely this ^^^^

Also with a bit of thought it’s almost always possible to book a hotel at the last minute when everyone has turned up. Eg check the usual websites for availability.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Can someone fill me in as I am confused? Cannot accommodate,cannot travel how does that work then? Are these people time wasters?"

No, they may only meet very locally, or at clubs, parties or hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

S&H"

Best idea so far!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone fill me in as I am confused? Cannot accommodate,cannot travel how does that work then? Are these people time wasters?"

I'm guessing they don't have a car and need a lift from somewhere local. Family at home but can't get to your house easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks. Sorry I am a newbie

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is.

So what exactly will admin do if you report a no show? "
I would think they would maybe monitor the account? I'm not admin, so can't answer for them. This is what they advise you to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone fill me in as I am confused? Cannot accommodate,cannot travel how does that work then? Are these people time wasters?"

I've ticked those but do gone on to explain in my profile ... and my veris say otherwise lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

Thanks!

Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc .

That’s the tricky part

It does seem to be! Someone still has to pay up front therefore risks being stood up! "

Why should the guy have to pay upfront? If you can't accommodate surely you should pay. You can book flex rates where you can cancel up to usually 2pm. If they haven't confirmed by then cancel the room. Or book the room on the day.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light . "

Checked your profile out! There loss????

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By *ewshyTV/TS
over a year ago

falkirk

Look on it as a bullet dodged.their loss I would say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens unfortunately. You'll never know why.

I've had a couple of ladies not turn up without any warning or follow up message. It's frustrating. I learned my lesson the first time after travelling some distance.

The best thing to do is have a back up plan so your time and money isn't wasted. Unless I already know them I now assume they won't so when they do it's a bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens

The guy initially wants to fuck you, he doesn’t care what you look like and will agree to all the demands, after all he is horny, later on when his libido is somewhat satisfied from self indulgence he reacquaints himself with the profile, the lady doesn't look so hot, now he’s satisfied and the list of demands just annoys him, now he gives it all a wide berth

Surely people realise this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes happens a lot to us. We have limited time to meet & when we organise a meet we will turn up. Only once through no fault of our own we had to call off.

Unfortunately not the same for guys, we have been stood up while sitting in a hotel waiting with no message just no show.

Seems to go with territory, good job we can still enjoy ourselves without needing the sextoys, but is flustrating.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I would meet you both anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens

Surely people realise this? "

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Yes happens a lot to us. We have limited time to meet & when we organise a meet we will turn up. Only once through no fault of our own we had to call off.

Unfortunately not the same for guys, we have been stood up while sitting in a hotel waiting with no message just no show.

Seems to go with territory, good job we can still enjoy ourselves without needing the sextoys, but is flustrating. "

"the sextoys" crikey, if that's how you view other people, no wonder you were stood up. I'd say they made a wise choice lol.

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

Well I’d be more than a tad cautious meeting the op, unless I spoke to them on the phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least they messaged you to tell you I just get let down with no explanation or apology after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of time wasters for us, excuses include couldn’t find anywhere to park, overslept, suddenly to nervous to meet with male half present so can I just meet the female? Err nope! I forgot I have a christening to go to, I’ve got to play football instead! The list goes on.

Fortunately we have also met some very reliable people who have turned up either last minute or as pre arranged.

We always book hotels before arranging a meet as we enjoy spending time away together as a couple. If a meet happens from there then great, if not also great as we sure know how to enjoy each other’s company

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

S&H"

This is what my FWB and me do, when we meet as a couple. We’ve only ever had one ‘no show’, which was a single women that partner says he thinks he spotted in the hotel bar and then walked out before calling us to say she had car trouble.

Didn’t think we were that unapproachable, even to say ‘no thanks’!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

Thanks!

Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc .

That’s the tricky part

It does seem to be! Someone still has to pay up front therefore risks being stood up!

Oh I never said guy lol only asked how sharing hotel costs worked as someone must still have to pay up front!

Personally I pay and take as a weekend adventure whether they show or not but have always had a social first anyway

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Can someone explain how you do shared costs with a hotel please? Can't get head around someone still has to pay up front?

Thanks!

Get the guy to pay , prove he’s paid then when you meet either give him half or buy the drinks etc .

That’s the tricky part

It does seem to be! Someone still has to pay up front therefore risks being stood up!

Oh I never said guy lol only asked how sharing hotel costs worked as someone must still have to pay up front!

Personally I pay and take as a weekend adventure whether they show or not but have always had a social first anyway "

Someone in the bit i quoted did though.

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By *weet Treat 69Couple
over a year ago

North Wales area

We had to let a couple down but sent them a pic to show our windscreen had been smashed so they new we weren't Time wasters.

If there one thing we hate is letting others down. We know how valuable people's time are.

We had it done to us at the beginning of the holidays. They didn't even message to say they weren't coming. So that block button does come in handy lol.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

If ever I was fortunate enough to achieve a meet from here (some chance !!!) I would never let anyone down. I always keep appointments, just will not let folk down......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was let down a few times by the same guy a few year back then found out he was married through someone who knows his wife & daughter, it knocked me sick as I had met him numerous times. I ended it immediately & blocked him, they could be genuine or....

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

I was let down last night by someone who has been chasing me for weeks. No cancellation, no explanation, no show. And they are verified.

They are now history, no second chances in circumstances like that.

But onwards and upwards!

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over a year ago

"I was let down last night by someone who has been chasing me for weeks. No cancellation, no explanation, no show. And they are verified.

They are now history, no second chances in circumstances like that.

But onwards and upwards!

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Funnily enough I've only ever been let down by a couple

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

This is a problem that's difficult to avoid, I find the more searching questions result in mistrust so it's difficult to be sure. One lady I made contact with did face time several calls and gave number so all seemed genuinely good. Now I live in Spain and to prove good intentions I booked and paid for the flight, no biggy was easy jet, so immediately after I gave the details I was met with stoney silence all for £40. Why do it that it spoils future trust. She actually missed out on a 2 week holiday all food and drink provided. Signed MR cynical!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make them pay

Any chat about fantasies etc , bin them. That's a good sign of a dreamer

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Those that fuck and those that don’t.

We won’t have a mucky chat, that’s just for wankers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have also discovered not to bother with guys who insist on using kik, silence usually follows after a few initial chats. We have come to the conclusion rightly or wrongly that these guys aren’t single at all and delete the app when wife or gf is around safe in the knowledge they haven’t given their number out

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"We have also discovered not to bother with guys who insist on using kik, silence usually follows after a few initial chats. We have come to the conclusion rightly or wrongly that these guys aren’t single at all and delete the app when wife or gf is around safe in the knowledge they haven’t given their number out "

This exactly!

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!

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over a year ago

"I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!"

Yeah last guy we chatted to on kik insisted he could meet us on a Monday, chatted loads upto the Friday before then he completely fell off the radar, hmmm how strange!

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By *eviationMan
over a year ago

Brynamman

I find it odd that mostly males

1st got a response from someone

2nd chatted

3rd agreed a meet

The first stage being the hardest

Then a no show

Baffles the hell out of me

Its really odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet others outside of our area when we are there in any case so it's not expensive if they don't show up. Works for us. Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i spoke to someone who i knew had messaged several people, arranged to meet then vanished/blocked

asked why and he admitted its a childish ego boost, he enjoyed leading them on getting a kick from the power knowing these people wanted him and he was in control ie ghosting/blocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people get the jitters last minute but to have forked out your own money for hotel etc and them not show is a bit disgusting no matter what.

If I had something last minute crop up I'd offer to forward some money at least.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!"

Including you? You know that tar your splattering single men with will fall on you too!

Life happens at the weekend for bang people v

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Many people

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"i spoke to someone who i knew had messaged several people, arranged to meet then vanished/blocked

asked why and he admitted its a childish ego boost, he enjoyed leading them on getting a kick from the power knowing these people wanted him and he was in control ie ghosting/blocking"
What a terrible thing to do!

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By *ickCalCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

We don’t bother trying to arrange private meets anymore because of the let down, we prefer going to clubs now. We did start getting a complex about getting let down thinking that we were mingers!!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light . "

10 years swinging, and never been stood up or had a no-show or had our time wasted.

We don't engage in "sex chat" before a meet.

We don't book a hotel in advance.

We don't meet "single males unless we have got to know them from the social scene.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Twice in same week potential male meets have now let’s us down. Time, effort, money all gone to waste. Cancelled few hours prior to the meet due to other commitments.

Why bother coming here and having lengthy chats and committing a meet if not able to fulfil the word. Shame really, as it puts more genuine people under bad light .

10 years swinging, and never been stood up or had a no-show or had our time wasted.

We don't engage in "sex chat" before a meet.

We don't book a hotel in advance.

We don't meet "single males unless we have got to know them from the social scene."

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over a year ago

I always keep my promises and meet promptly.

I’ve found couples to be the main culprits for letting you down on the day.

You make childcare arrangements and are let down,after making plans,swapping messages,Kik and photo exchanges.

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!

Including you? You know that tar your splattering single men with will fall on you too!

Life happens at the weekend for bang people v"

As I said at the beginning I am single not a make believe single. Two of my veris will confirm that as both have visited me and seen I'm truthful. In fact I invite you to come and check for yourself if you wish.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!

Including you? You know that tar your splattering single men with will fall on you too!

Life happens at the weekend for bang people v

Looking to make up a foursome? Does that mean you are already in a relationship with 2 others? I'm a bit confused as well.

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!

Including you? You know that tar your splattering single men with will fall on you too!

Life happens at the weekend for bang people v

Looking to make up a foursome? Does that mean you are already in a relationship with 2 others? I'm a bit confused as well. "

It means I'm seeking a female to join in with the two couples I know. Maybe I should re write that so many thanks for pointing it out

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!

Including you? You know that tar your splattering single men with will fall on you too!

Life happens at the weekend for bang people v

Looking to make up a foursome? Does that mean you are already in a relationship with 2 others? I'm a bit confused as well.

It means I'm seeking a female to join in with the two couples I know. Maybe I should re write that so many thanks for pointing it out"
Thanks, and apologies if you may have thought me picky, I was genuinely confused and trying to get my head round it, hope you find your lady. X

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I actually am single and run a group on Kik. It's mayhem Monday to Thursday then oddly goes dead till Monday again.Only conclusion is all the (single) men go home to their wives at the weekend!

Including you? You know that tar your splattering single men with will fall on you too!

Life happens at the weekend for bang people v

Looking to make up a foursome? Does that mean you are already in a relationship with 2 others? I'm a bit confused as well.

It means I'm seeking a female to join in with the two couples I know. Maybe I should re write that so many thanks for pointing it outThanks, and apologies if you may have thought me picky, I was genuinely confused and trying to get my head round it, hope you find your lady. X"

It's perfectly ok and thanks for pointing it out I appreciate it. As someone that's a kernow boy we can easily make mistakes. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i spoke to someone who i knew had messaged several people, arranged to meet then vanished/blocked

asked why and he admitted its a childish ego boost, he enjoyed leading them on getting a kick from the power knowing these people wanted him and he was in control ie ghosting/blocking"

I'm not surprised. All people groups do it.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

It’s a sad fact of this type of fun as we will call it. People live in fantasy land sadly and it makes it near on impossible to be able meet real genuine people.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"It happens

Surely people realise this? "

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Yes happens a lot to us. We have limited time to meet & when we organise a meet we will turn up. Only once through no fault of our own we had to call off.

Unfortunately not the same for guys, we have been stood up while sitting in a hotel waiting with no message just no show.

Seems to go with territory, good job we can still enjoy ourselves without needing the sextoys, but is flustrating. "

"Sextoys"?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Yes happens a lot to us. We have limited time to meet & when we organise a meet we will turn up. Only once through no fault of our own we had to call off.

Unfortunately not the same for guys, we have been stood up while sitting in a hotel waiting with no message just no show.

Seems to go with territory, good job we can still enjoy ourselves without needing the sextoys, but is flustrating.

"Sextoys"?

I know. How insulting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cold feet?

Genuinely had something come up?

Was excuse valid ?

Life sometimes gets in the way.....

Yeah, but trouble is, usually it's the wife or girlfriend who gets in the way of single males.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"Make them pay

Any chat about fantasies etc , bin them. That's a good sign of a dreamer "

Well I am here to indulge fantasies! what other purpose are single guys here?

Guess that's why I get binned after 1st message

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